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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion." This. I like to have a good debate or a good discussion. But often if you challenge someone’s viewpoint they go “you shouldn’t be so offended” as a way to shut the challenge down. To take offense means you’re annoyed about a perceived insult. Not if you disagree which colour knickers are best. | |||
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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion." I do agree but like a lot of threads it can be topic that I find offensive or people's opinions, a recent example was a thread about r*pe jokes.... people saying it's OK to joke about it... as someone who has experienced it I utterly disagree and find such jokes abhorrent and offensive | |||
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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion." This is a good point, Joe. Especially online | |||
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"Being a truck driver if you was easily offended you be crying all day. " It's usually the truck drivers causing the offence  | |||
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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion." Yes. It's less a criticism and more a vibe. "I am right of centre and you disagree with me. Offended triggered snowflakes free speech" I dunno man, words and shit. | |||
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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion. This. I like to have a good debate or a good discussion. But often if you challenge someone’s viewpoint they go “you shouldn’t be so offended” as a way to shut the challenge down. To take offense means you’re annoyed about a perceived insult. Not if you disagree which colour knickers are best." Emerald green IMO | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness?" In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’ | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’" I think I just came. | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’" Yes. "Offended" seems to be a weapon to employ against people who disagree with you. "You are too morally weak to engage, and you cannot be taken seriously due to your weakness. I have no responsibility for any harm I may cause in an exchange. I am correct by default" ok. Cool story bro. Participation trophy tier. | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’ I think I just came. " I love talking sociology to get you going  | |||
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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion. I do agree but like a lot of threads it can be topic that I find offensive or people's opinions, a recent example was a thread about r*pe jokes.... people saying it's OK to joke about it... as someone who has experienced it I utterly disagree and find such jokes abhorrent and offensive " I totally agree as like yourself, I have been abused in the past. The fact my husband and I are here as a couple means I have won - not the r*pist. Jokes about r*pe just show what a nasty person they are! I salute your bravery for being here too   | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’" Wise words for a French man(please don't take offence) | |||
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"Am I easily offended? I would say no. But I’m a woke snowflake that has read a load of psychobabble in his ology degree and beyond and I don’t give a shit
People that label me offended for calling out their problematic opinions can cry more "I'm increasingly convinced that there's a divergent dialect based on politics. "Offended" doesn't mean what it seems to mean in the dictionary. | |||
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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion. I do agree but like a lot of threads it can be topic that I find offensive or people's opinions, a recent example was a thread about r*pe jokes.... people saying it's OK to joke about it... as someone who has experienced it I utterly disagree and find such jokes abhorrent and offensive I totally agree as like yourself, I have been abused in the past. The fact my husband and I are here as a couple means I have won - not the r*pist. Jokes about r*pe just show what a nasty person they are! I salute your bravery for being here too "Exactly ! And I salute your bravery too x | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness?" I'm too old in the tooth to be offended these days. Outraged.... now that's a different matter. | |||
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"Not at all. I come from a Caribbean household where our banter was insulting each other. I don’t get offended by much at all. "My household was similar. I now have a complex about everything | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’ Yes. "Offended" seems to be a weapon to employ against people who disagree with you. "You are too morally weak to engage, and you cannot be taken seriously due to your weakness. I have no responsibility for any harm I may cause in an exchange. I am correct by default" ok. Cool story bro. Participation trophy tier."
It’s not even that they find us morally weak they find us to weak as beings, too reliant on emotion. Never read any of the theories or research. They just go on vibes. | |||
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"I think I'll answer around the question rather than into it directly. There's definitely a weird vibe today/since last night (me as much as others), and I'm thinking more of it than we care to rationalise is full-moon based." Haven’t been on much but definitely weird forums today. I don’t believe in the moon stuff though. Definitely not fun | |||
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"Am I easily offended? I would say no. But I’m a woke snowflake that has read a load of psychobabble in his ology degree and beyond and I don’t give a shit
People that label me offended for calling out their problematic opinions can cry more "I only have some ory degrees instead of ology's (ologies?). Sad times for me. | |||
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"Not at all. I come from a Caribbean household where our banter was insulting each other. I don’t get offended by much at all. "I’ll never forget one day going to visit my Nan and when she saw me she said that I’d put on so much weight | |||
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"No I’m offended/angered appropriately- others might think that it’s too easy but that’s because we don’t have the same outlook. Like that ghastly council house garden thread- all about punching down at more vulnerable people. It really took me aback that people on a sex site - so people used to be judged wrongly - were so happy to judge and mock others so that the poster could feel they were better than their victim." That’s society in a nutshell, sadly. Could go off on a rant. Trying hard not to. | |||
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"Am I easily offended? I would say no. But I’m a woke snowflake that has read a load of psychobabble in his ology degree and beyond and I don’t give a shit
People that label me offended for calling out their problematic opinions can cry more
I only have some ory degrees instead of ology's (ologies?). Sad times for me."They like the ory degrees more. Old. Valued. You’ll be fine x | |||
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"Not at all. I come from a Caribbean household where our banter was insulting each other. I don’t get offended by much at all.
