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"Well I am not usually intentionally nasty but there have been times when I have been in anger. And yes I apologise. Sincere apologies are good for the soul. " * They are good for you. Help you to see the same guy looks back from the mirror every day, not someone else you became.  | |||
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"If I say something thoughtless that wounds without intent I will apologise absolutely. If I meant it. Nope. I meant it "* I don't mean when something is taken a wrong way or didn't think it over, but apology is nice for that too. I meant when whatever leads to there, you intentional wanted to make that person feeling bad. You might realize it later it was uncalled for, too much or it goes against who you really are. | |||
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"I've never been evil but I can't honestly say I've never *ever* been nasty. I try not to be but there are probably one of two occasions in my life where I have been" Same I’m not going to pretend I’ve never been nasty. I have been. Often in anger and retaliation to nastiness but I have been. And if I remember rightly I’ve always apologised. Besides I don’t remember being but most children are nasty at some point | |||
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"If I say something thoughtless that wounds without intent I will apologise absolutely. If I meant it. Nope. I meant it
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I don't mean when something is taken a wrong way or didn't think it over, but apology is nice for that too.
I meant when whatever leads to there, you intentional wanted to make that person feeling bad. You might realize it later it was uncalled for, too much or it goes against who you really are. "Oh. I don't get that feeling. People are defined by their choices. If I want to be better then I'll work to not act that way again. But the reaction I had was the reaction I had. An apology means nothing without genuine intent to be better. And I appreciate knowing someone is actively trying to be better more than hollow words of apology. So I'm not going to pay lip service to someone I felt the need to act that way to. | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising" I agree. Joe Bloggs and co. regret the actions that lead to [insert catastrophe here]. We will be investigating the situation fully to identify any lessons to be learned and will take remedial action to ensure [insert catastrophe here] will not happen again. *TriteFace with slight tinge of SadFace* | |||
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"I've never been evil but I can't honestly say I've never *ever* been nasty. I try not to be but there are probably one of two occasions in my life where I have been Same I’m not going to pretend I’ve never been nasty. I have been. Often in anger and retaliation to nastiness but I have been. And if I remember rightly I’ve always apologised. Besides I don’t remember being but most children are nasty at some point" Yes! I'm not Mother flaming Teresa. Also I agree nearly all children are nasty, I know my brothers and I were downright horrible to each other. | |||
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"I can’t relate. I’m not nasty, I’m not evil, so I don’t got out of my way to do something to apologise for things like that. Anytime I’ve upset someone it was not with intention, and I’ve always apologised even if all I know is that they were upset with me, that was enough to say I’m sorry. "* I listed "wrong" on purpose. It can be something little everyday thing. Like: * Skipping the queue * Pissing on somebody's back wall, because you didn't find a toilet * Riding the bus without a ticket...etc. Every single person has done something wrong intentionally at some point in their life. Sometimes you just didn't make the right choices and it was leading to it. Obviously in some circumstances you can't apologize, but feeling bad about it and deciding not to do it again is a good thing too. | |||
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"I've never been evil but I can't honestly say I've never *ever* been nasty. I try not to be but there are probably one of two occasions in my life where I have been Same I’m not going to pretend I’ve never been nasty. I have been. Often in anger and retaliation to nastiness but I have been. And if I remember rightly I’ve always apologised. Besides I don’t remember being but most children are nasty at some point" * Yes, kids doing things but I wouldn't count anything under 18 or when you start your adult life for real. | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising I agree. Joe Bloggs and co. regret the actions that lead to [insert catastrophe here]. We will be investigating the situation fully to identify any lessons to be learned and will take remedial action to ensure [insert catastrophe here] will not happen again. *TriteFace with slight tinge of SadFace*" The ones that make me the most angry are the heads of organisations where they've come up through the ranks so must have known what was going on, denying all knowledge of wrong doing until some poor desperate person nearly destroys their mental health trying to bring it to the authorities attention. Then an investigative reporter gets hold of it and suddenly everyone is sorry. | |||
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"If I say something thoughtless that wounds without intent I will apologise absolutely. If I meant it. Nope. I meant it
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I don't mean when something is taken a wrong way or didn't think it over, but apology is nice for that too.
I meant when whatever leads to there, you intentional wanted to make that person feeling bad. You might realize it later it was uncalled for, too much or it goes against who you really are.
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I don't get that feeling.
People are defined by their choices. If I want to be better then I'll work to not act that way again. But the reaction I had was the reaction I had. An apology means nothing without genuine intent to be better. And I appreciate knowing someone is actively trying to be better more than hollow words of apology. So I'm not going to pay lip service to someone I felt the need to act that way to."* Yes, actions speak louder than words.
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising" *** Politicians, public figures and big companies always did and always will lie more or less. It was always and it will be like this globally. Take their apology with a pinch of salt. | |||
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"If I have berated someone and it then transpires I was wrong to have done so I will apologise. I am also aware that just because I have offered an apology it is owed no acceptance. I will often refuse an apology myself, for a variety of reasons. " * If someone turns their back or walk out during my apology, then I leave it like that. I'm not expecting it will be all sorted with an apology, but I have the balls to take the first step when I was wrong. | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising *** Politicians, public figures and big companies always did and always will lie more or less. It was always and it will be like this globally. Take their apology with a pinch of salt. " I judge their apology by their subsequent actions. I do that with ordinary people too. Saying sorry is easy, being actively sorry isn't | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising *** Politicians, public figures and big companies always did and always will lie more or less. It was always and it will be like this globally. Take their apology with a pinch of salt. I judge their apology by their subsequent actions. I do that with ordinary people too. Saying sorry is easy, being actively sorry isn't" * Exactly!
I forgave some really nasty people in the past.
