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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "Join an esoteric special interest group. The interesting people aren't trying to look like everyone else.  | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. " Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "Out of curiosity, are you swiping left or right on them?  | |||
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"It's so ubiquitous though. My daughter at uni prides herself on being the only one of her extended social circle not on a dating app. You'd think students in halls would be swimming in a social milieu that facilitated dating, but they're all on dating apps! "Did she text you that update?! | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Out of curiosity, are you swiping left or right on them? "Usually left, Woody. As Barney Gumble said to Moe Szyslak “maybe your standards are too high” | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. " I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? | |||
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"It's so ubiquitous though. My daughter at uni prides herself on being the only one of her extended social circle not on a dating app. You'd think students in halls would be swimming in a social milieu that facilitated dating, but they're all on dating apps!
Did she text you that update?!"No, actually. It came up in face to face conversation, which we regularly engage in.  | |||
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"It's so ubiquitous though. My daughter at uni prides herself on being the only one of her extended social circle not on a dating app. You'd think students in halls would be swimming in a social milieu that facilitated dating, but they're all on dating apps!
Did she text you that update?!
No, actually. It came up in face to face conversation, which we regularly engage in. "She truly is unique!!! | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Out of curiosity, are you swiping left or right on them?
Usually left, Woody. As Barney Gumble said to Moe Szyslak “maybe your standards are too high” "It’s like filtering in here. Search - brunnete/slim/petite/age40s if you don’t like the first person that pops up, And they’re all similar, where do you go from there? | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "People being the same is everywhere... Perhaps the old fashioned way by going out to bars and clubs with other singles.? If it's romantic stuff that is.. How about trying proper Dati g sites instead of tinder and other "chav" sites? | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? " I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person | |||
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"It's so ubiquitous though. My daughter at uni prides herself on being the only one of her extended social circle not on a dating app. You'd think students in halls would be swimming in a social milieu that facilitated dating, but they're all on dating apps!
Did she text you that update?!
No, actually. It came up in face to face conversation, which we regularly engage in.
She truly is unique!!! "She's no cookie-cutter young woman. | |||
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"If I don’t meet my future lover at the cardboard section at my local tip I can see me being single forever. Dating apps - not for me! " Some pretty hot peeps working in waste disposal. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
People being the same is everywhere...
Perhaps the old fashioned way by going out to bars and clubs with other singles.?
If it's romantic stuff that is..
How about trying proper Dati g sites instead of tinder and other "chav" sites?
"What’s a proper one then? I’ll tell you now, they’re all full of the same people  | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person "I think you might have missed mine, that the unique ones duck out when they realise you’re essentially unavailable. 6x16 is more than 2 full time jobs. Like I said, I use a few apps, for both men and woman, and I’m finding no shortage of unique people, but I also have the time to talk and date them to find out how unique they are | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
People being the same is everywhere...
Perhaps the old fashioned way by going out to bars and clubs with other singles.?
If it's romantic stuff that is..
How about trying proper Dati g sites instead of tinder and other "chav" sites?
"Bit rude. I’ve met loads of fantastic men and women on the chav sites. That attitude is maybe why they aren’t for you | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
People being the same is everywhere...
Perhaps the old fashioned way by going out to bars and clubs with other singles.?
If it's romantic stuff that is..
How about trying proper Dati g sites instead of tinder and other "chav" sites?
Bit rude.
I’ve met loads of fantastic men and women on the chav sites.
That attitude is maybe why they aren’t for you "Which ones are the chav sites though? Usually you find if someone is on one then they’re on them all! | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person
I think you might have missed mine, that the unique ones duck out when they realise you’re essentially unavailable.
6x16 is more than 2 full time jobs.
Like I said, I use a few apps, for both men and woman, and I’m finding no shortage of unique people, but I also have the time to talk and date them to find out how unique they are "I’m not talking about people ducking out. I’m talking about swiping past profiles and everyone looks the same. I didn’t once mention that people “duck out” when they realise I work so many hours. I’m a healthcare worker, so I work A LOT of overtime, I don’t have to do it. But as I’m single I might as well have the money. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
People being the same is everywhere...
Perhaps the old fashioned way by going out to bars and clubs with other singles.?