I’ll never forget one day going to visit my Nan and when she saw me she said that I’d put on so much weight "Hahaha. I had this all the time from my Nan and all her sisters. Eeeeeeee you’re a Bonny lass “Nora” . Nice way of saying you’re a bloody fatty | |||
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"No I’m offended/angered appropriately- others might think that it’s too easy but that’s because we don’t have the same outlook. Like that ghastly council house garden thread- all about punching down at more vulnerable people. It really took me aback that people on a sex site - so people used to be judged wrongly - were so happy to judge and mock others so that the poster could feel they were better than their victim." That thread was awful I couldn’t even get involved | |||
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"Not at all. I come from a Caribbean household where our banter was insulting each other. I don’t get offended by much at all.
I’ll never forget one day going to visit my Nan and when she saw me she said that I’d put on so much weight
Hahaha. I had this all the time from my Nan and all her sisters. Eeeeeeee you’re a Bonny lass “Nora” . Nice way of saying you’re a bloody fatty "Literally!!
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"Not at all. I come from a Caribbean household where our banter was insulting each other. I don’t get offended by much at all.
I’ll never forget one day going to visit my Nan and when she saw me she said that I’d put on so much weight
Hahaha. I had this all the time from my Nan and all her sisters. Eeeeeeee you’re a Bonny lass “Nora” . Nice way of saying you’re a bloody fatty
Literally!!
It was the look of shame that followed too"Whilst they tried to feed you homemade shortbread and cake | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’ Yes. "Offended" seems to be a weapon to employ against people who disagree with you. "You are too morally weak to engage, and you cannot be taken seriously due to your weakness. I have no responsibility for any harm I may cause in an exchange. I am correct by default" ok. Cool story bro. Participation trophy tier.
It’s not even that they find us morally weak they find us to weak as beings, too reliant on emotion. Never read any of the theories or research. They just go on vibes. "A complete inability on their part to consider multiple perspectives, including expertise and the entirety of human experience. Their vibes and the way their dad did it as he did (toxic masculine shit that everyone should have had therapy for) is right. Because common sense and reasons and Tradition (does the historical evidence support any of that tradition? nah fam. facts are for pussies). It's why they need fucking slogans and to change the meanings of words. Because there ain't anything else there. Just feelings they reimagine as facts because it makes them feel better. | |||
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"For the most part no... if I'm in the wrong headspace then yes I can bring offended easily " Pretty much this.. | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’ Yes. "Offended" seems to be a weapon to employ against people who disagree with you. "You are too morally weak to engage, and you cannot be taken seriously due to your weakness. I have no responsibility for any harm I may cause in an exchange. I am correct by default" ok. Cool story bro. Participation trophy tier." Often followed of course by accusations of being 'woke' or a 'snowflake'. 
