FabSwingers.com forum: Just a dick?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just a disgusting anonymous wet hold on the other side of a random door in a shitty house and im absolutely ok with that

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

I feel like most men on here.

Just something to roll your eyes at

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

To be fair, when I've met cocks, I've really wished their life support systems would keep quiet and just leave us to have fun

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?"

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘I’m not just a dick! I am a free man!’

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?"

In general, no. But, I have been made to feel totally unimportant… as in, I’m just a useful amusement and at the drop of a hat I can be replaced with another.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified."

No man should be treated like a bean. This is shocking

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?"

It would be nice to be objectified occasionally but no-one wants to.

That said I'm rubbish at accepting compliments so I'd probably find being responded to in that way awkward too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m just a disgusting anonymous wet hold on the other side of a random door in a shitty house and im absolutely ok with that "

Bless you my son

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel like most men on here.

Just something to roll your eyes at

Is that a genuine answer, Brucey??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair, when I've met cocks, I've really wished their life support systems would keep quiet and just leave us to have fun

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"‘I’m not just a dick! I am a free man!’ "

Did Master give you a sock?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified."

I suppose "the intended purpose" is to shag all you can? I don't do Fab properly either

I'm glad you don't feel objectified.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified.

I suppose "the intended purpose" is to shag all you can? I don't do Fab properly either

I'm glad you don't feel objectified. "

Exactly. Maybe that should read primary purpose. It seems there are more than a few of us loungers that just come in for the entertainment factor.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'd be incredibly surprised if many men at all said yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, yes I do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified.

No man should be treated like a bean. This is shocking

Not a Dahl fan?

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By *olkiMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?"

It feels a bit annoying when women show their tits, ass and pussy on their pictures then say in their profile "no dick pics"

Like what's that all about

I know lads probably bombard women with pictures but it seems a bit unfair

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

In general, no. But, I have been made to feel totally unimportant… as in, I’m just a useful amusement and at the drop of a hat I can be replaced with another. "

I do see this attitude a little on here towards men. Not pleasant to experience, I imagine.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

The nude is on its way, so prepare to no longer be horny

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified.

No man should be treated like a bean. This is shocking

A delicious baked bean, rolled around in tomato sauce and sucked off some wet toast. Yummy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Sounds hot, I’m in.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

In the right circumstances, it can be powerfully erotic to be objectified and seen as nothing more than the instrument of someone else's pleasure.

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Objectified.

Never.

Inadequate.

Occasionally.

Horny.

Always....

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

The nude is on its way, so prepare to no longer be horny

(For those unsure this was a joke).

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

The nude is on its way, so prepare to no longer be horny

(For those unsure this was a joke)."

*sobs

I checked my inbox too!!

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

The nude is on its way, so prepare to no longer be horny

(For those unsure this was a joke).

*sobs

I checked my inbox too!!"

Which is ironic, as sobbing is the common reaction to seeing me naked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

It would be nice to be objectified occasionally but no-one wants to.

That said I'm rubbish at accepting compliments so I'd probably find being responded to in that way awkward too!

Accepting compliments gracefully is an art form, I think!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

In the right circumstances, it can be powerfully erotic to be objectified and seen as nothing more than the instrument of someone else's pleasure."

Is it erotic when it's not consensual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An old ‘friend’ used to say “I’m more than just a big cock”..but he wasn’t…..

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"An old ‘friend’ used to say “I’m more than just a big cock”..but he wasn’t…..

Could be worse. You could be less than a big cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An old ‘friend’ used to say “I’m more than just a big cock”..but he wasn’t…..

Could be worse. You could be less than a big cock

Never less than a big cock!

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By *uke_silverMan
over a year ago

London

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Not really, no, but I don't mind it on the rare occasions it happens. I'd venture to say I may even like it as objectification doesn't have negativity associated with it to me (I don't have enough evidence to generalise but perhaps this is true for all men?) and I appreciate the directness

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

In general no I've never felt like that but a few messages over the years, mostly from couples, have stated very clearly that I would have no input in any potential meet with them.

That was usually followed by a list of instructions.

Some on the other hand insisted that I book and pay for an hotel room in a specific hotel and I was to leave after fucking the missus.

