FabSwingers.com forum: Lying

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Is it ever okay to lie?

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sometimes it's more practical to be horizontal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying isn’t just ok, it’s a good thing to do

Lying shows you’ve thought about what you’ve done, realised it’s bad, and you want to do something about it

Telling the truth is lazy. It’s like not wearing deodorant. It’s inconsiderate. It’s shows you couldn’t give a fuck about how your actions effect people

Always lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a rule I’d say no, but there’s always exceptions to the rule

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I prefer not to.

There are times when it's the kindest thing to do, and the lie won't cause additional unnecessary hurt.

But I still prefer to be honest

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Yes I would say some situations call for it

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If its a white lie that spares someone's feelings , I think that's ok.

I really depends on the purpose of the lie, if it's to deceive others or cover up a wrong doing, then no it's not.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

It’s situational.

Like most personal actions.

Sometimes it’s just kinder to lie.

Is it ok? I think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a death bed: “you’re going to be alright, well look after you”

Question of paternity: “it’s your kid”

One is perfectly acceptable, one isn’t, it’s all a matter of context.

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By *oppleWangerMan
over a year ago

Gods Country

I tell the truth no matter how brutal it may come across. Really catches people out which is quite satisfying

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes it is.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Friends abusive ex is at your door. Friend is hiding in your bedroom. Do you tell the ex where your friend is?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I tell the truth no matter how brutal it may come across. Really catches people out which is quite satisfying

Would you really though? My mum has dementia and she’s forever saying “I’ve done that” “I’ve been there” etc etc. and for us to say no you haven’t mum really stresses her out. To just agree with her is easier and doesn’t harm anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever okay to lie?"

It depends on the reason, if it’s to spare someone’s feelings without covering your own arse then yes.

For example if someone had a bad haircut and were feeling self conscious, would you tell them the truth it’s bad and make them feel worse or tell a white lie and say it looks alright?

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By *panksspankedMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sometimes aye, sometimes nay

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you should also consider very carefully if telling the truth is necessary and keeping quiet might be a better option. Also just because you think it doesn't mean it's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lying is never good, especially when you know it's a hard limit. But for smaller things, to stop hurt you can be diplomatic with the truth ie

'do I look good in this dress?'

'errrr it's not my favourite, I prefer x,y or z...'

Personally I prefer to be told the truth and know where I stand. It's then up to me to digest and deal with that information.

One thing I have found out, the lips can tell you one thing, but it's the actions that really tell the story.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I tell the truth no matter how brutal it may come across. Really catches people out which is quite satisfying

Towards the end of her life my mum forgot a lot of things or remembered them differently. Telling her she was wrong just upset her. What would have been the point in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you should also consider very carefully if telling the truth is necessary and keeping quiet might be a better option. Also just because you think it doesn't mean it's true. "

I do agree with this one. However, omitting the truth depending on the situation can just be as bad.

But I agree, an opinion doesn't mean it's the truth

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Lying isn’t just ok, it’s a good thing to do

Lying shows you’ve thought about what you’ve done, realised it’s bad, and you want to do something about it

Telling the truth is lazy. It’s like not wearing deodorant. It’s inconsiderate. It’s shows you couldn’t give a fuck about how your actions effect people

Always lie "

Wow i pity the people around you.

How could they trust anything you say?

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show me someone who says they have never lied and il show you a lier

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Yes

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Yep

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

It's ok to lie depending on the context, sometimes it's absolutely the right thing to do.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"I tell the truth no matter how brutal it may come across. Really catches people out which is quite satisfying

Utterly ethical to my mind

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes, sometimes. Of course it is.

I don't think any person has never lied, of course they have.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Depending upon the circumstances and how serious it would be to lie and the downfall of doing it does it become a criminal act would others suffer by lying would it be perverting the cause of justice

Or simply forgot to add ingredients but your adamant that you did they just can't taste it

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

"Is it ever okay to lie?"

Let he who is without sin....

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yes, I've lost count how many times I've told my eldest the cup of tea he's made me perfect.

Told people I'm busy because I don't want to go out and don't really want to explain why I don't want to.

My biggest one, is replying I'm good thanks when asked how I am.

We all lie, especially those who say they never do

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Yes, I've lost count how many times I've told my eldest the cup of tea he's made me perfect.

Told people I'm busy because I don't want to go out and don't really want to explain why I don't want to.

My biggest one, is replying I'm good thanks when asked how I am.

