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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards

Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxx

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

Who am I going to talk to about custard now?! on a serious note good luck

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards


"Who am I going to talk to about custard now?! on a serious note good luck "

Custard is your true identity K. You pretend all the sex stuff, but we know it's custard really.

Probably the better choice of the two as well xxxx

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun


"Who am I going to talk to about custard now?! on a serious note good luck

Custard is your true identity K. You pretend all the sex stuff, but we know it's custard really.

Probably the better choice of the two as well xxxx"

Less complicated lol

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards


"Who am I going to talk to about custard now?! on a serious note good luck

Custard is your true identity K. You pretend all the sex stuff, but we know it's custard really.

Probably the better choice of the two as well xxxx

Less complicated lol"

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I preferred the ‘call me a cunt’ threads, they were much less taxing on the brain but I’ll give it a go.

Externally I appear stoic and accepting of fate when in reality at times this is far from the case but I still uphold the perception.

I think this is a ‘falseness’ that is actually beneficial to my health and wellbeing, so does that mean it’s not actually false and I have reached a level of stoicism that I can accept the situation as something outside my control ?

As for thinking 300 years ahead fuck knows, I haven’t travelled as far as most in the last 500, I don’t till the land of the landlord any more, it’s my own but I’m still out there tilling it

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I give very little away

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards

Huggy and Well I Never - If you were given the opportunity to relinquish those identities (even though they serve you), what do you think that nakedness of un-identity would feel like?

Would it feel like a liberation, to see deeper, would it feel like fear (the scream of being born)...what could you do with it?

Have a play (I'll always be a cunt Huggy...from the moment the universe was created, there was a special cunt place just for me)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I give very little away "

You’d be surprised

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

All I will say is please don't disappear but of course use your time as best as it suits your current 'spring is round the corner mood'. I will continue to look after the prize goat and sending little updates. xx

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I give very little away

You’d be surprised "

I'm rarely surprised on here

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards


"All I will say is please don't disappear but of course use your time as best as it suits your current 'spring is round the corner mood'. I will continue to look after the prize goat and sending little updates. xx"

Deffo not disappearing BumBums...just...Spring...I smell it...and it sings to me...

Soz about the smelly goat xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxx"

TLDR;

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Has that cunt fucked off yet?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Has that cunt fucked off yet?"

Talking to yourself again?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I like to be real. Always.

And take your time OP. Fab will be here when and if you’re ready for it

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Has that cunt fucked off yet?

Talking to yourself again? "

My bad, I thought it was a "comment on the person below" thread again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who am I going to talk to about custard now?! on a serious note good luck "

what type of custard?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There have been numerous threads from people questioning why they haven't had much luck on here.

They explain how they have tried this and that and nothing seems to work.

They have ticked every box they could find for a few weeks and then ticked a few more for another week or two.

Every profile advice thread offers ways of creating jigsaw personas as do the best opening message and what pics should I have threads.

The forums are full of false modesty, false compliments and false opinions all ironically disguised as people trying to "be real".

All my life I've been told how nice I am. So much so that I grew to despise the term and at one stage I thought I needed to be not nice.

I had no idea how to be not nice so I failed miserably and reverted to type.

Since joining fab I have had people accuse me of not being nice but it's obvious that their reasons for doing so are because I don't blindly fall for their own falseness.

To them I'm not nice because I'm not thirsty enough to base my true thoughts on people on sexual attraction.

To reclaim a few of my own words created since joining fab, I don't suffer from fannyblindness and I avoid arse yodelling profiles.

There are many things I refuse to share either here or with certain people on a daily basis but I can't hide behind a false identity no matter how hard I try.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Has that cunt fucked off yet?

Talking to yourself again?

My bad, I thought it was a "comment on the person below" thread again "

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards


"Has that cunt fucked off yet?

Talking to yourself again?

My bad, I thought it was a "comment on the person below" thread again

"

Lol.

This cunt isn't fucking off. You'd miss me too much.

