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"Negative is the opposite of positive, in between is neutral. Realistic is in between pessimistic and optimistic. " *** It is true, but most people using realistic as neutral. Like as an opposite of naive in the same time. | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion?" I don't personally think there's alot of stuff that's unrealistic, it's about how much your willing to put in/sacrifice for whatever the outcome is you are after. You could say becoming a millionaire is unrealistic, but with time, budgeting and wise investing it's attainable. I think you can be a negative person and call yourself "realistic" but on reality that doesn't serve you as a person to have that mentality. Being positive does serve you, and helps you push through where others give up. That's the second serious response I've given to something today. | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion? I don't personally think there's alot of stuff that's unrealistic, it's about how much your willing to put in/sacrifice for whatever the outcome is you are after. You could say becoming a millionaire is unrealistic, but with time, budgeting and wise investing it's attainable. I think you can be a negative person and call yourself "realistic" but on reality that doesn't serve you as a person to have that mentality. Being positive does serve you, and helps you push through where others give up. That's the second serious response I've given to something today." *** I agree, you must have a goal and need to do things to get what you want. I meant being realistic (as not naive, not equal to negative) , because some things depend more on luck than what you willing to do to get it. | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion? I don't personally think there's alot of stuff that's unrealistic, it's about how much your willing to put in/sacrifice for whatever the outcome is you are after. You could say becoming a millionaire is unrealistic, but with time, budgeting and wise investing it's attainable. I think you can be a negative person and call yourself "realistic" but on reality that doesn't serve you as a person to have that mentality. Being positive does serve you, and helps you push through where others give up. That's the second serious response I've given to something today. *** I agree, you must have a goal and need to do things to get what you want. I meant being realistic (as not naive, not equal to negative) , because some things depend more on luck than what you willing to do to get it. " Oh luck plays a massive part! But so does niavity to a point, there are mega wealthy people out there who arnt the most intelligent people but they were nieve to the risks and just kept pushing through with blind faith in themselves. | |||
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"Negative is the opposite of positive, in between is neutral. Realistic is in between pessimistic and optimistic. " This. Realistic tries to find the positive or the achievable and shift the goal towards that. Negative people have a problem for every solution  | |||
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"It's all about opinion. People say I am negative about myself - I say I'm realistic "& I'd say you're hot. Mrs  | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion?" The two have no relation. Reality isn’t negative. | |||
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" Oh luck plays a massive part! But so does niavity to a point, there are mega wealthy people out there who arnt the most intelligent people but they were nieve to the risks and just kept pushing through with blind faith in themselves." Funny I was thinking this to myself the other day. Not necessarily about wealth, but just about experiences in life. I’ve been very naive up until recently. I’d always look for the best, hope for the best, choose to see the best in people. ALWAYS. And that sort of made me bullet proof in some ways, because even when bad things were happening, or when there was a risk, I didn’t even realise. That naivety has led to a lucky life. There’s no way I could be like that now though. | |||
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"It's all about opinion. People say I am negative about myself - I say I'm realistic
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" Oh luck plays a massive part! But so does niavity to a point, there are mega wealthy people out there who arnt the most intelligent people but they were nieve to the risks and just kept pushing through with blind faith in themselves. Funny I was thinking this to myself the other day. Not necessarily about wealth, but just about experiences in life. I’ve been very naive up until recently. I’d always look for the best, hope for the best, choose to see the best in people. ALWAYS. And that sort of made me bullet proof in some ways, because even when bad things were happening, or when there was a risk, I didn’t even realise. That naivety has led to a lucky life. There’s no way I could be like that now though." I use wealth as a go to easy to explain response. And I've been very much like yourself where I fight peoples corners behind their backs and try to be honest with them to their face hoping that they will understand my approach. It's very easy to become jaded with people after a while, and you do have to try not to give everyone so much rope for your self preservation. But you also need to understand that you don't know what people have been through to lead them on the path they are on now. Having a child has changed me quite alot, I will try to help people and before it was to my own detriment, my child is my priority now, and I'm not letting others have a negative impact on her life. Humans are complex fuckers arnt they. | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion? The two have no relation. Reality isn’t negative." *** Most people label both negative. Negative can't see positive in anything anymore and lost hope. Realistic sees positive and negative. Trying put the goal somewhere between positive and naive. Gave up some things, but still trying to reach others. | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion? The two have no relation. Reality isn’t negative. *** Most people label both negative. Negative can't see positive in anything anymore and lost hope. Realistic sees positive and negative. Trying put the goal somewhere between positive and naive. Gave up some things, but still trying to reach others. " “Most people” ? That’s not true at all. Those who believe life is negative usually have that outlook as a symptom of depression or grief. | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be" What’s an example of that? I’ve frequently found that people who are telling me to “be realistic” are often limiting myself and others because they are unable to see or understand the possibilities ahead. | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion?" In what context op. In life or on here? | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be" Happy New Year forum mods. | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be" *** Life has positive and negative things. Do the best you can to live it as positive as you can. Shit happens sometimes and you need to deal with it. Acknowledging it's crap, but you're looking for a solution is good. Ignoring it and pretending to everyone it's all good will make more damage. People's coping mechanism with depression/grief/problems is more important than what other people think. Some people look the devil in the eye. Some finding consolation in slight naivety. Some can't deal with it and needs help. | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion? In what context op. In life or on here? " *** Both or any | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion?" For me I stray away from both on here op. No drama No negative vibes and no realistics. Positive all the time. | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be Happy New Year forum mods. " *** Erm..... ***Arse Kisser*** 
Joking, she's really nice, mod or not.
