FabSwingers.com forum: Am I Datable?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Considering Mr Knight, was asking everyone to lick his arse this morning, I thought my own look at me thread is okay,, and I haven’t done one for a long time.

So, There’s a dating app out there, which asks if you’d like a friend to be your matchmaker.

I’m actually very open to having a date, and it’s probably my preferred way of meeting somebody (rather than a hook up). But a long time ago, a girl who I met up with with told me she wouldn’t meet me because I was on the rebound from my ex-wife. ?? That’s now two year ago… how far did I rebound? Haha.

So with this in mind…. What are my pros and cons?! Does being on a swingers website influence and opinion? Would you date me?

*Woody hands microphone around the room.

** anyone who doesn’t want to give a serious answer can feel free to use artistic license to berate me.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Rebound?

My dear fellow, love is like a ball against the wall and will always come back to you.

This doesn't really answer your plight but I thought I'd just shoehorn that in for variety. (group)

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never having met you in the flesh so to speak its hard to answer the "would you" part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pros - you are yourself

Cons - who cares. The right one for you won’t care

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Were I a lady Woody, I’d be all over you like a particularly florid rash

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never having met you in the flesh so to speak its hard to answer the "would you" part."

That’s it though? All dating apps require us to take a plunge with an online profile you’ve built.

The photos. The blurb. and that’s what we have to go off in these things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Rebound?

My dear fellow, love is like a ball against the wall and will always come back to you.…."

*Woody actively dodges that ball …

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

I don’t know you well enough to say so, but I believe being on a swinger’s site wouldn’t deter me just by itself. I hate the double standards though, I have been told I am not dating material because I am on here

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Never having met you in the flesh so to speak its hard to answer the "would you" part.

That’s it though? All dating apps require us to take a plunge with an online profile you’ve built.

The photos. The blurb. and that’s what we have to go off in these things. "

Even with a dating app...I may like the look of someone but until I've met them in person I remain neutral x

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

You seem lovely on here, so there’s nothing stopping me presuming I’d say yes to a date. Obviously dynamics are understood in the in-person meeting so I’d only really know once on the date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t be against grabbing dessert somewhere if you have that squirty cream to hand.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

OP of course you’re dateable. But only when you’re ready to be.

I was told by one of my friends here that I’m Undateable but definitely not unfuckable….

Was this true? No…

Did it make me cry? Also no.

I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I like it that way

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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have now realised that the concept of being dateable is not real. I've spent so long convinced I'm not.

I don't care if I appear good on paper or if the other person does.

I want passion, chemistry, that fizz of connection. The best friends who can't keep their hands off each other.

That's never going to be determined by stats, what your friends think, dating algorithms or hours of swiping. It takes a willingness to just get out there and go for it.

That, is what makes you datable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP of course you’re dateable. But only when you’re ready to be.

I was told by one of my friends here that I’m Undateable but definitely not unfuckable….

Was this true? No…

Did it make me cry? Also no.

I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I like it that way

I have my tea black with two sugars. But I like you.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I think if that’s what you want you should go for it. Having known you for a while and seeing you in person you’re absolutely what you say on the tin. There’s much to be said for that these days.

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

Only one way to find out, stick yourself on an app of your choosing

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

It sucks to be told you’re undateable. I’ve been told that by a guy before and it floored me if I’m honest. Fair play our dynamic didn’t work but that doesn’t mean it won’t work with someone (although eeeek that’s clinging to hope!!) - people should be way more careful with words. They hurt.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Having seen you online Woody, I'd probably consider a date with you if I was in the area and looking to date.

Having met you in person, if I was the dating type and closer, I definitely would

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

"It sucks to be told you’re undateable. I’ve been told that by a guy before and it floored me if I’m honest. Fair play our dynamic didn’t work but that doesn’t mean it won’t work with someone (although eeeek that’s clinging to hope!!) - people should be way more careful with words. They hurt. "

They truly do, it’s been almost a year since my similar incident happened and I have not recovered yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re dateable. Fuck that guy.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

They truly do, it’s been almost a year since my similar incident happened and I have not recovered yet

I’m sorry to hear that. I try not to let people’s opinions or words affect me or stop me but sadly negative words do trigger my own self doubt and the little wee brain monster can be rather “oh look see, an honest person telling you what you already know, you’re unloveable, know it, know it, know it!”

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

You’re dateable. Fuck that guy. "

My very own hype man!

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

They truly do, it’s been almost a year since my similar incident happened and I have not recovered yet

Same here

I’m neurodivergent and suffer with RSD… not fun at all to feel this unlovable and ugly

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By *ack201895Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Rebound?

My dear fellow, love is like a ball against the wall and will always come back to you.

This doesn't really answer your plight but I thought I'd just shoehorn that in for variety. (group)"

As someone who's feeling a little funny about dating in the future, that's a very nice and comforting comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re dateable. Fuck that guy.

My very own hype man!

Your very own whatever you need man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP of course you’re dateable. But only when you’re ready to be.

I was told by one of my friends here that I’m Undateable but definitely not unfuckable….

Was this true? No…

Did it make me cry? Also no.

I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I like it that way

Hmm. We shouldn’t have other people they’re undateable…

Actually, just reading your reply here, I just started to rethink. - Maybe it’s not us, maybe we are ready! And maybe we’re just waiting to be lucky and bump into someone who is ready to date US.!

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

I'd totally go on a date with you.

And of course being on this website makes a difference. I wouldn't date someone who wasn't happy with me continuing this lifestyle, and ideally I want to date people who are into the lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having seen you online Woody, I'd probably consider a date with you if I was in the area and looking to date.

