FabSwingers.com forum: Is it okay to have a Tip Jar?

By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

So I was invited today to meet a couple at their home, communication was a little short, and they had good verifications from some clubs. Arranged a meet for the evening, and then I was hit with a “oh by the way there is a tip jar”

I immediately told them what for and there are other sites for that… but am I missing something, is this a thing??

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

A tip jar!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
43 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

I have never heard of this!

Tell them you prefer to put it all in, not just the tip...

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Were they wanting money in it or actual written tips?

Such as….

Next time you invite me around please …..(fill in the blanks)

But in all honesty I thought asking for money was against site rules

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

A tip jar??? Haha. …

And one for yourself!

Throw in 50p.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
43 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

What the fuck

. That’s actually funny

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By *ea monkeyMan
43 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I have never heard of this!

Tell them you prefer to put it all in, not just the tip...

Is it like the penis cup?

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By *olfandtazCouple
43 weeks ago

Bristol

Don't eat yellow snow.. there's a tip

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By *a LunaWoman
43 weeks ago

South Wales

The nerve! Honestly, some people

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By *sWyldWoman
43 weeks ago

Edinburgh

This is hilarious.

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By *andy CanesWoman
43 weeks ago

south

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By *aizyWoman
43 weeks ago

west midlands

A tip jar!! Brilliant!

I wonder if you leave the tip before or after?

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By *ris GrayMan
43 weeks ago

Dorchester

"So I was invited today to meet a couple at their home, communication was a little short, and they had good verifications from some clubs. Arranged a meet for the evening, and then I was hit with a “oh by the way there is a tip jar”

I immediately told them what for and there are other sites for that… but am I missing something, is this a thing?? "
lol nope you're not missing anything except sex with them

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By *a LunaWoman
43 weeks ago

South Wales

I’m surprised they didn’t have a Visitor's Book too or a Feedback Form?

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"I’m surprised they didn’t have a Visitor's Book too or a Feedback Form? "

Link to a trip advisor page

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By *estarossa.Woman
43 weeks ago

Flagrante

"I have never heard of this!

Tell them you prefer to put it all in, not just the tip...

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
43 weeks ago

London

No thanks

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By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

"A tip jar!! Brilliant!

I wonder if you leave the tip before or after?"

That’s a very good point, damn I should have asked more questions !

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By *estarossa.Woman
43 weeks ago

Flagrante

Tell them you have gone cashless but are happy to swipe

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By *avexxMan
43 weeks ago

cheshire

pay them in kind,,

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By *imi_RougeWoman
43 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Now there's an idea...

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By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

"I have never heard of this!

Tell them you prefer to put it all in, not just the tip...

J"
haha… very good

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By *obilebottomMan
43 weeks ago

All over

Was it for asparagus? Season does not really start til late Feb.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
43 weeks ago

Coventry

I did toy with the idea of payment meter for the side of the bed. I mean I'm in to free love and all but the costs of monthly bills are biting

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
43 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"I have never heard of this!

Tell them you prefer to put it all in, not just the tip...

Is it like the penis cup? "

Or the tray with spaces for dips in the tip!

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I assume the size of the tip depends on the quality of service?

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By *agneto.Man
43 weeks ago

Bham

Yeah here's 50p, don't spend it all at once.

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By *phialtesMan
43 weeks ago

Beyond the Wall

I immediately told them what for and there are other sites for that… but am I missing something, is this a thing?? "

15% if the service is exemplary?

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

maybe they used to run a pub and took the tip jar with them, and now forget they aren't running a pub anymore

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By *eroLondonMan
43 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"I have never heard of this!

Tell them you prefer to put it all in, not just the tip...

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For some reason that reminded me of "You Keep It All In" by the Beautiful South.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

You all aren't mad there's a tip jar, you're mad you didn't think of it first

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

My face running at cheltenham on ladies day .in the 315 .can you imagine 20 thousand women screaming come on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

A tip jar. Wow. Heard it all now

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

So anyway op…. What did you order off their menu?

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By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

I immediately told them what for and there are other sites for that… but am I missing something, is this a thing?? "

I guess it’s not a thing then …

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I've heard it all now. Whatever next

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
43 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"You all aren't mad there's a tip jar, you're mad you didn't think of it first

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

WHAT?!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
43 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

What the flying fandango is that about?!

Mrs TMN x

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?

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By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?"

What can I say Albanian … one persons idea is another’s potential fortune

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By *eroLondonMan
43 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?"

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You mean "Tip advisor"...?

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By *oofy321Man
43 weeks ago

moon base zero

Was there already money in it?

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By *erry bull1Man
43 weeks ago

doncaster

I used to go to a group meet organised by a couple who insisted on condoms on the sideboard was a jar with condoms and a honesty jar for buying new condoms

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?

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You mean "Tip advisor"...?"

Yes that too!! I might go and find these people to get rid of all the 2 and 1ps I seem to have accumulated over the years!!

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?

What can I say Albanian … one persons idea is another’s potential fortune

Albanian??? What is this referring too?? Since when do we call people by place names instead of their name?

Is this a thing?

P.S I'm not Albanian!!

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By *eroLondonMan
43 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?

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You mean "Tip advisor"...?

Yes that too!! I might go and find these people to get rid of all the 2 and 1ps I seem to have accumulated over the years!!

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Don't forget the shillings, farthings, florins and half crowns, my dainty numismatist.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?

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You mean "Tip advisor"...?

Yes that too!! I might go and find these people to get rid of all the 2 and 1ps I seem to have accumulated over the years!!

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Don't forget the shillings, farthings, florins and half crowns, my dainty numismatist."