All of these were conversations started by them as they contacted me and not the other way around.

The only nasty messages I've ever received on here was when I refused all these offers and got told it was my loss, I was an idiot, I didn't have options on fab at my age and asked did I not know they could end my fab journey with a few well placed messages?

The answer was no to all of the above but I'm not quite sure how they could pull the last one off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, yes I do."

Are you bovvered?

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I wish I could say yes to this.

It would be like a dream. I wouldn't need to make an effort out even speak. Flop it out and off we go.

Any takers? Send me those nasty DMs

Marc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified.

No man should be treated like a bean. This is shocking

A delicious baked bean, rolled around in tomato sauce and sucked off some wet toast. Yummy. "

Men are turned on by this, aren't they?

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'd love a handy cock to use as I choose. Been quite some time since I had a fuck buddy, I don't miss him in the slightest but I miss the convenient sex.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

In the right circumstances, it can be powerfully erotic to be objectified and seen as nothing more than the instrument of someone else's pleasure.

Is it erotic when it's not consensual? "

No, that's everyday sexism.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

I'd be interested to see if other men also like to be objectified occasionally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love a handy cock to use as I choose. Been quite some time since I had a fuck buddy, I don't miss him in the slightest but I miss the convenient sex. "

I’m with you. The hassle free sex is great.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Do I feel objectified on Fab? No.

Do I understand that when I am with a couple that I am there for their sexual pleasure? Yes.

Being with a couple on Fab is a curious dynamic because they are using me to get what they want and I am using them to get what I want. That seems reasonable to me as long as everyone is an adult about it.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?"

Nope. Not even once.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"To be fair, when I've met cocks, I've really wished their life support systems would keep quiet and just leave us to have fun

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"In general no I've never felt like that but a few messages over the years, mostly from couples, have stated very clearly that I would have no input in any potential meet with them.

That was usually followed by a list of instructions.

Some on the other hand insisted that I book and pay for an hotel room in a specific hotel and I was to leave after fucking the missus.

All of these were conversations started by them as they contacted me and not the other way around.

The answer was no to all of the above but I'm not quite sure how they could pull the last one off

That’s nasty. Whew.

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By *olkiMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I'd love a handy cock to use as I choose. Been quite some time since I had a fuck buddy, I don't miss him in the slightest but I miss the convenient sex.

I’m with you. The hassle free sex is great. "

Feel free to message me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

It feels a bit annoying when women show their tits, ass and pussy on their pictures then say in their profile "no dick pics"

Like what's that all about

I know lads probably bombard women with pictures but it seems a bit unfair "

They don't want to be sent dick pics. Because that's not the same as looking at them when they choose to.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"‘I’m not just a dick! I am a free man!’

Did Master give you a sock? "

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Have I looked at a guy's cock and body with pure lust and wanted to use and abuse him for a few hours? Yes.

Have I sent *unsolicited* lewd and explicit messages to a guy, catcalled or made sexual comments to their face? No never.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

In the right circumstances, it can be powerfully erotic to be objectified and seen as nothing more than the instrument of someone else's pleasure.

Is it erotic when it's not consensual?

No, that's everyday sexism."

Do you know, I really like it when a man says that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have I looked at a guy's cock and body with pure lust and wanted to use and abuse him for a few hours? Yes.

Have I sent *unsolicited* lewd and explicit messages to a guy, catcalled or made sexual comments to their face? No never. "

Even when he's got his dick out? I mean, isn't he asking for it then? (The view promoted on the thread which inspired this one)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?"

I wish!

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

In the right circumstances, it can be powerfully erotic to be objectified and seen as nothing more than the instrument of someone else's pleasure.

Is it erotic when it's not consensual?

No, that's everyday sexism.

Do you know, I really like it when a man says that.

me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

I wish!"

Do you? Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time to get your tiny violins out, but yeah I can sometimes feel objectified. Whether that's because a couple just wants me to fuck the Mrs without knowing me first or messages complimenting and swooning over my body and then going silent when I send a face pic.

Although I used to love them, I take any comments about "how hot I am" with a pinch of salt these days unless they actually know me first or have seen me.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"Have I looked at a guy's cock and body with pure lust and wanted to use and abuse him for a few hours? Yes.

