FabSwingers.com forum: Maintaining libido/ interest after 50

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Right here's the thing for many people by the time they reach this age most couples and fair few singles have had a long sex life and "generally" done all the fucking.

Unless you have come out of a long sexless relationship and you're on a voyage of discovery and a sexual awakening.

Or if you have been single and not had many fucks.

We have been together 37years and on average taking away illness and pregnancy we have been having sex together 5/7 days a week for that many years do the math that's alot of fucking.

Started swinging about ten years ago,ticked most of the boxes.

Being realistic staying Horny over 50 is difficult hormonal changes, priorities change and medical issues.

There's lot's of bravado on here people bragging but truth is keeping it going is tough.

It's not that we want to stop because the desire is still there.

Aiming this question at people over 50 who will answer honestly without braggy bravado (men) how has your libido been since passing the big 50?

Have your priorities changed to become more family orientated, energy levels, and comfort levels.

Not to mention physical changes in that it's so much harder to maintain a good physical appearance now.

Work seems harder and more physical now than ever plus day to day stress.

Lot's of questions, hopefully this is a proper discussion that can engage rather than the usual " what's your favourite...." thread

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm aware that I rarely just feel horny but still enjoy having sex

I don't stress about it

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

I had all the same issues at 30, had hormone levels tested and came back as testosterone being low, might be worth at least getting tested to rule it out (if it’s the male half of the couple writing this post thst is) hormone levels naturally decline as we age but even more so in modern day. Might be hard finding a endo willing to prescribe trt at 50 though might have to go private

For me the difference was night and day made my life worth living again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not over 50 so I can’t talk on that

But if you are a guy over 50, talk to your doctor about TRT

There’s still a lot of negativity around TRT in this country but it’s a medicine like any other and if your levels are low it’s easy to fix and can boost energy and libido

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I became single at 50 after a 26 relationship where we didn't have a lot of sex. I was menopausal so assumed I had a naturally low sex drive that would rapidly diminish. However, for me it was a new lease of life and the beast was unleashed. I have had more sex - and the best, most primal and uninhibited sex - since hitting 50.

Kudos to you guys OP: I guess that is the dream for many of us

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Mine is much better. And I look better too in my opinion. I think I let myself go more bringing up children etc. feel better now than ever and my sex drive is sky high. This is my time now

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I still love sex and have a reasonably high sex drive but nothing like my 40s. I won’t jump in the car to meet a stranger anymore - a good movie and meal is usually more appealing - I only want sex with people I know well. I won’t do orgies or groups anymore , it’s all been done and I’ve no interest in doing it all again.

I worked out some numbers for my 40s recently with a friend on here , as a bit of a laugh and it’s crazy. It was a huge amount of fun, but it’s truly done.

One thing I’ve really noticed change is repeating and recovery time. It’s still there but not all the time or with anyone like it used to be. Sane with quick sex , it happens but is rare.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

"I had all the same issues at 30, had hormone levels tested and came back as testosterone being low, might be worth at least getting tested to rule it out (if it’s the male half of the couple writing this post thst is) hormone levels naturally decline as we age but even more so in modern day. Might be hard finding a endo willing to prescribe trt at 50 though might have to go private

For me the difference was night and day made my life worth living again "

I was about to suggest exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too busy thinking about the Roman Empire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the difference was night and day made my life worth living again "

Is it possible to be prescribed TRT for erm... Other reasons than labido?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well I always had a weird, wild, adventurous and wonderful sex life.

About 3 and 1/2 years ago I had an epiphany. I had done everything I ever wanted to do numerous times so decided I didn't need to have sex anymore so became celebrate and I've never had a sexual thought since. I was about 55 and I will be 59 in march

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

For me the difference was night and day made my life worth living again

Is it possible to be prescribed TRT for erm... Other reasons than labido?

Perhaps privately mate the nhs is notoriously hard to get prescribed trt I was refused as both tests were below normal but second one was marginally higher so was told we will test again in 12 months. I just went self administered route bottle of test is 17 quid lasts 20 weeks at trt levels it’s pennies mate

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By *erkshire8299Man
over a year ago

slough

I am now over 60 so libido gone down a bit...maybe thats the reason I like watching or soft play.

