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"* How often do you message first? Rarely. I only reach out if I have something to say to someone. * How often do you get a reply? Most times I think. * If you don't send first message, then why not? I'm not actively seeking to add anyone new to my love life. I've no need to reach out for that which is what most people assume a first message is about. If I have a real query I do message. If I don't, I don't. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? I didn't. It's just not what I'm here for. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? The pictures. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? The attitude. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? I usually do. The only time I don't is when there's absolutely nothing to say. Or because blocking them seems a more appropriate response. * Do you pick who do you reply based on look (face, body, genitals), message content, what's in their profile or the combination of all? I reply to pretty much anyone that isn't being a complete cunt. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? I message people I find interesting in some way." *** WOW! Thanks for the detailed and brutally honest comment.  | |||
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"I message first all the time, if I see someone that interests me. Replies? Probably a 50-50 split on replied or deleted. Why? Because I attach a face pic with any introductory message and I assume that I’m not what they’re looking for when it’s deleted. " *** Do you: * Just move on and never message them again in the future? * Block them for the above^ reason? * Delete message/face photo after 1 day to a week? * Message back "No worries/Thanks for the reply" when you receive a "Not for me/No thanks" reply? | |||
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" How often do you message first? Probably about 20% * How often do you get a reply? 50/50 * If you don't send first message, then why not? Because I CBA. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? Because we aren't currently meeting. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? Because I read a profile and I'm polite. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? This is an answer no one knows. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? Because they are a man, they stuck their genitals in the inbox or an obvious copy and paste. * Do you pick who do you reply based on look (face, body, genitals), message content, what's in their profile or the combination of all? Profile Face and body mainly, genitals unless they look alien like I don't really care. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? Profile & pics - if there's pics then body & face, if there's just genitals I wouldn't have messaged. Mrs " *** Thanks for the taking the time. Everyone has an idea why they didn't get a reply, but it's a good choice not to think about it. "What if" usually not good for people, but sometimes it's needed to improve. I mean it in general, not you. | |||
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" How often do you message first? Probably about 20% * How often do you get a reply? 50/50 * If you don't send first message, then why not? Because I CBA. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? Because we aren't currently meeting. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? Because I read a profile and I'm polite. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? This is an answer no one knows. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? Because they are a man, they stuck their genitals in the inbox or an obvious copy and paste. * Do you pick who do you reply based on look (face, body, genitals), message content, what's in their profile or the combination of all? Profile Face and body mainly, genitals unless they look alien like I don't really care. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? Profile & pics - if there's pics then body & face, if there's just genitals I wouldn't have messaged. Mrs *** Thanks for the taking the time. Everyone has an idea why they didn't get a reply, but it's a good choice not to think about it. "What if" usually not good for people, but sometimes it's needed to improve. I mean it in general, not you. "I guess they don't reply because they aren't interested, same as everyone really. Mrs | |||
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"Rarely i prefer to let them approach me "* How is that working out for you?  | |||
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" How often do you message first? Probably about 20% * How often do you get a reply? 50/50 * If you don't send first message, then why not? Because I CBA. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? Because we aren't currently meeting. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? Because I read a profile and I'm polite. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? This is an answer no one knows. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? Because they are a man, they stuck their genitals in the inbox or an obvious copy and paste. * Do you pick who do you reply based on look (face, body, genitals), message content, what's in their profile or the combination of all? Profile Face and body mainly, genitals unless they look alien like I don't really care. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? Profile & pics - if there's pics then body & face, if there's just genitals I wouldn't have messaged. Mrs *** Thanks for the taking the time. Everyone has an idea why they didn't get a reply, but it's a good choice not to think about it. "What if" usually not good for people, but sometimes it's needed to improve. I mean it in general, not you.
I guess they don't reply because they aren't interested, same as everyone really.
