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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

If there’s something you really want to do but it’s no good for you and you shouldn’t do it, how do you distract yourself to stop yourself endlessly thinking about it and slipping up and doing it?

Ideas?

I’ve got to fill up a week, at least. Then think it’ll get easier.

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

How about....keep going over why it's not good for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bake and eat the was whole batch /cake daily

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"How about....keep going over why it's not good for you! "

Oh that’s a given, I’m a big ruminator.

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"I bake and eat the was whole batch /cake daily "

Cooking is going to feature heavily. Beware the number of cooking threads I will probably be posting!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Archive it.

Whether it's mentally or physically archiving something, I archive it. Every time I get the urge to do that thing, I do something that's better for me. Duolingo. Going for a walk. Voicenoting a friend. After a while that urge kind of disappears.

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Archive it.

Whether it's mentally or physically archiving something, I archive it. Every time I get the urge to do that thing, I do something that's better for me. Duolingo. Going for a walk. Voicenoting a friend. After a while that urge kind of disappears."

Nice. That’s good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s sex then you’re fucked.

Ba dum tssss

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"If it’s sex then you’re fucked.

Ba dum tssss"

Yeah sex will not be part of the remedy. At all.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Archive it.

Whether it's mentally or physically archiving something, I archive it. Every time I get the urge to do that thing, I do something that's better for me. Duolingo. Going for a walk. Voicenoting a friend. After a while that urge kind of disappears.

Nice. That’s good. "

Oh seeing as SuperSlut has brought up sex below my previous post. Sex is a great distraction. And gives you all the lovely endorphins.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I went back to the sport of old to both get fit and unleash my frustrations while also punishing myself everytime i feel an emotion begin to trigger for anything with pushups

As well as learning about something called the circle of control that helps me loads but im not immune either way i still want what i want either way

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Archive it.

Whether it's mentally or physically archiving something, I archive it. Every time I get the urge to do that thing, I do something that's better for me. Duolingo. Going for a walk. Voicenoting a friend. After a while that urge kind of disappears.

Nice. That’s good.

Oh seeing as SuperSlut has brought up sex below my previous post. Sex is a great distraction. And gives you all the lovely endorphins. "

Nope. Nope. It’s part of the problem!

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By *resesse_MelioremCouple
over a year ago

Border of London


"

Ideas?

I’ve got to fill up a week, at least. Then think it’ll get easier. "

Find something horribly addictive that itself requires it's own detox:

Gaming (immersive, e.g World of Warcraft)

Binge watching (e.g Criminal Minds, or something similar with 15+ seasons)

Dru.... Oops. Not those!

Reading?

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock


"If it’s sex then you’re fucked.

Ba dum tssss"

Hate to admit it but think he is on point

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"

Ideas?

I’ve got to fill up a week, at least. Then think it’ll get easier.

Find something horribly addictive that itself requires it's own detox:

Gaming (immersive, e.g World of Warcraft)

Binge watching (e.g Criminal Minds, or something similar with 15+ seasons)

Dru.... Oops. Not those!

Reading?"

That made me laugh. These are great suggestions, and the need to wean from in their own right clever. Will swop one problem for another, that’s my kinda logic!

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By *resesse_MelioremCouple
over a year ago

Border of London


"

Ideas?

I’ve got to fill up a week, at least. Then think it’ll get easier.

Find something horribly addictive that itself requires it's own detox:

Gaming (immersive, e.g World of Warcraft)

Binge watching (e.g Criminal Minds, or something similar with 15+ seasons)

Dru.... Oops. Not those!

Reading?

That made me laugh. These are great suggestions, and the need to wean from in their own right clever. Will swop one problem for another, that’s my kinda logic! "

It's effective.

Really.

Well... It creates a circular problem. Like a never ending death loop of endorphin highs and lows. A dizzying roundabout of compulsions.

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"

Ideas?

I’ve got to fill up a week, at least. Then think it’ll get easier.

Find something horribly addictive that itself requires it's own detox:

Gaming (immersive, e.g World of Warcraft)

Binge watching (e.g Criminal Minds, or something similar with 15+ seasons)

Dru.... Oops. Not those!

Reading?

That made me laugh. These are great suggestions, and the need to wean from in their own right clever. Will swop one problem for another, that’s my kinda logic!