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion? For me I stray away from both on here op. No drama No negative vibes and no realistics. Positive all the time. " Nor am I a wanter or hoper being real no drama. | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be Happy New Year forum mods. *** Erm..... ***Arse Kisser***
Joking, she's really nice, mod or not.
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be What’s an example of that? I’ve frequently found that people who are telling me to “be realistic” are often limiting myself and others because they are unable to see or understand the possibilities ahead." Being realistic in my opinion only, is knowing what is possible and achievable. That doesn't mean limiting rather the opposite for me. Sometimes people who tell someone else to be realistic are making assumptions about what that person can achieve based on their own limitations. An example to me would be if I want to go on an expensive holiday but don't have the money. Realistically I need to be aware that there are three options, put it all on credit and go tomorrow, save up and go later or don't go. The consequences of my decision will form my future reality. It's a fact though that reality does limit one to an extent | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be Happy New Year forum mods. " Happy new year to you too  | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be Happy New Year forum mods. *** Erm..... ***Arse Kisser***
Joking, she's really nice, mod or not.
Always need a forum mod. "*** She's nice and always involved with common people. ***I guess I sound like an arse kisser now*** | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be Happy New Year forum mods. *** Erm..... ***Arse Kisser***
Joking, she's really nice, mod or not.
Always need a forum mod.
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She's nice and always involved with common people.
***I guess I sound like an arse kisser now***" I'm the commonest of the common | |||
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be Happy New Year forum mods. *** Erm..... ***Arse Kisser***
Joking, she's really nice, mod or not.
Always need a forum mod.
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She's nice and always involved with common people.
***I guess I sound like an arse kisser now***
I'm the commonest of the common "***
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"Being realistic tips into negativity if you let negative reality influence your state of mind. Realistic people understand that reality is positive and negative and adjust their expectations accordingly. I'm extremely realistic but people consistently tell me I'm wrong to be What’s an example of that? I’ve frequently found that people who are telling me to “be realistic” are often limiting myself and others because they are unable to see or understand the possibilities ahead. Being realistic in my opinion only, is knowing what is possible and achievable. That doesn't mean limiting rather the opposite for me. Sometimes people who tell someone else to be realistic are making assumptions about what that person can achieve based on their own limitations. An example to me would be if I want to go on an expensive holiday but don't have the money. Realistically I need to be aware that there are three options, put it all on credit and go tomorrow, save up and go later or don't go. The consequences of my decision will form my future reality. It's a fact though that reality does limit one to an extent " Ohh right yeah I see what you mean in that example. I thought you were referring to non-tangible things - such as believing it’s not realistic to achieve a goal or make an ambition come true. | |||
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"May I have the strength of mind to change the things I can, accept the things I can't and the wisdom to know the difference. That's being realistic. " | |||
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"It's all about opinion. People say I am negative about myself - I say I'm realistic
& I'd say you're hot.
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"It's all about opinion. People say I am negative about myself - I say I'm realistic
& I'd say you're hot.
Mrs
Seconded. So there. Now its fact and indesputable.
