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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Not confused. It says to me that they’re not interested in talking to me.

If it’s someone on my friends list it’s probably not that deep because we’re friends. If there’s an issue they’d probably unfriend me at the least.

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By *imply DeeWoman
45 weeks ago

Wherever

When was the last time you read website FAQs, OP?

It’s all in there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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45 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'd assume they didn't want to talk to me at that time and that probably they didn't want to talk to me ever.

If they were in my friends list I might try messaging again in a week and if they deleted that one I'd take the hint

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By *eliWoman
45 weeks ago

If they're on your friends list, they're not interested. Probably best to delete them.

If they're not on your friends list, they're not interested. Probably best to delete your sent box.

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By *eroLondonMan
45 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I suggest that you reassess your friendships if they are no longer replying and unceremoniously deleting your messages.

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"Not confused. It says to me that they’re not interested in talking to me.

If it’s someone on my friends list it’s probably not that deep because we’re friends. If there’s an issue they’d probably unfriend me at the least. "

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"When was the last time you read website FAQs, OP?

It’s all in there. "

I will check that out

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"I'd assume they didn't want to talk to me at that time and that probably they didn't want to talk to me ever.

If they were in my friends list I might try messaging again in a week and if they deleted that one I'd take the hint"

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"If they're on your friends list, they're not interested. Probably best to delete them.

If they're not on your friends list, they're not interested. Probably best to delete your sent box."

Thanks! That was what I thought about those on my friends list

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"I suggest that you reassess your friendships if they are no longer replying and unceremoniously deleting your messages."

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By *inks_apeyCouple
45 weeks ago

Staffordshire

If we send and people just delete it, then fair enough, no attraction, nothing wrong with that, after all everyone has types etc.

And likewise if we get mails, and from people we aren't into, or not wanting/looking for then we just delete (a lot of the time). Again nothing meant with it, just why waist both our time?

If on friends list, maybe they have moved on, just remove them, and if they then get back to you, you can always re-friend, no hard feelings meant after all.

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By *ellaboo400Couple
45 weeks ago

Gorebridge

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

I hate being ignorant so I usually reply but it gives people the wrong idea so I end up with an army of granddad's thinking they're gonna get some even though we're not looking for single men and we have an age limit

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By *TG3Man
45 weeks ago

Dorchester

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

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It leaves me forlorn

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By *ittlebirdWoman
45 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

What does anything mean OP?

Do we know the meaning of life? I don’t think so. So don’t sweat it

Be friends with those who are friendly back is my only pearl of wisdom

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
45 weeks ago

ashford

Can see your confusion! I would consider it rude! If I open a message I allways reply ! Even if it's just hiya the once ! X

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"If we send and people just delete it, then fair enough, no attraction, nothing wrong with that, after all everyone has types etc.

And likewise if we get mails, and from people we aren't into, or not wanting/looking for then we just delete (a lot of the time). Again nothing meant with it, just why waist both our time?

If on friends list, maybe they have moved on, just remove them, and if they then get back to you, you can always re-friend, no hard feelings meant after all."

Thanks! That sounds like the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

When I first came on many moons ago it was a little disheartening especially if you were friends.

After a short time I understood it meant they weren’t interested or if you’ve been talking they changed their minds or found someone better suited.

If you’re cold messaging you have to develop a skin like a Rhino or Fab can wreck your confidence.

These days I don’t take Fab too seriously and just have fun. If I get a meet great if not well it’s not the end of the world.

Just keep your chin up, don’t take it too personally and enjoy the site anyway you can

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

What does anything mean OP?

Do we know the meaning of life? I don’t think so. So don’t sweat it

Be friends with those who are friendly back is my only pearl of wisdom

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

"Can see your confusion! I would consider it rude! If I open a message I allways reply ! Even if it's just hiya the once ! X"

My thoughts too

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By *ilverGent1Man
45 weeks ago

Livingston

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

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It means remove from friends list & move on. Take it as the clear signal that it is!

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By *parkle1974Woman
45 weeks ago

Leeds

If on friends list its time to delete them from said list.

To be honest I never look what's happened to messages I send!

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By *TG3Man
45 weeks ago

Dorchester

"If on friends list its time to delete them from said list.

To be honest I never look what's happened to messages I send! "
I answered it...... Honest

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By *parkle1974Woman
45 weeks ago

Leeds

"If on friends list its time to delete them from said list.

