FabSwingers.com forum: Do you love yourself

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Simple question. Inspired by my listening to i by Kendrick Lamar

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I do.

If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love anyone else?

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By *emidemiWoman
over a year ago

basingstoke

No. But I’m trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but only a little.

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By *ananabrumMan
over a year ago

castle bromwich

Honestly... no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not that simple for me, it’s a yes and a no

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

(channels the 90s)

eww sounds gay

...

shit, I fell into a terrible pit for a second there. what was I saying?

Probably not. It's something I struggle with.

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

I'm working my balls of on this very thing at the moment. I have moments. But it feels like a slippery mindset to grasp and maintain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

something I've learned to to with age.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I don't think so, no.

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By *drian52Man
over a year ago

Derby

I like myself, I don't live myself. I would become narcissistic then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’m particularly hard on myself, because it pushes me to keep improving. Loving myself isn’t a luxury I can afford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

RuPaul has already been quoted.

Love. Yes

Like. No

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Not love, no...but i really like myself and my qualities. All this loving yourself before you love someone else imo is rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is like money. It’s only useful when given to someone else.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Actively despise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Actively despise. "

I love you enough for the both of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Took me a while to get there, but I do

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Actively despise.

I love you enough for the both of us "

Knew you were faulty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. Took me a while to get there, but I do "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Actively despise.

I love you enough for the both of us

Knew you were faulty. "

Don’t be mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Actively despise.

I love you enough for the both of us

Knew you were faulty.

Don’t be mean

To me or yourself

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Actively despise.

I love you enough for the both of us

Knew you were faulty.

Don’t be mean

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Yes, I do. I'm a realist. I know that I'm solid 4/10 and I'm just fine with that. I've learned to accept myself, flaws & all

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yeah, I have to cos nobody else does!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peaks and troughs, really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope. Px

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not really but I dont think that's a terrible thing either.

I like parts of me and dislike others.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I hate myself with a passion, there's nothing about me I like at all.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't think I love myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. There’s so many things I love about myself. Doesn’t mean I’m arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. There’s so many things I love about myself. Doesn’t mean I’m arrogant. "

It doesn’t

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

Yes, but it’s been a journey

It doesn’t mean you can’t keep improving yourself. I’ve had a lot of counselling and mental health support over the past 18 months, learning to accept yourself is part of working on yourself, that’s one of the first things they went over with me.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"I hate myself with a passion, there's nothing about me I like at all.

I'm sorry you feel that.way about yourself x

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Peaks and troughs, really"

This... some days I tolerate/like myself, other days I utterly hate myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only when I don’t hate myself

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Not yet but I'm working on it. I'm going through a self-woo'ing phase and an hoping self-love will blossom in due course.

Eventually I shall be head over heels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not yet but I'm working on it. I'm going through a self-woo'ing phase and an hoping self-love will blossom in due course.

Eventually I shall be head over heels."

Self love. Is that just wanking?

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

If I've got a spare 20 minutes or so then I will give it a bash

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah I guess so. I mean I annoy the shit out of myslef, but I get why these days.

I'm trying to improve myself which to means I love myself enough to make myself a better version of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Love is like money. It’s only useful when given to someone else. "

Love is something if you give it away, give it away, give it away.

Love is something if you give it away, you end up having more.

It's just like a magic penny, hold it tight and you won't have any.

Lend it, spend it and you'll have so many,

They'll roll all over the floor......

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Not yet but I'm working on it. I'm going through a self-woo'ing phase and am hoping self-love will blossom in due course.

Eventually I shall be head over heels.

Self love. Is that just wanking?

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I was being charitable. You're confusing hand-jobs with handouts.

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By *hunkyBuggaMan
over a year ago

Devon

Yes! Someone’s got to!

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By *ohntall123Man
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"Simple question. Inspired by my listening to i by Kendrick Lamar

It took time but yes now I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not yet but I'm working on it. I'm going through a self-woo'ing phase and am hoping self-love will blossom in due course.

Eventually I shall be head over heels.

Self love. Is that just wanking?

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I was being charitable. You're confusing hand-jobs with handouts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinda really like myself but not sure if I love myself

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By *ouise 555Woman
over a year ago

Dorchester

Not as much as I should self worth or confidence isnt great

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Not bothered either way. I do and say cuntish things from time to time, probably more than average but it’s hard to be objective. I am probably quite hard to love, so I’m not alone.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I do, but I do not take well to compliments. Maybe it’s a man thing

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

yes of course i do..

