FabSwingers.com forum: Private Notes feature

By *NewBNWO OP Man
over a year ago

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Does anyone use it & what sorts of things are you guys writing on there I'm curious to know

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By *orthernJayMan
over a year ago

Bramhall

Back when I was part of a couple, we used the private notes functionality extensively; it was a game changer for how we used Fab; the scene in northern England was prolific at the time, a lot of swingers, clubs and private parties.

We’d also date the notes so we’d know when/what people had said, done, not done, blanked us mid conversation, no shows for dates.

It was truly amazing, especially when someone would either forget or think we’d forgotten and then message us out of the blue!

We’d quickly remind them via our notes that they’d ghosted/blanked/no-showed etc and the number of excuses were hilarious; my favourite was the flat out denial, though they knew they’d been busted!

F2F at clubs or parties when they’d tell you their Fab name, one of us would check our notes during a quick toilet break and often people would lie through their teeth to squirm out, it was great sport!

The number of lies people would tell, (sorry guys but mostly single men), to try and meet with us was also unreal; name changes, bisexual, then straight then gay, single then married then recently split up!

That said, we did encounter some single women who lied themselves into a corner and then deleted their profile; only to message us again days later! Perhaps tellingly, it never happened with couples, almost everyone was exactly who/what they said they were on Fab if you met them F2F.

One guy even told us his mum had died as the reason for pulling out of date that took weeks to arrange; of course we just assumed it was true, who lies about their mum passing away, he then disappeared into thin air.

Months later he messaged us and my ex got to his message first, she asked him how things had been since his mum, his reply “oh she’s great, thanks for asking, how’s is your mum”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it. And it’s Private so I’m. It telling.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I use it. And it’s Private so I’m. It telling.

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tell it then?

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

Well, if my message to somebody gets rejected.

I Block them & use Private Notes to remind me not to message this person again. Especially if I was rejected for a specific reason

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Use mine alot mainly of the forums! Just one word to describe people just for future reference x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use it. And it’s Private so I’m. It telling.

tell it then?

*not telling. Ffs.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I’ve discovered private notes!

Game changer

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

"Use mine alot mainly of the forums! Just one word to describe people just for future reference x"

Do I have a Private Note?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care enough about people on here to go making notes on them.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Use mine alot mainly of the forums! Just one word to describe people just for future reference x

Do I have a Private Note?

No u don't but that's not a bad thing as most of my notes are somewhat negative!

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By *NewBNWO OP Man
over a year ago

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"Well, if my message to somebody gets rejected.

I Block them & use Private Notes to remind me not to message this person again. Especially if I was rejected for a specific reason"

Wouldn't they just not show up at all for you& be in your block list?

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

I don’t use it to be honest although there are plenty of people on the forum who do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it for things like personal details i might want to remember (names, birthdays etc).. I sometimes use it to remind me of fab connections too

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Never used it in 16 years.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

I use it for making notes about why I might not want to meet someone in case they change their profile or I lose the message history.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I often note down if they're an idiot, especially on the forum. I can then just roll my eyes next time they're posting nonsense as I'll know they're just an idiot.

Then sometimes where I know them from other places, discord telegram groups etc.

Real names and details etc too.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um. Generally my notes on profiles are a single word to remind me, usually along the lines of married, bareback, or cockwomble

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Weird cute things like their favourite drink or cake

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By *NewBNWO OP Man
over a year ago

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"Um. Generally my notes on profiles are a single word to remind me, usually along the lines of married, bareback, or cockwomble

What's a cockwomble if you don't mind me asking

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only use it for if we message a couple and they don't message us back or after chatting to them for whatever reason we don't click.

It's just a gentle reminder so we don't message them again.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Um. Generally my notes on profiles are a single word to remind me, usually along the lines of married, bareback, or cockwomble

What's a cockwomble if you don't mind me asking"

A particular kind of idiot.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I mostly use it to note when I’ve messaged someone and they either deleted or said no thanks. It stops me from forgetting and pestering them again. I’d rather not block because they may change their mind in a year or two and I’m fine with that.

Or sometimes people say not now but try us in six months.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I use it extensively OP. Have to remember where the bodies are

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I use it extensively and it's the perfect 'aide-memoire' to capture everything attributed to flattery, twattery and those who are mad as a hattery.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I use it extensively and it's the perfect 'aide-memoire' to capture everything attributed to flattery, twattery and those who are mad as a hattery."

Perfectly summarised!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not invested enough in fab on the whole to use it. Tried a few times but I think the block list is easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it a lot

To record if a guy has not turned up for an arranged meet

If someone has been abusive to me in the forums, chatroom or by message.

If someone is nice

If someone is horrible.

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By *GermanInLondonMan
over a year ago

London

I use it if the account is suspicious or fake. Record reason for block usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t use … I just block any idiots I encounter and have absolutely no interest in ever engaging with !!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Sometimes. I forget about it, then see a thread and it reminds me and I use it again

. I need to be more specific though. I click on a profile and it just says loon or twat and I never know why

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Sometimes. I forget about it, then see a thread and it reminds me and I use it again

. I need to be more specific though. I click on a profile and it just says loon or twat and I never know why

I use it to remember people’s real names Beatrice x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Sometimes. I forget about it, then see a thread and it reminds me and I use it again

. I need to be more specific though. I click on a profile and it just says loon or twat and I never know why

I use it to remember people’s real names Beatrice x"

Just checked yours. As I thought. Hot wife and nob

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Sometimes. I forget about it, then see a thread and it reminds me and I use it again

. I need to be more specific though. I click on a profile and it just says loon or twat and I never know why

I use it to remember people’s real names Beatrice x

Just checked yours. As I thought. Hot wife and nob "

I fucking love you.

