FabSwingers.com forum: Anybody else feel...

By *olly_chromatic OP TV/TS
43 weeks ago

Stockport

...worn out by just contemplating all the hard work and energy needed by sex? So much effort going into searching, trying to organise meets, travelling for socials, being awkward at parties... And then if and when you do get with somebody (or somebodies) the actual bump and grind, getting sweaty, uncomfortable positions, cramping muscles - bloody hell I feel tired just thinking about it. I think that I'm getting to an age when all I want is a nice cuddle and a cum, then more nice cuddles. And a mug of hot chocolate.

Is it just me, or are there others thinking like this?

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By *stellaWoman
43 weeks ago

London

I relate.

But then I get royally horny and am all gun ho!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
43 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Personally, I'm a big fan of the sweaty and energetic and gross parts as well as the other bits

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Not at all, the process of searching for someone suitably is the only process that's jarring.

The other stuff once you've met I throughly enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I like it when she feels worn out after sex…

That’s what you asked wasn’t it?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
43 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Yes pretty much OP. I feel your pain

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By *naswingdressWoman
43 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I mostly just wish I didn't have to deal with people to make the knickers gremlins be quiet.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
43 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

The first bit yeah. Finding someone you’re compatible with. The first social etc.

the rest of it, no I love it. Love meeting a fwb as often as possible, love the sex, love the tease, love the whole thing. Can’t be doing with the first bit. So I tend to keep the ones I find

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
43 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Kinda

What the equivalent of a pillow princess for a male?

That's what I want to be right now

Marc

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
43 weeks ago

Reading

H6gs OP. no generally I like the whole process but it is easier once you have an established fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I can relate, but I enjoy giving oral just as much, I never truly feel fatigued for it.

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By *affron40Woman
43 weeks ago

manchester

I can absolutely relate at the moment Polly. Being injured for so long has had a huge knock on effect and I can’t imagine finding that energy or excitement anymore. Possibly because I’m not recovered enough to really consider what to do next. But the thought of trying to find someone worth it is exhausting in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"The first bit yeah. Finding someone you’re compatible with. The first social etc.

the rest of it, no I love it. Love meeting a fwb as often as possible, love the sex, love the tease, love the whole thing. Can’t be doing with the first bit. So I tend to keep the ones I find

Exactly this! Keep the fwb you have, once you have them it's all fun. It's finding the right one in the first place.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
43 weeks ago

North West

"...worn out by just contemplating all the hard work and energy needed by sex? So much effort going into searching, trying to organise meets, travelling for socials, being awkward at parties... And then if and when you do get with somebody (or somebodies) the actual bump and grind, getting sweaty, uncomfortable positions, cramping muscles - bloody hell I feel tired just thinking about it. I think that I'm getting to an age when all I want is a nice cuddle and a cum, then more nice cuddles. And a mug of hot chocolate.

Is it just me, or are there others thinking like this?"

I couldn't have put it better myself.

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By *dinson1983Man
43 weeks ago

Wakefield

Both yes and no...

It's a love hate relationship haha

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By *imply DeeWoman
43 weeks ago

Wherever

Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.

I’ve noticed a mixture of menopause, endometriosis flare up and life circumstances that are unlikely to change for the foreseeable, makes me unable to be enjoyable company to be around so I don’t want that for myself, but mostly I don’t want that for others who are just looking to enjoy life.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
43 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Glad I've given it all up

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
43 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.

Happy to take the risk

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I don't mind the looking and chatting - but then the faffing of shaving legs and waxing, choosing outfits and then the driving is traumatic

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

The finding someone I'm compatible with, well I've feel like I've been banging my head against a wall for weeks. Tried different things and get the same results.

But when I've had someone I love all of it. The organising, the getting ready, the teasing, the time spent in and out of the bed and everything that goes with it. The afterglow and flashbacks Even the busy catch up at home after.

But finding someone, god that's such a pain, I seriously wonder I try at times. Its like pulling teeth.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I need a connection to have sex. Get in my head before my pants otherwise I’d rather just self pleasure.

That in itself makes it not so easy. I mean what is a connection, for me it’s someone who has conversation outside of sex and a laugh, maybe a brew and cake.

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By *imply DeeWoman
43 weeks ago

Wherever

"Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.

Happy to take the risk

Marc"

More than happy to give you the most disappointing time of your life

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By *lder.Woman
43 weeks ago

Not Local

I quite like the idea of just finding someone uncomplicated to lie with and fall asleep on whilst watching a film or listening to music.

I cant contemplate the effort of shaving and washing and moisturising to even get that currently so yes me

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By *imi_RougeWoman
43 weeks ago

Portsmouth

The finding someone compatible is definitely the most exhausting part!

And then having to actually get ready.

I don't mind the actual sex part, I mean I mostly just lie there and let them get on with it.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
43 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

Is it just me, or are there others thinking like this?"

No!! I still love it- finding someone I want to meet is the most tiresome part- I have a knack for picking sexually selfish men, but I've had some amazing meets, hopefully more in the future

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
43 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.

Happy to take the risk

Marc

More than happy to give you the most disappointing time of your life

We might as well both be disappointed then

Marc

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