FabSwingers.com forum: Do you get offended

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I wouldn’t even get offended if they said “fuck off you fat cunt”

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I wouldn’t even get offended if they said “fuck off you fat cunt”

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Nope, it’s a website not a message from a friend or relative.

Same with dating sites, just move on.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I wouldn’t even get offended if they said “fuck off you fat cunt”

We don't..

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I may be disappointed but not offended.

People make bad decisions all the time

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

It was a shock when I joined fab to learn there are people who don’t lie awake at night thinking of my face.

Once I’d got over that I regrouped and lied about what a fantastic bloke I am.

That didn’t work either.

Now I just message everyone and pick a chick a day. Some are passable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t even get offended if they said “fuck off you fat cunt”

They definitely aint looking at the same pics as me!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Is "offended" the word?

Sad, sometimes, upset, sometimes. Hopefully I behave rationally in response to it, and keep my feelings to myself.

I'm offended when words get twisted beyond meaning!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No not at all x

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Nope.

It's just part of existing isn't it?

Some people will dig you, others won't.

I just tend to move on

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly."

No, someone else's preferences are their own and in no way reflective of me so there's nothing to get offended about. It's disappointing if that person is a rare someone you fancy but that's very separate from taking offence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I may be disappointed but not offended.

People make bad decisions all the time"

I think when I first started online dating I did get disappointed, but then when I realised that none of us really know how any of us come across until we meet, it's understandable. Some people put alot of effort Into selling themselves well and then you meet them.. others don't as much but when you meet they are top shelf peoples.

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By *ohnny3333Man
over a year ago

fleetwood

Sounds strange but i like being told im not for them and insulted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly.

You hit the nail on the head, it's their preferences. And also they are judging you in limited info.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make a voodoo doll and torture them for a week

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

The last house on the left…

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly."

Hell naw!

I appreciate that.

*Deleting my message is a good way of saying No

*But it’s when they Block me, that reeeeeaaally pisses me off.

Why?

I’m always respectful. Never rude.

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly."

offence is a chosen emotion

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I make a voodoo doll and torture them for a week

ooh can you do one for me but instead of the torture just get that bit between the shoulder blades a good scratch?

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

If I got offended every time I heard that I don't think I'd ever stop crying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely

But then I remind myself that anyone not attracted to me physically is clearly a bad person, a judgemental person, a picky person.

And it’s their loss.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly.

You hit the nail on the head, it's their preferences. And also they are judging you in limited info."

You have a great profile btw. I've never seen such thick ropes

There's also personality preferences and vibe which will appeal to different types.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I make a voodoo doll and torture them for a week

I wondered why my knee was hurting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly no, not at all.

You can't be to everyones taste and that's okay.

Miss S x

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By *ikerdaveMan
over a year ago

redcar

I get turned down or blanked all the time not offended really just a bit disappointed but hey ho just move on and just hope that one day someone will say yes lol

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
over a year ago

Hell

No. There’s no accounting for taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t even get offended if they said “fuck off you fat cunt”

They definitely aint looking at the same pics as me!"
fact

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Definitely in no way offended. But I do have a tiny fragile self esteem and sometimes my wee feelings get hurt.

But then I have a hysterically tearful cry-wank and sit hugging my knees and rocking whilst mumbling to myself. 20-30 mins of that and I'm a new man!!!

Back in the game!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose to never take offence at anything really. You can choose to be offended or not. I always pick not, it keeps life a much happier affair I find

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly.

You hit the nail on the head, it's their preferences. And also they are judging you in limited info.

You have a great profile btw. I've never seen such thick ropes

There's also personality preferences and vibe which will appeal to different types. "

Why thank you.

Battle ropes, they are fun because they are heavy so I imagine the person feels more restrained but they have to use a bit off imagination and pretend the knot isn't quite as easy to loosen

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I'd rather be told that sooner rather than strung along.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I may get discouraged if i sent out a 100 and they all said that.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Absolutely not. I'm choosy af so I'd be a total hypocrite if I expected everyone to fancy me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ad its fab. We all aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, I won't be for all, just like I won't fancy everyone who messages me.

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Welcome to fab! You need a thick skin to survive on here, even more so as a single man.

It doesn't bother us if someone says no to us, it's their loss and not ours

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

[Removed by poster at 05/01/24 15:59:52]

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I'd rather be told that sooner rather than strung along."

Sometimes negative issues don't arise until after a few messages.

In those cases I would try to explain why but more often than not, they start to turn into a sour argument, and blocks ensues.

When people get rejected, they can turn nasty which is a shame because...

1. It's only my opinion

2. Take it or leave it

3. There may be some validity in the discussion and

4. It doesn't need to turn sour

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

I can't remember the last time anything offended me.

It's my choice, to be offended or not.

I don't mind if someone goes out of their way to offended me, it's still my choice.

Offended if someone doesn't want to have the sex? Nah......

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"I may get discouraged if i sent out a 100 and they all said that. "

You just described a standard day at the office for me

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By *enk15Man
over a year ago

Evesham

I'm offended if someone says I am for them.

Like, come on guys, have some standards!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, unless they decide to go into detail about exactly why not. That's overkill.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I'm offended if someone says I am for them.

Like, come on guys, have some standards!

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nah i wouldnt be offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t know, I’ve yet to have to deal with that scenario.

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By *uckowskiMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!