Having met you in person, if I was the dating type and closer, I definitely would

*knucklebump. …. And a snog.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd totally go on a date with you.

And of course being on this website makes a difference. I wouldn't date someone who wasn't happy with me continuing this lifestyle, and ideally I want to date people who are into the lifestyle."

Ahhh right. Thank you., you see I’m not concerned about someone having to be in a swinging lifestyle already. I would just like a relationship that is comfortable enough to be open about talking about open relationships or nonmonogamous and exploring different sex.

So I am scared that being on this website, it’s already putting up barriers before you start. If that makes sense. Kind of a prejudgement.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Look at you dropping names to try and look cool

You get what you give, seen as you refuse to tongue punch my bum cheeks, I’d say hello in passing but I’d never pay for you drinks

The mr

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Ok so I've met you and I'd probably go on a date with you if I was single if we met under different circumstances.

If I was ever to date again (Mr knight please don't dump me) I wouldn't date from fab.

But you are a genuinely decent guy Woody, some lovely lady will snap you up I'm sure.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Look at you dropping names to try and look cool

You get what you give, seen as you refuse to tongue punch my bum cheeks, I’d say hello in passing but I’d never pay for you drinks

The mr "

‘Try to look cool…?.’ so I’m still not cool. *cries.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Look at you dropping names to try and look cool

You get what you give, seen as you refuse to tongue punch my bum cheeks, I’d say hello in passing but I’d never pay for you drinks

The mr

‘Try to look cool…?.’ so I’m still not cool. *cries. "

It’s ok mate, if it gets you more pussy, I’ll allow you to say I’m your friend.

The mr

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Tomorrow I shall create a "woo'ing" thread. It's not the same as "dating". For those who are averse to dating will find woo'ing a lot more agreeable. There's a difference.

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By *hloe_TTV/TS
over a year ago

Nottingham

There really is no way to know until you meet someone x just meet them have a chat and see if there's chemistry. Then take it from there. X

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Reply to the Mr and not me, I take it back, I'm not dating you!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tomorrow I shall create a "woo'ing" thread. It's not the same as "dating". For those who are averse to dating will find woo'ing a lot more agreeable. There's a difference.

Oh wow. Woo’ing is definitely something else.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Considering Mr Knight, was asking everyone to lick his arse this morning, I thought my own look at me thread is okay,, and I haven’t done one for a long time.

So, There’s a dating app out there, which asks if you’d like a friend to be your matchmaker.

So with this in mind…. What are my pros and cons?! Does being on a swingers website influence and opinion? Would you date me?

*Woody hands microphone around the room.

** anyone who doesn’t want to give a serious answer can feel free to use artistic license to berate me.

Solely on the basis of our limited online interaction I'd say you are definitely datable

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Of course you’re dateable. We are all dateable to someone!

It’s just finding that someone. But it’ll happen when it happens. So enjoy yourself in the meantime.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
over a year ago

St Leonards

Woody - I had the long version, but the shorter one works better.

I don't know if how you come across is closer to "actual Woody", or "Woody made by recent years".

My "feel" is that your marriage ending, and general confidence issues (spelling etc) mean we see "Woody made by recent years".

So I think "real Woody" would be asking himself the question, to women, much closer to "Are YOU dateable? What great things can YOU bring to my already great life?".

What I see with FAB Woody is "Please like me because I'm quite broken".

I think you're an amazing guy Woody, and I think you need to build yourself up to believe in that. Easy to say. Fucking hard to do.

And then you can find someone, or possibly poly etc, who cherishes your amazing as you cherish theirs.

The question isn't then "Am I dateable?". It's "What extra amazing WILL we make together?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Woody - I had the long version, but the shorter one works better.

I don't know if how you come across is closer to "actual Woody", or "Woody made by recent years".

My "feel" is that your marriage ending, and general confidence issues (spelling etc) mean we see "Woody made by recent years".

So I think "real Woody" would be asking himself the question, to women, much closer to "Are YOU dateable? What great things can YOU bring to my already great life?".

What I see with FAB Woody is "Please like me because I'm quite broken".

I think you're an amazing guy Woody, and I think you need to build yourself up to believe in that. Easy to say. Fucking hard to do.

And then you can find someone, or possibly poly etc, who cherishes your amazing as you cherish theirs.

The question isn't then "Am I dateable?". It's "What extra amazing WILL we make together?". "

Sometimes, just sometimes he actually makes a lot of sense!

Woody - it's this to a T

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
over a year ago

St Leonards

"The question isn't then "Am I dateable?". It's "What extra amazing WILL we make together?".

Sometimes, just sometimes he actually makes a lot of sense!

Woody - it's this to a T

Thanks Boo.

Woody - if (if!) you are broken, and you acknowledge it (not here - we're animals

), then you are fixable.

If you are broken and you can't acknowledge it, then you're unfixable until you do.

And if you're not broken at all, then I'm just a stupid cunt.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

From the information I have gleaned, I don't think you have enough self worth- the only thing that holds you back, is you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Considering Mr Knight, was asking everyone to lick his arse this morning, I thought my own look at me thread is okay,, and I haven’t done one for a long time.

So, There’s a dating app out there, which asks if you’d like a friend to be your matchmaker.

So with this in mind…. What are my pros and cons?! Does being on a swingers website influence and opinion? Would you date me?

*Woody hands microphone around the room.

** anyone who doesn’t want to give a serious answer can feel free to use artistic license to berate me.

I thought I would check out your profile (so suspending reality as I am way outside your age bracket) and yes I would certainly share a date with you as nothing negative on there. Also spookily compare our profiles...we would probably get on!