FabSwingers.com forum: Girlfriend tracked me down

By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him

Shouldn't the past be in the past?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Sounds griefy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she still his girlfriend?

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
over a year ago

Salford

Either say the truth or come up with a plausible easy pill to swallow. If you know anything about him. Message a quick plan to him and get him to agree with a play by play and sell that to her

I'd just say the truth though

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I usually just tell them the truth

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

How did she contact you?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I usually just tell them the truth

I was going to say that. But only if you want to respond. That’s absolutely your choice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The thing about questions is that people can ask them but you don't have to answer.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Yikes.

I’d want to know why she’s writing to me first and foremost.

Your safety is important.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Just tell her you know him as a regular at the clap clinic... that'll smooth everything out just fine.

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By *pen2UMan
over a year ago

Telford

"Just tell her you know him as a regular at the clap clinic... that'll smooth everything out just fine.

love this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t get involved

You have no idea what’s happening between those 2

You’ve no idea what drama your fuelling

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Ignore and block.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him

Shouldn't the past be in the past?"

It definitely should. This smells of drama- I'd block instantly!!!

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

I wouldn't be answering that.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Don’t get involved

You have no idea what’s happening between those 2

You’ve no idea what drama your fuelling "

This is probably the wisest AND safest choice.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yeah... ignore that

LvM

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Keep us posted

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

Now imagine if you just took 1 second to ignore it

You’ve gained nothing and probably fuelled weeks worth of drama

To each their own. When I see dog shit I just step over it. You had to jump on it and splash a few people on it in the process

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him

Shouldn't the past be in the past?

It definitely should. This smells of drama- I'd block instantly!!!"

Boiled rabbit more like.

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

This is very a much an ignore it,or be 100% honest situation.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

Well I don't blame you, let him try and squirm his way out of it now. Lies always end up catching up with you sooner or later

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If I was unaware they had an unconsenting girlfriend I'd consider the sharing of information completely valid.

I didn't ask for this shit on my doorstep, but since someone put it there the best thing to do is acknowledge it properly in my mind

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

I don't blame you. He sounds like a dick.

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By *adbod2godbodMan
over a year ago

Manchester

There's a reason why the windscreen in a car is so big and the rear view mirror is so small.

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Okay. *Now* block her, and lock down your social media

LvM

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I would have just ignored and blocked.

You don't know that he was with her when he was fucking you. And even if he was, what's it to you now? He's your EX fb.

Some people just thrive on drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have even replied. As for retaliation I have more self respect than to lower myself to it.

What I would do is screenshot/record any future messages.

If that's the kinda child he is that drama isn't worthy.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him

Shouldn't the past be in the past?"

Did you know he had a girlfriend when he was your fb?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Okay. *Now* block her, and lock down your social media

LvM"

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By *hirleyMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Not really great, but I know on that website reviews site, can't remember what it's called, had some stinging reviews of wives that had found out their husbands were fucking women from here and everyone were completely oblivious, horrible stories, kids and marriages involved etc etc...

I guess what I mean is that you never really know someone, no matter how charming they come across and do things to win your trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you? "

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting. "

Then there was no harm in telling her you used to hook up before they got together.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No idea what goes on in their relationship but if someone was contacting people I'd previously spoken to asking how I knew their partner I'd be putting my toothbrush back in my handbag and walking out if the door.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd not engage, whilst maintaining safety. It's up to her and him to settle issues. I'd emphasise never to contact you, if you are going to give any contact. But I'd generally pursue them being ignored. And I'd engage the police, if safely is harmed

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

"So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him

Shouldn't the past be in the past?"

It might be his wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting. "

Personally think it’s pretty disrespectful to tell other people about your past hookups without the person in question agreeing to it

You wouldn’t like it if some lad at the pub was telling his mates how he’s shagged you

Keep private things private until everyone involved agrees to not keep it private. That’s the respectful thing to do

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting. "

I now remember your post about it from a couple of months ago or so.

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By *lam granWoman
over a year ago

falkirk

So you're not seeing him anymore?

Ignore her. You don't owe her any kind of explanation.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way."

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth. "

This sounds ALL kinds of fucked up. He seems like a real prize.

Stay safe, OP. What’s done is done now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

I’d absolutely have done this.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him

Shouldn't the past be in the past?"

Stalker. Block.

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting.

