FabSwingers.com forum: A delete is better than a no...

By *ommo83 OP Man
over a year ago

Salford

...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You don't know how many other messages they have.

Maybe they're having a perv after a long hard day and don't want to deal with the admin of messages right now.

Delete the sent message and any responses are a nice surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

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By *ackson2022Couple
over a year ago

London

No one owes anyone anything. Simply move on

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion "

The perennial topic!

If you message someone, pop a private note in their profile to remind yourself in future searches. Then delete your sent message to avoid the anguish of no reply.

Some women get 100s of messages and don’t have the time for fabmin.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion "

“No” is better, but not feasible. They can’t reply to everyone.

But theirs ambiguity to an Ignore or Delete.

*Maybe they didn’t see your message

*Maybe your message got lost in the shuffle

*Maybe they did an Inbox Purge

You never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you."

No. It’s not.

It’s described as a no. There is nothing that says it is polite. That’s just how people excuse it.

I’m alright with it delete it, but please don’t try and pass it off as a polite way of saying no.

*Woody climbs down from his high horse.

Op. Just suck it up. I’d prefer a reply, the next best thing is that delete. They’re the ones where I know where I stand. I completely accept that nobody has to do anything in here. We’re all doing our own thing.

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

Naas/City centre

Both Ruby and Jackson have the right of it.

It sucks but that is it, no reply is an answer.

Personally I delete messages from my sent box once I do, no need to worry about it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it stays yellow unopened, take that is its been missed and try again another time

Opened with no reply or deleted and block them. Can’t have uninterested people showing up in your search results

People get a lot of messages and many don’t take too kindly to a “no thanks” so accept no reply as a no thank you and crack into the next

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Send your message. Delete it from your outbox. Consider it done unless they respond positively.

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By *ommo83 OP Man
over a year ago

Salford

"You don't know how many other messages they have.

Maybe they're having a perv after a long hard day and don't want to deal with the admin of messages right now.

Delete the sent message and any responses are a nice surprise."

I understand that. On a meet once with a couple they showed me their phone and they get like 500 messages a weekend.

I'd be lucky to get one ha ha

And that's exactly what I do. Delete and forget and the couple of times I ve had replies I nearly had a stroke ha ha

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

A reply then allows a bypass to any future filters put in place so that's why a lot won't reply with a no thanks.

As others have said delete your sent box so any replies may be nice surprises

Tinder x

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I can actually reply to everyone who messages me as I don't get many messages thanks to filters. I choose not to reply when the message or profile doesn't interest me. And I really don't care if people think it's rude of me as I have no interest in interacting with them anyhow.

That might sound harsh but I learnt a long time ago on here not to open the door to chats as people continue to try and chat even after you say you're not interested.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are varying opinions on this often expressed with some frustration.

I'm utterly confused by what people will prefer so just do what I think now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

No. It’s not.

It’s described as a no. There is nothing that says it is polite. That’s just how people excuse it.

I’m alright with it delete it, but please don’t try and pass it off as a polite way of saying no.

*Woody climbs down from his high horse.

Ok if you're splitting hairs, the rules actually say...

'If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested'

That's wise advice for everyone to follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a delete to a "no" reply. Saves me having to block them.

With No replies, a warning message comes up to remind me of messaging previously

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By *red and daphneCouple
over a year ago

in the middle

We find that if we reply with a polite 'no' it seems to open a floodgate for other questions. We just delete now, occasionally some go unread, not intentionally.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

No. It’s not.

It’s described as a no. There is nothing that says it is polite. That’s just how people excuse it.

I’m alright with it delete it, but please don’t try and pass it off as a polite way of saying no.

*Woody climbs down from his high horse.

What’s your preferred way to be rejected?

I’m genuinely asking. “Not for me, thanks?” Would that really satisfy you?

There’s no nice way to say you’re not interested in someone. Because you’re not giving them the answer that they wanted.

How do you politely decline when somebody is interested in you and you don’t want to have sex with them?

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion "

Do you write back to every junk mail that gets posted throigh your letter box?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Faith Skynbyrd.,

I've messaged you for a meet and your not interested.

Give me a rejection message example on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This again?

Yup! Give me a polite rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"….

Ok if you're splitting hairs, the rules actually say...

'If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested'

That's wise advice for everyone to follow.

That’s right. That’s the exact wording. So where do the polite thing start creeping in? Th

We have to assume.

I am pedantic about it, but being ignored should never be described as polite.