It's effective.

Really.

Well... It creates a circular problem. Like a never ending death loop of endorphin highs and lows. A dizzying roundabout of compulsions."

It’s all good. Everyone here knows the one thing I’m built for is a downward spiral of misery. I’m in

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"If there’s something you really want to do but it’s no good for you and you shouldn’t do it, how do you distract yourself to stop yourself endlessly thinking about it and slipping up and doing it?

Ideas?

I’ve got to fill up a week, at least. Then think it’ll get easier. "

Chronic masturbation?

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By *resesse_MelioremCouple
over a year ago

Border of London


"

It’s all good. Everyone here knows the one thing I’m built for is a downward spiral of misery. I’m in "

Great! See you in-game, then!

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"If there’s something you really want to do but it’s no good for you and you shouldn’t do it, how do you distract yourself to stop yourself endlessly thinking about it and slipping up and doing it?

Ideas?

I’ve got to fill up a week, at least. Then think it’ll get easier.

Chronic masturbation? "

Sounds painful.

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"

It’s all good. Everyone here knows the one thing I’m built for is a downward spiral of misery. I’m in

Great! See you in-game, then!"

See you on the other side.

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

Little star, it comes down to you,

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Little star, it comes down to you,"

It does, Bill. You are right. Love ya xx

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever


"Little star, it comes down to you,

It does, Bill. You are right. Love ya xx"
love you too,( and save a little love for yourself)

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By *stella OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Little star, it comes down to you,

It does, Bill. You are right. Love ya xx love you too,( and save a little love for yourself)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had a bad habit I wanted to break. It was a habit for over two decades, and no not smoking. It was a secret I hid very well and no one, outside of my immediate family, knew I had this habit.

I tried to give it up over a dozen times in the two plus decades I had this habit. One day, I woke up and told myself I was only going to think about not doing it for an hour. Extended that another hour, and so on until I made it an entire day. At the most difficult part of the day when I knew I’d want to fall back into this habit, I made sure I had something occupying my mind and hands.

It’s truly mind over matter. Before I knew it it was a week of not doing this anymore. I thought I’d never ever make it a week without this. Then it became a challenge with myself. I’d want to tick off days on a calendar to show myself I could have a long streak of not doing this anymore. It became something I never even thought of after two weeks. It felt foreign after three weeks not something I did for over two decades.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Set a goal for when to start to address it. And another for its resolution. Then enjoy yourself, with exercise, treats, engagement, nature and the time quickly passes, almost too quickly.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If you’re saying yes to all the right things, you should be mourning sone of the things you’re saying no to & not even registering these things

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I once had a bad habit I wanted to break. It was a habit for over two decades, and no not smoking. It was a secret I hid very well and no one, outside of my immediate family, knew I had this habit.

I tried to give it up over a dozen times in the two plus decades I had this habit. One day, I woke up and told myself I was only going to think about not doing it for an hour. Extended that another hour, and so on until I made it an entire day. At the most difficult part of the day when I knew I’d want to fall back into this habit, I made sure I had something occupying my mind and hands.

It’s truly mind over matter. Before I knew it it was a week of not doing this anymore. I thought I’d never ever make it a week without this. Then it became a challenge with myself. I’d want to tick off days on a calendar to show myself I could have a long streak of not doing this anymore. It became something I never even thought of after two weeks. It felt foreign after three weeks not something I did for over two decades. "

I like it. I practice attention management it sounds quite similar

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Have you considered a exploring a new interest? The films of a particular director, the work of a writer you've been meaning to check out. There'll be so many things you'll be learning it might focus your mind away from what you don't want to be thinking about.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"I bake and eat the was whole batch /cake daily

Cooking is going to feature heavily. Beware the number of cooking threads I will probably be posting! "

I shall look forward to these! I need to do some more baking!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Other people are the best distraction for me.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd probably do it anyway

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

When I'm pushing myself to my limits doing a physical sport and I'm experiencing severe pain I fixate on a small scratch on my finger (for example) and make out (to myself) that it hurts more and I no longer feel the real pain; this distraction at an obsessive level, don't just bake but promise someone an extravagant cake within a really short ti_eline, there'll be no room in your head to think of anything else.

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish


"I bake and eat the was whole batch /cake daily "

No-one to share with?

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