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Definitely not looking at TRT besides I'm diabetic and can't due to it raising blood sugar levels.

We still enjoy sex but the constant desire isn't there like it used to be partly hormonal and partly mental.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Horny still. Couple of operations mean I need the blue pill. More social these days, but still get a bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely not looking at TRT besides I'm diabetic and can't due to it raising blood sugar levels.

We still enjoy sex but the constant desire isn't there like it used to be partly hormonal and partly mental."

As far as I was aware, the studies I’ve seen, TRT can help with type 2

Obviously it’s something everyone should discuss with their doctor, but as posters above have said, NHS doctors are still miles behind on giving men the medicine they need

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Definitely not looking at TRT besides I'm diabetic and can't due to it raising blood sugar levels.

We still enjoy sex but the constant desire isn't there like it used to be partly hormonal and partly mental."

I don't think it's anything you should worry about

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Definitely not looking at TRT besides I'm diabetic and can't due to it raising blood sugar levels.

We still enjoy sex but the constant desire isn't there like it used to be partly hormonal and partly mental.

As far as I was aware, the studies I’ve seen, TRT can help with type 2

Obviously it’s something everyone should discuss with their doctor, but as posters above have said, NHS doctors are still miles behind on giving men the medicine they need "

This is very true Mrs gets HRT thrown at her like smarties, a simple mention of testosterone my GP and I get fobbed off.

I had a full workup last year and test level's are normal.

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

How has your libido been since passing the big 50?

Generally much about the same. There have always been ups and downs – that’s what life throws at you.

For about 20 years I have kept my testosterone blood levels in the same range as those of a 30-year-old man’s.

I have a first class diet, including a wide range of supplements.

I exercise regularly – at least 30 minutes every day except Sunday.

I don’t remember my birthdays, and I don’t know old I am. When asked, I say: “Just past 29”.

The testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) is very difficult and dangerous. Testosterone metabolised in the stomach damages the liver. Doctors and specialists in this country don’t regard the decline of men’s’ sex hormones with ageing as being something requiring intervention.

I used to buy a year’s supply of “Andriol” testosterone replacement capsules during my annual visits to Bangkok, and get my blood tests done by an endocrinologist there. The visits were stopped by Covid-19, and Andriol caps. are no longer produced.

I currently buy “Testosign 40” on line from Singapore, and get some of the blood tests done by my doctor every year.

So far, it’s working – I’m past 50, and still slim, fit, and have no grey hair. I have plenty of get-up-and-go, and I’m never sick, except for a cold maybe every year or two. That’s why I always lie about my age.

It costs time and money, but I reckon that good health is priceless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would definitely agree that a day's work is much harder for me. I start at 9, have lunch, and really want to do nothing past 3.30, just haven't got the mental or physical energy for it. And working late, forget that. My body can't handle that any more. If my job were sex, that would be different, but it's not! Also, alcohol the night before will have much more effect on me now than it did in my 30's, so for a great day I need to avoid it the night before.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

As a single woman over 50, I go through periods of drought in my sex life. So libido isn’t really an issue, because when ‘the sex’ finally happens, it’s usually the ripping off of the clothes and getting flung about the bedroom primal type.

I guess in my case the non sex makes the sex amazing, if that makes sense.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Reiterate TRT. Changed my life your levels will lower over time OP. And what a GP considers normal for your age is all fine and dandy but TRT takes them back up a bit more.

My GP was so understanding on the issue and happily prescribed me it and I feel so much better not just from a sex drive perspective. Mentally it lifts you.

It’s a bit of a postcode lottery sadly.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

How has your libido been since passing the big 50?

Generally much about the same. There have always been ups and downs – that’s what life throws at you.

For about 20 years I have kept my testosterone blood levels in the same range as those of a 30-year-old man’s.

I have a first class diet, including a wide range of supplements.

