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By *ackandkate OP   Couple
over a year ago

Truro

It's Kate's Mom's birthday today and we've a candle for her.

She died 16months ago but she's still with us.

She's in a box on our window sill.

Kate says she don't want her to go just yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i have my pets in ashes too in boxes... for when we go thay are coming with us.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

It's not something I would do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're weird in other ways.... But not for that. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's Kate's Mom's birthday today and we've a candle for her.

She died 16months ago but she's still with us.

She's in a box on our window sill.

Kate says she don't want her to go just yet "
I think its fine and it helps to keep her close to her mum ... I understand she is not ready to move them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keeping ashes on the house, not at all, similar things have been done since year dot, at least its not a relative buried under the fireplace.

Having such a discussion on this site, yep, a little weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keeping ashes on the house, not at all, similar things have been done since year dot, at least its not a relative buried under the fireplace.

Having such a discussion on this site, yep, a little weird."
we chat about most things here life death god , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not surprising how many people keep their loved ones close by after they've passed.. So hard to let go!!

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Grieving is a very personal thing. If having her mum's ashes close is comforting to Kate then it's the right thing for her to do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

one thing I've discovered in my 50 odd years of living is that if it isn't hurting anyone it's not weird. If it positively helps then what can be bad about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keeping ashes on the house, not at all, similar things have been done since year dot, at least its not a relative buried under the fireplace.

Having such a discussion on this site, yep, a little weird."

Where do you suggest they have this discussion ?

As for the OP. Not particularly weird, a friend of mine had done the same thing.

It's not something we would do though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not weird at all . I have my husbands ashes in my hallway and its good to have different topics if the moderators thought it was weird they wouldnt let us post the thread

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By *ackandkate OP   Couple
over a year ago

Truro

My Mom kept my Dad's ashes and we scattered her with my Dad.

Mom used to bring my Dad's ashes with her when she visited us in Cornwall, and it's because of the peace it bought her, that Kate said she wanted to experience it too.

It doesn't bother me on iota, but I know some people think we're a bit weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, your not weirdo's...

How you mark someone's passing is down to your goodselfs. In western civilisation, it has become our custom to move on and try and not dwell too much on death.

But death is part of life, it should be celebrated just as much as birth and how you celebrate someone's memory is down to you.

Someone once said to me... 'To live without family and friends, is to die without witnesses..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My cousin has the ashes of her daughter on her bedside table...she died 21 years ago. It's not something I'd do but we all take solace in different ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have some of my past partner still - is going to the grave with me - kids and anybody i care about knows this - the rest of him has been scattered in places he asked me to - not wierd at all - comforting i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it with people that makes seance as they were close. Animals well its a bit freaky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's Kate's Mom's birthday today and we've a candle for her.

She died 16 months ago but she's still with us.

She's in a box on our window sill.

Kate says she don't want her to go just yet "

No, you're not weird. Not something I would do, but if it makes Kate feel better having her there, so be it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keeping ashes on the house, not at all, similar things have been done since year dot, at least its not a relative buried under the fireplace.

Having such a discussion on this site, yep, a little weird.

Where do you suggest they have this discussion ?

"

Oh I don't know, somewhere you can discuss sensitive personal issues like grief and the like with an avatar responding that's a little more serious than wonky cocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's Kate's Mom's birthday today and we've a candle for her.

She died 16months ago but she's still with us.

She's in a box on our window sill.

Kate says she don't want her to go just yet "

Kate will make her decision on when to let her mum go in her own good time. In the meantime, it doesn't cost you anything at all to have her mum's ashes in your house - it's just a box of dust as the person it represents is ever present in Kate's heart and mind, isn't she.

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

I would feel wierd that someone would keep my ashes on a windowsill and not scatter me to the wind which is what I would wish.

I believe the body is a functional gene carrier with a sell by date but the soul is eternal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would feel wierd that someone would keep my ashes on a windowsill and not scatter me to the wind which is what I would wish.

I believe the body is a functional gene carrier with a sell by date but the soul is eternal. "

I remember a story from a couple of years ago whereby a scientist wanted to confirm if we have a soul or not by having himself weighed at the moment of his death. It involved him being sealed into an airtight container when he only had moments to live and then the entire box was weighed, then the moment he expired he would be weighed again. His theory was that if we had souls and his left his body it would register even a tiny loss in his overall weight.

I believe the experiment wasn't approved and thus the question over whether we have a soul or not is still unanswered.

Interesting theory though.

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

why not, there are many examples of simbionic existences, birds, cleaning crocs teeth - maybe this is another example. Souls helping the gene perpetuate.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Jack and Kate you know you are weird.

Not for the ashes, that's human nature. It's not that long since a persons body would be laid out in the house for up to a week so farewells could be made.

But deffo weird in other ways and we love you for it.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Not wierd at all..

and this forum is entirely the appropriate place..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my younger brothers ashes were scattered on his favourite beach in north devon, it was his wish and although its quite away from us to visit regularly, we do know hes in his in his favourite spot and hes resting peacefully !!!

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

i respect kate for that, my hubby wants his ashes scattered in blackpool, thats his wish and thats what i will do (god forbid not for a long long while yet)

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"It's Kate's Mom's birthday today and we've a candle for her.

She died 16months ago but she's still with us.

She's in a box on our window sill.

Kate says she don't want her to go just yet "

Jack,the ashes story doesn't make you weird,it makes you weirder.

In the nicest possible way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats sweet, lighting a candle xx

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"I would feel wierd that someone would keep my ashes on a windowsill and not scatter me to the wind which is what I would wish.

I believe the body is a functional gene carrier with a sell by date but the soul is eternal.

I remember a story from a couple of years ago whereby a scientist wanted to confirm if we have a soul or not by having himself weighed at the moment of his death. It involved him being sealed into an airtight container when he only had moments to live and then the entire box was weighed, then the moment he expired he would be weighed again. His theory was that if we had souls and his left his body it would register even a tiny loss in his overall weight.

I believe the experiment wasn't approved and thus the question over whether we have a soul or not is still unanswered.

Interesting theory though."

Whats interesting is that someone actually thought that the soul was something that would weigh something, no matter how minute. Surely if we have a 'soul' it would not be in a form that could be 'weighed'?

Sometimes I confuse myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, always in your heart and if it gives you comfort that's goodxxx

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"i respect kate for that, my hubby wants his ashes scattered in blackpool, thats his wish and thats what i will do (god forbid not for a long long while yet)"

We threw my nan and gramps off the end of Central Pier in Blackpool. It was a place they loved and spent many happy holidays together.

My nan kept my grandads ashes in an urn that went everywhere with her.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I popped down the cemetry earlier to swap the flowers and had a quick chat to my dad. When the weather is nice and we have got the headstone up i will spend longer down there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter tuppence what anybody else thinks.

If your lady finds comfort in it, then that's fine and end of story!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I light a candle every year for my little sister, little brother, older sister and my best mate. all of whom sadly passed away. I don't think its weird at all. Its just a way of remembering and paying respect.

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