This was unbelievably community spirited of you

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Offended no,

Disappointed sometimes

Em x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offended no,

Disappointed sometimes

Em x"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t internalise on fab. I’ve done a lot of work on myself and I’ve realised that I’m happy mostly happy with my face. If someone on here isn’t, that’s fine.

And fab is such a small, niche section of people I usually interact with anyway so it’s not that deep

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't think I've ever been offended by someone not being into me.

I'm a fucking bitter pill to swallow. It's really not a surprise

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By *heodore21Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"I make a voodoo doll and torture them for a week

Hahahaha epic

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

"No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!

This was unbelievably community spirited of you"

I got what I wanted!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not offended but I would be a bit disappointed. But you ca no tell if someone is into you sexually or not - why set yourself up for failure ?

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

"No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!

This was unbelievably community spirited of you

I got what I wanted!"

Magnificent breasts!

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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago

Various

"I may get discouraged if i sent out a 100 and they all said that.

You just described a standard day at the office for me

Do we work in the same place?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly."

Not offended at all. It's only Fab!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I don’t get offended. I kind of expect that from the start and it often takes me by surprise if they do.

P. S. I don’t fancy the Aquaman bloke either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd get offended if they didn't get offended!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I can't even remember the last time I messaged someone to give them the chance to say I wasn't for them

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By *stwo2023Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Depends how they say it surely?

Evie

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By *o_yeur_eyes_onlyMan
over a year ago

Londontown

"Depends how they say it surely?

Evie"

Definitely.....I think this matters more

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!

I like the cut of your jib madam.

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Nope! We know with our age gap we aren’t for everyone.

Don’t know what they are missing though lol

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Gosh no, I'm pretty easy going, takes a lot to offend me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

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By *ovingSussexLifeMan
over a year ago

West Sussex

No, someone is either attracted to you or not. Why get offended?

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

No, not offended. Disappointed maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!

This was unbelievably community spirited of you

I got what I wanted!"

Fair play to you! I think if somebody said to me they didn't fancy me but needed a shag I'd meet them first and have a chat, we can all come across different in real life.

If she still said she didnt fancy me after a meet then I'd be out after that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not offended but I would be a bit disappointed. But you ca no tell if someone is into you sexually or not - why set yourself up for failure ?"

Well, not everyone makes it obvious, and it's especially hard online.

I also don't realise when I'm being flirted at so I'm shit with that stuff.

Although I can see it if it happens to others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t get offended. I kind of expect that from the start and it often takes me by surprise if they do.

P. S. I don’t fancy the Aquaman bloke either. "

Oh damn, I was about to reveal my true identity but nvm..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Not offended, tbf women rarely get rejected because of proportion of male to female on this site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also I can't even remember the last time I messaged someone to give them the chance to say I wasn't for them

Oh I'm at this stage now. If somebody hasn't expressed interest I don't message.

Unless the message is on a friendly level or we've spoken before

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Probably a little disappointed more than offended

We can’t be for everyone

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Always. Immediately. I didn’t even read the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly."

I just find it funny when they have pretty much described everything about me as what they're looking for, but when I message, I get deleted instantly. Makes me chuckle though. I come to learn a long time ago, that there's no point in getting bent over the actions of anyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If somebody says that you arnt for them?

For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.

And then I keep it moving.

But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.

And that's OK.

I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.

It doesn't make him fugly.

We could be the most amazing fellas in the world, we could say what we are, be that and exceed all expectations.

We could have previous partners thinking that we would never have an issue finding somebody compatible because they know us and what we bring.

The problem is..

Nobody here knows that.

There's alot of fakers out there that will tell women what they want to hear, there's only so many times somebody will get burnt before they become wary and doubt what other men tell them.

I'm the sort of person that gets on with everyone, my dates always go well wether normal dating or sexual dating, I always get positive feedback from encounters.

And being someone that always has warm receptions from people he knows and people he's just met and finds it easy to build good rapport with someone pretty quick it used to feel real disheartening when somebody wouldn't even respond, especially when you know you fit the description of what they are after and they are what you are after.

But, it is what it is. Nobody here really knows what any of us are going to be until we meet, and in all honesty, we've probably done exactly the same to other women without knowing.

But online is about how well you sell yourself, real life you can just be you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned to shrug it off. Not that I risk it much on here, but I do on other sites

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I'm more surprised if they say I am for them - crazy talk

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Doesn’t offend me at all, I know I’m not everyone’s cup off tea as well as I’m not theirs. What I do find offensive is when they want to have sex with me because I’m mixed race and they’ve never had one before…. just keep that shit to yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Doesn’t offend me at all, I know I’m not everyone’s cup off tea as well as I’m not theirs. What I do find offensive is when they want to have sex with me because I’m mixed race and they’ve never had one before…. just keep that shit to yourself "

Like you're a pokemon.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Life is too short to get offended. If I am not for you then just tell me. I can take it.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Like you're a pokemon."

to add to their collection

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

YES I FUCKING DO!!!!

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

No, because it just means they have a type, like I have a type. And that’s allowed.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

No. My ego may get a little bruised, but not for long. We can't possibly be everyone's type...

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I came back to this thread to say while some of us don’t necessarily feel offended, I can see, speaking from my own personal perspective, how it can be detrimental for a person if happens on a regular basis.

It’s good to keep in mind there’s a real person on the other side of the keyboard and choose your words wisely.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Mortally offended

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