FabSwingers.com forum: Sick of the Lecture

By *HE ONLY PLAN IS NO PLAN OP Man
43 weeks ago

Westmidlands

Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .

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By *ootyfruityCouple
43 weeks ago

andover

What sort of lectures?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
43 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I mean, I don't get those ones.

I get the you should lower your standards and not be such a stuck up cunt lecture pretty often though

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
43 weeks ago

manchester

"I mean, I don't get those ones.

I get the you should lower your standards and not be such a stuck up cunt lecture pretty often though

Still waiting

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By *elix SightedMan
43 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"I mean, I don't get those ones.

I get the you should lower your standards and not be such a stuck up cunt lecture pretty often though

A stuck up cunt?!!

But you're not stuck up...

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
43 weeks ago

manchester

"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .

More sick of the entitlement and the paddy at rejection you see all to often.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
43 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

"What sort of lectures?"

That's what I want to know!!

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By *illy IdolMan
43 weeks ago

Midlands

More sick of the entitlement and the paddy at rejection you see all to often."

I really like King Charlie's sausage fingers

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By *illan-KillashMan
43 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

Not seen any lecturing, seen plenty of advice from couples and ladies about how best to approach them.

The "lifestyle" is about connections, chemistry, attraction, respect trust and a myriad of other factors.

That some people choose to ignore this, and complain that they "can't get anywhere here" is often worthy of guidance.

Often also not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Is there a TED talk I need to watch?

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By *UFSWoman
43 weeks ago

belfast

Would you care to expand on what you mean,and/or tell me as a woman how you think the lifestyle should work

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By *andPextraCouple
43 weeks ago

North West

Whats annoying is the sense of entitlement. We say no to plenty, more than 95%, but it happens to us too. Its the way of the site, people are free to make choices.

What boils me is when they get incredulous that youve said no; like they are doing me a favour offering their services and I’m as mad as a box of frogs for turning them down.

They still don’t get a lecture mind. A block is less effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I'm fast running out of popcorn today!

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By *illan-KillashMan
43 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

Would you care to expand on what you mean,and/or tell me as a woman how you think the lifestyle should work

You're supposed to put out as and when requested of course. Everyone knows this.

*jokes tinged with sarcasm

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
43 weeks ago

manchester

"Whats annoying is the sense of entitlement. We say no to plenty, more than 95%, but it happens to us too. Its the way of the site, people are free to make choices.

What boils me is when they get incredulous that youve said no; like they are doing me a favour offering their services and I’m as mad as a box of frogs for turning them down.

They still don’t get a lecture mind. A block is less effort.

This!

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
43 weeks ago

West Yorkshire

Maybe you'd be better off going for the mingers? At least they'd be grateful...

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By *UFSWoman
43 weeks ago

belfast

Would you care to expand on what you mean,and/or tell me as a woman how you think the lifestyle should work

You're supposed to put out as and when requested of course. Everyone knows this.

*jokes tinged with sarcasm

That's what I was thinking,but was hoping the op would clear up the matter this leaving no room for doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Wild idea.

If a couple or a woman's profile is told from the start: "you are doing it wrong!", how would that make them/her want to get to know that person?

I'd also consider the fact that many of them have been here much longer than a couple of years. They lived the lifestyle and they might have something useful to share about it? Unless it's an unsolicited advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Ah sorry I misread couple of years. For years as a couple !

Still, I don't believe you or anyone can define the lifestyle for others because it won't be the same for us all.

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By *ustamanMan
43 weeks ago

weymouth

Another social media grenade, lob it in and see what happens

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
43 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

This won't end well.

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By *umalotagainMan
43 weeks ago

a town called malice

"Is there a TED talk I need to watch?"

I’ll bring the popcorn ??

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
43 weeks ago

Leeds

Your having a bad morning by the sounds of your posts op.

What kind of lectures?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I apologise to all

Yesterday, I think, I wrote a post about men being vilified at times.

Please can I retract that post as so far today I am starting to understand why at times.

On a happier note I have a Cornish pasty for lunch whilst sat on the beach

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By *ensuallover1000Man
43 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I really enjoy the Christmas lectures.

Very informative they are

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"I really enjoy the Christmas lectures.

Very informative they are

So do I

Is this lecture one that should be part of the Christmas lectures?

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By *ee VianteWoman
43 weeks ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"This won't end well.

Nor should it.

