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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a baby lots of cuddles are given and lots of interaction. As children grow there's lots of hand holding, to cross streets, walk to school, rough play etc and when hurt there's comfort. You get the idea.

But as adults it almost stops. The likelihood of any human interaction is miles away from childhood interactions. Consent becomes a massive issue and people become their own islands. Being lonely is quiet often seen as a sad thing and a sign of weakness. But is it? When you look at the difference between what we get used to being the norm when we are young is it any wonder loneliness is such a thing in adult life where all those things practically disappear?

Has it gone too far where people get creeped out and things are deemed inappropriate? Or if you hold someone's hand it's deemed a relationship act rather than just human touch/interaction. Linking arms is ok, but not everyone does that, but is that because we are taught to be independent and not touch anyone as an adult unless it's a relationship or sexual?

Why is there such a big difference? Is it right?

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By *panksspankedMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I like to hug. I always have, it's just how I am

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
over a year ago

Launceston

I wonder if how you were treated as a child sets you up for how much you like or need human contact? I grew up in a home where physical affection was never witnessed between my parents. And I have very little recollection of physical affection being given to me.

I've really struggled with hand holding in relationships, it feels a possessive act and ownership, rather than affection to me.

But conversely I work in quite a huggy work place, which is lovely.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Americans are much better at this than us Brits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno about you but I touch people loads. Daily

It’s only weird if your weird about it

Touching people is good. It’s normal. It’s human

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By *lueseasWoman
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

It’s a cultural thing. I’m Italian, and I miss friendly and cordial but entirely non-sexual touch, which is normal in Italy - especially the south. It’s not creepy because is part of normal social interaction and when at the receiving end, it’s immediately clearly it’s not someone making a pass: it’s responding to a deep seated human need…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm clearly living on the wrong country

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I touch a lot.

With people I've confirmed are okay with it, obviously

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I wonder if how you were treated as a child sets you up for how much you like or need human contact? I grew up in a home where physical affection was never witnessed between my parents. And I have very little recollection of physical affection being given to me.

I've really struggled with hand holding in relationships, it feels a possessive act and ownership, rather than affection to me.

But conversely I work in quite a huggy work place, which is lovely. "
my parents were the same but i never had that i held my wifes hand and my childrens hands but then i had girls, really weird the other day i saw a guy hold his 14 yr old sons hand

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wonder if how you were treated as a child sets you up for how much you like or need human contact? I grew up in a home where physical affection was never witnessed between my parents. And I have very little recollection of physical affection being given to me.

I've really struggled with hand holding in relationships, it feels a possessive act and ownership, rather than affection to me.

But conversely I work in quite a huggy work place, which is lovely. "

I wonder this too.

I'm the total opposite of my childhood. I'm the type of person that will hold hands with someone easily and be affectionate and then kick myself afterwards when it's been taken the wrong way and wish I hadn't done it.

Interesting you thought of it as possession or ownership, I'd never looked at it that way at all.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I don't think it is that rare as an adult tbh. I hug my family, my children etc all the time. I always hug my friends, kiss them goodbye and we are a close 'huggy'team at work (is that even a word?)...so i get a lot of human touch and interaction

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm Latina. That's not an issue at all, just here in the cold Island. X

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

We are British. In most other places,especially South Europe as already has been said people hug all the time, men and women, families. People greet and kiss, hold arms together, tap on the arm or shoulders when chat or want to reassure someone. It is just affection for people and nothing more and why should it be? Over here we are afraid to even look at someone in case they take it the wrong way. Of course people have to be respectful at all times, that's going without saying.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I crave touch constantly. And when I need it the most I find it impossible to ask for.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

With people I know I'm very comfortable with a lot of human contact that some may feel should be reserved for partners. It may be because I'm so used to being on my own but I like human contact.

I'm very comfortable with friends hugging me or sitting on my knee etc in a manner that may seem 'too close' to others. This nay cause problems I guess in the sense that someone may be being flirty close and I just feel it's the way friends are.

As always it comes to communication as I do know people that wouldn't thank me for hug and others that would think I hated them if I didn't give them one

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Bruce springsteen made a song about this.

T

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London


"We are British. In most other places,especially South Europe as already has been said people hug all the time, men and women, families. People greet and kiss, hold arms together, tap on the arm or shoulders when chat or want to reassure someone. It is just affection for people and nothing more and why should it be? Over here we are afraid to even look at someone in case they take it the wrong way. Of course people have to be respectful at all times, that's going without saying. "

Maybe that is the secret you British are so kinky and good in bed.

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