Simply because I've seen they are trying hard enough to make up/get on.
I could forgive to everyone ever done memorable bad things to me, except my father.
Simply it's too late for that.
Plus he's confirming it every 10-20 years he's still a nasty and disgusting human being. | |||
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"If you said or done something, then you realize you were wrong,nasty,evil...etc. Do you apologise or just feeling bad about it? I mean real life or here. Not counting little misunderstandings or things taken out of context. You were being wrong, nasty or evil in the heat of the moment. Intentionally you wanted to hurt feelings, but you feel bad about it later." I'm never mean or nasty | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising *** Politicians, public figures and big companies always did and always will lie more or less. It was always and it will be like this globally. Take their apology with a pinch of salt. I judge their apology by their subsequent actions. I do that with ordinary people too. Saying sorry is easy, being actively sorry isn't * Exactly!
I forgave some really nasty people in the past.
Simply because I've seen they are trying hard enough to make up/get on.
I could forgive to everyone ever done memorable bad things to me, except my father.
Simply it's too late for that.
Plus he's confirming it every 10-20 years he's still a nasty and disgusting human being. "You can't choose your parents. | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising *** Politicians, public figures and big companies always did and always will lie more or less. It was always and it will be like this globally. Take their apology with a pinch of salt. I judge their apology by their subsequent actions. I do that with ordinary people too. Saying sorry is easy, being actively sorry isn't * Exactly!
I forgave some really nasty people in the past.
Simply because I've seen they are trying hard enough to make up/get on.
I could forgive to everyone ever done memorable bad things to me, except my father.
Simply it's too late for that.
Plus he's confirming it every 10-20 years he's still a nasty and disgusting human being.
You can't choose your parents. "* No, but you would expect they want to make up for what they've done until they're alive. I'm guessing about the condition of his liver... He's one of the reason I don't drink often, even though I'm a funny d*unk. My mum isn't much better, but she was doing wrong in other way. Let's say I had a lot of step fathers, plus moved a lot...etc. | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising" I term those “political apologising”, appearing to apologise because it’s expected but actually not giving a fuck! | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising *** Politicians, public figures and big companies always did and always will lie more or less. It was always and it will be like this globally. Take their apology with a pinch of salt. I judge their apology by their subsequent actions. I do that with ordinary people too. Saying sorry is easy, being actively sorry isn't * Exactly!
I forgave some really nasty people in the past.
Simply because I've seen they are trying hard enough to make up/get on.
I could forgive to everyone ever done memorable bad things to me, except my father.
Simply it's too late for that.
Plus he's confirming it every 10-20 years he's still a nasty and disgusting human being.
You can't choose your parents.
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No, but you would expect they want to make up for what they've done until they're alive.
I'm guessing about the condition of his liver...
He's one of the reason I don't drink often, even though I'm a funny d*unk.
My mum isn't much better, but she was doing wrong in other way.
Let's say I had a lot of step fathers, plus moved a lot...etc."That's hard on you.  | |||
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"I do feel that the constant apologies issued by water companies, police chiefs, fire chiefs, government officials etc have rather devalued the concept of apologising *** Politicians, public figures and big companies always did and always will lie more or less. It was always and it will be like this globally. Take their apology with a pinch of salt. I judge their apology by their subsequent actions. I do that with ordinary people too. Saying sorry is easy, being actively sorry isn't * Exactly!
I forgave some really nasty people in the past.
Simply because I've seen they are trying hard enough to make up/get on.
I could forgive to everyone ever done memorable bad things to me, except my father.
Simply it's too late for that.
Plus he's confirming it every 10-20 years he's still a nasty and disgusting human being.
You can't choose your parents.
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No, but you would expect they want to make up for what they've done until they're alive.
I'm guessing about the condition of his liver...
He's one of the reason I don't drink often, even though I'm a funny d*unk.
My mum isn't much better, but she was doing wrong in other way.
Let's say I had a lot of step fathers, plus moved a lot...etc.
That's hard on you. "* I learnt to live with it and shaped myself. I'm far from perfect, but not a bad man in any way. I am who I am today because of myself. Extremely rare if I ask any help from anyone. I just deal with things the best I can on my own. | |||
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" People apologising all the time for anything they do irritates me though." Sometimes, it's conditioning. I can be guilty of it in some settings. I think it stems from having to take the rap for everything that anyone did as a child, including my brother or his friends. It was never believed that he'd done anything and he never would own up and so to stop my mother's horrifically screaming and swearing, I would just say it was me. And say sorry. Habits are hard to break sometimes. How often it is that I apologise for needing a ramp or someone to carry something, I can't even work out. | |||
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" People apologising all the time for anything they do irritates me though. Sometimes, it's conditioning. I can be guilty of it in some settings. I think it stems from having to take the rap for everything that anyone did as a child, including my brother or his friends. It was never believed that he'd done anything and he never would own up and so to stop my mother's horrifically screaming and swearing, I would just say it was me. And say sorry. Habits are hard to break sometimes. How often it is that I apologise for needing a ramp or someone to carry something, I can't even work out. " * You say sorry to make some's day better isn't a bad thing, if you don't overdo it. It might make you the hero of the day.  | |||
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" People apologising all the time for anything they do irritates me though. Sometimes, it's conditioning. I can be guilty of it in some settings. I think it stems from having to take the rap for everything that anyone did as a child, including my brother or his friends. It was never believed that he'd done anything and he never would own up and so to stop my mother's horrifically screaming and swearing, I would just say it was me. And say sorry. Habits are hard to break sometimes. How often it is that I apologise for needing a ramp or someone to carry something, I can't even work out. " Yeah I think that is what it is. My issue with it though is being treated like someone who needs to be apologised to constantly. It's being cast in the role of an abusive person that bugs me. | |||
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