We all lie, especially those who say they never do "

I never lie. Lying gets you nowhere other than in someone's knickers

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Yes, I've lost count how many times I've told my eldest the cup of tea he's made me perfect.

Told people I'm busy because I don't want to go out and don't really want to explain why I don't want to.

My biggest one, is replying I'm good thanks when asked how I am.

We all lie, especially those who say they never do

I never lie. Lying gets you nowhere other than in someone's knickers"

And nobody ever wants to get onto someone else's knickers ever, so I can't imagine that ever happening

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Having been lied to my entire life. No I don't like it. It's made me brutally honest and I will not tolerate it. There's no need to lie, to not offend. Words can be constructed in ways, to put over your opinion, but in a friendly respectful way.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Yes, I've lost count how many times I've told my eldest the cup of tea he's made me perfect.

Told people I'm busy because I don't want to go out and don't really want to explain why I don't want to.

My biggest one, is replying I'm good thanks when asked how I am.

We all lie, especially those who say they never do

I never lie. Lying gets you nowhere other than in someone's knickers

And nobody ever wants to get onto someone else's knickers ever, so I can't imagine that ever happening

Never!

Good Catholic boy, me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone tells lies to a certain extent. It's to what extent the lying is taken to that matters.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why is telling the truth often described as brutal?

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

Yes acceptable lies are

It was working when I left it

It was like that when I got here

Yeah good idea boss

Oh I have to leave early Friday as I have a hospital appointment

I won't be in for a few days as my grandad has just died, actually don't use that one when they figure out your grandad has died 6 times

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Does my bum look big

No my peach, it still looks like your a teenager

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever okay to lie?"

If you’re a bloke and someone ask if you wank. A surprising number of blokes claim not to wank.

But we shouldn’t judge them so, it’s ok to tell lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever okay to lie?"

As with all things there is a sliding scale with extremes at both end... Was there a specific example /situation you were thinking of?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Is it ever okay to lie?

As with all things there is a sliding scale with extremes at both end... Was there a specific example /situation you were thinking of? "

No just thinking. Guess I was thinking about the shadowy line of when we take over getting to decide what’s in someone else’s best interest or not as justification of the lie and where that sits - like the dementia examples above, I accept, but when we police what we’re willing to be truthful about and then wrap it up or actually no, *believe* it to be in the other’s best I retests to not know, aren’t we taking away their consent and autonomy?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Is it ever okay to lie?

As with all things there is a sliding scale with extremes at both end... Was there a specific example /situation you were thinking of?

*interests

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I tell the truth no matter how brutal it may come across. Really catches people out which is quite satisfying

Exactly this. I now lie to my Dad very often. I'm going to lie to him in the morning, probably the first thing we speak about. He'll be really surprised I'm there so early. He'll tell me I shouldn't have got up so early to drive over. I'll say "oh it's okay" when in reality I'll have stayed in a hotel. Why? Because if I say I've stayed in a hotel, he'll get all agitated and ask why I didn't stay at his house. His house with stairs. Whilst I'm sat in my wheelchair, having the conversation.

So yes, lying in certain circumstances is fine.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I tell the truth no matter how brutal it may come across. Really catches people out which is quite satisfying

So yes, lying in certain circumstances is fine. "

It really is x

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I tell the truth no matter how brutal it may come across. Really catches people out which is quite satisfying

So yes, lying in certain circumstances is fine. "

Totally agree in these types of situations.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd prefer not to tell a guy he was a crap shag!!!

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By *udding RoseWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

"Friends abusive ex is at your door. Friend is hiding in your bedroom. Do you tell the ex where your friend is?"

Absolutely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some white lies are ok imo if they're said to protect someone....I have told a few but it was only to protect someone from news that would greatly upset them....

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Always thought that when people described themselves as "brutally honest", one could safely assume that they meant "unkind or actively bullying".

Good intentions require tact. Which is not to say that bad intentions require honesty.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

I've always said,if you don't want an honest answer then don't ask me..simple really

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes of cause its OK. No way am I telling my grandkids there is no such thing as santa

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Is it ever okay to lie?

As with all things there is a sliding scale with extremes at both end... Was there a specific example /situation you were thinking of?

*interests"

For those with partners, have you talked openly about what constitutes acceptable lying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if you’re on fab cheating on your partner

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Only if you’re on fab cheating on your partner"

IYKYK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only if you’re on fab cheating on your partner

IYKYK

And do a thread about it if you’re unsure

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