To be honest I never look what's happened to messages I send! I answered it...... Honest

No you didn't

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By *TG3Man
45 weeks ago

Dorchester

"If on friends list its time to delete them from said list.

To be honest I never look what's happened to messages I send! I answered it...... Honest

No you didn't

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omg i did

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
45 weeks ago

Hell

It’s happened to us all, OP. Women are not immune from it either (maybe the super popular ones)

I never check the status of a message once it’s sent, if I don’t get a reply then that’s my answer

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
45 weeks ago

Central

We can change ourselves but not expect to change others. It's often our expectations that are adrift from reality here

Creating realistic expectations is perhaps one of the best things that you can do.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. Chats will start but most won't lead to meeting and even fewer to sex. And tastes and preferences change over time. As a single man here, they need to invest very heavily in their efforts to stay on top of their game, as well as to move on from the dying cold embers of what may once have seemed like the flames of burning passion and lust.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I mostly do this to men who keep messaging when I've said no. No excuse for doing it to a friend!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
45 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's a bit of a pain

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By *ilk_TrayMan
45 weeks ago

South

They could be doing a bulk delete

Otherwise, unfriend and move on.

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By *issmorganWoman
45 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd think they weren't interested in me tbh.

If they were on my friends list, I'd remove them.

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By *litteasingMan OP Man
45 weeks ago

Thereabouts

Thanks everyone, I think you all have made me understand it better and I will be acting accordingly.

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By *hrimper36Couple
45 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

"Thanks everyone, I think you all have made me understand it better and I will be acting accordingly. "

That’s good to hear after a seven year fab journey.

Have fun op.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Are you actually friends with the person/couple though? Have you spoken to them before? Or do you just send out random friends invites to people?

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By *quirrel!Man
45 weeks ago

Nearby

Delete, block, move on!

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By *.T.Man
45 weeks ago

Glasgow

Don't be subservient to your sent box.

If you get a reply, it's a start. If you don't, just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"Thanks everyone, I think you all have made me understand it better and I will be acting accordingly.

That’s good to hear after a seven year fab journey.

Have fun op.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

What I do generally is if I send an message, I'll delete it from my sent box immediately, so I don't know if they've even read it, or deleted it, and then carry on with my day.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
45 weeks ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Block and move on "

I wouldn't go that far, what if they read it whilst waiting for an appointment and intend to reply later!?

I'd just ignore it and if they are friends maybe try again at some point and if then nothing then assess the 'friendship'

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Ive got a disclaimer of how I accept it in my profile. … I accept no reply to me is a no. It’s just that, until they tell me otherwise. It’s all good.

And that’s my advice to anyone.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
45 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

It just means it ain’t your time… but if you’re still a friend and not blocked it ain’t necessarily over..

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By *imply DeeWoman
45 weeks ago

Wherever

I seem to miss the “friend” part, sorry OP.

Usually if I’m friends with someone from here, I’m already on some kind of messaging app outside Fab so a little bit different rules apply.

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By *.T.Man
44 weeks ago

Glasgow

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

Why did I have a Seven Nation Army Of Grandads pop into my head???

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

"When that happens, it does leave me confused.

How does it make you feel?

What does it mean?

What if they are on your friends' list?

If they are on your friends list sometimes it can be a mistake, they meant to reply to you and then did a mass delete etc... mistakes do happen sometimes, but sometimes they don't. Try one more time and if they don't get back to you and they do the same, delete on your side.

If they aren't on your friends list, it can just be one of those things unfortunately.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
44 weeks ago

Newcastle

I don’t think it’s confusing at all… if they deleted your message without replying, they no longer wish to talk to you

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Text messaging not a great way of communicating don't take it personal

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By *agneto.Man
44 weeks ago

Bham

I don't look at the sent message status. I like to live in denial.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
44 weeks ago

Wirral.

No reply, no interest I'm afraid. I don't take it personally.

If a friend did it, however, I'd be pissed off & wonder why. If they did it again, I'd delete & move on. After all, any "friends" that don't have my whattsapp aren't really worth bothering about.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

"I don’t think it’s confusing at all… if they deleted your message without replying, they no longer wish to talk to you

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Put on Avril Levine, order some ice cream and wake up tomorrow and accept some new requests, I’m sure if you use fab as your port of call to contact them, you won’t lose sleep nor will they.

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By *jg83Man
44 weeks ago

BURNLEY

Just means they're not interested I take it on the chin everyone has their preferences don't they.

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