If it's romantic stuff that is..
How about trying proper Dati g sites instead of tinder and other "chav" sites?
Bit rude.
I’ve met loads of fantastic men and women on the chav sites.
That attitude is maybe why they aren’t for you
Which ones are the chav sites though? Usually you find if someone is on one then they’re on them all!"I’m assuming they mean the swipe ones, I dunno how happy the mods on here are with us naming them. And they attract all sorts of lovely people. Nothing “chav” about them and that attitude is the one that probably attracts the type they want to avoid | |||
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"Start seeing men under 30 "I feel old enough as it is | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person
I think you might have missed mine, that the unique ones duck out when they realise you’re essentially unavailable.
6x16 is more than 2 full time jobs.
Like I said, I use a few apps, for both men and woman, and I’m finding no shortage of unique people, but I also have the time to talk and date them to find out how unique they are
I’m not talking about people ducking out. I’m talking about swiping past profiles and everyone looks the same. I didn’t once mention that people “duck out” when they realise I work so many hours.
I’m a healthcare worker, so I work A LOT of overtime, I don’t have to do it. But as I’m single I might as well have the money. "That’s fair enough, I hope you don’t always need to work thst much. As they say, if you don’t make time for love, love won’t make time for you I’d say just give them a go. Don’t judge a book by the cover. We’re all unique people given the chance. As long as they are respectful in their messages and can have a laugh, no harm in grabbing a coffee or drink, you never know which one might be “the one” Good luck | |||
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I feel old enough as it is "Are you actually 34?  | |||
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"Start seeing men under 30
I feel old enough as it is
Are you actually 34? "Dear lord Are you saying I look older | |||
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"Start seeing men under 30
I feel old enough as it is
Are you actually 34?
Dear lord
Are you saying I look older " no! I’m saying 34 isn’t old at all! So I wondered if you were secretly like 59 and a half. | |||
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"I'm unique "Just like everybody else
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"Mine is unique! " Your what | |||
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"Mine is unique! Your what "Now that's the mystery | |||
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"I'm unique
Just like everybody else
Wayyy"I'm not like all the other guys though ... Nice tits btw | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person
I think you might have missed mine, that the unique ones duck out when they realise you’re essentially unavailable.
6x16 is more than 2 full time jobs.
Like I said, I use a few apps, for both men and woman, and I’m finding no shortage of unique people, but I also have the time to talk and date them to find out how unique they are
I’m not talking about people ducking out. I’m talking about swiping past profiles and everyone looks the same. I didn’t once mention that people “duck out” when they realise I work so many hours.
I’m a healthcare worker, so I work A LOT of overtime, I don’t have to do it. But as I’m single I might as well have the money.
That’s fair enough, I hope you don’t always need to work thst much. As they say, if you don’t make time for love, love won’t make time for you
I’d say just give them a go. Don’t judge a book by the cover. We’re all unique people given the chance. As long as they are respectful in their messages and can have a laugh, no harm in grabbing a coffee or drink, you never know which one might be “the one”
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
People being the same is everywhere...
Perhaps the old fashioned way by going out to bars and clubs with other singles.?
If it's romantic stuff that is..
How about trying proper Dati g sites instead of tinder and other "chav" sites?
"Just as shit. I went out recently, there were creepy men all over our group. Literally all over them, and looked offended when told. | |||
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" Just as shit. I went out recently, there were creepy men all over our group. Literally all over them, and looked offended when told." Doing simple things like not having your age range set to 18-99 might help | |||
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" Just as shit. I went out recently, there were creepy men all over our group. Literally all over them, and looked offended when told. Doing simple things like not having your age range set to 18-99 might help "Funnily enough, I didn’t have my age range out with me … | |||
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" Just as shit. I went out recently, there were creepy men all over our group. Literally all over them, and looked offended when told. Doing simple things like not having your age range set to 18-99 might help
Funnily enough, I didn’t have my age range out with me …"You don’t put all your preferences on a sign taped to your forehead when you go out? That’s just silly. Shame on you | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "I'm unique. Bang me. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "I find this too, although in a completely different age bracket! I notice more that men say the same things and they were pretty boring the first time. (Nights in, nights out FFS) Men have told me they see the same with women. I think several of the free apps just attract the same people because they're well-known and FREE. I see a bigger range of men (appearance and personality) on an app like Feeld. Or Hinge which has a different approach. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
I'm unique.
