FabSwingers.com forum: Do you feel desired

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything?

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Not really, body image issues just now.

Need to get back on the bike.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I do.

Aesthetically I'm lucky. And I work to make the most of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on here or in real life, low self confidence and rejection doesn’t help either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know. I don’t leave the house to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in work no

bastards!!

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By *atch1982Man
over a year ago

Abingdon

Not in here or outside of Fab, which at least gives me a level of consistency that I am comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here no

In life yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. But it's not something I need or want in life right now so I make zero effort to be.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Here, mostly not, but that's a choice I make to close myself off.

By people I've met on here yes, sometimes.

I don't feel I deserve it, but I recognise that it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being taller would help

And better looking

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes I do. Not by random people, no. Those I know and enjoy that with, definitely yes.

Away from here? Also yes.

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By *ornyguyMan
over a year ago

Hillsborough, NI

Don't feel desired in either way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being taller would help

And better looking "

Take off the bally let’s all get a look at ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I do. Not by random people, no. Those I know and enjoy that with, definitely yes.

Away from here? Also yes. "

You’re a bad bitch I already know

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I have no feelings about it either way. Here, i really don't care. Away from here, yes, attention from the people i want it from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At times, yes. Not all the time but sometimes. Think that’s more to do with my head than anything else though. Right now I’m going through a good phase feeling good and feeling hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being taller would help

And better looking

Take off the bally let’s all get a look at ya"

Solid 5. Confirmed via Reddit. It’s chill. Wanna be a 6.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all but do I care, life goes on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a word...No. Not really haha. Here or "real life"

But I keep a positive attitude and don't let it dull my charming demeanour

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sometimes. From some people.

I care that those I like do.

I'm not overly fussed about those I don't.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

Not really, I don't see my own self worth.

I get a lot of messages on here from people wanting to hook up but it doesn't change how I feel because I don't believe it myself.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I'm always genuinely surprised to be told that I am desired. But it does happen.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes I think so x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not on here that I’m aware of.

Off of the site I honestly don’t know. Wife has gone off sex and it’s been months, so…….. I’ll say nope again lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag "

There's definitely a hurdle of "are you sure you're not bullshitting me?" because I know most people are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

There's definitely a hurdle of "are you sure you're not bullshitting me?" because I know most people are

Haha ‘you know I currently look like a bag of rusty spanners, you sure I’m the most beautiful woman on here?’

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I feel highly undesirable. But that’s life.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

No and no. I am very much no longer in the “desirable” phase of life. I think I was for a while. Now I’m an object of sympathy, if I’m lucky. Comes to us all.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

There's definitely a hurdle of "are you sure you're not bullshitting me?" because I know most people are

Haha ‘you know I currently look like a bag of rusty spanners, you sure I’m the most beautiful woman on here?’ "

Oh anyone who says that to me gets binned. I more mean... someone I've been talking to for ages, etc etc and they'll compliment me, and my defensive barriers shoot up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do actually

I get plenty of very welcome compliments on my rather large bum

And from time to time my breasts

Obviously I know they are after my pussy but I still enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have the desire to be irresistibly desired, don’t we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. On and off Fab. Not by randoms though. Being desired by random men who fab my photos is pretty empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually

I get plenty of very welcome compliments on my rather large bum

And from time to time my breasts

Obviously I know they are after my pussy but I still enjoy

Are you confusing lust with desire?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel highly undesirable. But that’s life. "

Talk to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag "

I wouldn’t tell you I love you. Lying about that is a bit cruel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. On and off Fab. Not by randoms though. Being desired by random men who fab my photos is pretty empty. "

Is the recognition of an appreciation of your form not satisfying?

If not stop your pictures being fabbed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

I wouldn’t tell you I love you. Lying about that is a bit cruel. "

The lie detector test determined THAT was a lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough I'm talking to somebody about this atm.

I don't, because i assume anyone that talks to me is doing it to be friendly.

So unless she explicitly asks "do you fancy a beej" I think its just friendly talk.

And even when she does ask, sometimes I think its banter.

I literally have to be inside someone to think "oh shit, I think she desires me"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. On and off Fab. Not by randoms though. Being desired by random men who fab my photos is pretty empty. "

I hear you. I personally like it but wonder if it’s because I don’t get many?

I do think it’s important to not worry too much about random though so more power to you girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

I wouldn’t tell you I love you. Lying about that is a bit cruel.