Have I sent *unsolicited* lewd and explicit messages to a guy, catcalled or made sexual comments to their face? No never.

Even when he's got his dick out? I mean, isn't he asking for it then? (The view promoted on the thread which inspired this one)"

I've got everything hanging out but it doesn't mean to say I'm open to all and sundry 24/7 - although a lot of guys don't seem to understand that!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"To be fair, when I've met cocks, I've really wished their life support systems would keep quiet and just leave us to have fun

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh? "

No, no and no.

Do I say unfortunately?

Should I wish I had?

And I think all three are unlikely to happen.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It feels a bit annoying when women show their tits, ass and pussy on their pictures then say in their profile "no dick pics"

Like what's that all about

I know lads probably bombard women with pictures but it seems a bit unfair "

Do you enjoy looking at women's photos of tits, ass and pussy?

Most women don't enjoy looking at photos of random dicks.

That's the difference. Because we're showing things men generally enjoy looking at doesn't mean we're also obligated to look at photos which do nothing for us.

What women enjoy looking at is often different to what men enjoy looking at.

Our photos are part of our "shop window", so people with any sense are finding out what their target market enjoy seeing and showing that.

Also, having photos on our profiles that others can look at when they choose is *very* different to being sent photos of dicks, unsolicited.

I'm endlessly surprised men can't understand this, but apparently a lot of you can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

I wish!

Do you? Why?"

I've never been the object of pure lust and desire. Just needed for a use. It would be interesting to see how it felt.

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

It feels a bit annoying when women show their tits, ass and pussy on their pictures then say in their profile "no dick pics"

Like what's that all about

I know lads probably bombard women with pictures but it seems a bit unfair

Do you enjoy looking at women's photos of tits, ass and pussy?

Most women don't enjoy looking at photos of random dicks.

That's the difference. Because we're showing things men generally enjoy looking at doesn't mean we're also obligated to look at photos which do nothing for us.

What women enjoy looking at is often different to what men enjoy looking at.

Our photos are part of our "shop window", so people with any sense are finding out what their target market enjoy seeing and showing that.

Also, having photos on our profiles that others can look at when they choose is *very* different to being sent photos of dicks, unsolicited.

I'm endlessly surprised men can't understand this, but apparently a lot of you can't."

I’ve read the threads and threads on ‘no dick pics’ and I get the point. Mine are usually behind only friends setting.

I have seen some women on forum saying that they actually do enjoy seeing them, but I’m assuming majority opinion would be for me not to have a dick pic as my profile pic that shows here and not to have a profile full of my cock at different angles.

So I don’t, but that’s me and my opinion, I’m not in control of what other guys do and can understand the hung advertising their best feature.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?

Not at all. But then I suppose I don’t really use fab for its intended purpose.

The people in the lounge and at various socials all treat me like a human bean and they want me to be there.

The odd compliment is always about my personality than my body so I never feel objectified.

No man should be treated like a bean. This is shocking

A delicious baked bean, rolled around in tomato sauce and sucked off some wet toast. Yummy. "

I've changed my mind

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm assuming they see past my flesh and tackle but it does have an edge balanced there's more to what is able to be seen

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

No im much more if i need to remind folks of that so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But seriously, if I start to read profiles if I search local. And I’m generalising on couples mostly I know but it does include women. I can see many profiles that refer to VWE/BBC/8inches + etc.

so this could be the reason I think this is all men at reduced to in here.

Very much like women might think that ‘any holes a goal etc’ (just giving you balance before you jump all over my genuine comment.

So I think why we start to think a Cartier way is our insistance to looking and remembering the negatives, because the people I converse with mostly don’t list those things as the most important.

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By *adgerMan
over a year ago

york

Maybe it’s because I’m older but honestly I’ve always looked for a connection before any meet… if the minds meet everything else will follow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time to get your tiny violins out, but yeah I can sometimes feel objectified. Whether that's because a couple just wants me to fuck the Mrs without knowing me first or messages complimenting and swooning over my body and then going silent when I send a face pic.

Although I used to love them, I take any comments about "how hot I am" with a pinch of salt these days unless they actually know me first or have seen me."