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "Lucky woman, I'll swap you for men holding fish? The one app I'm on that I really like I can't get matches on it very often. | |||
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" Just as shit. I went out recently, there were creepy men all over our group. Literally all over them, and looked offended when told. Doing simple things like not having your age range set to 18-99 might help
Funnily enough, I didn’t have my age range out with me …" that's me told | |||
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"Offline dating. It's a big old world out there. Get out and about" When people give advice without knowing people’s situations
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"Offline dating. It's a big old world out there. Get out and about When people give advice without knowing people’s situations
If the people all look the same on dating apps, they will probably all look similar when I see them on the street too "O P. People are genuinely offering advice and trying to be helpful. If not good enough we've done our best. Good luck and blue skies | |||
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"Offline dating. It's a big old world out there. Get out and about When people give advice without knowing people’s situations
If the people all look the same on dating apps, they will probably all look similar when I see them on the street too
O P. People are genuinely offering advice and trying to be helpful.
If not good enough we've done our best. Good luck and blue skies
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"Sounds like bots at work " They are real people behind them, it was my job for 18 months after I had my car crash and lost my business | |||
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"Sounds like bots at work They are real people behind them, it was my job for 18 months after I had my car crash and lost my business " I use BADOO sometimes I think it's the better one out the rest of them | |||
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"Sounds like bots at work They are real people behind them, it was my job for 18 months after I had my car crash and lost my business I use BADOO sometimes I think it's the better one out the rest of them" That’s where I found the highest concentration of weirdos! I found the best one to be the one that helps a door open and close Purely because it forces people to put their height and if they have kids or not which is a big filter for me, saves a lot of time chatting to people only to find out they aren’t what your looking for Believe it or not, the popular one (the fire starter one) has a premium option now. £500 a month I think. Yes. Per month. I hope it comes with a weekly blowjob for that price | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "Here! | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person "One of the frustrating things about dating apps are the algorithm. They learn which kind of people you swipe right on then show you more and more of the same. Try deleting your account and setting it up again - it kind of wiped the memory and show you a whole new bunch of people. A bit of a pain as you are starting your search from scratch but it does help | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person
One of the frustrating things about dating apps are the algorithm. They learn which kind of people you swipe right on then show you more and more of the same. Try deleting your account and setting it up again - it kind of wiped the memory and show you a whole new bunch of people. A bit of a pain as you are starting your search from scratch but it does help"That’s actually a misconception of the algorithm, it doesn’t match you to people based on looks It matches people based on perceived attractiveness based on how many people swipe left or right on you, plus how much you swipe left or right on people of certain attractiveness. For women it’s almost pointless because guys swipe right on almost everyone For guys you can somewhat cheat the algorithm by setting your distance to max and setting it to include guys. Lots of thirsty guys will swipe right on you, boosting your ELO (attractiveness score) which in turn shows your profile to more attractive women’s profiles. | |||
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If the people all look the same on dating apps, they will probably all look similar when I see them on the street too "Time to relocate then. No other option | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person
One of the frustrating things about dating apps are the algorithm. They learn which kind of people you swipe right on then show you more and more of the same. Try deleting your account and setting it up again - it kind of wiped the memory and show you a whole new bunch of people. A bit of a pain as you are starting your search from scratch but it does help
That’s actually a misconception of the algorithm, it doesn’t match you to people based on looks
It matches people based on perceived attractiveness based on how many people swipe left or right on you, plus how much you swipe left or right on people of certain attractiveness.
