FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone losing faith in people on here nowadays

By *enfella4u OP Man
over a year ago

staffs

I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

But everything I try to do to try and get a meet comes to no avail or I get messed about. I just don’t know what I’m doing so wrong I just need someone give me that chance of a meet to get noticed. Why can I do to try and get a meet here peeps as Its really knocking my confidence for 6 just lately and generally feel seriously unwanted.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

tamworth

Probably quicker to read the thousands of other posts from single men that mirror this. They all have plenty advice available on them

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.

You haven't asked for profile advice so people can't advise on it but there are loads of threads about similar issues.

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By *ohntall123Man
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

Don’t take it to heart OG , it’s never easy but Persevere. I message people and they don’t reply or delete the message . Don’t ever take it Personally you just aren’t the person they’re looking for . You will meet some great people on here I have but it did take time . Good luck

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

POT LUCK

M to F message every 300 - 1 may reply.

F to M " " 10 - 9 do reply

M to TV " " 50 - 5 may reply

M to Coup " " 30 - 1 may reply

Even with these odds only 2 in 8 arranged happen.

Stacked against us nice gents, its live grin and bare it.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

Your best option is to go to socials that's how guys get noticed

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I lost faith

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

If it’s affecting you then take a break from the lifestyle for a while.

Unfortunately people can confuse swinging for hey we fuck anything which it really isn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't forget women and couples have a lot of options they won't just sleep with anyone like a lot of guys would. And they can get turned off very easily. You need to get there attention and stand out. Spend less time complaining about what you don't have and make an effort. Read other people's profiles get done tips and get to some socials get chatting. Maybe go on the chat on here.

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By *andE2000Man
over a year ago

Bathgate

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

Get out of here, visit an eastern country where they appreciate European men and value masculinity. Find a girl you like and that likes you back. Be faithful to her. You're gonna save years of wasted time on fab. This place is not good for men.

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By *redwilma666Couple
over a year ago

Kilbirnie

11 pictures of your dick on your profile, why. Turns us off immediately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too me this site has become more like a social media site with people wanting their pics and videos liked and the attention rather than a site for NSF meets.very rarely have any meets on here nowadays.much easier to go to a club,also people are more friendlier at a club and will speak with you and make you feel welcome.some people on here are delibratly rude and think they are better than you,they are sorryexcuses for human beings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, Your photo gallery contains nothing but close up dick pics & what appears to be bare back in two of your photos

(Maybe the bare back pics are a long term girl friend I don't know)....

Some of us just don't like to see a load of dick pics initially especially the close up ones with no idea of the body type or whatever....

Your bio is really good....But your status update saying there's no genuine people here anymore when reality is there's many genuine people here....but yea there's lots of catfish too but as I said many genuine peeps here also ....

I see you have 2 verifications so that's good ....at least you have had some meets....some men never get a meet here ever

Best of luck anyway OP & maybe change up your photo gallery a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place is not a great place with anyone who has confidence issues. And even though this is just my opinion, I reckon others wiill agree, you have to be prepared to know there are more people that don’t even know you exist and will not fancy you than those that do.

So keep that in mind when you message someone, expect a rejection if that’s your 1st message to them. Because that’s the odds.

Good luck finding a way to enjoy all of this, because there are genuine people around, just not everyone wants to get naked together.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You haven't asked for profile advice so I can't give it.

Do your profile/pics represent you well?

There's a ton of blokes to every woman/couple you need to stand out, otherwise you ar just another dick pic in a sea of 102710 dick pics.

I do find the organised social events easiest for meeting people personally it's easier for me at face value, maybe worth a try.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"….. you ar just another dick pic in a sea of 102710 dick pics.

…..

Mrs "

This poetry is so poignant.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Try and not lose faith in people OP - it's easier said than done but the behaviour of others shouldn't affect your confidence etc. It can, it shouldn't.

Do you think your profile truly represents you? Place yourself in a woman's shoes... would you want to meet you?

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By *JandJJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

You have to remember that single guys are ten a penny on here, and there is just so much choice.

If you can't grasp that simple fact it will obviously make you feel ill.

Just accept the fact and get on with life.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"….. you ar just another dick pic in a sea of 102710 dick pics.

…..

Mrs

This poetry is so poignant.

Thank you, I do try

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

You're so genuine it's even in your profile name! Out of interest, what does the phrase actually mean?

I find it really disconcerting when someone says "I'm Great person." Because it's usually the ones who aren't so great that say it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Don't take fab so seriously. Socials and clubs are your friends here

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

As a couple who want single men, we'd scroll straight past you as your profile is a total turn off. Not being mean, that's an answer to your question what am I doing wrong.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to talk with a person.....not a cock and that's all I see on your profile

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Don't take fab so seriously. Socials and clubs are your friends here

This. Thick skins and the ability to self reflect are much needed here

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

Do you think that all the women on here are cock hungry nymphos? Is that why you bless them with so many pictures of your penis?

