FabSwingers.com forum: How many is enough?

By *urve_your_enthusiasm OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

So when I get a message that I find terrible (no effort) or I'm not interested, I delete them, without replying to them. Most of the time I get a second and a third and too often I get 6, 7,... usually I block at this point but I'm curious to see when they'll stop. How many until they think enough is enough? Thoughts please!

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

9 is usually the cut off for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So when I get a message that I find terrible (no effort) or I'm not interested, I delete them, without replying to them. Most of the time I get a second and a third and too often I get 6, 7,... usually I block at this point but I'm curious to see when they'll stop. How many until they think enough is enough? Thoughts please!

I blocked at their second message.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Next time just block straight away

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

To be fair most messages I received from women were "How are you?" or "What are you looking for?" or just "Hello/Hi".

I also had "How big are you? " and "Send me a face/dick pic ".

Also women are kind of revengeful when turned down by a guy (3/10), because they expect ugly guys will do anything, anytime, anywhere with anyone.

Most of this kind of threads bashing single guys.

90% already gets nothing.

Some deserving it, some doesn't.

It's true for women and couples too, just simply they can afford to send stupid messages and still have options.

I'm sorry you had bad experiences, but not all guys like that.

Someone messaging you more than 3 times, then that's probably too much.

A second one can be a thank you/sorry to bother.

A 3rd one can be weeks/months later accidentally. Didn't realizing they messaged before.

More than 2 within 24 hours probably deserves to be blocked.

If you delete their messages without reading or shortly after, then they are humiliating themselves to message again.

I used to block women doing that, to avoid ever contacting with them.

When I spent checking their bio, writing tailored to them, taking the time, then either read+delete or unread+delete. Usually I deleted the unread ones after 1-2 weeks.

Kind of made me give up messaging completely.

I need a really good reason to message first.

Never sent a dick pic in my entire life, unless someone asked.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

2 then block

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"2 then block"

Why wait for the second

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I used to block after the first message. Guess what? It saved all the drama

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By *urve_your_enthusiasm OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I blocked at their second message. "

I used to but now it's like a weird experiment. When is enough??

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By *ringbackfingeringMan
over a year ago

Coventry

If I don't get a reply, that's it. If there's no reply in over a week, I delete the thread.

Can't suit everyone.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Haha as someone who won’t send the first I can’t fathom what goes through someone’s mind as they send the 7th haha ffs

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By *ot gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Maybe try bit different and replay

no thank you

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Fluffy managed to hit the record of 2 days worth of begging apparently. I’ve applied to put this in the fab archive as the world record

For me… if I’ve said no I sometimes block… sometimes it stays yellow forever…. I can cope with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

13.

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Depends on how much fun we are having reading them tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blocked at their second message.

I used to but now it's like a weird experiment. When is enough??"

You have answered your own question? You bin them between 6 or 7 messages because you are curious in some way in why people are persistent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fluffy managed to hit the record of 2 days worth of begging apparently. I’ve applied to put this in the fab archive as the world record

For me… if I’ve said no I sometimes block… sometimes it stays yellow forever…. I can cope with that

Also, there was someone I didn’t reply to at all who sent no less than 14 messages before I blocked him for his own good

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Abusive messages normally about five

Then blocked

Cant be arsed sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why even reply? Just block

Saves everyone time

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Block after politely declining after first message when a lady or couple delete my message without replying I always block in case I message again its obvious I'm not what they looking for x

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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infinitely

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"To be fair most messages I received from women were "How are you?" or "What are you looking for?" or just "Hello/Hi".

I also had "How big are you? " and "Send me a face/dick pic ".

Also women are kind of revengeful when turned down by a guy (3/10), because they expect ugly guys will do anything, anytime, anywhere with anyone.

Most of this kind of threads bashing single guys.

90% already gets nothing.

Some deserving it, some doesn't.

It's true for women and couples too, just simply they can afford to send stupid messages and still have options.

I'm sorry you had bad experiences, but not all guys like that.

Someone messaging you more than 3 times, then that's probably too much.

A second one can be a thank you/sorry to bother.

A 3rd one can be weeks/months later accidentally. Didn't realizing they messaged before.

More than 2 within 24 hours probably deserves to be blocked.

If you delete their messages without reading or shortly after, then they are humiliating themselves to message again.

I used to block women doing that, to avoid ever contacting with them.

When I spent checking their bio, writing tailored to them, taking the time, then either read+delete or unread+delete. Usually I deleted the unread ones after 1-2 weeks.

Kind of made me give up messaging completely.

I need a really good reason to message first.

Never sent a dick pic in my entire life, unless someone asked.

Then you find yourself in the fora trying to write reasonable, well thought through contributions. Ah well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After the second message

sent two hours after the first saying something like "wakey wakey". Cheeky fuckers!

If any man replies to this thread saying "why not just reply and say no thank you" - I do. Lots of times. And then they ask why. Or have a go at me. Or message a week later.

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

Always reminds me of the Pictionary scene in Family Guy

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By *arry MayMan
over a year ago

I only ever send an initial message, if it’s read and no reply I follow up with another message along the lines of not for you then?, still no reply, I forget and move on

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

If you're interested in reading them, you could block everyone from messaging, read them, reply to whoever then open your filters back up

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I only give people one chance at saying yes to me; I never multi message when I've not received a response or I've received a no thank you.