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Yep

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Simple question. Inspired by my listening to i by Kendrick Lamar

Of course I do. I'm an absolute fucking delight.

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. "
Same

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By *eadsup001Man
over a year ago

hedon

No not at all

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Mostly yes, but not always.

Mainly physical features I don't love about myself, but nothing I can do about most of them, so accept them.

Accepting it means knowing it, and often people take it as negativity.

I like who I am and I do most things with passion. Some people find that intimidating.

I debate favorite doughnuts, favorite bands with the same passion as fight against racism.

I work on it to scale it down to more people friendly levels, but it's a process.

I do have filters, but some things shouldn't be overfiltered.

Some likes my passion, some hates it.

Can't use too many filters, because that would kill the passion for all.

The haters would still hate, but the fans of my passion would lose interest too.

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

I don’t

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t "

You’re more precious than you know. This year you’re going to

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

i like myself and am comfortable in my own skin. More content with myself...

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don’t

You’re more precious than you know. This year you’re going to

Wish I had so much faith in myself x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm more liking myself than loving x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t

You’re more precious than you know. This year you’re going to

Wish I had so much faith in myself x "

It’s a process, Chez. But we’re all on our way

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Never thought about it. I like me as a person but I don't want to commit.

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yep I do love myself... there are times when I don't like who I am but I still love myself

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don’t

You’re more precious than you know. This year you’re going to

Wish I had so much faith in myself x "

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmRv88KDmJ4

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sure enough to sleep with myself if not many do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t

You’re more precious than you know. This year you’re going to

Wish I had so much faith in myself x

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmRv88KDmJ4"

https://youtu.be/6Cs3Pvmmv0E?si=I7boFEED3dtd773h

This better

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don’t

You’re more precious than you know. This year you’re going to

Wish I had so much faith in myself x

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmRv88KDmJ4

https://youtu.be/6Cs3Pvmmv0E?si=I7boFEED3dtd773h

This better"

You'll diss Johnny Farnham?!

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don’t

You’re more precious than you know. This year you’re going to

Wish I had so much faith in myself x

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmRv88KDmJ4

https://youtu.be/6Cs3Pvmmv0E?si=I7boFEED3dtd773h

This better

You'll diss Johnny Farnham?!"

Thanks both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.. I have to practise sometimes, but not very often

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By *unlovin72Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

Not today after trying to arrange a meet today and having some absolute horrible messages sent to me

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Not today after trying to arrange a meet today and having some absolute horrible messages sent to me

I'm so sorry you had to experience that.. please report them if from fab

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By *unlovin72Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

"Not today after trying to arrange a meet today and having some absolute horrible messages sent to me

I'm so sorry you had to experience that.. please report them if from fab"

I did thanks and block them but does nothing for your confidence when you ain't the best oil painting in the world in the 1st place

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

As the Divinyls sang:

I love myself

I want you to love me

When I feel down

I want you above me

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Not today after trying to arrange a meet today and having some absolute horrible messages sent to me

I'm so sorry you had to experience that.. please report them if from fab

I did thanks and block them but does nothing for your confidence when you ain't the best oil painting in the world in the 1st place

Try and look it that they were saying shitty things to you to make them selves feel better about their own shortcomings... but I totally get what you mean x

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By *BWlittlemisskWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury, West Midlands. not wales!!

Yes but took a long time. X

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes. Increasingly so.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

No, but I’m trying.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Of course! No one else is going to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course! No one else is going to. "
look who it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes but took a long time. X"

Snm

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By *andybigboiMan
over a year ago

Mount Pleasant

"I do.

If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love anyone else?

Amen, though I want bigger ass and tits lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i like myself and am comfortable in my own skin. More content with myself..."

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
over a year ago

Wales

I've been thinking about this a bit lately, do I love myself, how do I know if I do or if I don't?

Then I decided that a way of knowing that I love myself is by showing myself love and actually telling myself that.

There's a mediation called loving kindness which just basically means having warm loving thoughts about yourself.

Also there are other ways I can show myself love, like self compassion, being easy on myself in difficult situations, doing things for myself and trying to remember to have these warm loving thoughts about myself, like I would someone else.

How do other people show themselves love? and not the mucky kind.

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