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By *andK2023ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately some people say the have disabilities and illnesses such as cancer to garner sympathy and win a woman over. Which results in women shying away from the mere mention of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry Amit your experience OP

I think there’s positives to this solution. But also think it’s about whether it’s agreed (by disabled people) that it’s the best solution to improve the experiences of disabled people

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By *andK2023ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Mine is a bad heart which stops me being able to get an erection. Viagra doesn't work. I offer great foreplay but no one wants to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities "

Why do you think there needs to be a separate section?

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By *andK2023ABC OP   Man
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

So I'm searched by people knowing there is some problem and not a big 9" cock.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I wouldn't meet you purely because your profile asks for a meet in the day, in a car with blacked out windows. That just isn't for me. Are people interested until you mention your erectile dysfunction ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities "

Do you think that would improve your chances?

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets. "

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would not "

Yeah, I guess thats a really accurate analogy of disability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would not "

What has that got to do with anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man."

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would Too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry was trying to clean my air fryer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would Too"

Oh. No they wouldn’t. Unless there’s lots of Nazi sympathisers on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry was trying to clean my air fryer "

Some of your opinions are fucking awful but we Stan a hygienic king

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet you purely because your profile asks for a meet in the day, in a car with blacked out windows. That just isn't for me. Are people interested until you mention your erectile dysfunction ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would Too

Oh. No they wouldn’t. Unless there’s lots of Nazi sympathisers on fab? "

First day knowing men?

My air fryer is clean now btw in case anyone wondering

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I wouldn't meet you purely because your profile asks for a meet in the day, in a car with blacked out windows. That just isn't for me. Are people interested until you mention your erectile dysfunction ?

"

He has amended that bio now

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

No op I do not think that you deserve a forum just for you and your heart condition for which your doctor would not prescribe cock tablets but I think maybe you need to up your game a tad and live life to the full.

Yours

A person with many disabilities.

T

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

He has amended that bio now "

Well what's the point of that? The people who are put off by daytime car meets will bail as soon as he mentions it.

It feels like dishonesty not to be upfront about that. I'd think most would be put off by a daytime car meet tbh.

I'm not entirely convinced the disability is his issue. Or not his only issue anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disfability.com

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Your best bet is to go to a club, let people judge you on your personality after chatting to them. Get a few verifications and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would Too

Oh. No they wouldn’t. Unless there’s lots of Nazi sympathisers on fab?

First day knowing men?

My air fryer is clean now btw in case anyone wondering "

They're such an arse to clean aren't they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would Too

Oh. No they wouldn’t. Unless there’s lots of Nazi sympathisers on fab?

First day knowing men?

My air fryer is clean now btw in case anyone wondering

They're such an arse to clean aren't they?"

Fucking nightmare and I really burnt my finger trying to fix the part where I randomly said Nazi hooved women couldn’t get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would Too

Oh. No they wouldn’t. Unless there’s lots of Nazi sympathisers on fab?

First day knowing men?

My air fryer is clean now btw in case anyone wondering

They're such an arse to clean aren't they?

Fucking nightmare and I really burnt my finger trying to fix the part where I randomly said Nazi hooved women couldn’t get meets "

Awwww he got a boo boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man.

A woman with hooves for feet and a nazi symbol stamped across their head would Too

Oh. No they wouldn’t. Unless there’s lots of Nazi sympathisers on fab?

First day knowing men?

My air fryer is clean now btw in case anyone wondering

They're such an arse to clean aren't they?

Fucking nightmare and I really burnt my finger trying to fix the part where I randomly said Nazi hooved women couldn’t get meets

Awwww he got a boo boo "

Lesson learned. Clean it when cold

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm inclined to think it wouldn't help to have a separate section tbh. And that meeting people in person would help.

It's a site where a lot of people are wanting a fantasy lover and women have a lot of choice - not being able to get an erection is a major sticking point I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand."

Agreed, sorry OP

Let’s see this same energy the next time someone’s thread descends into cake chat because a few of the regulars didn’t like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand."

Sorry sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

He has amended that bio now

Well what's the point of that? The people who are put off by daytime car meets will bail as soon as he mentions it.

It feels like dishonesty not to be upfront about that. I'd think most would be put off by a daytime car meet tbh.

I'm not entirely convinced the disability is his issue. Or not his only issue anyway."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand.

Agreed, sorry OP

Let’s see this same energy the next time someone’s thread descends into cake chat because a few of the regulars didn’t like it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm inclined to think it wouldn't help to have a separate section tbh. And that meeting people in person would help.

It's a site where a lot of people are wanting a fantasy lover and women have a lot of choice - not being able to get an erection is a major sticking point I'm afraid. "

I agree it wouldn’t help the OP. But unless we identify as disabled, how are we to know if it is generally a good idea or not. You know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue "

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand.