I exercise regularly – at least 30 minutes every day except Sunday.

I don’t remember my birthdays, and I don’t know old I am. When asked, I say: “Just past 29”.

I currently buy “Testosign 40” on line from Singapore, and get some of the blood tests done by my doctor every year.

It costs time and money, but I reckon that good health is priceless.

Haha those over the counter test boosters often have for more worse side effects than testosterone any oral is far harsher on the liver than injectable testosterone which bypasses the digestion system

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never had a high sex drive and I have never had sex more than twice in one week at any stage in my life.

I was 25 when I first had sex.

I've gone 10 years throughout my entire 40s without having sex or any form of sexual contact at all.

I only joined fab when I was 52 with virtually no experience in comparison to the majority on here but I've never been like a kid in a sweet shop.

I don't need sex or yearn for it but I enjoy it in the moment so I've never given any thought or consideration to where my libido is at any particular time.

It's not something I've had to maintain.

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By *alm_one4Man
over a year ago

RM16

Libido levels are still decently up there, my ability to stay awake long enough, not so much!

I think it can come down to your partner. If you still act sexy with each other then it’s an easy thing to keep going

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Yes. This is very important.

The Andriol and Testosign 40 capsules do not dissolve in the stomach. The testosterone passes into the blood-stream through the small intestine walls, and misses the liver. But it is important to have regular blood tests to check that this is happening.

The standard set of UK blood test s is called a “CBC” (complete blood count) panel. It should include:

A testosterone test. Probably “free” – check that the “normal range” is the same every time.

Some sort of hepatic test – for liver function.

A PSA test (Prostate-Specific Antigen) to check for prostate cancer, which can be made worse by testosterone.

Warning.

1. Do not start using TRT if you have anything wrong with your liver. Consult your specialist first.

2. Do not start using TRT if you have any sort of prostrate cancer. Consult your specialist first.

3. Do not eat testosterone in any tablet, pill or powder form that will dissolve in your stomach. You will damage your liver.

I have written a 3-page guide which I will send by PM or email to anyone who is interested.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Very interesting discussion. I'm over 70 and still think about sex every day (and dream about it too). I was knocked sideways by the hormone therapy I had for prostate cancer four years ago which made me lose all my libido but recovered when it stopped, but the subsequent radiotherapy reduced my testosterone output so I have to use Viagra now to sustain my erection. It would be risky to take TRT in my condition. So I'm not sure where my libido would be if I hadn't had the cancer but I can still perform perfectly well maybe every couple of days, so that seems fine to me as there are a few other things to do in life.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I'm have more sex in the last 4 yrs than I have had in my entire life!

Most of my 30's and 40's I was single & could happily go without. But since joining FAB, I'm way more rampant.

(Plus, menopause has made me even worse!)

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over a year ago

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

"As a single woman over 50, I go through periods of drought in my sex life. So libido isn’t really an issue, because when ‘the sex’ finally happens, it’s usually the ripping off of the clothes and getting flung about the bedroom primal type.

I guess in my case the non sex makes the sex amazing, if that makes sense."

I went a long period where sex wasn’t on the agenda and I sort of bumbled through life a bit, work, things I needed to do, struggling on, that sort of thing.

My life changed radically over four years ago and six months after that I got talking to a woman and six months after that we met.

It was tempestuous, passionate and amazing every time we met. Just couldn’t keep hands off each other and felt right.

Unfortunately I was here, she was elsewhere and distance and timing made it tough and she ended it after over a year.

I’ve went to things in the past year, pretty nervous at first, but it’s helped my confidence to know I’m actually okay, actually enjoy it and it all works. I don’t want to go back to before last year.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

I am 69. Now a widower for few years. Yes I can still get erections , given correct stimulus . This now more so if with female. Not porn . The most difficult thing is finding female at my age. Yes on here plus other sites. So just keep trying and hope to find a female yes who is happy to be with someone my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right here's the thing for many people by the time they reach this age most couples and fair few singles have had a long sex life and "generally" done all the fucking.