FabSwingers.com forum: Let me down gently…

By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

If someone sends you a face pic and the attraction isn’t there how do you end it?

Stop replying

Say sorry you’re not for me

Keep it going for a while in pretence then let it Peter out

In for a penny in for a pound?

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By *ristolboy1005Man
over a year ago

bristol

My messages just get deleted

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"If someone sends you a face pic and the attraction isn’t there how do you end it?

Stop replying

Say sorry you’re not for me

Keep it going for a while in pretence then let it Peter out

In for a penny in for a pound? "
women just block so i suggest if they aren't for you you do the same

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

If it's in their first message, then don't reply or a polite reply not suggesting anything. If they're going to a club the same night as us, say "happy to say hello and have a drink".

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

People will approach it differently.

For me I'd either tell them they're not for me or let the chat die slowly depending on the person.

Em x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We simply say

"Say sorry you’re not for me"

It's might be harsh but it's honest and that's what matters

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"If someone sends you a face pic and the attraction isn’t there how do you end it?

Stop replying

Say sorry you’re not for me

Keep it going for a while in pretence then let it Peter out

In for a penny in for a pound? "

I always say there’s no attraction for me and wish them happy fabbing.

That is if we have conversed. If there’s no attraction then it’s as simple as that

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I swap face pics early as I find it harder when you’ve been chatting for ages to then realise there’s no attraction.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Ask them politely if their neck has just thrown up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind what form the rejection takes. I get that I may be an acquired taste, and I’m not so egotistical to think that everyone’s gonna fancy a piece of this prime Stoke beefcake.

I’ll always let anyone down with sensitivity and thoughts for the feelings of the person on the receiving end.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I hate when people send me face pictures and then want an immediate response on if I want to fuck them.

Aesthetics aren't particularly important to me. No-one has a face so stunning I'd overlook the rest of them.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Find it very awkward tbh! X

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I hate when people send me face pictures and then want an immediate response on if I want to fuck them.

Aesthetics aren't particularly important to me. No-one has a face so stunning I'd overlook the rest of them."

Good point but there’s bound to be a level that’s a hard no right?

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Find it very awkward tbh! X"

Me too

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Not for me thanks"

And if they're cute, but it's still a no

"Cute! But not for me thanks"

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I swap face pics early as I find it harder when you’ve been chatting for ages to then realise there’s no attraction. "

Yes that definitely makes sense

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

""Not for me thanks"

And if they're cute, but it's still a no

"Cute! But not for me thanks"

Wait why would they be cute but still no?

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We say thanks but not for us, manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

UNLOS... Only way

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Prefer it not to be replied to, or a simple no. You can't be everyone's cup of tea

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I hate when people send me face pictures and then want an immediate response on if I want to fuck them.

Aesthetics aren't particularly important to me. No-one has a face so stunning I'd overlook the rest of them.

Good point but there’s bound to be a level that’s a hard no right? "

Possibly? I can appreciate when someone is conventionally attractive, and I can recognise when someone has features that most would find unappealing. But how attracted I actually am to someone is generally far more dependant on how they excite me in all ways, not just the visual.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

""Not for me thanks"

And if they're cute, but it's still a no

"Cute! But not for me thanks"

Wait why would they be cute but still no?"

Because I can appreciate someone being nice looking, but not quite to my taste

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"We say thanks but not for us, manners cost nothing. "

Agreed it should always be polite

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I just don't talk to people here like its a dating site, in honesty.

So if I see a face after a bit of chat, I just assume they're flexing about having eyes or something.

Which is pretty weird and therefore probably my type of friend.

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

""Not for me thanks"

And if they're cute, but it's still a no

"Cute! But not for me thanks"

Wait why would they be cute but still no?

Because I can appreciate someone being nice looking, but not quite to my taste"

Ah yes of course I’m with you now

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I hate when people send me face pictures and then want an immediate response on if I want to fuck them.

Aesthetics aren't particularly important to me. No-one has a face so stunning I'd overlook the rest of them.

Good point but there’s bound to be a level that’s a hard no right?