I entered Forum/Lounge threadposting with "Helmet Cheese" a couple of months ago, and this may be my last thread "creation" for a while, but I'm afraid both I, the goats, and a cast of cunts and fuckfaces will still be popping up on others' threads...you'd miss me too much .

But I did want to "probe" (fnar! fnar!) quite deeply this morning, hence this one.

I ain't gone, I'm just twisting the existential juices a tad xxxx

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxx"
I don't you'll get many to admit to perpetuating a falsness here Op thanks for your entertaining threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many John and Jane Does on here....

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Has that cunt fucked off yet?

Talking to yourself again?

My bad, I thought it was a "comment on the person below" thread again

Lol.

This cunt isn't fucking off. You'd miss me too much.

I entered Forum/Lounge threadposting with "Helmet Cheese" a couple of months ago, and this may be my last thread "creation" for a while, but I'm afraid both I, the goats, and a cast of cunts and fuckfaces will still be popping up on others' threads...you'd miss me too much .

But I did want to "probe" (fnar! fnar!) quite deeply this morning, hence this one.

I ain't gone, I'm just twisting the existential juices a tad xxxx "

You won't be able to help yourself, but enjoy your sabbatical

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxxI don't you'll get many to admit to perpetuating a falsness here Op thanks for your entertaining threads "
think /imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxxI don't you'll get many to admit to perpetuating a falsness here Op thanks for your entertaining threads "

Especially not those who disappear and pop up with new profiles pretending they’re someone else hey macky

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxxI don't you'll get many to admit to perpetuating a falsness here Op thanks for your entertaining threads

Especially not those who disappear and pop up with new profiles pretending they’re someone else hey macky "

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxxI don't you'll get many to admit to perpetuating a falsness here Op thanks for your entertaining threads

Especially not those who disappear and pop up with new profiles pretending they’re someone else hey macky "

Fluffy - are you aiming that at me?

Honestly - you were the GOAT before that (even though I'm blocked by you ).

A bit more info would help if it is an arrow aimed for my heart...at least then I'll possibly know what I did to deserve it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxxI don't you'll get many to admit to perpetuating a falsness here Op thanks for your entertaining threads

Especially not those who disappear and pop up with new profiles pretending they’re someone else hey macky

Fluffy - are you aiming that at me?

Honestly - you were the GOAT before that (even though I'm blocked by you ).

A bit more info would help if it is an arrow aimed for my heart...at least then I'll possibly know what I did to deserve it xx"

No love, not aimed at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hidden inside all that 1st post is a good question.

I stopped trying to post a certain way (false) a long time ago, I will try to keep as real as possible, because hopefully if anyone is brave enough to meet me, they will know exactly who they will be meeting.

I wouldn’t say people are being false so much, I think being guarded and keeping a lot of truth of their character hidden is the safest thing online. How do you said op. People can use against you.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

You're essentially describing 'masking'.

Concept of self is an interesting one though. I think by and large most people are completely oblivious to who they actually are and just play along their given social identity.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"You're essentially describing 'masking'.

Concept of self is an interesting one though. I think by and large most people are completely oblivious to who they actually are and just play along their given social identity."

And it's fun to add a bit of glitter

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards


"Ooohh..a tough and heavy thread for early on a Tuesday with January blues.

Notions of "true" and "false" are problematic anyway (those who study them know this already), but the idea of "performing a falseness" exists from Buddhism and before, Jungian psychoanalysis, Foucauldian philosophy...and an awful lot of others.

And false identities are very useful - they can keep us going when the world is tough and confusing. When you know others are looking for a weakness to exploit in you, a false identity performs a lot of wonders.

That being said, what bit of "falseness" would you say you "sell" to others?

I think I come across as confident in my own opinions, which I generally am, but that carries an assumption of possessing material stability, which I do not. I do very little to dispossess people of that assumption, so that's a falseness I allow to continue. Or I pretend I'm "horny", when "intense and passionate" are closer - and very different.