Agreed, sorry OP

Let’s see this same energy the next time someone’s thread descends into cake chat because a few of the regulars didn’t like it "

You’re allowed to go off topic if you’re liked.

I got told off by someone once for saying ‘FAF’ in a thread. And then blocked for seeking attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified. "

It will be a minority of women, I think, who only want foreplay. And they can pick and choose men who will do it in a bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified. "

Well said, sex is whatever people want to make it. Feels a little discriminatory to suggest that because he either can’t, or doesn’t want to, have sex in a way that you approve of, is going to cause issues

I mean, I only want knob through diy hole action. No issues here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand.

Agreed, sorry OP

Let’s see this same energy the next time someone’s thread descends into cake chat because a few of the regulars didn’t like it

You’re allowed to go off topic if you’re liked.

I got told off by someone once for saying ‘FAF’ in a thread. And then blocked for seeking attention "

Yeah but your a trouble maker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand.

Agreed, sorry OP

Let’s see this same energy the next time someone’s thread descends into cake chat because a few of the regulars didn’t like it

You’re allowed to go off topic if you’re liked.

I got told off by someone once for saying ‘FAF’ in a thread. And then blocked for seeking attention

Yeah but your a trouble maker "

Mate, NERO just told us off. We are not in a position to be throwing shade at Pickle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified.

It will be a minority of women, I think, who only want foreplay. And they can pick and choose men who will do it in a bed. "

Yes they can. The fact that they can choose someone that will do it in a bed is irrelevant. As is the amount of women that this issue relates to. We’re talking about the OP not being able to do sex in its most basic form and that impact on meeting, not about other details of his profile that impact him not getting meets.

Also whether it’s a minority of women or not is irrelevant also? It could be a minority of men? We simply do not know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities "

I've got some questions for you OP.

Is this your first fab profile?

Why did you join?

Have you looked at other profiles and how they are set up?

There are many reasons why you haven't had a meet, disability is not the main one. There are people on the site that won't meet a person with disabilities, they want what they want, the same as you want what you want. The key is to figure out what you want, present it on your profile in a honest way, add personality, humour, and then forget about it, use fab as fun and not a way for guaranteed meets.

Having a designated section for disabilities and advice would be used and abused. Having threads on disabilities is, however, encouraged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand.

Agreed, sorry OP

Let’s see this same energy the next time someone’s thread descends into cake chat because a few of the regulars didn’t like it

You’re allowed to go off topic if you’re liked.

I got told off by someone once for saying ‘FAF’ in a thread. And then blocked for seeking attention

Yeah but your a trouble maker

Mate, NERO just told us off. We are not in a position to be throwing shade at Pickle. "

I think Nero is eyeing himself for a role as a Mod (or a rocker, I shouldn’t assume)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified.

It will be a minority of women, I think, who only want foreplay. And they can pick and choose men who will do it in a bed.

Yes they can. The fact that they can choose someone that will do it in a bed is irrelevant. As is the amount of women that this issue relates to. We’re talking about the OP not being able to do sex in its most basic form and that impact on meeting, not about other details of his profile that impact him not getting meets.

Also whether it’s a minority of women or not is irrelevant also? It could be a minority of men? We simply do not know. "

I think it's relevant because it reduces his pool and makes it harder to meet women. And if you don't think most women and most men are here for PIV sex, I don't know what to say.

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

I have to be totally honest and say yes it would stope me.

I want to be fucked.

Forellay is grand and all that but I don’t want toys from a meet I can use toys solo and not even leave the house.

So yes OP for a lot of people it is a deal breaker.

I’m sorry and all that but I’m just trying to be honest.

Good luck though you may find what you feel, but as others have said maybe a club would be better for you where you can join in with a bit of fun maybe?

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I have to be totally honest and say yes it would stope me.

I want to be fucked.

Forellay is grand and all that but I don’t want toys from a meet I can use toys solo and not even leave the house.

So yes OP for a lot of people it is a deal breaker.

I’m sorry and all that but I’m just trying to be honest.

Good luck though you may find what you feel, but as others have said maybe a club would be better for you where you can join in with a bit of fun maybe?"

Sorry about typos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to be totally honest and say yes it would stope me.

I want to be fucked.

Forellay is grand and all that but I don’t want toys from a meet I can use toys solo and not even leave the house.

So yes OP for a lot of people it is a deal breaker.

I’m sorry and all that but I’m just trying to be honest.

Good luck though you may find what you feel, but as others have said maybe a club would be better for you where you can join in with a bit of fun maybe?"

I don’t think op even asked if it was a deal breaker, just if there could be a section for him

But in glad your need to be honest and ruthlessly point out something I’m sure OP already knows, but struggles with daily, has been satisfied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified. "

Okay for me personally it would be an issue, how’s that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified.