Mrs "*** I guess couples less likely to overthink the "why not/what if", because they aren't alone. Probably most women either, because they get a lot of attention/choices. That leaves single guys, but I'm sure not everyone is taking it too bad, otherwise the men/women ratio would change drastically all the time. | |||
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"Is a repeat of this topic, this soon, really needed Op I worry you’re becoming almost obsessive about it. I hope you’re ok dude. It’s not something you can control " *** I think it was unfinished and this one is better. I'm on annual leave until Wednesday, so I won't have many threads. Obsessive? Slightly. Bored? Not anymore. I'm okay, but thanks for asking. | |||
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Sorry to be a bit of a downer, but single guy life on here is hard and somewhat confidence crushing, I've only been officially back for a week and I'm already feeling defeated. | |||
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"* How often do you message first? * How often do you get a reply? * If you don't send first message, then why not? * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? * What's the most common reason you don't reply? * Do you pick who do you reply based on look (face, body, genitals), message content, what's in their profile or the combination of all? * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? *** I know... Plenty of questions, but answering any is good enough. (Milking the success of the previous thread with (hopefully) less negative energy, but being honest is the most important.) " I heard guys send loads.. | |||
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"* How often do you message first? Every time, sadly as a single guy with average or below average, looks you really have to make the first move. * How often do you get a reply? Less than 1%, but it's understandable considering the man to woman ratio. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? Lack of replies can get very demoralizing. I think I've tried it all, Like adding a joke, mentioning something about their profile that we have in common, or asking them a question, or generally trying to start a conversation with them like a normal human being. Trying to start a conversation with someone as a written message is really hard for me, I personally prefer talking to people in person, as my terrible jokes and mannerisms come off a lot better, but getting to talk to anyone on here seems virtually impossible unless you can get to a meet. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? Been a while since I got one, same thing I've been doing all along so probably a random joke and trying to initiate a conversation with them. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? Could be a number of reasons, my message gets buried under a million other ones, Or even on the slim chance it does get read, my first messages are most likely not good enough as mentioned before, Or the most likely reason being looks wise, I don't match their personal tastes. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? Well if I could get any messages I would reply, even if I'm not interested. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? I would be lying if I said looks don't play a factor in things, as there does need to be a physical attraction. Personality is a big factor as well for me, nothing worse when you see a lazy one line profile of "ask to find out," and the irony is they will probably still find someone before me anyway.
Sorry to be a bit of a downer, but single guy life on here is hard and somewhat confidence crushing, I've only been officially back for a week and I'm already feeling defeated. "*** You don't sound all negative. Some things you mentioned are just how things are on Fab, or often in life. It is frustrating sometimes, but try what I do. Try to just limit messaging, if the no replies annoy you / crush your confidence, and just come on the forum. Some says it makes you feel better, but sometimes worse. In overall it makes you feel better. If you're lucky, then you will find some people from your area here. You might get on and maybe even meet. | |||
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"* How often do you message first? * How often do you get a reply? * If you don't send first message, then why not? * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? * What's the most common reason you don't reply? * Do you pick who do you reply based on look (face, body, genitals), message content, what's in their profile or the combination of all? * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? *** I know... Plenty of questions, but answering any is good enough. (Milking the success of the previous thread with (hopefully) less negative energy, but being honest is the most important.) I heard guys send loads.. " * You heard or experienced?  | |||
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"* How often do you message first? Every time, sadly as a single guy with average or below average, looks you really have to make the first move. * How often do you get a reply? Less than 1%, but it's understandable considering the man to woman ratio. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? Lack of replies can get very demoralizing. I think I've tried it all, Like adding a joke, mentioning something about their profile that we have in common, or asking them a question, or generally trying to start a conversation with them like a normal human being. Trying to start a conversation with someone as a written message is really hard for me, I personally prefer talking to people in person, as my terrible jokes and mannerisms come off a lot better, but getting to talk to anyone on here seems virtually impossible unless you can get to a meet. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? Been a while since I got one, same thing I've been doing all along so probably a random joke and trying to initiate a conversation with them. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? Could be a number of reasons, my message gets buried under a million other ones, Or even on the slim chance it does get read, my first messages are most likely not good enough as mentioned before, Or the most likely reason being looks wise, I don't match their personal tastes. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? Well if I could get any messages I would reply, even if I'm not interested. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? I would be lying if I said looks don't play a factor in things, as there does need to be a physical attraction. Personality is a big factor as well for me, nothing worse when you see a lazy one line profile of "ask to find out," and the irony is they will probably still find someone before me anyway.
Sorry to be a bit of a downer, but single guy life on here is hard and somewhat confidence crushing, I've only been officially back for a week and I'm already feeling defeated.
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You don't sound all negative.
Some things you mentioned are just how things are on Fab, or often in life.
It is frustrating sometimes, but try what I do.
Try to just limit messaging, if the no replies annoy you / crush your confidence, and just come on the forum.
Some says it makes you feel better, but sometimes worse.
In overall it makes you feel better.
If you're lucky, then you will find some people from your area here.