No violins here, Joe. I think some people find it hard to take. Perhaps that's linked with how we feel about ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I’m a Black man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the dick (or any part of you) is on public display expect to be objectified- par for the course on an app like this.

That old adage: no such thing as bad press

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By *estYorkshireGentMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Not sure if I’d say objectified for just my cock but I actually quite like the attention on here!

I like how straight forward it is here and you know (for the most part) people’s intentions early on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It feels a bit annoying when women show their tits, ass and pussy on their pictures then say in their profile "no dick pics"

Like what's that all about

I know lads probably bombard women with pictures but it seems a bit unfair

Do you enjoy looking at women's photos of tits, ass and pussy?

Most women don't enjoy looking at photos of random dicks.

That's the difference. Because we're showing things men generally enjoy looking at doesn't mean we're also obligated to look at photos which do nothing for us.

What women enjoy looking at is often different to what men enjoy looking at.

Our photos are part of our "shop window", so people with any sense are finding out what their target market enjoy seeing and showing that.

Also, having photos on our profiles that others can look at when they choose is *very* different to being sent photos of dicks, unsolicited.

I'm endlessly surprised men can't understand this, but apparently a lot of you can't.

I’ve read the threads and threads on ‘no dick pics’ and I get the point. Mine are usually behind only friends setting.

So I don’t, but that’s me and my opinion, I’m not in control of what other guys do and can understand the hung advertising their best feature.

As with most things - it depends on your audience. I was interested in whether men receive the same kind of objectification as women on Fab and how they feel about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the dick (or any part of you) is on public display expect to be objectified- par for the course on an app like this.

That old adage: no such thing as bad press"

Thanks for your take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

Yes feel free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be incredibly surprised if many men at all said yes"

Hilarious.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No I don’t think so. I’m only interested in the ones I get to sample anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting given then amount of people that have complained about the use of ‘BBC’ as substitute for Black man and the fetishisation of Black men and women on this site. Suddenly we’re pretending that this doesn’t happen in order to make a point. Makes you think

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Interesting given then amount of people that have complained about the use of ‘BBC’ as substitute for Black man and the fetishisation of Black men and women on this site. Suddenly we’re pretending that this doesn’t happen in order to make a point. Makes you think

Does it happen a lot Steve? Do you get a lot of messages like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it happen a lot Steve? Do you get a lot of messages like that. "

Is that relevant to the OP

or is the fact that it happens at all what’s relevant to the questions asked?

I know better than talking about my experiences on fab just for people to come along and call me a liar or call it ‘convenient’ that I have these experiences. No offence, Nora.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Does it happen a lot Steve? Do you get a lot of messages like that.

Is that relevant to the OP

or is the fact that it happens at all what’s relevant to the questions asked?

I know better than talking about my experiences on fab just for people to come along and call me a liar or call it ‘convenient’ that I have these experiences. No offence, Nora. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Does it happen a lot Steve? Do you get a lot of messages like that. "

Sorry if I’m being obtuse. But how does BBC stand for anything to do with a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies don’t send messages first… what a ludicrous notion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘"

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it happen a lot Steve? Do you get a lot of messages like that.

Sorry if I’m being obtuse. But how does BBC stand for anything to do with a woman?"
why does it have to have anything to do with a woman?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point. "

Who is ignoring that fact? My OP is worded in a very open way to allow people to contribute what they want to. I'm not sure those who objectify black men are likely to post here and put their hand up?

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

I only objectify Steve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

lol.

Ok yeah my bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

I only objectify Steve."

I’m not your type babe.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Does it happen a lot Steve? Do you get a lot of messages like that.

Sorry if I’m being obtuse. But how does BBC stand for anything to do with a woman? why does it have to have anything to do with a woman? "

Clearly I need to drink more coffee before I can have this conversation.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

I only objectify Steve.

I’m not your type babe. "

That never stopped anybody else from trying.

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By *nowman1300Man
over a year ago

manchester

I wish

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I wish"

Grass is always greener…

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've been objectified plenty in the past and revelled in it. Admittedly a good ego booster

I think men and women objectify differently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

lol.

Ok yeah my bad

Nah not at all. I'm surprised it hasn't come up though. And it's interesting that some men are welcoming objectification when some men and most women receive unwanted objectification all the time. I find it draining and depressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does one get to be objectified? Asking for a friend...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

lol.