It will be a minority of women, I think, who only want foreplay. And they can pick and choose men who will do it in a bed.

Yes they can. The fact that they can choose someone that will do it in a bed is irrelevant. As is the amount of women that this issue relates to. We’re talking about the OP not being able to do sex in its most basic form and that impact on meeting, not about other details of his profile that impact him not getting meets.

Also whether it’s a minority of women or not is irrelevant also? It could be a minority of men? We simply do not know.

I think it's relevant because it reduces his pool and makes it harder to meet women. And if you don't think most women and most men are here for PIV sex, I don't know what to say. "

It’s not relevant to the point I made though. He said he had issues when he mentioned his disability. We’re talking about how his disability impacts his success. You don't know whether the women who don’t want penetration want to have sex in a bed? That’s an assumption based on nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified.

Okay for me personally it would be an issue, how’s that "

I hear you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP : yo I’m struggling to meet, maybe a disability section?

The forum : WELL I WOULDNT FUCK YOU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am men’s biggest hater as we all know but I’m not sure what is going on in this thread

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"I fail to see the relevance of air fryers and the OP's plight on this thread. His post might not warrant a dedicated section for disabilities but let's stick with the topic in hand.

Agreed, sorry OP

Let’s see this same energy the next time someone’s thread descends into cake chat because a few of the regulars didn’t like it

You’re allowed to go off topic if you’re liked.

I got told off by someone once for saying ‘FAF’ in a thread. And then blocked for seeking attention

Yeah but your a trouble maker

Mate, NERO just told us off. We are not in a position to be throwing shade at Pickle.

I think Nero is eyeing himself for a role as a Mod (or a rocker, I shouldn’t assume) "

I should be more irie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP : yo I’m struggling to meet, maybe a disability section?

The forum : WELL I WOULDNT FUCK YOU "

Don't include me in the FORUM please, I answered the OP....and waffled a little

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

OP I admire your honesty well done

Unfortunately cheating and dishonesty seems to be the way of the world (fab)

I'm not sure about a disability forum as it may lead to scoundrels trying to pretend to garner sympathy.

I'm not sure what the answer is.

Do other people with disabilities think there's a need for a separate forum??

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"OP I admire your honesty well done

Unfortunately cheating and dishonesty seems to be the way of the world (fab)

I'm not sure about a disability forum as it may lead to scoundrels trying to pretend to garner sympathy.

I'm not sure what the answer is.

Do other people with disabilities think there's a need for a separate forum??"

I'm a different flavour of disabled and am female (albeit with a male partner also involved here, also technically disabled!).

I personally don't want to be fetishised for my disability, nor do I want targeted abuse and I feel that for me, a separate section would just result in one or both.

We can definitely get the Sex if we want to, but do self exclude a lot for various reasons. A big one is trust. I can have sex in all its forms, but there are some positions or activities I can't or don't want to do, due to disability.

I can't cum easily/at all sometimes and I'm very put off by all men being super certain they're going to give me multiple orgasms blah blah blah. Also don't want the "I can give you what your husband can't" type nonsense.

So for me, no thanks. My view is that outright segregation of any one demographic group tends not to be great, in any area of life, other than where being that demographic is useful, e.g. gynaecology clinics that can only deal with people who have female anatomy.

I do also take exception to the comparison of disabled people (and their success here) with hooved Nazis women. Not exactly the right sort of side by side comparison. There's enough demonisation of disability without it being done like that. I like a joke as much as the next person, but that was about as funny as syphilis.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"OP I admire your honesty well done

Unfortunately cheating and dishonesty seems to be the way of the world (fab)

I'm not sure about a disability forum as it may lead to scoundrels trying to pretend to garner sympathy.

I'm not sure what the answer is.

Do other people with disabilities think there's a need for a separate forum??

I'm a different flavour of disabled and am female (albeit with a male partner also involved here, also technically disabled!).

I personally don't want to be fetishised for my disability, nor do I want targeted abuse and I feel that for me, a separate section would just result in one or both.

We can definitely get the Sex if we want to, but do self exclude a lot for various reasons. A big one is trust. I can have sex in all its forms, but there are some positions or activities I can't or don't want to do, due to disability.

I can't cum easily/at all sometimes and I'm very put off by all men being super certain they're going to give me multiple orgasms blah blah blah. Also don't want the "I can give you what your husband can't" type nonsense.

So for me, no thanks. My view is that outright segregation of any one demographic group tends not to be great, in any area of life, other than where being that demographic is useful, e.g. gynaecology clinics that can only deal with people who have female anatomy.

I do also take exception to the comparison of disabled people (and their success here) with hooved Nazis women. Not exactly the right sort of side by side comparison. There's enough demonisation of disability without it being done like that. I like a joke as much as the next person, but that was about as funny as syphilis. "

Thank you for posting - I wholeheartedly agree.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

As a society we are not yet in fact nowhere near being a fully inclusive one that caters for the needs of some who have disabilities..