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No seriously, you can see a silver side to everything, you just need to adjust your perspective
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion?" I was a lot more optimistic when I was young. Then life kept kicking me in the dick
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"The extinction of the dinosaurs was a pretty negative and very realistic series of events for them, but realistically, and positively, we are unlikely to have evolved without it, and this thread would also realistically not exist at this moment in time, if ever. " *** Did you find the rest of the whisky from Christmas under your sofa? | |||
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"Where is the line between the two in your opinion? I was a lot more optimistic when I was young. Then life kept kicking me in the dick
I’d be more optimistic if I had some wins "*** Well, at least you're funny and know what you want, so I wouldn't say you are negative. Also you licked some nipples recently  , so it's more than some/many of us done for awhile now.
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"The extinction of the dinosaurs was a pretty negative and very realistic series of events for them, but realistically, and positively, we are unlikely to have evolved without it, and this thread would also realistically not exist at this moment in time, if ever. *** Did you find the rest of the whisky from Christmas under your sofa? " - I'm a really, really minimal drinker (so close to nothing that my profile says that).
But that bottle was unopened for over 2 years...and then finished in a week.
It was bloody nice .
Gave the 3 year unopened bottle of wine to a friend...I could see it there for another 3 or 4 before anything happened to it  . | |||
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"I'm positively realistic
No seriously, you can see a silver side to everything, you just need to adjust your perspective
I try to catch myself if I'm being negative - its usually if I'm tired or have low energy "*** People take it different from a woman often. In real life someone has an almost smiley poker face. Some looks like a villain from Columbia in the movies. Usually jokes taken in different ways. I do that silver lining thing as well, but with a hint of sarcasm and irony. * I was making jokes an hour after I got hit by a car. " Well, it could have been a bus." I was wearing waterproofs, so I looked like the Michelin man or the friendly ghost from Ghostbusters. The driver thought he was hallucinating I guess. Not sure why he ignored my flashing lights. They told me I had a dark spot on my face. I said it's the mud from laying on the road. At some point I said: "Sorry, can't rub the rest off." | |||
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"The extinction of the dinosaurs was a pretty negative and very realistic series of events for them, but realistically, and positively, we are unlikely to have evolved without it, and this thread would also realistically not exist at this moment in time, if ever. *** Did you find the rest of the whisky from Christmas under your sofa?
- I'm a really, really minimal drinker (so close to nothing that my profile says that).
But that bottle was unopened for over 2 years...and then finished in a week.
It was bloody nice .
Gave the 3 year unopened bottle of wine to a friend...I could see it there for another 3 or 4 before anything happened to it ."*** So am I. I wasn't judging. The only alcoholic drink in my flat is a Fruity Red tiny bottle of wine .
Workplace secret santa present. | |||
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"The extinction of the dinosaurs was a pretty negative and very realistic series of events for them, but realistically, and positively, we are unlikely to have evolved without it, and this thread would also realistically not exist at this moment in time, if ever. *** Did you find the rest of the whisky from Christmas under your sofa?
- I'm a really, really minimal drinker (so close to nothing that my profile says that).
But that bottle was unopened for over 2 years...and then finished in a week.
It was bloody nice .
Gave the 3 year unopened bottle of wine to a friend...I could see it there for another 3 or 4 before anything happened to it .
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So am I.
I wasn't judging.
The only alcoholic drink in my flat is a Fruity Red tiny bottle of wine .
Workplace secret santa present."Lol. Judge or not judge - it was a bloody nice Lidl single malt (had one of theirs in 2016 too...equally good) .
I might even get another one for 2030 . | |||
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"The extinction of the dinosaurs was a pretty negative and very realistic series of events for them, but realistically, and positively, we are unlikely to have evolved without it, and this thread would also realistically not exist at this moment in time, if ever. *** Did you find the rest of the whisky from Christmas under your sofa?
- I'm a really, really minimal drinker (so close to nothing that my profile says that).
But that bottle was unopened for over 2 years...and then finished in a week.
It was bloody nice .
Gave the 3 year unopened bottle of wine to a friend...I could see it there for another 3 or 4 before anything happened to it .
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So am I.
I wasn't judging.
The only alcoholic drink in my flat is a Fruity Red tiny bottle of wine .
Workplace secret santa present.
Lol. Judge or not judge - it was a bloody nice Lidl single malt (had one of theirs in 2016 too...equally good) .
I might even get another one for 2030 ."*** I just checked my wine .
It's off in 6 months.
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"A NEGATIVE experience can give you a REALISTIC approach to a similar situation.." * True! | |||
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"Realism is where you understand the probabilities of various outcomes and accept them for what they are. Negativity is where you overestimate the downside outcomes and underweight the upside ones." lol that’s way more succinct than my rambling. Yoink! | |||
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