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By *enuineguy42 OP Man
over a year ago

worcester

Heres a question that Id like to take a poll on. I was talking to a friend recently whose married. As the guy he supports his wife financially and doesnt ask her for any money to run the house etc. He was saying that he literally does everything around the house, washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking etc is this nornal as I get the impression hes not happy nor is he appreciated

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Why did he get married if he wasn't happy with the domestic arrangements?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah she’s a free loaded cunt. He needs to fuck her off.

The mr

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Dosnt sound much of a partnership Im thinking.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

It can be these days women have become powerful in every area of life, the workplace and here and so therefore a married couple with a dominating female has become a lot more common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say that sounds shit. Tell him to tell her to pull her weight. Relationships should be equal partnerships, especially when sharing a home

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Heres a question that Id like to take a poll on. I was talking to a friend recently whose married. As the guy he supports his wife financially and doesnt ask her for any money to run the house etc. He was saying that he literally does everything around the house, washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking etc is this nornal as I get the impression hes not happy nor is he appreciated "

Doesn't sound feasible, if he's earning etc how does he find the time to do all he's claimed..

Have you asked your friends wife what her view is?

If he's still there he could be ok deep down but just having a whine..

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"It can be these days women have become powerful in every area of life, the workplace and here and so therefore a married couple with a dominating female has become a lot more common

Although being a powerful woman doesn't necessarily relate to not pulling your weight in a marriage - that's different

S xxx

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Can’t make a hoe a housewife

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

The sound of the stocks and the ducking stool being readied for this woman..

So predictable..

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Can’t make a hoe a housewife

How does not pulling your weight make you a hoe

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

How the tables have turned...

If he isn't happy ask for and get change to the situation.

Otherwise leave.

I do wonder though, based on personal experience, if he thinks he does so much in the home but in reality he doesn't. Then it will come as a huge surprise to him when he has to live on his own that he wasn't actually doing very much at all.

MrsAbz

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

People tell stories and exaggerate all the time.

You don't know how true any of it is. Support your friend in feeling hard done to, ask him how he intends to improve the situation, but don't judge both sides when you only hear one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More fool him for doing it. Tell your mate to have a very honest conversation with his wife as she's taking advantage of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what does she do?

I wouldn’t stand for that, but to each their own. It’s not our opinion that matters, is whether he’s happy like that or not

Sounds like he’s a traditional guy without a tradition girl. Weird combo

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Can’t make a hoe a housewife

How does not pulling your weight make you a hoe

Because the good Dr said so

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

Sounds like me and my ex husband. I supported him financially and did everything around the house. It was like having a 40 year old child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t make a hoe a housewife

How does not pulling your weight make you a hoe

Because the good Dr said so

this deserves more recognition. Made me laugh and got the reference straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People tell stories and exaggerate all the time.

You don't know how true any of it is. Support your friend in feeling hard done to, ask him how he intends to improve the situation, but don't judge both sides when you only hear one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, that’s one side of the story.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"It can be these days women have become powerful in every area of life, the workplace and here and so therefore a married couple with a dominating female has become a lot more common

Although being a powerful woman doesn't necessarily relate to not pulling your weight in a marriage - that's different

S xxx "
A powerful Dom woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend, you say.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"It can be these days women have become powerful in every area of life, the workplace and here and so therefore a married couple with a dominating female has become a lot more common

Get back in the kitchen, Fred.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Sounds like me and my ex husband. I supported him financially and did everything around the house. It was like having a 40 year old child "

Every year I celebrate my “annivorcery”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How the tables have turned...

If he isn't happy ask for and get change to the situation.

Otherwise leave.

MrsAbz "

Haha this is what I think when I put a few dishes away

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Why did he marry her? He could just go on strike, or only clean up after himself. Same advice I'd give if the genders were reversed.

What if a child came into the family? He wouldn't be able to do all the childcare too.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

You could stage an intervention, and volunteer to act as mediator. Then get her side of the story too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did he marry her? He could just go on strike, or only clean up after himself. Same advice I'd give if the genders were reversed.

What if a child came into the family? He wouldn't be able to do all the childcare too. "

I definitely wouldn’t recommend going on strike or only cleaning his mess. Really passive aggressive and childish. I’d say communicate like adults and take steps to try and find a resolution

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

There is no normal. What's normal for some people isn't for others. There used to be a great TV called "Wife Swap" (it wasn't about swinging!), couples would swap partners for a weekend and prove everybody lives differently. What a great show it was!

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We aren't getting the full story here, so any replies say more about us then them.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"How the tables have turned...

If he isn't happy ask for and get change to the situation.

Otherwise leave.

MrsAbz

Haha this is what I think when I put a few dishes away "

You are not alone in that thought process

MrsAbz

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

"Why did he marry her? He could just go on strike, or only clean up after himself. Same advice I'd give if the genders were reversed.

What if a child came into the family? He wouldn't be able to do all the childcare too. "

I married someone like this and let me tell you… he wasn’t like that before we got married.

People who don’t know always judge the most.

If I had gone “on strike” or only cleaned up after myself, we’d be living in a shithole and then homeless. It wasn’t really an option. Leaving was the only option in the end but it wasn’t exactly easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My soon to be ex made a big show of "paying all the bills" and used to moan that I didn't contribute anything.

In reality I was working a full time job, doing all the housework, paying for all of our sundries (when you live with a man demanding takeaways 7 days a week is no joke) and being kept in an eternally confused state as to why we had no money.

In reality the bills were far less than what I was spending and he kept the excess to fund his lavish lifestyle of prozzies, foreign adventures for himself and luxury vehicles.

There's always two sides to every story

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Trouble is op, you're only hearing his side of the story.

If what he says is true, he needs to have a frank discussion with her and tell her he's unhappy and that changes need to be made.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

He should talk to his wife and seek couples or individual counselling, not ask for advice via a friend on a swinging forum.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Heres a question that Id like to take a poll on. I was talking to a friend recently who’s married. As the guy he supports his wife financially and doesnt ask her for any money to run the house etc. He was saying that he literally does everything around the house, washing, ironing, cleaning, cooking etc is this nornal as I get the impression hes not happy nor is he appreciated "

As others have said, we’re only hearing one side of the story and third hand at that.

Your language intrigues me though - you say “As the guy he supports his wife”. That sounds like an archaic attitude to being the man in a relationship. I wonder if he was expecting to be the breadwinner and have her do all the housekeeping?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Two sides to every marital moan.

However I would have thought they lived together before getting married? Surely both parties knew what they were getting?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What's the question?

If this man is unhappy he should change things. If he's not he shouldn't.

You will never get both sides of the story from someone telling you about their marriage.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

And what does she have to say on the matter?

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