The lie detector test determined THAT was a lie

I might have done it when I was like 19 and desperate for a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No longer..

Age..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd like to feel desired by those I know but desired may not be the right word, needed would probably be more apt as the feeling of being needed or wanted probably means I haven't totally faded from memory.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Being taller would help

And better looking

Take off the bally let’s all get a look at ya"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

I wouldn’t tell you I love you. Lying about that is a bit cruel.

The lie detector test determined THAT was a lie

I might have done it when I was like 19 and desperate for a fuck

I see maturity has touched you!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Now and then. When the nips get an airing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes. Px

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

People on here not really to be honest, the Mr yes I do.

Mrs

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag "

You are in the top ten hottest women on Fab. Fact!

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

You are in the top ten hottest women on Fab. Fact!"

Top 2 and she ain’t 2.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

You are in the top ten hottest women on Fab. Fact!

Top 2 and she ain’t 2. "

Spitting facts

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

?? undesirable here, off here in real life I'm feeling it for sure thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know what you’re asking op? To desire, someone Is when they frequently enter my mind. I want them to a point where it becomes a need, and only their touch will satisfy the sexual hunger I have for them, and once is never going to be enough. I want everything with them and more. How often have you felt that Steve? A desire is strong.

I can fancy people, and I accept some might fancy me , but I don’t feel desired. That’s rare for me to feel that way.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes. On and off Fab. Not by randoms though. Being desired by random men who fab my photos is pretty empty.

Is the recognition of an appreciation of your form not satisfying?

If not stop your pictures being fabbed?"

I can separate "I like my pictures being appreciated" from "I feel desired". The first is way less meaningful. I'm pretty sure most people can tell the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

You are in the top ten hottest women on Fab. Fact!

Top 2 and she ain’t 2.

Spitting facts"

Get in the bin you twit

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

You are in the top ten hottest women on Fab. Fact!

Top 2 and she ain’t 2.

Spitting facts

Get in the bin you twit

Own it. Just don't let it get to your head, you sexy milf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No longer..

Age..?"

I empathise with you brother. With the passage of time desire sadly reduces.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely not on here. Men will say anything to get a shag

You are in the top ten hottest women on Fab. Fact!

Top 2 and she ain’t 2.

Spitting facts

Get in the bin you twit

Own it. Just don't let it get to your head, you sexy milf"

Mmmmmmm. She is a milf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am desired by some, ignored by others. Just like real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. On and off Fab. Not by randoms though. Being desired by random men who fab my photos is pretty empty.

Is the recognition of an appreciation of your form not satisfying?

If not stop your pictures being fabbed?

I can separate "I like my pictures being appreciated" from "I feel desired". The first is way less meaningful. I'm pretty sure most people can tell the difference"

I am sure they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Random people desiring me does nothing for me. Someone I’m keen on desiring me does it for me.

The expression of desirability received here is very superficial. I mostly ignore it as it’s only an aesthetical desirability.

In person, at times I receive loads of compliments and attention. I smile and thank them but I carry on with my day. There’s been times when those expressing desirability haven’t been keen to take my lack of interest well. That can be strange. For example, once a man followed me as I was walking by the river headed to a date. He crossed in front of me twice and finally tried to chat me up. I kept walking and thought he’d go in his own way but he tried to convince me to change my plans and randomly go for drinks with him that instant. Who does this? Him desiring me was very off putting.

If you get to know me and desire me that’s the desirability I fancy.

Being desired or not by others doesn’t measure my self confidence.

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

I don't think there has ever been a time in my life when I've felt truly desired

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually

I get plenty of very welcome compliments on my rather large bum

And from time to time my breasts

Obviously I know they are after my pussy but I still enjoy

Are you confusing lust with desire?"

I’ll let you be your own judge as I can’t speak for others or yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than I have in years and that’s all down to the wonderful people on here

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

No I do not feel desired here or in real life...

Though at least on here I get messages from guys saying they want to smash me in... That's almost desired isn't it?

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Only everytime I look in the mirror and think ‘I should touch myself’

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

Sometimes. I don’t think it’s normal or healthy to feel one way or the other exclusively

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By *llfunandgames7810Man
over a year ago

near chippenham

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

Nope not in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes. I don’t think it’s normal or healthy to feel one way or the other exclusively "

I think feeling desired is out of our control. So you can feel exclusively one way surely?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

For clarity, I feel desired by my partners, by people who mean something to me.