Some men on here seem to actively dislike women and couples, and resent that we won't just do what they want without question.

Chances are, these women and couples are saying how they'd like to be approached, (which is probably in their profiles too). How very dare we?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
43 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I really enjoy the Christmas lectures.

Very informative they are

So do I

Is this lecture one that should be part of the Christmas lectures?"

Professor Brian Cox explaining this to the audience is sure to be a lecture not to miss

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"I really enjoy the Christmas lectures.

Very informative they are

So do I

Is this lecture one that should be part of the Christmas lectures?

Professor Brian Cox explaining this to the audience is sure to be a lecture not to miss

Maybe OP will give us the highlights of the lecture

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
43 weeks ago

Hell

It’s not been your day today OP

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By *issmorganWoman
43 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

What are they lecturing you on op? We need some context.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
43 weeks ago

Cap d'Agde

"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site"

I'm with you on that one. I've lost count of the number of times that I've messaged a woman with a friendly "wannafuck?" and they've responded with an entire course on Relativity.

Couldn't one of them talk about Quantum Mechanics for a change?

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By *naswingdressWoman
43 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not really, no.

If I see something that is written about "women" or "38 year olds" or "people in Manchester" or whatever that doesn't apply to me, I disregard it, particularly if I didn't ask for it.

If I see things on people's profiles or in the forum that gives me an idea about how they want to be approached, and I want to approach it, I use that information.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional.

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By *ycanNightsMan
43 weeks ago

Workington

"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional. "

PowerPoint....meh

Im waiting on the immersive VR...

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By *illan-KillashMan
43 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"It’s not been your day today OP

It's not been his day, his month or even his year. Tra la la, but, we'll be there for him.......

*earworm

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

What type of biscuits?

Is there a cake option?

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"I mean, I don't get those ones.

I get the you should lower your standards and not be such a stuck up cunt lecture pretty often though

I mean you kissed me once…. So I thought you’d already lowered them pretty damn far already!

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

People have opinions, it’s up to you if you take their advice (lectures) or not.

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By *enelope2UWoman
43 weeks ago

Fife

Not seen any lecturing, seen plenty of advice from couples and ladies about how best to approach them.

The "lifestyle" is about connections, chemistry, attraction, respect trust and a myriad of other factors.

That some people choose to ignore this, and complain that they "can't get anywhere here" is often worthy of guidance.

Often also not worth it."

Exactly this... The original post screams he's looking for a dick hole and nothing more..if that's so then don't complain that others have higher standards

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
43 weeks ago

Somewhere else

More sick of the entitlement and the paddy at rejection you see all to often."

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By *lan157Man
43 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I am guessing that the OP was a member as a couple and is now 2 weeks a member as a single man and is finding the transition difficult. I have been both and the FAB user experience is totally different just as it is different for a single women versus a single man .

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By *ee VianteWoman
43 weeks ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Not seen any lecturing, seen plenty of advice from couples and ladies about how best to approach them.

The "lifestyle" is about connections, chemistry, attraction, respect trust and a myriad of other factors.

That some people choose to ignore this, and complain that they "can't get anywhere here" is often worthy of guidance.

Often also not worth it.

Exactly this... The original post screams he's looking for a dick hole and nothing more..if that's so then don't complain that others have higher standards "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
43 weeks ago

North West

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
43 weeks ago

North West

"What sort of lectures?"

I could do one on antibiotic resistance in bacteria

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
43 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I mean, I don't get those ones.

I get the you should lower your standards and not be such a stuck up cunt lecture pretty often though

I mean you kissed me once…. So I thought you’d already lowered them pretty damn far already!

Just wait until I get my panties lower than my self esteem

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By *TG3Man
43 weeks ago

Dorchester

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let me guess pschology?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
43 weeks ago

in Lancashire

It's like it's retro Thursday today..

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

We like the profiles with an endless list of things they don't want

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"What sort of lectures?

I could do one on antibiotic resistance in bacteria

Ooh free TED lecture with every Fab...

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
43 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site

Which specific woman? At least you didn't say 'some female'....that would have really wound people up.

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By *issmorganWoman
43 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site

Which specific woman? At least you didn't say 'some female'....that would have really wound people up.

Have we not found out about the lectures yet?.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
43 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site

Which specific woman? At least you didn't say 'some female'....that would have really wound people up.

Have we not found out about the lectures yet?. "

Nope.

Would be useful info.