Oh yes, I'll be sure to have a rummage

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
43 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

Oh dear!

I'd have searched for a few pennies from the bottom of my bag... the odd polo mint or tic tac... a bus ticket or two... maybe a stray button... piece of fluff?

How very dare they?

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
43 weeks ago

Cap d'Agde

Leave them a used condom in it...

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By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?

What can I say Albanian … one persons idea is another’s potential fortune

Albanian??? What is this referring too?? Since when do we call people by place names instead of their name?

Is this a thing?

P.S I'm not Albanian!!

You see I’m originally from St Albans, and locals are referred to as Albanians.. apologies if that came across odd… x did like your comment x

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By *igboobstCouple
43 weeks ago

barrow

That's unreal we'd have been out of there sharpish

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By *aturefunswTV/TS
43 weeks ago

bristol

Could have worse …… a card machine with minimum payment !!!

No that is weird x

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
43 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Where was the tip jar located??? Was it by the door? Was it labelled?

If I had a tip jar I would cover it in fancy glitter and sit it next to the feedback forms. Each person would get a free pen to take away

Have they considered setting themselves up on trip advisor?

What can I say Albanian … one persons idea is another’s potential fortune

Albanian??? What is this referring too?? Since when do we call people by place names instead of their name?

Is this a thing?

P.S I'm not Albanian!!

You see I’m originally from St Albans, and locals are referred to as Albanians.. apologies if that came across odd… x did like your comment x

Thank you for the clarification

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By *he ass man 666Man
43 weeks ago

paradise city

Should have just shot your load in the jar , there’s your tip guys enjoy lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
43 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Oh C'mon ..... Was it a joke ? Has there been a sense of humour failure ?

If it's true , report or at least block.

I couldn't help having a giggle though.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
43 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Pretty standard.

Our tip jar pays for our annual ski trip every March.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
43 weeks ago

Central

It would have been something to laugh at.

But if someone from here is requesting money, even in the guise of tips, they should be reported and not use the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Sounds like they usually get paid & tried their luck when you arrived

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By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

"Sounds like they usually get paid & tried their luck when you arrived "

Think you might be right there mate…

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By *naswingdressWoman
43 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

This is a thing in online writing, because writing is work and many people expect it for free.

Meeting for sex, however, is not work (except where it's sex work which shouldn't be on here). It'd be like having a tip jar for going out to dinner with your friends. £1 for scintillating conversation, good job

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By *elvet RopeMan
43 weeks ago

by the big field

If this becomes a thing, I’m getting myself a card machine

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
43 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I immediately told them what for and there are other sites for that… but am I missing something, is this a thing?? "

Maybe the tip jar was for all the uncircumcised guys who started forum threads asking about foreskin preferences and who decided that they'd boost their chances getting cut?

Just a thought......

*obvs not a thought worth thinking about if you're having late breakfast.

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By *erry bull1Man
43 weeks ago

doncaster

A chip and pin machine attached to the stocking top

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By *adCherriesCouple
43 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Thats a strange one! We have paid couples who host parties a small fee which goes towards the costs of the party i.e. refreshments, condoms etc but never been asked to leave a tip!

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By *naswingdressWoman
43 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Thats a strange one! We have paid couples who host parties a small fee which goes towards the costs of the party i.e. refreshments, condoms etc but never been asked to leave a tip!

Yeah I've done things like I travel, you get the hotel, you get the drinks I'll get the food but... not the same.

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By *host63Man
43 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Just another way for them to ask for payment without getting banned from the site

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By *ornucopiaMan
43 weeks ago

Bexley

Albanian??? What is this referring too?? Since when do we call people by place names instead of their name?

Is this a thing?

P.S I'm not Albanian!!

You see I’m originally from St Albans, and locals are referred to as Albanians.. apologies if that came across odd… x did like your comment x

I'm tempted to say 'Very lame'

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By *ornucopiaMan
43 weeks ago

Bexley

Getting back on topic...

Years ago, I was driving in the Scottish Highlands and was invited via amateur radio to call in and have a coffee with a local.

On the kitchen table, at which we sat, was a jar marked 'Coffee Fund'. I'm not sure whether it had more to do with him being Scottish or a radio ham!

I think that the couple referred to in this thread might do better to call it a condom fund and accept either cash donations or French letters of credit.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
43 weeks ago

North Shields

The only time I could imagine that been remotely acceptable would be at a gangbang in a hotel/Airbnb. We have been asked before about accepting contributions but we always decline because we feel like it creates an entitlement if things don't go to plan.

We do this for fun as a hobby. 99.9% of hobbies cost money. We don't view this any differently, so why should others pay for our hobby.

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By *naswingdressWoman
43 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The only time I could imagine that been remotely acceptable would be at a gangbang in a hotel/Airbnb. We have been asked before about accepting contributions but we always decline because we feel like it creates an entitlement if things don't go to plan.

We do this for fun as a hobby. 99.9% of hobbies cost money. We don't view this any differently, so why should others pay for our hobby. "

I tend to go, everyone covers their own expenses unless we're good friends and we can discuss this kind of thing comfortably.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
43 weeks ago

andover

Hmm I think we may introduce a tip jar and see what happens

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
43 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Next stop, a turnstile instead of a door

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By *aycambs OP Man
43 weeks ago

kettering-ish

"Next stop, a turnstile instead of a door

Or maybe one of those electronic feedback devices with 3 buttons

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I thought that kind of experience had name?

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By *MCMan
43 weeks ago

London/EA

"I’m surprised they didn’t have a Visitor's Book too or a Feedback Form?

Link to a trip advisor page "

My exact thought!

Please give us 5* on leaving and refer us to your friends!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
43 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

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