You might get on and maybe even meet. "Thanks Roland it's much appreciated, when I first signed up I think I did the traditional guy approach and messaged every single woman within reach. Nowadays I only tend to message people I think I would make a good match with and could get on well with them. | |||
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"* How often do you message first? Every time, sadly as a single guy with average or below average, looks you really have to make the first move. * How often do you get a reply? Less than 1%, but it's understandable considering the man to woman ratio. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? Lack of replies can get very demoralizing. I think I've tried it all, Like adding a joke, mentioning something about their profile that we have in common, or asking them a question, or generally trying to start a conversation with them like a normal human being. Trying to start a conversation with someone as a written message is really hard for me, I personally prefer talking to people in person, as my terrible jokes and mannerisms come off a lot better, but getting to talk to anyone on here seems virtually impossible unless you can get to a meet. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? Been a while since I got one, same thing I've been doing all along so probably a random joke and trying to initiate a conversation with them. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? Could be a number of reasons, my message gets buried under a million other ones, Or even on the slim chance it does get read, my first messages are most likely not good enough as mentioned before, Or the most likely reason being looks wise, I don't match their personal tastes. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? Well if I could get any messages I would reply, even if I'm not interested. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? I would be lying if I said looks don't play a factor in things, as there does need to be a physical attraction. Personality is a big factor as well for me, nothing worse when you see a lazy one line profile of "ask to find out," and the irony is they will probably still find someone before me anyway.
Sorry to be a bit of a downer, but single guy life on here is hard and somewhat confidence crushing, I've only been officially back for a week and I'm already feeling defeated.
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You don't sound all negative.
Some things you mentioned are just how things are on Fab, or often in life.
It is frustrating sometimes, but try what I do.
Try to just limit messaging, if the no replies annoy you / crush your confidence, and just come on the forum.
Some says it makes you feel better, but sometimes worse.
In overall it makes you feel better.
If you're lucky, then you will find some people from your area here.
You might get on and maybe even meet.
Thanks Roland it's much appreciated, when I first signed up I think I did the traditional guy approach and messaged every single woman within reach.
Nowadays I only tend to message people I think I would make a good match with and could get on well with them. "* I did the same in when I joined, plus I was determined, so didn't give up straight. Well, never gave up really, but I'm really limiting it as well. Something sticks out in username/bio, might see connection and they aren't too hot. Sometimes I message really hot ones, if they come across approachable. Couples not often, but funnily they're more likely to message guys. I mean rarely, but they do sometimes. | |||
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"* How often do you message first? Every time, sadly as a single guy with average or below average, looks you really have to make the first move. * How often do you get a reply? Less than 1%, but it's understandable considering the man to woman ratio. * If you gave up messaging, then why did you give up? Lack of replies can get very demoralizing. I think I've tried it all, Like adding a joke, mentioning something about their profile that we have in common, or asking them a question, or generally trying to start a conversation with them like a normal human being. Trying to start a conversation with someone as a written message is really hard for me, I personally prefer talking to people in person, as my terrible jokes and mannerisms come off a lot better, but getting to talk to anyone on here seems virtually impossible unless you can get to a meet. * Why do you think you mostly get a reply? Been a while since I got one, same thing I've been doing all along so probably a random joke and trying to initiate a conversation with them. * Why do you think you mostly don't get a reply? Could be a number of reasons, my message gets buried under a million other ones, Or even on the slim chance it does get read, my first messages are most likely not good enough as mentioned before, Or the most likely reason being looks wise, I don't match their personal tastes. * What's the most common reason you don't reply? Well if I could get any messages I would reply, even if I'm not interested. * Do you pick who do you message based on look (face, body, genitals), what's in their profile or the combination of all? I would be lying if I said looks don't play a factor in things, as there does need to be a physical attraction. Personality is a big factor as well for me, nothing worse when you see a lazy one line profile of "ask to find out," and the irony is they will probably still find someone before me anyway.
Sorry to be a bit of a downer, but single guy life on here is hard and somewhat confidence crushing, I've only been officially back for a week and I'm already feeling defeated.
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You don't sound all negative.
Some things you mentioned are just how things are on Fab, or often in life.
It is frustrating sometimes, but try what I do.
Try to just limit messaging, if the no replies annoy you / crush your confidence, and just come on the forum.
Some says it makes you feel better, but sometimes worse.
In overall it makes you feel better.
If you're lucky, then you will find some people from your area here.
You might get on and maybe even meet.
Thanks Roland it's much appreciated, when I first signed up I think I did the traditional guy approach and messaged every single woman within reach.
Nowadays I only tend to message people I think I would make a good match with and could get on well with them. "* I checked your profile. You're a better looking guy than me. Your bio is better. You had meets. The only thing I suggest, is putting some full body photos and remove that third party crap from the end. Otherwise it's good in my opinion. To be honest I'll add passions sections to mine and probably remove some of my photos. To be honest I'm looking for a bit different crowd than you. | |||
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