For women it’s almost pointless because guys swipe right on almost everyone
For guys you can somewhat cheat the algorithm by setting your distance to max and setting it to include guys. Lots of thirsty guys will swipe right on you, boosting your ELO (attractiveness score) which in turn shows your profile to more attractive women’s profiles. "Genius | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "I get what you mean OP. You spend so long swiping on people they all begin to look the same. Nothing about them stands out and it’s like you’re in swiping Groundhog Day. Someone above made a good point that people of a certain age group will by and large have the same dress sense, hairstyles etc, albeit that’s more relevant at school than in our 30s. A few years ago I joined Classic FM dating for two reasons. First, I believed I would get a massively different pool; second, I believed we’d be more likely to attract due to an obvious shared interest. It didn’t work! ‘Specialising’ gave me a very small pool of people who still looked the same. I wonder if there are any other niche apps out there that might be a bit better? | |||
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"It also makes people disposable. We reduce people to a few pictures, a half arsed bio and a left or right swipe Personally I think everyone’s unique if you spend the time to get to know them. If you aren’t putting any effort into that, everyone’s going to seem the same. I know people that will have 100s of matches left on read complaining they can’t find anyone. You get out what you put in. Low effort gets low effort. Unfortunately with working 6 16 hour shifts a week, dating apps are not only the most convenient but ultimately almost the only way I have to meet new people. I think lots of people find themselves in a similar situation If you weren’t as a busy, but got chatting to a guy doing 6x 16 hour shifts a week, would you bother with him? Or say he’s too busy and move onto the next in the long line of a million matches? I think you’ve missed the point of the post… I didn’t say I can’t find anyone. I said everyone looks the same as the last person
One of the frustrating things about dating apps are the algorithm. They learn which kind of people you swipe right on then show you more and more of the same. Try deleting your account and setting it up again - it kind of wiped the memory and show you a whole new bunch of people. A bit of a pain as you are starting your search from scratch but it does help
That’s actually a misconception of the algorithm, it doesn’t match you to people based on looks
It matches people based on perceived attractiveness based on how many people swipe left or right on you, plus how much you swipe left or right on people of certain attractiveness.
For women it’s almost pointless because guys swipe right on almost everyone
For guys you can somewhat cheat the algorithm by setting your distance to max and setting it to include guys. Lots of thirsty guys will swipe right on you, boosting your ELO (attractiveness score) which in turn shows your profile to more attractive women’s profiles. "Facts. I did this once out of bordem. I certainly saw a difference in women's profiles compared to before. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "Its the same when I look on there. Every girl looks like a kardiashian, either in a bar with a bent knee, tilted head holding a cocktail. Infront of some illuminaous angel wings. Or ontop of a mountain somewhere. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Its the same when I look on there.
Every girl looks like a kardiashian, either in a bar with a bent knee, tilted head holding a cocktail.
Infront of some illuminaous angel wings.
Or ontop of a mountain somewhere." | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Its the same when I look on there.
Every girl looks like a kardiashian, either in a bar with a bent knee, tilted head holding a cocktail.
Infront of some illuminaous angel wings.
Or ontop of a mountain somewhere."Where have you been looking? | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Its the same when I look on there.
Every girl looks like a kardiashian, either in a bar with a bent knee, tilted head holding a cocktail.
Infront of some illuminaous angel wings.
Or ontop of a mountain somewhere."Funny cause it's true | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "*coughs* | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "Right here. I decided to grow my hair and dress a bit funkier as I was sick of this exact thing, everyone being like lego people, no uniquity at all. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Its the same when I look on there.
Every girl looks like a kardiashian, either in a bar with a bent knee, tilted head holding a cocktail.
Infront of some illuminaous angel wings.
Or ontop of a mountain somewhere.
Where have you been looking? "Tinder Pof Bumble Fb dating Hinge. Badoo Tbf, this is mostly one site that's bad for it (I'm looking at you tinder) But then again I'm not attracted to 95% of the people on the other apps. I'd say fb dating is actually one of the better ones for people I find attractive that don't all look like they came from the same moulding line. | |||
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"Offline dating. It's a big old world out there. Get out and about When people give advice without knowing people’s situations
If the people all look the same on dating apps, they will probably all look similar when I see them on the street too
O P. People are genuinely offering advice and trying to be helpful.
If not good enough we've done our best. Good luck and blue skies
I’m not looking for advice, I was making an observation x"My apologies.. when I read What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! I took it as advice. | |||
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"I keep seeing pics of women horse jumping! I mean, do all women on dating apps right horses and jump over fences?! "Of course we do! And all men cycle in full length lycra. Whilst holding a fish. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Its the same when I look on there.
Every girl looks like a kardiashian, either in a bar with a bent knee, tilted head holding a cocktail.