So there's still far to go and it would be a totally bad idea for a site such as this to consider such as the Op suggests..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think being on a sex site and not being able to offer sex in its most basic form is gonna be an issue

I disagree. Sex is more than penetration. He’s said he’s willing and able to offer other forms of sex. And I have seen a few women’s profiles that won’t offer penetration- they still have been meet verified.

It will be a minority of women, I think, who only want foreplay. And they can pick and choose men who will do it in a bed.

Yes they can. The fact that they can choose someone that will do it in a bed is irrelevant. As is the amount of women that this issue relates to. We’re talking about the OP not being able to do sex in its most basic form and that impact on meeting, not about other details of his profile that impact him not getting meets.

Also whether it’s a minority of women or not is irrelevant also? It could be a minority of men? We simply do not know.

I think it's relevant because it reduces his pool and makes it harder to meet women. And if you don't think most women and most men are here for PIV sex, I don't know what to say.

It’s not relevant to the point I made though. He said he had issues when he mentioned his disability. We’re talking about how his disability impacts his success. You don't know whether the women who don’t want penetration want to have sex in a bed? That’s an assumption based on nothing "

Pickle. The bed thing was just a side-joke.

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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago

Hayling Island

I'm not disabled so not sure if my standing in terms of posting an opinion about this.... But I don't like the idea of any kind of segregation. Whilst it may provide more opertunities for disabled fabsters, it may also serve to isolate and stigmatise them too. I would be equally uncomfortable with a section for Black, or Asian people, or people of particular nationalities.... Were one community and I feel we should stay that way.

Like others on here I would suggest that op has a good think about his profile and rewrites it grom scratch.

Also consider attending clubs, where some people only want a bit of foreplay or heavy petting.

I know the Helfire 'dogging area' would be perfect for Op. As many women only want to be touched or licked and nothing more......

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think it's the people you're talking to.

I'm disabled and don't have problems getting meets.

To be fair, a woman with disabilities will always receive more interest than a single man."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I admire your honesty well done

Unfortunately cheating and dishonesty seems to be the way of the world (fab)

I'm not sure about a disability forum as it may lead to scoundrels trying to pretend to garner sympathy.

I'm not sure what the answer is.

Do other people with disabilities think there's a need for a separate forum??

I'm a different flavour of disabled and am female (albeit with a male partner also involved here, also technically disabled!).

I personally don't want to be fetishised for my disability, nor do I want targeted abuse and I feel that for me, a separate section would just result in one or both.

We can definitely get the Sex if we want to, but do self exclude a lot for various reasons. A big one is trust. I can have sex in all its forms, but there are some positions or activities I can't or don't want to do, due to disability.

I can't cum easily/at all sometimes and I'm very put off by all men being super certain they're going to give me multiple orgasms blah blah blah. Also don't want the "I can give you what your husband can't" type nonsense.

So for me, no thanks. My view is that outright segregation of any one demographic group tends not to be great, in any area of life, other than where being that demographic is useful, e.g. gynaecology clinics that can only deal with people who have female anatomy.

I do also take exception to the comparison of disabled people (and their success here) with hooved Nazis women. Not exactly the right sort of side by side comparison. There's enough demonisation of disability without it being done like that. I like a joke as much as the next person, but that was about as funny as syphilis. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities "
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No there does not need to be an area for the disabled.

Decades of trying to be inclusive and now you want segregation again.

Does it really follow that a disabled person will fuck any other disabled person?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities r

No there does not need to be an area for the disabled.

Decades of trying to be inclusive and now you want segregation again.

Does it really follow that a disabled person will fuck any other disabled person?

"

We are two disabled fuckers, fucking each other and other fucking fuckers too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWIW- I support separate (digital) spaces for people to meet people that are *more likely* to be open and embracing of them however I do think it is dependent on the wants of the people (those belonging to the group in this case).

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities r

No there does not need to be an area for the disabled.

Decades of trying to be inclusive and now you want segregation again.

Does it really follow that a disabled person will fuck any other disabled person?

We are two disabled fuckers, fucking each other and other fucking fuckers too. "

That's fucking good to hear despite me already fucking knowing that and those fuckers you fuck are fuckers you want to fuck I fucking think.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I am struggling to get a meet, as soon as I mention my disability, people dissappear, there needs to be an area for people with disabilities r

No there does not need to be an area for the disabled.

Decades of trying to be inclusive and now you want segregation again.

Does it really follow that a disabled person will fuck any other disabled person?

We are two disabled fuckers, fucking each other and other fucking fuckers too.

That's fucking good to hear despite me already fucking knowing that and those fuckers you fuck are fuckers you want to fuck I fucking think. "

I think you omitted a comma, Granny

Fuck!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

,,,, frig ,,,,

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