I now remember your post about it from a couple of months ago or so. "

Yeah, him saying we can't meet anymore as he's dating

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth. "

I've absolutely no idea.

She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Tell her what you know.

You don't owe anything to her ex, so fuck him.

If someone asked me about an ex partner, depending on who they were and what they wanted to know. I probably would tell them

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Tell her you run the countrys top glory hole from your garden shed and her bf has the most frequent flyer loyalty points- ask her if he’s done the ‘garden gnome thing’ with her yet!!

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting.

Personally think it’s pretty disrespectful to tell other people about your past hookups without the person in question agreeing to it

You wouldn’t like it if some lad at the pub was telling his mates how he’s shagged you

Keep private things private until everyone involved agrees to not keep it private. That’s the respectful thing to do "

You didn't read the bit where he threw her under the bus?

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.

I've absolutely no idea.

She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it "

Hope you've blocked them both on everything, you really don't need all that drama in your life.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him

Shouldn't the past be in the past?"
don't get involved block her number

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By *arley QuimWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Sounds shit!... I'd have just ignored it from the start, or said its nothing to do with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.

I've absolutely no idea.

She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it "

Does he have your address ?

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By *arley QuimWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.

I've absolutely no idea.

She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it

Does he have your address ?"

She... And tbf she might be jealous... But I'd assume she isn't to the point of burning OPs house down?... Let's get a little perspective here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.

I've absolutely no idea.

She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it

Does he have your address ?

She... And tbf she might be jealous... But I'd assume she isn't to the point of burning OPs house down?... Let's get a little perspective here

He. The ex fb.

He can't be trusted to keep OP's address secret.

Arson would not be the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

OMG

He told lies about you to save his own back....Not Nice....re- "To save himself he told her I stalk him"....

I wouldn't be pleased either to hear that & I'd probably tell the truth too if that's the case....I take it he was with GF when he was seeing you....The 'shits sure gonna hit the fan now' ha....

I don't like how he put it all on you saying you were a stalker....That's actually nasty of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting.

I now remember your post about it from a couple of months ago or so.

Yeah, him saying we can't meet anymore as he's dating "

Problem solved. You’ve disclosed something you didn’t have to. Hopefully puts her straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?

It just seems needlessly laden with drama... Unless that is the intent - i think i recall a previous thread where you weren't happy that he'd stopped seeing you.. Oh is it his wife he's gone back to ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I would have just ignored and blocked.

You don't know that he was with her when he was fucking you. And even if he was, what's it to you now? He's your EX fb.

Some people just thrive on drama

Stole the words right out my .......... I was still reading the thread but would have responded similar to this.

1. I wouldn't be responding to a stranger.

2. He did not throw you under a bus -

3. You responded in a very vindictive manner and I can't exclude you from being part of the problem.

For some reason the whole story doesn't add up to me but then we don't have the whole story.

I hope it all works out for everyone in the end.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?

It would still put a lot at unease knowing their partner is still messaging their old fb. Even if they're not still shagging

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

OMG

He told lies about you to save his own back....Not Nice....re- "To save himself he told her I stalk him"....

I wouldn't be pleased either to hear that & I'd probably tell the truth too if that's the case....I take it he was with GF when he was seeing you....The 'shits sure gonna hit the fan now' ha....

I don't like how he put it all on you saying you were a stalker....That's actually nasty of him

Not as nasty as stalking though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block them both and avoid the drama.

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?

She knew we had a sexual relationship in the past by going through his phone while he slept checking old WhatsApp messages. And no, it's not his wife. He's separated

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.

I've absolutely no idea.

She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it

Does he have your address ?"

No, I always went and stayed with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?

She knew we had a sexual relationship in the past by going through his phone while he slept checking old WhatsApp messages. And no, it's not his wife. He's separated "

I still don't get it.. She wanted a reaction from you and you delivered it. What was the point in engaging. We can't own other people's reactions but we can own our own.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

This is a non story ...... simply a non story.

Hello who are you ?

Who are you ?

You don't know me.

Goodbye ! Block number.

If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.

End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.

Hello who are you ?

Who are you ?

You don't know me.

Goodbye ! Block number.

If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.

End of."

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.

Hello who are you ?

Who are you ?

You don't know me.

Goodbye ! Block number.

If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.

End of."

But where’s the drama in that Granny, you’re no fun are you.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Sounds like unnecessary stress to me.

The mr

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Sounds like unnecessary stress to me.