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Iv no faith in any people this place is no different to reality on that score

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I think people rely on fab too much for meeting others. There’s plenty of social events and club nights where you can meet others.

OP been a nice person and genuine should just be a given. It all comes down to attraction and having the same interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't feel sorry for someone who posts a status about no genuine people here AND starts a thread about loving big clits whilst not responding to the advice proffered.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Being nice should be the bare minimum....if there's no MUTUAL!!!! attraction it's not going to happen, same as real life.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

Dude, this site does not guarantee you pussy.

It’s like applying for a job - Most of the time you’ll get no reply.

MY ADVICE?

*Try only messaging women when they’re ONLINE. Your less likely to get lost in the shuffle of a crowded Inbox.

*Stay local

*Thinkmof creative ways to break the ice in a first message.

And don’t let the rejections effect your confidence.

I’ve been turnt down by women who have Verifications from men far, far, faaaar less attractive than me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There are typically many posts every week from men in the same situation. They all get great advice, usually around making a better profile, with perhaps just 1 cock pic and emphasising that the profile is key to attraction or rejection.

Plus going to clubs and socials. I'd read some of the posts and implement anything that seems like good common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't feel sorry for someone who posts a status about no genuine people here AND starts a thread about loving big clits whilst not responding to the advice proffered. "

Couldn’t write it… thought you were genuine, OP!?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Op the site is full of genuine people, they are meeting each other across all 'dynamics'..

this shouldn't be the only option I would add for anyone wanting to hook up, there's plenty of others which may have been already pointed out..

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

You seem to have mistaken this for a swing/NSA site (the name can be misleading)

People come here to find long term playmates, get married or just display their sausage and kebab treats for a quick approval fix.

Maybe try tinder or match if you’re after the quick action

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have obviously been on here for a while now,

Actively seeking a nice female or couple for some nsa horny mutual meets but seem to be getting absolutely no where.

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

Didn't work out too well for Mr Tate did it.....

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I lost faith

And it was the darkest day of your life, right Fred?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Most women and couples will look at a profile,before they decide go reply or they hit delete.

You haven't asked specifically for profile advice op, but it needs work.

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By *allandathleticMan
over a year ago

Asgard

It's the dick pic dude...

Drop the dick pic profile and go with something a little mysterious. The ladies like it

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

"It's the dick pic dude...

Drop the dick pic profile and go with something a little mysterious. The ladies like it

We do

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I lost faith

And it was the darkest day of your life, right Fred?

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well that and i forgot to pay the electric i mean electricity so expensive these days

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I lost faith

And it was the darkest day of your life, right Fred?

well that and i forgot to pay the electric i mean electricity so expensive these days

And I won’t live in a house without power… *blocks you again*

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I lost faith

And it was the darkest day of your life, right Fred?

well that and i forgot to pay the electric i mean electricity so expensive these days

And I won’t live in a house without power… *blocks you again*"
lol..... Damn

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"It's the dick pic dude...

Drop the dick pic profile and go with something a little mysterious. The ladies like it

A hankie with two of those rolly eyeball things?

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By *agic johnsonMan
over a year ago

morden

Yeah after the last meet definitely, won't go into it but traveled across London to sit in a park coz their flatmate didn't go out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah after the last meet definitely, won't go into it but traveled across London to sit in a park coz their flatmate didn't go out "

While I can appreciate the disappointment (ranty aimed status aside…

), a bit of personal responsibility is essential on here. Life happens - never travel any distance to meet someone that would mean you would be furious/out of pocket/seriously disheartened if things didn’t go to plan.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Nope... people have their own reasons for their actions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s the tea OP.

If you’re getting nowhere at all it’s not everyone else, it’s you. Start there. Losing faith in people who had no faith in you is a fools religion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here’s the tea OP.

If you’re getting nowhere at all it’s not everyone else, it’s you. Start there. Losing faith in people who had no faith in you is a fools religion. "

We need to start a Fab meme calander with these quotes on them.

Bagsy April

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here’s the tea OP.

If you’re getting nowhere at all it’s not everyone else, it’s you. Start there. Losing faith in people who had no faith in you is a fools religion.

We need to start a Fab meme calander with these quotes on them.

Bagsy April

And what would April say? I’m assuming it’ll be a photo calendar too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here’s the tea OP.

If you’re getting nowhere at all it’s not everyone else, it’s you. Start there. Losing faith in people who had no faith in you is a fools religion.

We need to start a Fab meme calander with these quotes on them.

Bagsy April

And what would April say? I’m assuming it’ll be a photo calendar too? "

April has her mouth full at the moment.

Of course photos. We artistically pose to get out messages across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here’s the tea OP.

If you’re getting nowhere at all it’s not everyone else, it’s you. Start there. Losing faith in people who had no faith in you is a fools religion.

We need to start a Fab meme calander with these quotes on them.

Bagsy April

And what would April say? I’m assuming it’ll be a photo calendar too?

April has her mouth full at the moment.

Of course photos. We artistically pose to get out messages across.