I feel like a viable selection of orifices when I get compliments from randoms on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For clarity, I feel desired by my partners, by people who mean something to me.

I feel like a viable selection of orifices when I get compliments from randoms on here

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You’re more than that to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I've never met couldn't make me feel desired.

The word has way more meaning to me than "horny for my sexy meat suit and moist holes" - which is more the vibe I get from a large majority of dudes in my DMs.

Desire is a fire you build from those initial sparks of attraction and keep alive between you.

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By *atch1982Man
over a year ago

Abingdon

"Someone I've never met couldn't make me feel desired.

The word has way more meaning to me than "horny for my sexy meat suit and moist holes" - which is more the vibe I get from a large majority of dudes in my DMs.

Desire is a fire you build from those initial sparks of attraction and keep alive between you."

Sad thing is that people often don’t converse for long enough to build that on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find it interesting that some people think desire has to be sexual desire. And for others it’s not than that.

I think you can get both on here which is why I asked. There are lots of people I like, connect with and desire. Some I’ll never meet but I desire them all the same. It doesn’t always have to be I want to have sex with their body if that makes sense.

For me, the way I feel desirable is more than just how people respond to my physical form. It’s more than people saying that I’m hot or sexy, though that’s part of it, it’s also the expression of genuine interest in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once upon a time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No don't think anyone feels desiserd as a male on here.

Certainly not in the real word no chance.

I'd like to weight about a stone more which is a lot harder than you might think for some of us

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I don’t. All people can see, or maybe rather all I’m willing to show, it’s a headless aging body.

I’m so much more than that and only if you get to know the real me, and you still like what you see, that’s where I want to feel desired.

Unfortunately, I doesn’t work like this on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it interesting that some people think desire has to be sexual desire. And for others it’s not than that.

Words mean different things to different people.

Desire. Respect. Straight. Dom. Just a few examples

I try to remember everyone speaks their own language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

There's only one woman that has ever made me feel desired. Until that point, I had never really thought about the idea.

To be more desirable, being able to spend more time with people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it interesting that some people think desire has to be sexual desire. And for others it’s not than that.

Words mean different things to different people.

Desire. Respect. Straight. Dom. Just a few examples

I try to remember everyone speaks their own language."

Ofc that’s why I find the responses interesting

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm desired by my husband (in lots of different ways). Some people desire my company. Some people on here seem to think I'm lit or peng or something

I don't especially THINK I'm desirable but I just take what the people I value, say to me or how they act towards me.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Not at all. But I am very niche

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm desired by my husband (in lots of different ways). Some people desire my company. Some people on here seem to think I'm lit or peng or something

I don't especially THINK I'm desirable but I just take what the people I value, say to me or how they act towards me. "

I want you.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Yes I do feel desired by someone both sexually and as a friend and confidant.

Whether or not I'm desired by people I've never met I have no idea but I would struggle to reciprocate with a stranger.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Absolutely not. I do everything I can to make myself undesirable

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I am desired by all the people that I need to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely not. I do everything I can to make myself undesirable "
like post no pictures

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

Every single morning my mirror says I'm totes gorge.

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

Hmm, you know i don't think i've ever thought about it. i know i am (by Mistress) but i don't know if i have ever wondered if i am or would know what it feels like. i have never assumed people are attracted to me. In fact, i am totally oblivious unless i get told outright.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Don’t feel desired at all very rare I get a reply to any message I send.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nah not on here ,,

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By *wlmanMan
over a year ago

Rugby

I haven't felt desired for years.

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
over a year ago

folkestone

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

Honestly...no.

Both on here and in real life

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

Not really. I am in my invisble era and actually quite like it.

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By *searchingMan
over a year ago

hmmm

In the one hand…

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By *unkageMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I mean my most recent run on dating apps have definitely knocked my self-esteem recently haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really. I am in my invisble era and actually quite like it. "

Nah I see you still

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

"Not really. I am in my invisble era and actually quite like it.

Nah I see you still"

It helps I have my bum out here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really. I am in my invisble era and actually quite like it.

Nah I see you still

It helps I have my bum out here

Stick the other picture as the profile pic

Please

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

"Not really. I am in my invisble era and actually quite like it.

Nah I see you still

It helps I have my bum out here

Stick the other picture as the profile pic

Please

This one? All my others are lost into obscurity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really. I am in my invisble era and actually quite like it.