The mr "

Are you crying again ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.

Hello who are you ?

Who are you ?

You don't know me.

Goodbye ! Block number.

If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.

End of.

But where’s the drama in that Granny, you’re no fun are you.

Sometimes but it'd be fun fun not miserable fun ..... I did have a cat stalking me backwards the other day .... Is that exciting and dramatic ?

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
over a year ago

Wales

"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?

It would still put a lot at unease knowing their partner is still messaging their old fb. Even if they're not still shagging "

Especially if they're lying about it. Messaging people you use to hook up with while in a committed relationship, then lying about it...

I probably would have sent the screen shots too. Why lie if there's nothing to hide? I'd hope someone would afford me the same.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.

Hello who are you ?

Who are you ?

You don't know me.

Goodbye ! Block number.

If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.

End of.

But where’s the drama in that Granny, you’re no fun are you.

Sometimes but it'd be fun fun not miserable fun ..... I did have a cat stalking me backwards the other day .... Is that exciting and dramatic ?"

Which of you was backwards, the cat or you, or was it one of those comedy moments when you take a step forward and the cat takes a step back, then you take a step back and the cat takes a step forward.

Perhaps the cat was feline threatened.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No. We were both going forward but the cat kept stopping looking back at me then trotting ahead then looking back at me..... and this went on for the length of the very long street I live in .....

I did say ffs cat cross over or go under a car...... ( in my head - i'm not mad )

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Sounds like unnecessary stress to me.

The mr

Are you crying again ?"

No not today, my big boy pants got washed yesterday.

The mr

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?

She knew we had a sexual relationship in the past by going through his phone while he slept checking old WhatsApp messages. And no, it's not his wife. He's separated

I still don't get it.. She wanted a reaction from you and you delivered it. What was the point in engaging. We can't own other people's reactions but we can own our own. "

I think you missed the part when I replied to her "I've got nothing to say"...

Yes she wanted a reaction so she delivered the screenshot from him. And as I said it wasn't my proudest moment retaliating.

If I was stalking him, I'm pretty sure he would have blocked me a long time ago, not now

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"How did she contact you?"

Instagram dm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have ignored the first message but if then if she messaged me saying he told her I was a stalker damn right I'd be messaging back giving her aaaaall the details. But to be fair, she sounds paranoid as fuck if you both had a thing when they weren't even together. I think some couples are doomed from the beginning.

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?

No, we met Dec'22.

He's only recently started seeing her.

And when he started dating we stopped meeting.

Personally think it’s pretty disrespectful to tell other people about your past hookups without the person in question agreeing to it

You wouldn’t like it if some lad at the pub was telling his mates how he’s shagged you

Keep private things private until everyone involved agrees to not keep it private. That’s the respectful thing to do "

She found our old WhatsApp messages so she knew we had a past. I never told her

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"So you're not seeing him anymore?

Ignore her. You don't owe her any kind of explanation."

The last time we met was in August, which makes the whole thing a joke. He started dating in November

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.

This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth. "

Life's too easy for simple thing like that

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"Yes, it's got really messy

She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.

I said I've got nothing to say.

To save himself he told her I stalk him

I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.

Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation

Shits hit the fan

OMG

He told lies about you to save his own back....Not Nice....re- "To save himself he told her I stalk him"....

I wouldn't be pleased either to hear that & I'd probably tell the truth too if that's the case....I take it he was with GF when he was seeing you....The 'shits sure gonna hit the fan now' ha....

I don't like how he put it all on you saying you were a stalker....That's actually nasty of him

I saw him last in August. We just kept in contact via messaging

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I wouldn't engage at all.

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

I think people think I told her about Fab.

She knows nothing about his life on here and that's how it should be.

The fact of the matter is she saw a message between him and me, which he turned it around to save himself

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"No. We were both going forward but the cat kept stopping looking back at me then trotting ahead then looking back at me..... and this went on for the length of the very long street I live in .....

I did say ffs cat cross over or go under a car...... ( in my head - i'm not mad ) "

So you were stalking the cat! It's all coming out now.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I saw him last in August. We just kept in contact via messaging"

Unless there was a terminal bust up, with no more messaging, not meeting someone between August and November is nothing in the grand timescale of casual relationships.

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By *aughtyhub80Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Tell her you can fuck too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame Jeremy Kyle has ended as this would have been a story for that show ..

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