Ok yeah my bad

Your post reads as ironic.

Anyway it’s not surprising in the slightest. Some men love it. In the case of when it’s happened to me, I don’t because it’s racism.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"‘Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?‘

The answer to this is something we know for some groups of people. The point I’m making here is that it’s interesting that we’re *deliberately* ignoring that fact to make a point.

lol.

Ok yeah my bad

Your post reads as ironic.

Anyway it’s not surprising in the slightest. Some men love it. In the case of when it’s happened to me, I don’t because it’s racism. "

No I wasn't being ironic. I was just wording my OP carefully because it's a deleted thread that sparked this one. A man saying that women who showed flesh deserved to be objectified and should expect it. Is it the same if men show flesh. And do they get the same level of objectification - do women treat men like sexual objects in the same way men treat us? And my style is to ask an open ended question and see where it goes.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

To us men we meet are basically a breathing dildo. We don't want to socialise with them etc its literally fuck n go

. We are always up front and tell the guys this before we meet and in 9 years not a single one as said 'not for me'. We are always friendly and chatty during the meet and make sure everyone as fun though.

We dont meet single females but if we did it would be the same. Couples are different because we enjoy the social aspects just as much as the play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To us men we meet are basically a breathing dildo. We don't want to socialise with them etc its literally fuck n go

We dont meet single females but if we did it would be the same. Couples are different because we enjoy the social aspects just as much as the play."

If everyone is on board - you do you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘…..

Your post reads as ironic.

Anyway it’s not surprising in the slightest. Some men love it. In the case of when it’s happened to me, I don’t because it’s racism. "

It could be racism and also fetishisation. That happens with women too. We can be objects and subjects of public and hidden desires…..just make sure you are allowing the right people to ‘use’ you….

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

It feels a bit annoying when women show their tits, ass and pussy on their pictures then say in their profile "no dick pics"

Like what's that all about

I know lads probably bombard women with pictures but it seems a bit unfair

Do you enjoy looking at women's photos of tits, ass and pussy?

Most women don't enjoy looking at photos of random dicks.

That's the difference. Because we're showing things men generally enjoy looking at doesn't mean we're also obligated to look at photos which do nothing for us.

What women enjoy looking at is often different to what men enjoy looking at.

Our photos are part of our "shop window", so people with any sense are finding out what their target market enjoy seeing and showing that.

Also, having photos on our profiles that others can look at when they choose is *very* different to being sent photos of dicks, unsolicited.

I'm endlessly surprised men can't understand this, but apparently a lot of you can't.

I’ve read the threads and threads on ‘no dick pics’ and I get the point. Mine are usually behind only friends setting.

So I don’t, but that’s me and my opinion, I’m not in control of what other guys do and can understand the hung advertising their best feature.

As with most things - it depends on your audience. I was interested in whether men receive the same kind of objectification as women on Fab and how they feel about it. "

Nope and there’s nothing to feel as it’s a one way thing.(all joking aside )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for my dick is a bit like looking for the Great Wall of China from space!!

It’s a myth that it’s visible.

So I don’t ever get objectified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. But it’s a sex site so I expect everyone is objectified and sexualised on here. It’s no bad thing

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I feel nothing from ‘fab’ and a range of different things from the women Ive interacted with & met. I tend to ignore the women that objectify or belittle men.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm inspired by a recent thread to ask:

Men, do you feel objectified on Fab? Treated just as a handy cock? Do you receive sexualised messages if you show some flesh?

Everyone else - do you tend to objectify men if they get their weiners out? Make comments about them? Send them dirty messages? Have you been guilty of viewing a man as "just a dick"?"

No, I don't feel objectified. I've never been treated as a handy cock. Nor have I received sexualised messages.

Shame really, as I'd love all those things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. But it’s a sex site so I expect everyone is objectified and sexualised on here. It’s no bad thing "

Why do you see it as no bad thing? I find it's the thing that most negatively affects the way I experience the site.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Any men *want* be objectified?

I’m horny.

Yes please. Only if you feel like it, of course. No problem if not, though!

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By *oomerangbobMan
over a year ago

stanhope

I am fairly invisible on here so cannot say

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