Nah I see you still

It helps I have my bum out here

Stick the other picture as the profile pic

Please

This one? All my others are lost into obscurity

My hotlist is grateful for your return

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

"Not really. I am in my invisble era and actually quite like it.

Nah I see you still

It helps I have my bum out here

Stick the other picture as the profile pic

Please

This one? All my others are lost into obscurity

My hotlist is grateful for your return

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Not on here.

A little in RL which is more genuine x

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

Not really, but also not looking for it

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

On here it’s difficult to decipher what’s genuine desire and what isn’t - I appreciate a compliment from a stranger like ‘nice hair’ or I like your outfit or something whilst out and about and also like giving those kind of compliments I think they bring a smile or give a little spring to your step.

I’m desired by the person I love, I feel that…even on the days I don’t feel it myself otherwise it doesn’t particularly matter to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't felt truly desired for a long time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not really, but also not looking for it "

Nice profile picture

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here it’s difficult to decipher what’s genuine desire and what isn’t - I appreciate a compliment from a stranger like ‘nice hair’ or I like your outfit or something whilst out and about and also like giving those kind of compliments I think they bring a smile or give a little spring to your step.

I’m desired by the person I love, I feel that…even on the days I don’t feel it myself otherwise it doesn’t particularly matter to me x"

Nice hair

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I haven't felt truly desired for a long time."

They’re on their way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. On and off Fab. Not by randoms though. Being desired by random men who fab my photos is pretty empty.

Is the recognition of an appreciation of your form not satisfying?

If not stop your pictures being fabbed?"

Desire from strangers is never going to be meaningful, is it? It's a bit of attention. Am I supposed to feel otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put on weight really made me feel undesirable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Put on weight really made me feel undesirable "
putting on weight has done it for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve reached a point where I barely care (so should be rethinking this site I know). Just done with others’ approval.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Absofuckinglutely: Medical science has been after me for a long time. Jus sayin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't tend to take much notice of the desire people say they feel towards me. But in real life, yes, I do feel desired sometimes with the right people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. I don't tend to take much notice of the desire people say they feel towards me. But in real life, yes, I do feel desired sometimes with the right people. "

You’re alright. I think you’re alright

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Appreciated? Yes.

Missed when I was awol? Yes.

Desired? Nooooo.

But that’s ok. I’m enjoying the journey!

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm too hot and danger to the hearts, so they choose to pretend they don't care.

That^ must be the reason.

At work I'm fancied by some, but they are at least 20 years younger.

They won't make the first step and I can get in trouble doing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

I don't feel desired by people on here.

I don't feel desired by anyone away from here, not even my husband.

I think if i lost weight i'd be more desirable.

I also think if i didn't have chronic illnesses i'd be more desirable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m desired by the person I love, I feel that…even on the days I don’t feel it myself otherwise it doesn’t particularly matter to me x"

Ah........the L word and desire........took a long time but we got there!

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By *obajxMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

I don't think I've ever felt as undesired and unsexy as I have for the last few months

All I see in the mirror is an old man

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Not at all a lot of the time

Tinder x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

Errrr, do I feel desired by people on fab.... I get the messages like thousands of others on here but i don't think it's all because if how I look as I don't show everything and yep to the ones who like the women I also have 3 holes. So I think that is a major driver.

Away from fab, I'm me. I don't try to stand out, I don't try to blend in. I'm happy how I am and don't actively seek or take any notice of any attention. So outside here, I don't have a clue.

Changes too make me more desirable?! I would ask to who? To me, I'm ok generally with how I am. I wish I didn't have my mum tum for eg, but it grew and kept three kiddies safe. It did it's job pretty well. So I can live with that one. Yes, there are things I'd change but I can't be arsed or I am happy to live with them.

I wouldn't know what would make me desirable to others as there are so many different opinions. You could be short and curvy and be the sexiest woman alive to one man while the tall athletic one to him would just look like a bean pole. Yet to someone else she is gorgeous. Besides I'd not change myself for someone else.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Yes iv always been kind of lucky that way but iv learned im far too addictive oh and nuts to let the caveman out anymore

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Very much so both on and offline.

Had some very interesting conversations with people I’ve met at socials who I never imagined would consider me desirable which is a huge ego boost

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very much so both on and offline.

Had some very interesting conversations with people I’ve met at socials who I never imagined would consider me desirable which is a huge ego boost

Bunda or not?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Absolutely not in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely not in the slightest. "

Boy do I have something for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely not in the slightest. "

Boy do I have something to show you*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely not in the slightest. "

Boy do I have something to tell you**

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yeah I do but it’s really not something that does anything for me. If anything it can be a distraction

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Absolutely not in the slightest.

