FabSwingers.com forum: New and useless

By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Hi all don't really know how to start but I'm completly new to this but want to enjoy it however as it is I can't Evan get a reply to a simple message let alone get to know someone enough to get a meet amni doing somthing wrong? Any advice cheers

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

What are you actually looking for here OP?

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Biggest thing iv wanted is to be part of mmf but tbh just a active friends list with hopefully some nsa fun

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Biggest thing iv wanted is to be part of mmf but tbh just a active friends list with hopefully some nsa fun "

And how have you been trying to achieve this so far?

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Unsuccessful it seams lmao I'm shit at what to write as a interesting message so that dosnt help. But iv been browsing find a couple of single that really peaks my interest and send them a message but never get a reply

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Unsuccessful it seams lmao I'm shit at what to write as a interesting message so that dosnt help. But iv been browsing find a couple of single that really peaks my interest and send them a message but never get a reply "

So, you know your messages aren't good. Your profile writeup is likely similar. But you're just asking other people to confirm that for you?

Women get a lot of messages every day. If you don't stand out you won't get a reply. If you don't stand out in a positive way, you won't get a positive reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forums

It's your first thread so I'll be gentle lol

Use the search forums and read the many threads from newbies and what advice they've been given

Learn how to use the forums and get stuck in, use reply+ quote to respond to an individual post

Be patient

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Hey OP, welcome to fab and best of luck. Bear in mind you have joined a huge club and women/couples have lots of choice.

Be yourself, be patient and resilient - just keep at it. Consider going to socials or clubs with no agenda other than to meet new people.

Eventually things will start to fall into place.

If you don’t any verifications as genuine yet, you can always get one from clubs/socials/cam rooms.

Good luck!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Fab can be difficult for guys - there are a lot of you and a lot fewer of those you seek.

Be the best you can be in both profile (text and pictures) and messages. It helps some (maybe most) if you're verified (green tick not flag) - the easiest way to accomplish that is by going to a group social or a club (even if they're not your scene, it's a hurdle to jump over, having that tick).

You're not useless, it's about presenting yourself as best you can and learning about how this game is played.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Don't expect a reply. As has been covered multiple times it would be a full time job answering all the messages couples and single ladies get.

Comment in the forums, don't be a twat and get yourself along to socials and clubs.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Know what you are looking for and only message those who are what you are looking for AND you fit their criteria too.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Hi OP

It’s hard for many at the start I found that the forums gave us better insight into how to manage a profile; join in the fun games on here.

As to the detail in profile we got some great advice from an experienced couple who said put details into your profile so that people will know exactly what you want as well as the details into ‘looking to meet’ as to what you want. Another helpful piece of advice was that Someone also advised us to look up the swing world lingo as we had spoken to her about mmf; she advised that we want mfm as hubby wasn’t bi as for some the layout of the wording indicates our interests. Try to get a few more pics on your profile too and we found thatattending social events help too.

Mostly be patient and be you

good luck

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I'm sure you're not useless.

Be yourself, don't try too hard, and keep Fab in perspective (this is a tiny piece of the world). There's no magic formula to chatting to people, just like the real world. You help with some and not others. Good luck!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

*gel with some...

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Your profile says 'can't accommodate' and looking for 'discreet'

Most people will assume that you have a partner who you are cheating on.

Some will not like that, others will (less chance of turning into a stalker)

But explain more. No shame in living with parents or shared house in this economy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/877648

This post is full of pointers

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I forgot to add never describe yourself as useless.

You are not useless. Just new to something.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

There's a learning curve, like everything else. There's also loads of good advice in the forums

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Hi all don't really know how to start but I'm completly new to this but want to enjoy it however as it is I can't Evan get a reply to a simple message let alone get to know someone enough to get a meet amni doing somthing wrong? Any advice cheers"
You are competing with so many guys think of things that make you stand out in a crowd and thats not your penis, if you can't think of things that make you stand out then think am i in the right place

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

"Your profile says 'can't accommodate' and looking for 'discreet'

Most people will assume that you have a partner who you are cheating on.

I thought this too. It screams “I’m married”. A lot of people stay away from married members as there’s too many potential issues

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By *ust4fun6892 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Never looked at it like that and is deffo not the intention of that but can see that it would come across that way now so thanks for that detail is deffo not my strongest suit but will take all advice on board

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Don't expect a reply. As has been covered multiple times it would be a full time job answering all the messages couples and single ladies get.

Comment in the forums, don't be a twat and get yourself along to socials and clubs.

Please can fab employ you to write this to every new member.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Don't expect a reply. As has been covered multiple times it would be a full time job answering all the messages couples and single ladies get.

Comment in the forums, don't be a twat and get yourself along to socials and clubs.

Please can fab employ you to write this to every new member.

I think that would be a full time thankless task.

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