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By *exymixedcouple7 OP   Couple
over a year ago

london

Is it alway experted for people to stay over when they come meet you?

What if you when to their hometown and got a hotel... And how do you approach the subject without being considered rude?

Love to play but alway want to have time alone with my partern after playing with someone.

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

Just make sure they know that space is at a premium and that you are very sorry but it is not possible to put anyone up for the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would presume that if your going to someones home for a meet then you leave afterwards and even if travelling from a fair distance you (guest/traveller) would return home or make other sleeping arrangements

unless the home owner states otherwise

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire


"i would presume that if your going to someones home for a meet then you leave afterwards and even if travelling from a fair distance you (guest/traveller) would return home or make other sleeping arrangements

unless the home owner states otherwise"

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I dont think many people would expect (or want to) stay overnight, but just say what youve said here - we can accommodate but not overnight, we like to have time afterwards with just the 2 of us....

If people dont accept that then they are not the people for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I meet a potential newbie, I would inform him that he is not expected to stay the night at the hotel (I don't accommodate), and I may head home myself and leave him to sleep overnight in the room on his own.

This way, it avoids mis-understanding and awkwardness later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've stopped overnight before and the couple we visited knew one of us would be driving and having a drink puts us both at ease and relaxed so they said we could stop over if we wanted to. They even made a full breakfast in the morning for us. It was a good evening and the lady of the other couple was a former Miss UK Bodybuilding champ, so you can imagine the flexibility her body had!

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By *exymixedcouple7 OP   Couple
over a year ago

london

As we don't like to meet at our home as that our space if we have a meet in London we always get a hotel, but have notice when we travel to others and get a hotel/apartments they stay over and never seem to fun fun and leave us to it. Just wondering if it's the norn? It is experted? Rude to tell someone you have to leave after having fun with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As we don't like to meet at our home as that our space if we have a meet in London we always get a hotel, but have notice when we travel to others and get a hotel/apartments they stay over and never seem to fun fun and leave us to it. Just wondering if it's the norn? It is experted? Rude to tell someone you have to leave after having fun with them"

Personally, I'd feel a bit put out and used if we were actually asked to fuck off after having fun with another couple. This sort of thing should be sorted out before the day of the meet so there's no awkwardness on the night.

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By *exymixedcouple7 OP   Couple
over a year ago

london


"As we don't like to meet at our home as that our space if we have a meet in London we always get a hotel, but have notice when we travel to others and get a hotel/apartments they stay over and never seem to fun fun and leave us to it. Just wondering if it's the norn? It is experted? Rude to tell someone you have to leave after having fun with them

Personally, I'd feel a bit put out and used if we were actually asked to fuck off after having fun with another couple. This sort of thing should be sorted out before the day of the meet so there's no awkwardness on the night."

Very true, but even if the person lives 10mins away? Would never dream of playing with a person and kicking them out especially if they've consumed alcohol and have to drive...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is it alway experted for people to stay over when they come meet you?

What if you when to their hometown and got a hotel... And how do you approach the subject without being considered rude?

Love to play but alway want to have time alone with my partern after playing with someone. "

I think that it isn't a question of being rude. The longer we are involved in this lifestyle the more we appreciate absolute honesty about everything both ways, so if we invite someone to our house we say straight out that it isn't an invitation to stay the night (in a nice way of course).

Most people don't expect to stay anyway and we always want to go home to shag each others brains out

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By *exymixedcouple7 OP   Couple
over a year ago

london


"Is it alway experted for people to stay over when they come meet you?

What if you when to their hometown and got a hotel... And how do you approach the subject without being considered rude?

Love to play but alway want to have time alone with my partern after playing with someone.

I think that it isn't a question of being rude. The longer we are involved in this lifestyle the more we appreciate absolute honesty about everything both ways, so if we invite someone to our house we say straight out that it isn't an invitation to stay the night (in a nice way of course).