Boy do I have something to show you*"

Twice apparently

Someone wanting to put their winkie in me doesn’t make me feel desired darling. Not at all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a average man, ofcourse not.

I have more success talking to women in real life though so that's a plus. Only issue is I don't know if they're a vanilla pillow princess until the 2nd date...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t know. I don’t leave the house to find out.

Haha! Same!

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

No, I don’t.

I think once I lose a little more weight I might do. Well, I hope I might do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely not in the slightest.

Boy do I have something to show you*

Twice apparently

Someone wanting to put their winkie in me doesn’t make me feel desired darling. Not at all.. "

I don’t want to put my winkie in you

But talk to me about desire. Feeling desired? What is that?

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Very much so both on and offline.

Had some very interesting conversations with people I’ve met at socials who I never imagined would consider me desirable which is a huge ego boost

Bunda or not?"

I can work with any and all terrains

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a average man, ofcourse not.

I have more success talking to women in real life though so that's a plus. Only issue is I don't know if they're a vanilla pillow princess until the 2nd date..."

2 dates? Impressive conversion rate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very much so both on and offline.

Had some very interesting conversations with people I’ve met at socials who I never imagined would consider me desirable which is a huge ego boost

Bunda or not?

I can work with any and all terrains

So not.

Say no more bro. Respect

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Very much so both on and offline.

Had some very interesting conversations with people I’ve met at socials who I never imagined would consider me desirable which is a huge ego boost

Bunda or not?

I can work with any and all terrains

So not.

Say no more bro. Respect

Some with impeccable bunds. Some without, but with Chappelle level banter. All bases covered

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Absolutely not in the slightest.

Boy do I have something to show you*

Twice apparently

Someone wanting to put their winkie in me doesn’t make me feel desired darling. Not at all..

I don’t want to put my winkie in you

But talk to me about desire. Feeling desired? What is that?"

I didn’t mean you darling. I meant on fab in general.

Feeling desired is different level….

Someone craving you. Wanting to know more. Have more. That’s desire to me.

Fab doesn’t bring that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely not in the slightest.

Boy do I have something to show you*

Twice apparently

Someone wanting to put their winkie in me doesn’t make me feel desired darling. Not at all..

I don’t want to put my winkie in you

But talk to me about desire. Feeling desired? What is that?

I didn’t mean you darling. I meant on fab in general.

Feeling desired is different level….

Someone craving you. Wanting to know more. Have more. That’s desire to me.

Fab doesn’t bring that.

You got it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel there's an affinity with the few that get to know me.

Physically, nah don't think so.

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

Yes I do; especially thanks to latest connection.

I know I am not what many are looking for but then lots of people aren't my cup of tea either. So its all good

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

No not really, on here i just see me as a means to an end, they may be attracted but it’s not for the person that I am it’s the image and I know a photo isn’t the same as real life.

Off of here I feel even less so. I’m just one of those people that no one looks twice at with my clothes on. This isn’t a woe is me statement it’s just a fact and I’m used to that.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No I’m not that desperate to be liked by people. If you do you do if you don’t then come sit next to me so I can make your piss boil.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy. Lust. Desire. It’s 3 different levels of attraction and more in between.

I’ve not felt desired in here often (I once did), very much ‘just another male profile’.

I fancy a few in this thread, I could describe a lust for people, and I can guess when some has that lust for me.

But does someone really desire me? Maybe, but No, because I’d feel it, and know they did. And I’m alright with that, otherwise I wouldn’t log in here.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

On here, I never take compliments seriously. Some people on here would compliment a potato if they thought they could fuck it.

In real life no, which is good. if I feel desired by someone, it makes me feel very uncomfortable unless I desire them back.

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

Not remotely, online or irl. Bit too niche for most, and not attractive enough for others. It is what it is, I don't let it get me down, usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously not but I desire myself so winning yea good morning to ya

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By *arriedcoupleNECouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Here yes but only because I work on the basis that every message not specifically directed at one of us is meant for both of us. Thanks fellas.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yes I do. Not by random people, no. Those I know and enjoy that with, definitely yes.

Away from here? Also yes.

You’re a bad bitch I already know"

Yeah boi....

It's been an interesting read, the way it's gone down the semantics route and people have placed the word on a spectrum of attraction.