Infront of some illuminaous angel wings.
Or ontop of a mountain somewhere.
Where have you been looking?
Tinder
Pof
Bumble
Fb dating
Hinge.
Badoo
Tbf, this is mostly one site that's bad for it (I'm looking at you tinder)
But then again I'm not attracted to 95% of the people on the other apps.
I'd say fb dating is actually one of the better ones for people I find attractive that don't all look like they came from the same moulding line.
"I've not found a single man attractive on FB. And LOT of fish. | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?! "I like to call these people the generic humans, the ones who can’t think for themselves, they do and look like what everyone else is doing. The mr | |||
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"If online dating or using dating apps has shown me one thing, it’s that everyone is morphing into the same person. Every profile I swipe past has the same hair, the same tattoos, the same poses, the same nose piercing, the same clothes… What’s going on? Where do I find someone unique?!
Its the same when I look on there.
Every girl looks like a kardiashian, either in a bar with a bent knee, tilted head holding a cocktail.
Infront of some illuminaous angel wings.
Or ontop of a mountain somewhere.
Where have you been looking?
Tinder
Pof
Bumble
Fb dating
Hinge.
Badoo
Tbf, this is mostly one site that's bad for it (I'm looking at you tinder)
But then again I'm not attracted to 95% of the people on the other apps.
I'd say fb dating is actually one of the better ones for people I find attractive that don't all look like they came from the same moulding line.
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"I think there's a few things at play with these types. We have a ridiculous amount of choice nowadays so people are very easily dismissable. People will hit it off with someone, but if someone else comes along that appears slightly better at first glance, they will cut ties with the previous person to pursue the new one. We have fake social media accounts setting a statement that makes us feel this entitlement of having a perfect looking partner that earns a shit tonne of money living the perfect life. Certain looks and trends that are "in" atm. And this very limited space to sell yourself with your pictures and profile. So people use the most meta tactics in trying to tick every box to peacock to potential prospects, because if you don't, you'll be overshadowed by the ones that do. They take pictures in the places you need to be seen at, with expensive designer gear, dressed and looking like whatever is hot at that time. Which leads to a bunch of samey looking people. Tie into the fact that alot of these people don't particularly care about real human connections, they care more about how they are perceived by others. And they want to be perceived as wealthy, with a model looking partner, doing expensive shit, living the perfect life. because they don't want to be outcasted by their tribe. Personally, I like somebody who I'm attracted to, that shares the same values, who's kind that I can have an amazeballs sex life with that makes me laugh. All the material shit we can build together. Imo." I just don't see that, I must admit. I see men in Lycra, standing next to their bike/motorbike/car/large dog or walking the Moors, doing yoga blah blah. No designer gear. I'd hate that. I have no time for status symbols and showing off. Perhaps this is an age thing? | |||
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"I think there's a few things at play with these types. We have a ridiculous amount of choice nowadays so people are very easily dismissable. People will hit it off with someone, but if someone else comes along that appears slightly better at first glance, they will cut ties with the previous person to pursue the new one. We have fake social media accounts setting a statement that makes us feel this entitlement of having a perfect looking partner that earns a shit tonne of money living the perfect life. Certain looks and trends that are "in" atm. And this very limited space to sell yourself with your pictures and profile. So people use the most meta tactics in trying to tick every box to peacock to potential prospects, because if you don't, you'll be overshadowed by the ones that do. They take pictures in the places you need to be seen at, with expensive designer gear, dressed and looking like whatever is hot at that time. Which leads to a bunch of samey looking people. Tie into the fact that alot of these people don't particularly care about real human connections, they care more about how they are perceived by others. And they want to be perceived as wealthy, with a model looking partner, doing expensive shit, living the perfect life. because they don't want to be outcasted by their tribe. Personally, I like somebody who I'm attracted to, that shares the same values, who's kind that I can have an amazeballs sex life with that makes me laugh. All the material shit we can build together. Imo." Wow, that’s unlucky. Definitely not my experience Yeah I see a lot of women living very lavish lifestyles, but a quick swipe left and I see plenty of very normal, very lovely women. | |||
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I'm unique.
Bang me. Again
I’ve already banged you "FTFM | |||
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