But I do agree with you completely, if we are wise, (we should be as adults haha) we already know what someone not replying means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion

Do you write back to every junk mail that gets posted throigh your letter box?"

How much junk mail to get through the post asks for a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This again?

Yup! Give me a polite rejection

Sure here a polite rejection on the internet:

Sorry sugar not for me, but you’ll be exactly what someone is looking for. Happy fabbing.

Here’s a rejection I’ve had (in real life):

You should be gassed.

Guess which one is rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion "

I disagree, a read and delete/none reply imo is a polite way of saying not interested. I understand someone ignoring you in real life is rude, but women online reading and replying to everything is like a celebrity stopping and answering every single question from every single paparazzi, every day they leave their house.

It's gotta be exhausting.

There would come a point where you just walk through the noise and choose the select few you want to have a sit down and have a conversation with.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion

Do you write back to every junk mail that gets posted throigh your letter box?

How much junk mail to get through the post asks for a shag

None, just the Postie!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Is it rude OP to nessage someone whos profile you don't fit?

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion "

I have what I’m looking for in my profile. People who still message regardless looking for something completely different is extremely rude, and they’ll be getting ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I started on the site I tried to reply no thank you to those who I wasn't interested in.

But it seemed to open a dialogue which men (my experience) take it as the chance to try to convince you. It get tiring so I just delete them now.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

No one is owed anything here.

Even if I promised to have sex with someone, I can change my mind AT THE MEET. While their parts are inside my parts.

And if they keep going anyway, guess what THAT is?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Yeah and people still msg 2 or 3 more times despite deleting or even saying no thanks. So it makes no difference what we do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not really your business if people choose to not read or delete your message op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty of looking at the first few words of a message and deleting them.

I don't do it to be a bitch, I just can't be arsed to read them.

I don't turn my filters off for messages as some people on fab I chat too daily so still want those ones to appear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion

It's gotta be exhausting.

There would come a point where you just walk through the noise and choose the select few you want to have a sit down and have a conversation with."

Love this response

A picture in hot pics page 3 got me 600 messages over two days.

And they all want a reply?

I wonder how many emails these guys answer in a day at work.

Imagine the women in page 1.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion "

It’s rude to call someone rude because they don’t match your expected behaviour.

Send a message and delete it from your sent box. If there is an interest you’ll get a response. Anything else is no one else’s business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...well maybe the same

At least ya know not to message again.

Just gettin ignored. Message stays yellow I understand it can be missed with the volume of messages women get

Yellow message being read and not replied or deleted is very rude. In my opinion

It’s rude to call someone rude because they don’t match your expected behaviour.

Send a message and delete it from your sent box. If there is an interest you’ll get a response. Anything else is no one else’s business

I actually delete messages that I reply to, if they don't reply I have no idea and that's less disappointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is owed anything here.

Even if I promised to have sex with someone, I can change my mind AT THE MEET. While their parts are inside my parts.

And if they keep going anyway, guess what THAT is?"

How’s this relevant to what the op asked???

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

"I prefer a delete to a "no" reply. Saves me having to block them.

With No replies, a warning message comes up to remind me of messaging previously "

Does it? So those that repeat message know it's not been read and carry on regardless. Never knew that.

I think no reply is obvious no thank you.

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you."

This

Also, hasn't this topic been done to death?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah and people still msg 2 or 3 more times despite deleting or even saying no thanks. So it makes no difference what we do!"

I'm gonna message you 7 times in a row now, just to be a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

This

Also, hasn't this topic been done to death?"

Yeah but the men haven't been done to death yet

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

This

Also, hasn't this topic been done to death?"

Not everyone knows what happens in the forum

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

This

Also, hasn't this topic been done to death?

Yeah but the men haven't been done to death yet

That’s the problem

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

This

Also, hasn't this topic been done to death?

Yeah but the men haven't been done to death yet

That’s the problem

the whole of Fab might be in agreement on this one.

it's a Christmas miracle!

oh shit. too late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love being told how to use the site by men. It's just like being on Bumble.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Let’s just round them all up and take them out to the woodshed. On the way, they can cut their own switch.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

I’ve never seen a post like this before…

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"If you read site rules, no reply is to be taken as a polite no thank you.

This

Also, hasn't this topic been done to death?

Yeah but the men haven't been done to death yet

That’s the problem

the whole of Fab might be in agreement on this one.

it's a Christmas miracle!

oh shit. too late"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s a rejection I’ve had (in real life):

You should be gassed.

The fucking scum! Sorry to have read that

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