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"No I’m offended/angered appropriately- others might think that it’s too easy but that’s because we don’t have the same outlook. Like that ghastly council house garden thread- all about punching down at more vulnerable people. It really took me aback that people on a sex site - so people used to be judged wrongly - were so happy to judge and mock others so that the poster could feel they were better than their victim. That’s society in a nutshell, sadly. Could go off on a rant. Trying hard not to." Yeah I get that. Quite a lot of the time I write comments and delete them because getting caught up in an online spat isn’t going to change anyone’s mind and benefits no one. I find it deeply sad that there seems so little empathy, compassion or even meaningful self reflection going on in society (and yes, I do believe there is a society) | |||
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"No I’m offended/angered appropriately- others might think that it’s too easy but that’s because we don’t have the same outlook. Like that ghastly council house garden thread- all about punching down at more vulnerable people. It really took me aback that people on a sex site - so people used to be judged wrongly - were so happy to judge and mock others so that the poster could feel they were better than their victim. That thread was awful I couldn’t even get involved" Exactly, just used it as a handy way to find people to block | |||
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"I think I'll answer around the question rather than into it directly. There's definitely a weird vibe today/since last night (me as much as others), and I'm thinking more of it than we care to rationalise is full-moon based. Haven’t been on much but definitely weird forums today. I don’t believe in the moon stuff though. Definitely not fun " I have a thread about washing machine cycles you may find of interest  | |||
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"I think I'll answer around the question rather than into it directly. There's definitely a weird vibe today/since last night (me as much as others), and I'm thinking more of it than we care to rationalise is full-moon based. Haven’t been on much but definitely weird forums today. I don’t believe in the moon stuff though. Definitely not fun I have a thread about washing machine cycles you may find of interest "Does it go around and around | |||
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"It would depend on the situation, the older I get the more irritated I get over daft things. Example being last week I saw someone posted on Nextdoor that whilst walking the dog the passed a bench and someone had left a carrier bag and 2 empty cans of beer on the floor, they took a pic and posted it complaining. That triggered me in respect that it would have been easier and probably faster to just pick up the litter and pop it in the bin. I get triggered when I see stuff like that, why people feel the need to snap a pic and post it to social media baffles me. " I get this | |||
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"I think I'll answer around the question rather than into it directly. There's definitely a weird vibe today/since last night (me as much as others), and I'm thinking more of it than we care to rationalise is full-moon based. Haven’t been on much but definitely weird forums today. I don’t believe in the moon stuff though. Definitely not fun I have a thread about washing machine cycles you may find of interest "Ooh, tell me more! 
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness?" We sit front row at comedy clubs regularly and welcome being roasted, we're not easily offended as long as it's just banter. You can't live in our house if you're easily offended. | |||
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"I think I'll answer around the question rather than into it directly. There's definitely a weird vibe today/since last night (me as much as others), and I'm thinking more of it than we care to rationalise is full-moon based. Haven’t been on much but definitely weird forums today. I don’t believe in the moon stuff though. Definitely not fun I have a thread about washing machine cycles you may find of interest
Does it go around and around "You're confusing it with my Milton Keynes thread | |||
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"I think I'll answer around the question rather than into it directly. There's definitely a weird vibe today/since last night (me as much as others), and I'm thinking more of it than we care to rationalise is full-moon based. Haven’t been on much but definitely weird forums today. I don’t believe in the moon stuff though. Definitely not fun I have a thread about washing machine cycles you may find of interest
Does it go around and around
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? In answer to the second point, Pierre Bourdieu once said: ‘when someone says something in a debate… you must ask “What are his social reasons for saying that?”…it’s a simple law but it’s useful for self defence. And I often say that sociology is a martial art. It can come in handy’ Yes. "Offended" seems to be a weapon to employ against people who disagree with you. "You are too morally weak to engage, and you cannot be taken seriously due to your weakness. I have no responsibility for any harm I may cause in an exchange. I am correct by default" ok. Cool story bro. Participation trophy tier. Often followed of course by accusations of being 'woke' or a 'snowflake'.
Yeah. OK. "I saw someone here refer to those as sneer words. I quite like it as a way to quickly categorise it. Person is a right winger and doesn't like me, and is saying a version of poopyhead. That's really all that means. (I'm sure there are sneer words in other categories too, I'm not just picking on the right wing, more riffing off how to categorise 'woke' and 'snowflake') | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness? We sit front row at comedy clubs regularly and welcome being roasted, we're not easily offended as long as it's just banter. You can't live in our house if you're easily offended. " It's nerve-wracking sitting that close. Full kudos to you both | |||
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"It would depend on the situation, the older I get the more irritated I get over daft things. Example being last week I saw someone posted on Nextdoor that whilst walking the dog the passed a bench and someone had left a carrier bag and 2 empty cans of beer on the floor, they took a pic and posted it complaining. That triggered me in respect that it would have been easier and probably faster to just pick up the litter and pop it in the bin. I get triggered when I see stuff like that, why people feel the need to snap a pic and post it to social media baffles me. " That kind of thing pisses me off too. So much of it. Who the fuck thinks oh I’ll just take a pic of something or someone doing something bad and post it on social media. Get a life. | |||
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"I think I'll answer around the question rather than into it directly. There's definitely a weird vibe today/since last night (me as much as others), and I'm thinking more of it than we care to rationalise is full-moon based. Haven’t been on much but definitely weird forums today. I don’t believe in the moon stuff though. Definitely not fun I have a thread about washing machine cycles you may find of interest
Ooh, tell me more!