Some play the victim, others play the aggressor. Some aggressors play the victim, and some victims play the aggressor playing the victim playing the aggressor playing the victim. It's not simple.

But deep down, we often "know" or "feel" we're conning ourselves.

What bit of you makes you go "Yeah....I can use words to fool you, but I know I'm not fooling myself here".

Especially when you don't know what it is you're fooling yourself over. It's all a bit hidden, but you 'know" it's there.

What makes you go "Yeah...it ain't what we're all saying it is"?

I don't expect this to go well - a strong suspicion most of us will give a false identity to cover another false identity.

Which is probably a wise strategy in many respects.

But progress...moving from being stuck on a lord's land and tilling the fields to cyber-connected fuck-bunnies took 500 years, with enormous changes in identity, and the ditching of former identities, so what bit of personal "falseness" you need today in order to get through your day could you see having no real impact on the you of 2324?

You're going to be seeing a bit less of me on Forum/Lounge now. I'll still pop up, but it's mainly been a need (it has felt like a need, and thank you for helping satisfy that need) throughout my Winter, whereas now I can smell "Spring, Life" coming back in the air around me, and they beckon seductively towards new adventures.

Nick Webb xxxxI don't you'll get many to admit to perpetuating a falsness here Op thanks for your entertaining threads

Especially not those who disappear and pop up with new profiles pretending they’re someone else hey macky

Fluffy - are you aiming that at me?

Honestly - you were the GOAT before that (even though I'm blocked by you ).

A bit more info would help if it is an arrow aimed for my heart...at least then I'll possibly know what I did to deserve it xx

No love, not aimed at you "

Ohhh...would have been more fun if it were Fluffy xx

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards


"You're essentially describing 'masking'.

Concept of self is an interesting one though. I think by and large most people are completely oblivious to who they actually are and just play along their given social identity.

And it's fun to add a bit of glitter"

Deffo glitter.

Miss Chief - I think you've seen more what I was driving at, but my words were long and muddy.

It was more "strip away social pretence, then strip away what's left, then strip away again."

Arriving at almost some sort of very naked "non-self" self.

Think you got it though...or you were "seeing" in that direction.

Congrats - you win an imaginary goat .

In rainbow glitter, obvs xx

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Life toughened me up since I was a toddler.

I have even kind of a tough face.

Some thinks I'm really tough, some thinks I'm not tough enough.

They are both wrong actually most of the times.

I can control what level of toughness I show to the outside world.

Sensitivity and toughness are both part of me, but showing less or more when it's needed is kind of false.

I hate fakeness, but this one is useful often in life.

Show sensitive part of me is often hard because of my tough face.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"You're essentially describing 'masking'.

Concept of self is an interesting one though. I think by and large most people are completely oblivious to who they actually are and just play along their given social identity.

And it's fun to add a bit of glitter

Deffo glitter.

Miss Chief - I think you've seen more what I was driving at, but my words were long and muddy.

It was more "strip away social pretence, then strip away what's left, then strip away again."

Arriving at almost some sort of very naked "non-self" self.

Think you got it though...or you were "seeing" in that direction.

Congrats - you win an imaginary goat .

In rainbow glitter, obvs xx"

If you want the full stripped away experience then what you really need is a total mental breakdown.

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By *hatKlungeEnigma OP   Man
over a year ago

St Leonards

Roland - I always get the impression with you that you've had to push the tough side in order to survive early years, yet the sensitive side is more naturally you, and you are still working out how to bring it out effectively.

It's a long process my friend (and you used the word "tough" about 4 times more than "sensitive" so I think it's a necessary crutch for you for a little while yet...it needs to be easily accessible for survival reasons).

Miss Chief - yes. Absolutely. There's gold in there, but it's an awkwardly shaped mine to descend into.

Even Orpheus struggled. But he took it on, which was heroic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No falseness in me. I not got false body parts either. I cannot tell falsehoods honestly honesty gets me into trouble.

As for false people here yes, it sucks but no surprise

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