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By *hMeOhMyOhCouple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

It would be more useful if the existence of a note, as well as whether you’d fabbed pics, were made more prominent. It’s otherwise really easy to miss, at least on mobile screens.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Sometimes. I forget about it, then see a thread and it reminds me and I use it again

. I need to be more specific though. I click on a profile and it just says loon or twat and I never know why

I use it to remember people’s real names Beatrice x

Just checked yours. As I thought. Hot wife and nob

I’d love to fuck you

Sam. You’re on the list. Wait your turn! Ffs

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Sometimes. I forget about it, then see a thread and it reminds me and I use it again

. I need to be more specific though. I click on a profile and it just says loon or twat and I never know why

I use it to remember people’s real names Beatrice x

Just checked yours. As I thought. Hot wife and nob

I’d love to fuck you

Sam. You’re on the list. Wait your turn! Ffs "

Ticket number one thousand and twenty four to your fornication point please…

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Sometimes. I forget about it, then see a thread and it reminds me and I use it again

. I need to be more specific though. I click on a profile and it just says loon or twat and I never know why

I use it to remember people’s real names Beatrice x

Just checked yours. As I thought. Hot wife and nob

I’d love to fuck you

Sam. You’re on the list. Wait your turn! Ffs

Ticket number one thousand and twenty four to your fornication point please…"

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep for names, what we've chatted about etc.

If someone identifies themselves as cheating in a forum thread and it's not in their profile, I'll note that too.

I also add notes on my block list so I can see why they're in there.

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Sometimes I have a chat with someone that doesn't end in a meet and I end up deleting the message thread. But when I visit the profile later, fab tells me I received a reply from them months back but I don't remember the conversation.

I use the private notes to write a summary of what happened so that I don't start a new conversation and make things awkward

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I just block people, it's easier.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Yes we use it to note things like names, something that happened which made us change our mind or if they’ve been rude or said some derogatory on the forums.

We also make funny observations but we’ll keep them to ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we use it to note things like names, something that happened which made us change our mind or if they’ve been rude or said some derogatory on the forums.

We also make funny observations but we’ll keep them to ourselves

Wot like on a promise for 3 years

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I find it very handy feature

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Its so private I can't fucking find it???

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Its so private I can't fucking find it???"

Press menu… it’s on there

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's a fantastic tool.

When I message another Tgirl about going out to a few bars I can make note of the replies so I don't bother them again. So many change their name and look, it's not always easy to keep up and just seeing that you messaged and they replied, doesn't cut the mustard.

I've got things on like:

Doesn't go out dressed.

Not actually in this area.

Will only go out if I pick them up, chauffer them and drop them off.

Works most Saturday nights, but ask about a Friday

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Its so private I can't fucking find it???

Press menu… it’s on there

Thank you pretty lady!!! I still can't find it

I feel like my mum whenever anybody tries to explain any technology to her. So I'm gonna stop looking before I get all tired and grumpy.

But I cant really imagine myself using it.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Its so private I can't fucking find it???

Press menu… it’s on there

Thank you pretty lady!!! I still can't find it

I feel like my mum whenever anybody tries to explain any technology to her. So I'm gonna stop looking before I get all tired and grumpy.

But I cant really imagine myself using it.

Click on somebody's profile, top right click on menu, drop down list.....private notes. A box will appear to write in. Don't forget to click 'save' when you have written your note.

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Its so private I can't fucking find it???

Press menu… it’s on there

Thank you pretty lady!!! I still can't find it

I feel like my mum whenever anybody tries to explain any technology to her. So I'm gonna stop looking before I get all tired and grumpy.

But I cant really imagine myself using it.

Click on somebody's profile, top right click on menu, drop down list.....private notes. A box will appear to write in. Don't forget to click 'save' when you have written your note."

Oh!!! Thank you for spoon feeding me and holding my hand through this

I shall make you my girst private note as a reward..."helpful and patient lady"

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By *NewBNWO OP Man
over a year ago

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"It's a fantastic tool.

I've got things on like:

Doesn't go out dressed.

Not actually in this area.

Will only go out if I pick them up, chauffer them and drop them off.

Works most Saturday nights, but ask about a Friday

That's actually a really good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't use it very often.

When we do, it's ususlly to remind us of people's names as most don't use them in their profile

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Yes we use it to note things like names, something that happened which made us change our mind or if they’ve been rude or said some derogatory on the forums.

We also make funny observations but we’ll keep them to ourselves

Wot like on a promise for 3 years

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We could have reverse notes, where they ask you to note things for their help, in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people have either deleted the message of said their not interested

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Not to self: Be careful what you say on the forums

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Not to self: Be careful what you say on the forums"

I’ve bought a new shovel just in case

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Not to self: Be careful what you say on the forums

I’ve bought a new shovel just in case

My hole is already dug.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I use it for interactions that I didn't enjoy. Quick note to say why.

Gbat

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