FabSwingers.com forum: Pre planned sex.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With Fab and the arranging to meet up with people we are literally planning to be sexy that day /hour aren’t we? So, is it sexy can you turn your sexy on? Or is it just not as hot as something more spontaneous?

* someone mentioned something somewhere else before.

How do you make sure that things are going to stay positive?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I plan it for times that I know I'm in relaxed mode and not having to think about every day stuff

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

If both of you (or all of you!) have been building a good level of want and need and desperation for each other, then it doesn’t pose a problem. If anything there’s just the glorious release of finally getting hold of each other.

But sometimes you’re just not both (or all …) on the same page at the same time. That’s when it can be awkward. When there’s an imbalance or mismatch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a social? Or is it a ‘let’s meet & fuck planned already’ ?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

A bit of build up helps. A bit of flirting.

What I don’t like is the “I’m going to do this, this and this and you’ll cum from this, this and this”. I find that dull, boring and far too serious.

Sex itself should be fun and things (moves etc) should be spontaneous. Go with the flow.

That way it’s chilled out and there is no pressure on either party to behave or react a certain way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got no concerns turning it on.

I'll make sure I'm freshly showered, have my hair did, smelling nice etc.

And then when I'm ready I'll just say "gis a go then luv"

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.

"With Fab and the arranging to meet up with people we are literally planning to be sexy that day /hour aren’t we? So, is it sexy can you turn your sexy on? Or is it just not as hot as something more spontaneous?

* someone mentioned something somewhere else before.

How do you make sure that things are going to stay positive?

This is one of the reasons I personally prefer club meets.... as I hate the feeling of pre planned fun x

Cali

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If I'm not excited enough just by the anticipation of seeing them, I'm not arranging to meet them in the first place

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I always wear my leather trousers on a date. Instant switch that gets their hearts racing. They should be illegal really, it's almost not fair.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"If I'm not excited enough just by the anticipation of seeing them, I'm not arranging to meet them in the first place

Exactly this.

This is also why a social meet is fundental to me. You could have incredible sexual rapport and/or chemistry online, but there is nothing when you meet in person. That makes it very awkward.

By the time I arrange a social with someone I am pretty sure I want to take things further, but the social has been a lifesaver on a few occasions, haha

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If I'm wanting to have sex with said person enough, usually the thought of them and sex will get things going.

Even if I was really tired, I know seeing them would soon change that!

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By *outhern man.Man
over a year ago

Weymouth

Love the build up.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

The act of getting ready for a meet or heading to a club pretty much always gets me in the mood. I think it is the excitement and nerves about what is ahead that gets the ticker working properly.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't really like spontaneous sex. With someone I know? Sure. But then the spontaneity somewhat vanishes with planning.

If I'm attracted to and wanting to have sex with someone it would take an awful lot for that to change. Normally in the run up to it there's all of those fantastic flirty messages, the energy of anticipation... by the time I do meet someone I'm normally really rather keen.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

* someone mentioned something somewhere else before.

How do you make sure that things are going to stay positive?

"
sex is an in the moment thing and continues with how horny you both are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh but if he's planning to arrive at mine at a planned time on a planned day, I can....

Get my outfit planned

Plan my timings to shower, shave, put make up on etc.

I can even plan what music will be playing.

And then I can plan what I'll do when I open the door to be sexy.

Or I'll just be spontaneous with him when he's arrived. Though I'll always plan to kiss him when he arrives. That could mean being pinned against the wall, the radiator or even my fridge freezer when I plan to make him a cuppa. So many options.

Or I could get him to plan how's he's going to restrain me.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"Oh but if he's planning to arrive at mine at a planned time on a planned day, I can....

Get my outfit planned

Plan my timings to shower, shave, put make up on etc.

I can even plan what music will be playing.

And then I can plan what I'll do when I open the door to be sexy.

Or I could get him to plan how's he's going to restrain me. "

This is usually how it goes for me too. I love the awkward, would you like a cup of tea tension.

Just get here already against the wall!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm sexy all the time... aren't you?

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spontaneous is great but I like planning something and having something to look forward too.

Having a few drinks, a good chat and a laugh before we jump into bed with them is usually preferred.

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sexy all the time... aren't you?

Cal"

Yes. Yes I am.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Having a date/time creates a target and a ticking clock, which leads to build up and excitement, for me anyway. Its not hard to be turned on when there's a meet on the horizon

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It depends I can't just switch my sexy time on.

If there's a good build up via text, good flirt then yeah I can be sexy (ish)

I do find that initial point sometimes awkward though & it's that expectation, I don't like being expected to perform I'd rather go with the flow, but again as an awkward person the flow can be tricky (people just stay away from awkward old me its not sexy)

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends I can't just switch my sexy time on.

If there's a good build up via text, good flirt then yeah I can be sexy (ish)

Mrs "

I think when's there's the right chemistry there isn't awkwardness and your sexy will just be there and in full force and be incredibly exciting at the same time.

If the chemistry isn't right then yes awkward is definitely a thing.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"It depends I can't just switch my sexy time on.

If there's a good build up via text, good flirt then yeah I can be sexy (ish)

Mrs

I think when's there's the right chemistry there isn't awkwardness and your sexy will just be there and in full force and be incredibly exciting at the same time.

If the chemistry isn't right then yes awkward is definitely a thing."

This is exactly right & I don't know until I'm there in person if that chemistry is there or not, so pre planning the sex can just leave awkward old me.

Mrs

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes, I can absolutely just "turn my sexy on". Set a date, a time and a place, and I can turn up and perform.

It's good to be organised. Perfect preparation prevents piss-poor performance, et cetera.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"If I'm not excited enough just by the anticipation of seeing them, I'm not arranging to meet them in the first place

Well said. This goes for me too.

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