Definitely agree that it’s not all about the visual

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"If someone sends you a face pic and the attraction isn’t there how do you end it?

Stop replying

Say sorry you’re not for me

Keep it going for a while in pretence then let it Peter out

In for a penny in for a pound? "

***

You forgot the "Block them" option. Many does that.

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Leaving someone hanging is cruel and completely unnecessary.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Leaving someone hanging is cruel and completely unnecessary.

Not sure. If they can't stand how I look, why would they want to converse?

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Leaving someone hanging is cruel and completely unnecessary.

It happens though sadly

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Find it very awkward tbh! X

Me too "

Me three. I just hate the thought of making someone feel bad about themselves or knocking their confidence. I hate it

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Find it very awkward tbh! X

Me too

Me three. I just hate the thought of making someone feel bad about themselves or knocking their confidence. I hate it "

But you said to me you'd seen potatoes that looked better

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"UNLOS... Only way

Don’t you dare

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Find it very awkward tbh! X

Me too

Me three. I just hate the thought of making someone feel bad about themselves or knocking their confidence. I hate it

But you said to me you'd seen potatoes that looked better

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By *ristolboy1005Man
over a year ago

bristol

"We say thanks but not for us, manners cost nothing. "

Wish more people were like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My go to is ‘Thanks for the photo. You have nice x; however, I’m looking for someone a bit different than you. All the best. ‘

When I’ve said you’re not my type, in the past, the never ending messages of how they could be if I gave them a go did my head in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually carry on. Sleep with them then ghost them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually carry on. Sleep with them then ghost them. "

Kidding.

*looks at camera*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block

Easy

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By *emonochrome OP Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"My go to is ‘Thanks for the photo. You have nice x; however, I’m looking for someone a bit different than you. All the best. ‘

When I’ve said you’re not my type, in the past, the never ending messages of how they could be if I gave them a go did my head in. "

Yes you raise a good point because a lot of men can’t actually accept and handle rejection

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you think people do, they will do.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Men often take bad pictures so if the conversation is going well I'll usually keep going with it. If after a social the attraction isn't there then i just tell them the chemistry wasnt there. They usually felt the same so it works out well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!"

I’d go all the way fluffy, I always do

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!"

All the way fingers crossed. Did you laugh hard? I love to laugh at that kind of shit. You’re supposed to be an adult mate. A no is a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!

All the way fingers crossed. Did you laugh hard? I love to laugh at that kind of shit. You’re supposed to be an adult mate. A no is a no

He suggested I might lower my standards after a few drinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men often take bad pictures so if the conversation is going well I'll usually keep going with it. If after a social the attraction isn't there then i just tell them the chemistry wasnt there. They usually felt the same so it works out well. "

Not me man I look peng in 100% of pictures I upload

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!

All the way fingers crossed. Did you laugh hard? I love to laugh at that kind of shit. You’re supposed to be an adult mate. A no is a no

He suggested I might lower my standards after a few drinks

And , just out of curiosity, what was your answer to that question?….you know, like, would you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say sorry theres no attraction there or sorry ur not my type...

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!

All the way fingers crossed. Did you laugh hard? I love to laugh at that kind of shit. You’re supposed to be an adult mate. A no is a no

He suggested I might lower my standards after a few drinks

Ooh… don’t you just love those red flags

They fucking rock my world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!

All the way fingers crossed. Did you laugh hard? I love to laugh at that kind of shit. You’re supposed to be an adult mate. A no is a no

He suggested I might lower my standards after a few drinks

Ooh… don’t you just love those red flags

They fucking rock my world

Not forgetting ‘other woman don’t need an attraction to have sex’. Go shag them then

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I usually thank them for reminding me to feed my camels

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!

All the way fingers crossed. Did you laugh hard? I love to laugh at that kind of shit. You’re supposed to be an adult mate. A no is a no

He suggested I might lower my standards after a few drinks

Ooh… don’t you just love those red flags

They fucking rock my world

Not forgetting ‘other woman don’t need an attraction to have sex’. Go shag them then

This was awesome. Should go down in the Fab archive. It just had everything

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I usually just say " sorry Fluffy, but you're just not for me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone sends you a face pic and the attraction isn’t there how do you end it?