Mrs TMN x"https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1563629 | |||
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times. "If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work. | |||
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times.
If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work. "As a Sagittarius, I think I broke the system | |||
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"Within the confines of home life and my social mileu I'm not easily offended by those around me, or by life's everyday foibles. I am, however, (relatively) easily offended at work because of the endless claptrap and twattish behaviour of some senior people and their irascible behaviours." If you work in a care home you really should be more patient, Nero | |||
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times.
If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work. "And no vegan reads the Guardian | |||
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times.
If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work.
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times.
If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work. "I’m actually a Cancerian. I didn’t want to offend anyone. | |||
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"Am I easily offended? I would say no. But I’m a woke snowflake that has read a load of psychobabble in his ology degree and beyond and I don’t give a shit
People that label me offended for calling out their problematic opinions can cry more "THIS. There’s a lot of shite said/bullying done in the name of ‘bantz’ I’ll call that out if I see it and probs be deemed a snowflake for it but ¯\_  _/¯ | |||
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"Or even correlation/causation. Fuck - my brain has gone. I'm a teapot." Are you short and stout? | |||
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"Or even correlation/causation. Fuck - my brain has gone. I'm a teapot. Are you short and stout? " | |||
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times.
If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work.
Hey !!!! I'm a Pisces! "Me too | |||
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"Or even correlation/causation. Fuck - my brain has gone. I'm a teapot. Are you short and stout? "And the inevitable follow up - where's his handle and spout?!  | |||
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"Or even correlation/causation. Fuck - my brain has gone. I'm a teapot. Are you short and stout?
And the inevitable follow up - where's his handle and spout?! "When dealing with the sticky outy thing, I tend to use an arse as a handle. | |||
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"Not easily offended, but been told I’m “highly strung”. I have no chill. I could argue about biscuits if you press me
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times.
If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work.
Hey !!!! I'm a Pisces! "I’m only joking, I’m not actually into astrology! Sorry for any offence caused…. | |||
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"This post made me put down my copy of the Guardian and cry. It’s hard being a sagittarius vegan at the best of times.
If you’d said Pisces that would make sense. Everyone knows Sagittarius are lone wolves and not afraid to offend. Doesn’t work.
Hey !!!! I'm a Pisces!
I’m only joking, I’m not actually into astrology! Sorry for any offence caused…. "I know! I'm just pulling you leg | |||
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"If someone offends me, I will just offend them back. It's a simple yet robust system that continues to work well in most situations. The problem is you cannot standardise what is offensive, despite society trying in vain to do so. Something you think is harmless, might be deeply offensive to some people. Some people think it's OK for poor people to live on food stamps & laugh at a an obese couple getting run off of dating sites due to abuse, but God forbid we don't consider Johnny Penpusher a 'real man' " . And this is what makes fab fab. And why I can never leave | |||
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"Nope... takes alot to offened me think thats probably a scottish thing lol " I don't love the Scottish humour. | |||
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"Nope... takes alot to offened me think thats probably a scottish thing lol I don't love the Scottish humour." HOW DARE YOU | |||
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"Nope... takes alot to offened me think thats probably a scottish thing lol I don't love the Scottish humour. HOW DARE YOU" I’m outraged | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness?" The reading between the lines thing always catches me off guard. I know a few people who will interpret every comment as if it’s a slight against them, so I try to carefully phrase things to prevent it. | |||
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"How dare you ask this? How presumptuous! I'm never offended by anything! How would you like it if I asked if you were offended? Hmph!" I would have felt included. But you didn't ask me and nor did anyone else  | |||
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"Nope... takes alot to offened me think thats probably a scottish thing lol I don't love the Scottish humour. HOW DARE YOU" It's wasted on the Scots though. Can't stand them | |||
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"How dare you ask this? How presumptuous! I'm never offended by anything! How would you like it if I asked if you were offended? Hmph! I would have felt included. But you didn't ask me and nor did anyone else "That's not good enough! I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to take it! ...well, mad, anyway. | |||
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"How dare you ask this? How presumptuous! I'm never offended by anything! How would you like it if I asked if you were offended? Hmph! I would have felt included. But you didn't ask me and nor did anyone else
That's not good enough! I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to take it!
