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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

… you mind about someone.

What’s the best way to let them know?

Should you tell them the reason(s) or is that pointless?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends in the context. After forty years of marriage you probably should. After two messages on fab, probably not.

Adjust for circumstances in between.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Having already met them ? Or chatting with a view to meeting ?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?

Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?

Someone on fab?

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?

Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?

Someone on fab? "

Yeah context seems important here

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Depends if it’s a negative to positive or a positive to negative.

Also depends what they currently know/think about your views

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'm just not feeling it anymore...

Literally

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Context….

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

It's very, very situational.

People change their minds, it happens. Depending on the relationship I have with another, I'd change how I respond. I'd try and do it with as much respect and tact as the situation needs.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"… you mind about someone.

What’s the best way to let them know?

Should you tell them the reason(s) or is that pointless?"
give it to me hot and strong

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"Having already met them ? Or chatting with a view to meeting ?"

Let’s say chatting, haven’t met.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?

Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?

Someone on fab? "

What’s the first rule of Fight Club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having already met them ? Or chatting with a view to meeting ?

Let’s say chatting, haven’t met."

"I'm just not feeling it, sorry"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very, very situational.

People change their minds, it happens. Depending on the relationship I have with another, I'd change how I respond. I'd try and do it with as much respect and tact as the situation needs. "

I think this is the right way to go about it.

Miss S x

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"I'm just not feeling it anymore...

Literally "

Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.

What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?

Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?

Someone on fab?

What’s the first rule of Fight Club? "
Hit first

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"… you mind about someone.

What’s the best way to let them know?

Should you tell them the reason(s) or is that pointless?give it to me hot and strong "

Keep tempting me, Fred.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?

Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?

Someone on fab?

What’s the first rule of Fight Club? Hit first "

You’re punch d*unk, Fred.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"… you mind about someone.

What’s the best way to let them know?

Should you tell them the reason(s) or is that pointless?give it to me hot and strong

Keep tempting me, Fred. "
i thought my earthy demeanor was enough

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Having already met them ? Or chatting with a view to meeting ?

Let’s say chatting, haven’t met."

Ah right. I would just say the chatting is not going in the direction you hoped.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just not feeling it anymore...

Literally

Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.

What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”"

I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Clearly it depends on the situation/context... assuming that this about chatting then just be honest and considerate, but brief.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"I'm just not feeling it anymore...

Literally

Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.

What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”

I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you "

This is what I don’t want to happen.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

I’VE made the decision that I’M not feeling the way I originally was when we first started talking.

This is MY final decision, please understand, have fun swinging..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they only ever change their mind for the worse about me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Honesty is best policy - just say.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From good to bad. Ghosting is the usual way isn’t it? From bad to good? The person probably knows you’ve started warming to them, so I wouldn’t worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just not feeling it anymore...

Literally

Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.

What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”

I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you

This is what I don’t want to happen. "

I think it's like saying no in the first place - the more info you give, the more the other person can work with. It's easier on both parties to keep it short and sweet.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"I'm just not feeling it anymore...

Literally

Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.

What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”

I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you

This is what I don’t want to happen.

I think it's like saying no in the first place - the more info you give, the more the other person can work with. It's easier on both parties to keep it short and sweet. "

I’ve never understood why people try to argue this. I’d be beyond embarrassed to keep on pestering someone who isn’t interested in me for whatever reason.

But then, there are quite a lot of behaviours people try on me that I would never dream of replicating. So maybe it’s not important for me to understand.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It depends, especially if you have committed to informing them. If, previously, there's significant interaction between you, then it could be supportive to let them know that you are pursuing a different agenda.

Via Fab, for limited engagement chats, it's probably superfluous.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think people can tell when the energy has gone from messages.

We’d tell people or let the conversation naturally die.

K

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