…."

I don’t know how to answer this. Nobody send me face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time this happened I said sorry you’re not for me, wishing you well.

Two days of pleading, begging, bribing, negging followed. Eventually I blocked

You left it 2 days to long to block…

Was seeing how far he’d go!

All the way fingers crossed. Did you laugh hard? I love to laugh at that kind of shit. You’re supposed to be an adult mate. A no is a no

He suggested I might lower my standards after a few drinks

Ooh… don’t you just love those red flags

They fucking rock my world

Not forgetting ‘other woman don’t need an attraction to have sex’. Go shag them then

This was awesome. Should go down in the Fab archive. It just had everything

That’s why I kept it open so long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually just say " sorry Fluffy, but you're just not for me""

That’s not what you said. You said I had a face only a mother could love. Then I told you she abandoned me to the wolves and you never messaged me again

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Find it very awkward tbh! X

Me too "

Me three... but I also hate just being ignore,by all means tell me I'm not for you but ffs please be kind about it.... I have self esteem issues as it is

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"I usually just say " sorry Fluffy, but you're just not for me"

That’s not what you said. You said I had a face only a mother could love. Then I told you she abandoned me to the wolves and you never messaged me again

I'm allergic to dog hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for showing an interest not meeting anyone right now.

Or Thank you for the message no neee to block. Unless they persist.

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"But how attracted I actually am to someone is generally far more dependant on how they excite me in all ways, not just the visual."

100%! And even someone u think is attractive can be quite the opposite when u meet IRL. Sooo many factors!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was chatting to a woman on here for a couple of days, were even messaging on WhatsApp...Sent her an updated picture and she blocked me, lol

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"If someone sends you a face pic and the attraction isn’t there how do you end it?

Stop replying

Say sorry you’re not for me

Keep it going for a while in pretence then let it Peter out

In for a penny in for a pound? "

Just reply

Then block it's the decent thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just "I'm sorry but there's no attraction for me. Best of luck" or something like that. If it's the first messages I just say not what I'm looking for, so they don't assume it's their looks.

I've said no thanks to some decent looking chaps this week. They just didn't float my boat. And I won't float plenty of boats. It's life.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd just say sorry there's no attraction for me, I hope you find what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them they remind me of a dead relative and it can't go any further because it deeply upsets me.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I’ll say sorry I’m not for you.

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I usually say that I'm not interested.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"We simply say

"Say sorry you’re not for me"

It's might be harsh but it's honest and that's what matters "

That's what I would do

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By *ringbackfingeringMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Simple, I would say, if it ever happens.

Sorry, but I'm out, then turn my chair, holding onto my pile of cash...

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

"If someone sends you a face pic and the attraction isn’t there how do you end it?

Stop replying

Say sorry you’re not for me

Keep it going for a while in pretence then let it Peter out

In for a penny in for a pound? "

Is there a nearby office supplies store that sells paper bags at a reasonable price?

Hopefully you’ve got sharpies for the faces

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually say that I'm not interested. "

Oh really

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We range from saying sorry you aren’t for us to just ignoring our message box and hope they never message again

Most of the time we are honest as there’s no point keeping the chat going with no interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say you've decided to carry on with your life, please leave me alone.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Just say no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a face pic early on and will say ' you dont fit what I'm looking for'. Most of the time they dont know if I meant I was not attracted to them. It could mean anything I've seen on their profile doesn't fit. Or their first message.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I just don’t send pics until their send 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a face pic early on and will say ' you dont fit what I'm looking for'. Most of the time they dont know if I meant I was not attracted to them. It could mean anything I've seen on their profile doesn't fit. Or their first message."

The last time I wrote this, he said he had legs, arms, a head and a dick and what else could I possibly want? (Paraphrased)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time I wrote this, he said he had legs, arms, a head and a dick and what else could I possibly want? (Paraphrased)

And then what did you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time I wrote this, he said he had legs, arms, a head and a dick and what else could I possibly want? (Paraphrased)

And then what did you say?

By his reckoning I should sleep with every guy on the site!

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