...well, mad, anyway. "We agree on something | |||
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"Only by you Willy! "When will you just take no for an answer? | |||
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"Only by you Willy!
When will you just take no for an answer?"When I'm really offended! | |||
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"Nope... takes alot to offened me think thats probably a scottish thing lol I don't love the Scottish humour." How dare you im offened | |||
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"No. I wont get offended unless it’s a personal attack directed at me or a loved one. Even then I can let things go because I imagine someone’s trying to wind me up. It’s that old ‘you don’t give offence, you can only take it. Most of the time I try to think, why did they say that, more than what they said. Normally, it wasn’t to cause offense. I think some people like arguments, that’s why they like to be offended. " I think some people accuse others of being offended when they are not. Often people think I am offended but I'm not and never say those words. People ascribe them to me. I am not offended I just think you are a wanker and talking shite (Not you personally but in general) | |||
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"Nope... takes alot to offened me think thats probably a scottish thing lol I don't love the Scottish humour. How dare you im offened "I like you guys, my phone doesn't though  | |||
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"Nope... takes alot to offened me think thats probably a scottish thing lol I don't love the Scottish humour. How dare you im offened
I like you guys, my phone doesn't though "You need a new phone | |||
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"How dare you ask this? How presumptuous! I'm never offended by anything! How would you like it if I asked if you were offended? Hmph! I would have felt included. But you didn't ask me and nor did anyone else
That's not good enough! I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to take it!
...well, mad, anyway.
We agree on something "Oh! Ooh! Offended!! | |||
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"I think the term is thrown around too easily these days. People mistake disagreement with being offended as a way to dismiss valid criticisms of their opinion." Love this comment | |||
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"As someone who has recently posted and come under massive fire about what I posted, am I offended no but it did open my eye to how hypocritical a lot of members are on this site. It has amazed me the amount of people who through it was great to bombshell me in the post then go and like my pictures and then DM blew my mind. Do I take offence to this NO it amuses me. Growing up on a working farm then serving for queen and country “at the time” to working on building sites and for the railways. Being name called or criticised was and is a day to day occurrence if you can’t handle it you will cry and blame everyone else. Did you actually intend to offend anybody at all with that post? It didn't appear that way to me, but if what you're saying here about people going out of their way to DM you over it is true....
You got to watch out for some of these forum denizens. They can only maintain this veneer of respectability in public"1. Not intending to do something is not a defence (try that in the courts )
2. Don’t think many ot the people not liking that thread are saying they are offended. They just don’t like making fun of others less fortunate and think it reveals something about people who do.
3. Given by a lot of the comments here and there it is people making the supposedly funny comments that are the ones easily offended at being called out. It’s like gammons calling others snowflakes and then being the biggest snowflakes going when people call them gammons | |||
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" 3. Given by a lot of the comments here and there it is people making the supposedly funny comments that are the ones easily offended at being called out. It’s like gammons calling others snowflakes and then being the biggest snowflakes going when people call them gammons "Call someone a gammon or a Karen and find out what a snowflake really is | |||
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"Whether it's here, at work or in your day to day lives, are you easily offended? Do you sometimes read between the lines to find an ulterior motive or do you brush comments off as lightheartedness?" Nope. . Yes. There is always an ulterior motive. Always. Albert Mehrabian, a researcher of body language, who first broke down the components of a face-to-face conversation. He found that communication is 55% nonverbal, 38% vocal, and 7% words only. . Bottom line is you cannot take what people say at face value. You need to understand context and read them to arrive at the most likely meaning. . This is especially hard for some folks who are autistic and who might find nuance challenging. . I find it easier to assume a defensive posture and look for clues where the person didn't really mean the thing they said. Otherwise I'd naturally believe everything everyone said and I'd get myself in to a lot of trouble. | |||
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