Most people don't expect to stay anyway and we always want to go home to shag each others brains out "

Us too, maybe it's just our encounters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never ever expect to stay. And would not think it's rude to be asked to leave.

I however think it should be sorted out before hand.

Assumption is the mother of all mess ups. Never assume anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, no strings fun means having fun and then going home, or her going home. If i wanted company in my bed overnight, i'd get myself a partner/relationship.

I work during the week so i'm up early, if a meet stayed overnight she'd have to be up with me at 5.30am so no point really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As we don't like to meet at our home as that our space if we have a meet in London we always get a hotel, but have notice when we travel to others and get a hotel/apartments they stay over and never seem to fun fun and leave us to it. Just wondering if it's the norn? It is experted? Rude to tell someone you have to leave after having fun with them

Personally, I'd feel a bit put out and used if we were actually asked to fuck off after having fun with another couple. This sort of thing should be sorted out before the day of the meet so there's no awkwardness on the night.

Very true, but even if the person lives 10mins away? Would never dream of playing with a person and kicking them out especially if they've consumed alcohol and have to drive..."

tbh I always get the accom/not accom question out the way whilst chatting before the meet and, if necc, keep reinforcing it if I feel someone is trying to push it.

Whilst Perky and I were meeting as a couple, we accommodated overnight on a couple of occasions, both to save the other party the cost of a hotel and as we both felt pretty comfortable with them even prior to the meet. We still got 'couple time' together before calling it a night.

The thing that does come over from what you have said so far, is that you seem to be more worried about offending/upsetting someone rather than having YOUR boundaries potentially abused. You really do need to summon up a little assertiveness (not to be confused with being rude - not the same thing) from somewhere on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always discuss everything beforehand. No misunderstandings then. I can't imagine anyone staying over, to me that's just too personal. But then I wouldn't have anyone round to my house anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As we don't like to meet at our home as that our space if we have a meet in London we always get a hotel, but have notice when we travel to others and get a hotel/apartments they stay over and never seem to fun fun and leave us to it. Just wondering if it's the norn? It is experted? Rude to tell someone you have to leave after having fun with them

Personally, I'd feel a bit put out and used if we were actually asked to fuck off after having fun with another couple. This sort of thing should be sorted out before the day of the meet so there's no awkwardness on the night.

Very true, but even if the person lives 10mins away? Would never dream of playing with a person and kicking them out especially if they've consumed alcohol and have to drive..."

I just think it's a question best asked before the meet and if they want to stay over and you don't want them too - for whatever reason - it's best to not meet them, as I foresee things getting awkward at kicking out time.

We have small children so we'd never meet people at our house with the kids here, so on that basis we'd have a kid-free house anyway as we'll have shipped them out to their grandparents for the night and having guests stay over wouldn't be a problem. We quite like the idea of not having a time limit for fun which means we can carry on all night if we want to, or, as what's happened in the past, the night has ended naturally and we've all gone to bed only to wake up horny an hour later and we invaded the other couple's room for more fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very true, but even if the person lives 10mins away? Would never dream of playing with a person and kicking them out especially if they've consumed alcohol and have to drive..."

ps. You live in London, we're in Newcastle - you two would be more than welcome to spend the night with us!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I would not stay over - and I would not expect to accommodate overnight - unless people had become genuine long term friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would not stay over - and I would not expect to accommodate overnight - unless people had become genuine long term friends."

Not even if I tied you to the bed and used you as a sex slave for the whole night?

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By *exymixedcouple7 OP   Couple
over a year ago

london


"I would not stay over - and I would not expect to accommodate overnight - unless people had become genuine long term friends.

Not even if I tied you to the bed and used you as a sex slave for the whole night? "

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By *exymixedcouple7 OP   Couple
over a year ago

london


"Very true, but even if the person lives 10mins away? Would never dream of playing with a person and kicking them out especially if they've consumed alcohol and have to drive...

ps. You live in London, we're in Newcastle - you two would be more than welcome to spend the night with us! "

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