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By *a LunaWoman
43 weeks ago

South Wales

If you were in a restaurant and the Waiter started giving you a lecture about Dire Straits would you sit there and listen? Silently tutting and bemoaning waiters.

Or would you stand up, say “excuse me but I came here for a Soup of the Day not a lecture on Dire Straits.” And you’d leave. Move on to another restaurant with a more hospitable atmosphere and that appeals to you more.

You don’t have to sit and listen to folk banging on about this and that. You can just move along. Quietly. In dignified silence.

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By *ealitybitesMan
43 weeks ago

Belfast

It's more of a Sermon on the Mount or more specifically on the Mounting or lack thereof.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Generally and obviously on here women are in the driving seat. Strap in.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
43 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

How the lifestyle works? Should I have been issued a manual?

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By *naswingdressWoman
43 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's more of a Sermon on the Mount or more specifically on the Mounting or lack thereof. "

I'm now picturing a guy who's just put his condom on, cock in hand, launching into a speech

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By *hrista BellendWoman
43 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I get the you should chat more sexy lecture from strangers on here

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By *nnocentOneWoman
43 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Women, especially I dare say, the majority of which are single on here will know what/who they want. I certainly know what/who I want. This is probably why most women have what most men may assume are "stroppy" profiles. I could go on but I can't be bothered

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
43 weeks ago

Maybe you'd be better off going for the mingers? At least they'd be grateful..."

Coming from a manger here, even I'm not grateful

and do occasionally give lectures when its required.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
43 weeks ago

Maybe you'd be better off going for the mingers? At least they'd be grateful...

Coming from a manger here, even I'm not grateful

and do occasionally give lectures when its required."
minger even

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By *elaminsavageMan
43 weeks ago

london

The women and couples on here have preferences. I'd say about 95% of the guys on here don't fit so it's just the way it is. If I read a profile that isn't for me I don't bother reaching out. Just gotta take it on the chin. People are looking for extra-ordinary specific experiences. I've never been lectured by anyone cause I try to respect boundaries.

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By *reative-mindMan
43 weeks ago

Exeter

Will this lecture be on PowerPoint and available later if not can I borrow someone notes?

Like being back at uni this!

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By *ad NannaWoman
43 weeks ago

East London

Now listen here, young man!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
43 weeks ago

North West

"If you were in a restaurant and the Waiter started giving you a lecture about Dire Straits would you sit there and listen? Silently tutting and bemoaning waiters.

You don’t have to sit and listen to folk banging on about this and that. You can just move along. Quietly. In dignified silence. "

Incorrect! I'd throw a massive hissy fit, I'd throw my soup all up the walk and then I'd nick the soup spoon, just to be petty

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
43 weeks ago

North West

*wall.

Fuck, I can't even throw a hissy fit accurately!

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

PowerPoint....meh

Im waiting on the immersive VR..."

That's a bit fancy. Put it on the feedback form

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By *ansoffateMan
43 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Does she have a cane and will I punished if I fail the test?

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

What type of biscuits?

Is there a cake option?"

We got bourbons, custard creams and jammy dodgers....I did have chocolate hob nobs but I saw Janet from HR looking sneaky surrounded by biscuit crumbs

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

What type of biscuits?

Is there a cake option?

We got bourbons, custard creams and jammy dodgers....I did have chocolate hob nobs but I saw Janet from HR looking sneaky surrounded by biscuit crumbs

Pass me over a couple or 6 custard creams please

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
43 weeks ago

Launceston

OK I'm late to the party, I have questions....do we know what lectures we are supposed to have given? Cos I think I need the minutes from that to catch up!

And do I bring popcorn or biscuits?

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

What type of biscuits?

Is there a cake option?

We got bourbons, custard creams and jammy dodgers....I did have chocolate hob nobs but I saw Janet from HR looking sneaky surrounded by biscuit crumbs

Pass me over a couple or 6 custard creams please "

I hope you are paying attention to the presentation, I have a 64 question exam at the end

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
43 weeks ago

Middle England

Did we ever get to find out what the lecture was about?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
43 weeks ago

Portsmouth

PowerPoint....meh

Im waiting on the immersive VR..."

I'm pretty sure some flashcards with pictures would work better, simple enough for even the men to understand.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
43 weeks ago

Markfield

How does it work? Explain without lecturing pls. And explain so that your explanation works for everyone please thanks. I sound like I’m lecturing I think but anyway, I’d love to know!

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