I have an idea for a fab forum advice calendar. It’ll be January, January, January, January…

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

Maybe try house parties OP

There are quite a few around, once you have proven yourself to be a nice guy who can fuck a plenty, you will be knee deep in clunge

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

For us the bareback photos are an instant red flag and an instant no.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m not losing faith. I’m still meeting lots of lovely people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't lose what you haven't had in the first place

I'm not a believer. I just let people positively surprise me sometimes

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP your status and lack of photo variety might be part of the problem...

Nita

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

The best way is clubs and socials

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

"11 pictures of your dick on your profile, why. Turns us off immediately"

Thats an instant turn off for me too.

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By *enfella4u OP Man
over a year ago

staffs

Thanks everyone I will try sort out the photos this weekend

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Oh god yes. It's all pics hunters or guys that like to talk about it on here

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

I'm the world

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Oh god yes. It's all pics hunters or guys that like to talk about it on here "
It ooooo the dreaded it

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By *enfella4u OP Man
over a year ago

staffs

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

So many strange fuckers asking fucked up questions or people pretending to be in a couple .. it has got weird on here gone from swingers to weird desperados

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By *enfella4u OP Man
over a year ago

staffs

Noticed people saying it’s cause I hit dick pics on profile yeah I have but the women saying it’s a turn off have pussy pics on profile why is it so off putting for us blokes put our cock on show but different for a female putting there pussies on show too. Not moaning as I love looking at their pussy pics and vids just a observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I notice you created the thread a day ago, had some good advice that might up your chances and instead of maybe hiding all the pics to private and taking 40 seconds out of your day to take a decent pic to put up whilst you sort out your profile ...... you wrote 67 words instead. Could have taken a pic in that time....

People will dislike genital pics as a profile pic. People will like genital pics as a profile pic, you can't please everyone, but when it's all I can see, it tells me there's no imagination even with a good bio

That's my opinion

Which is what your op asked for

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast

I am a genuine bloke very hardworking and always respectful and a great bloke to be honest always try to help others when needed.

You're so genuine it's even in your profile name! Out of interest, what does the phrase actually mean?

I find it really disconcerting when someone says "I'm Great person." Because it's usually the ones who aren't so great that say it."

He is so genuine,the two verifications on show, say he is genuine?

Coincidence?

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Iv no faith in anyone things are as they are

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

VERY much so.....

Fickle seems to be the new way of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Noticed people saying it’s cause I hit dick pics on profile yeah I have but the women saying it’s a turn off have pussy pics on profile why is it so off putting for us blokes put our cock on show but different for a female putting there pussies on show too. Not moaning as I love looking at their pussy pics and vids just a observation "

Out of interest I’ve checked the profiles of those who have mentioned your 11 dick pics and not one of them has a pussy pic. Just an observation…

In any case, even if they did, 11 close up shots with nothing else shown would be very unlikely. Hope this helps.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

It's quite rare for a fanny shot to be a profile picture though

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Men have imagination?

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

As you haven't specifically asked for profile advice, I can't provide you with any, though I can see one glaringly obvious reason why you may be struggling that's been mentioned on countless similar threads on the forum for years

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Looks at profile pics

*nods

Closes profile

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By *aigressMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

You have to understand...

Men on here outnumber women a hell of a lot..

So even if your the bestest numbers are against you.

Also because of the ratio, women have (as they should) all the power.

This can be disheartening if you feel your not even being seen... BUT if you are being seen and getting nowhere...

It is what it is..

Nobody is owed / obligated to do anything..

Things that will probably harm your cause.

- negativity

- over explicitness

- bareback (polarising)

- a poor me attitude

Things that will help your cause

- positivity

- openess

- a think skin

- manners

- socials (orgainsed)

- going gay or at least bi

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Do you think your Mum, Sister, Daughter, female friends, female ex-partners, female colleagues, etc. like random cock pics?

Do you think your dad, brother, son, mates and male colleagues, etc. like random pussy pics?

Most men have worked out the above answers, in our opinion, those that haven't are probably best avoided. . . .

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By *urreyphotographerMan
over a year ago

kt16

As others have said........but why have so many photos of your cock ? Quality over quantity. Been a photographer for 30 years and clients come to me for profile photos for LinkedIn, dating etc and I always say it's good to have a variety of photos that show who you actually are.

I'm not sure the exact numbers on this site but I'm guessing ratio must be 100 guys to every lady so you need to stand out.

I photographed one lady on here who uploaded her photos onto her profile, she got over 300 messages in 24 hours. She's only looking for one guy, for FWB.

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By *agic johnsonMan
over a year ago

morden

Gotta say it's bloody hard to keep typing something that don't sound desperate or needy or creepy over and over to no avail ,even tho I've had a few meets (one was a disaster) .but women on here can pick and choose to their hearts content , last person I met showed her inbox to me , she had 471 unread messages , that sorta made me realise the odds are stacked against me , even with a good review behind me X patience grasshopper there's someone for everyone out there x

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