Because this part has been largely ignored... what would make me more desirable? I don't know. I don't really care. I'm at a point where it seems daft for that to be the focus. Sometimes we forget to enjoy because we're busy chasing ideals - I'm not going to do that to myself. You shouldn't, Pickle.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Just checking in again. Do you feel desired by people on here? What about away from this site?

What do you think would make you more desirable if anything? "

No, I don't feel desired at all. Especially not on here. You get used to it, but it never sucks any less.

As for what would make me more attractive... having a completely different body, face and personality, presumably. Being visibly wealthy or something? If anyone can think of anything achievable, please let me know.

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By *inacolada3Couple
over a year ago

kettering

Yes, and bigger boobs x

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By *K herts mMan
over a year ago

Fleetwood

I don't really feel desired, on here I feel like a means to an end for people, that being said I've made my piece with it.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Not especially, but then I'm just one face amongst thousands - I suppose being 15y younger might help

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Fully accepted I am never going to be desired by anyone one Fab. I just use Fab to read and post in the forums now .I havnt sent a message to anyone ,or tried to contact anyone for over a year now.

Outside of Fab, in real life ,its pretty much the same .No connections with anyone, been on my own for three years with no female company, not even been for a drink or a meal with anyone in three years .

I just work ,come home to my dogs ,and that's it . Rinse and repeat daily.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Fully accepted I am never going to be desired by anyone one Fab. I just use Fab to read and post in the forums now .I havnt sent a message to anyone ,or tried to contact anyone for over a year now.

I just work ,come home to my dogs ,and that's it . Rinse and repeat daily. "

You should try going to a group social or a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im going to give a very honest answer. Yes on fab but often far less so in the context of real life and certainly in the world of online dating. This isnt going to be one of those woe is me posts; Ive some unbelievable friends and its 100% the case that in the past fab has really made me feel both desired but also provided distraction.

I think for many of us fab can make us feel wanted, a momentary bit of validation but Im increasingly sure its just a sticking plaster for me and I need far more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Desire

noun

a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.

'he resisted public desires for choice in education'

synonyms: wish, want, fancy, inclination, aspiration, impulse, preference, yearning, longing, craving, hankering, pining, ache, hunger, thirst, itch, burning, need, eagerness, enthusiasm, determination, predilection, proclivity, predisposition, yen

Sums up the posts above..........the ache, itch and burning.......perhaps not!

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Addlestone

Honest answer: No. I am definitely an acquired taste.

I feel the demographic I look like has a bad reputation which is probably justified by crecent events. The painfull part is I'm not from the region that I look like.

Does that makes sense?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly it ebbs and flows with my mood and how tired/overwhelmed I’m feeling that day. But I think that’s a common thing for most…

-Mrs

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Im going to give a very honest answer. Yes on fab but often far less so in the context of real life and certainly in the world of online dating. This isnt going to be one of those woe is me posts; Ive some unbelievable friends and its 100% the case that in the past fab has really made me feel both desired but also provided distraction.

I think for many of us fab can make us feel wanted, a momentary bit of validation but Im increasingly sure its just a sticking plaster for me and I need far more."

You have the requirements needed for a single bloke to be successful on Fab mate ,and you have the verifications to back that up. Chiselled ,hung and gym fit .It comes as no surprise to me you are desired on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *ommy2125Man
over a year ago

newport

Sometimes, it goes through phases but if I had to get off the fence I'd say yes I feel desired.

I guess the up and down of it affects my confidence but I try to be pragmatic and tell myself to be patient.

Reality is im not Tom Hardy so have to tell myself there's always someone who will desire you just not always there to do it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think for many of us fab can make us feel wanted, a momentary bit of validation but Im increasingly sure its just a sticking plaster for me and I need far more.

You should follow the advice that you've been given on many many threads you've posted on (outside the virus forum, of course).

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

I'm pretty sure people wouldn't say no to be naked coated in cream but generally, I think it's all a laugh mainly isn't it?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm not everyone's type but those who like me yes they make me feel very desired.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

I think for many of us fab can make us feel wanted, a momentary bit of validation but Im increasingly sure its just a sticking plaster for me and I need far more.

I'm not chiselled, hung or gym fit. Far from it.

I'm way outside most people's age range.

Also..........*drumroll

I have never asked for advice on meeting anyone.

Despite all that........ I have several meet verifications.

Cliche - your attitude determines you altitude

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Not desired on or off here sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest

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