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"To be fair most messages I received from women were "How are you?" or "What are you looking for?" or just "Hello/Hi".

I also had "How big are you? " and "Send me a face/dick pic ".

Also women are kind of revengeful when turned down by a guy (3/10), because they expect ugly guys will do anything, anytime, anywhere with anyone.

Most of this kind of threads bashing single guys.

90% already gets nothing.

Some deserving it, some doesn't.

It's true for women and couples too, just simply they can afford to send stupid messages and still have options.

I'm sorry you had bad experiences, but not all guys like that.

Someone messaging you more than 3 times, then that's probably too much.

A second one can be a thank you/sorry to bother.

A 3rd one can be weeks/months later accidentally. Didn't realizing they messaged before.

More than 2 within 24 hours probably deserves to be blocked.

If you delete their messages without reading or shortly after, then they are humiliating themselves to message again.

I used to block women doing that, to avoid ever contacting with them.

When I spent checking their bio, writing tailored to them, taking the time, then either read+delete or unread+delete. Usually I deleted the unread ones after 1-2 weeks.

Kind of made me give up messaging completely.

I need a really good reason to message first.

Never sent a dick pic in my entire life, unless someone asked.

Then you find yourself in the fora trying to write reasonable, well thought through contributions. Ah well. "

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These are usually get skipped, no matter how long they are or who's posting them.

Women try to deny / ignore the fact it isn't just men.

Men afraid to agree and ruin some chances with women.

All the bad man and all the angels on (women) here.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

If anyone is interested, I have an inbox that has never been used .Free to a good home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’ll never be enough until you take a chance. They’ll always hold out. It’s in our DNA as men.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually blocked after the first message

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If we delete a message and get a response then we’ll delete again and if they reply again, then we block.

Some people will just keep going to annoy you so don’t give them the fuel.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

As a rule I only ever sent one message if it didn't getbread or got deleted I didn't bother after that

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"It’ll never be enough until you take a chance. They’ll always hold out. It’s in our DNA as men. "

No it really isn't in anyone's dna to choose to ignore a "no thank you".

Not sure however why there is so much drama and so many threads about the same thing, week in week out.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I delete and block after first message so I’ve no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I delete and block after first message so I’ve no idea "

Firm but fair

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I block after the 3rd one now, stops wasting their and my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’ll never be enough until you take a chance. They’ll always hold out. It’s in our DNA as men.

No it really isn't in anyone's dna to choose to ignore a "no thank you".

Not sure however why there is so much drama and so many threads about the same thing, week in week out. "

How do you know it’s not in our DNA are you a scientist

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I only ever send an initial message, if it’s read and no reply I follow up with another message along the lines of not for you then?, still no reply, I forget and move on

Yeah... That's really annoying. No reply = not interested.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

If I delete their first message and they send a second one, it’s an instant block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I delete and block after first message so I’ve no idea "

Firm but fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’ll never be enough until you take a chance. They’ll always hold out. It’s in our DNA as men.

No it really isn't in anyone's dna to choose to ignore a "no thank you".

Not sure however why there is so much drama and so many threads about the same thing, week in week out.

How do you know it’s not in our DNA are you a scientist

Perhaps she is an academic?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I only ever send an initial message, if it’s read and no reply I follow up with another message along the lines of not for you then?, still no reply, I forget and move on

Yeah... That's really annoying. No reply = not interested. "

Agreed… it’s incredibly annoying. If they were interested, they would have replied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the occasion does arise where I send the first message, I'll send one and delete it from my sent inbox so I have no idea what was done with it and can forget it quite easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’ll never be enough until you take a chance. They’ll always hold out. It’s in our DNA as men.

No it really isn't in anyone's dna to choose to ignore a "no thank you".

Not sure however why there is so much drama and so many threads about the same thing, week in week out.

How do you know it’s not in our DNA are you a scientist

Perhaps she is an academic?"

Academic? On fab? Give me a break

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Sometimes i block people who read and deleted my message, just to avoid sending another.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If I ignore a message, they're blocked if they send a second.

Especially if it's quite quick

Some will keep sending messages till the end of time,depsite that stop think you've messaged this person 325 times and had no reply alert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’ll never be enough until you take a chance. They’ll always hold out. It’s in our DNA as men.

No it really isn't in anyone's dna to choose to ignore a "no thank you".

Not sure however why there is so much drama and so many threads about the same thing, week in week out.

How do you know it’s not in our DNA are you a scientist

Perhaps she is an academic?

Academic? On fab? Give me a break

I know of a few academics on this site. Why should you be surprised?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Fluffy managed to hit the record of 2 days worth of begging apparently. I’ve applied to put this in the fab archive as the world record

For me… if I’ve said no I sometimes block… sometimes it stays yellow forever…. I can cope with that

Also, there was someone I didn’t reply to at all who sent no less than 14 messages before I blocked him for his own good

See now this just feels like a challenge

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"It’ll never be enough until you take a chance. They’ll always hold out. It’s in our DNA as men.

No it really isn't in anyone's dna to choose to ignore a "no thank you".

Not sure however why there is so much drama and so many threads about the same thing, week in week out.

How do you know it’s not in our DNA are you a scientist

About the same way you know it's in all men's DNA. I

suspect our science education is approx the same. I studied science at the institute of fab fora. It made me competent to spout bullshit on many if not most subjects.

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