FabSwingers.com forum: How to spot a swinger.

By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

This may seem silly and I fear I am opening myself to ridicule, but how would I spot a swinger, or how would I. identify myself as being aproachable and interested in that type of fun?

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Be flirty. Be cheeky....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put you keys in bowl or ashtray and see if they throw theirs in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swing your party bag about a bit (the one containing condoms dams and lubes) ..... notice if others do the same.

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By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

I'm not that confident alone in social situations. A million knockbacks have dented it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can always get a tat on your forehead.

Stop me and swing

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By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

"Put you keys in bowl or ashtray and see if they throw theirs in lol

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said to somebody who thought might be on here " how's you had a fab day ? " and just gauge there reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I don't think you can as people look like people not a kind of person. The only way to find out is listen to conversations and drop a few hints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mentioned in another thread that I think people who knew us would be very surprised that we are swingers, so I've no idea how someone we didn't know could tell. That twinkle of lust in our eyes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have offten thort that there should be some sort of sign . I have a gay friend and she has a very small rainbow tatto on her wrist x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can always do the fake mobile phone call.

"Yes have to go, catch you on Fab later"

Worked when we first heard it.

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By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

Haha, maybe we should devise a universal sign or code? Like a carnation in button hole or rolled up newspaper lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May be a little blue star . You could have tatto or just a little bage lol

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"Haha, maybe we should devise a universal sign or code? Like a carnation in button hole or rolled up newspaper lol."

I have a little Chameleon pinned on my coat that I got from Chams. Its on a pink branch, which means bi. The yellow branch means straight.

Maybe someone will stop me and say 'hey, do you visit Chams?'

Worth a try!

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By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

Fab should start a new line in merchandising. Blue star pins and maybe slogan Tshirts. Or, maybe I should get over fear of knockbacks.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"This may seem silly and I fear I am opening myself to ridicule, but how would I spot a swinger, or how would I. identify myself as being aproachable and interested in that type of fun?

,x"

Would you really be happy with people approaching you at the shops or in a bar ...i'm not having a dig just curious

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

How about and F A B badge. If anyone without one asks you are a thunderbirds fan but anyone with one on would know the real reason behind it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i think mentioning fabulous in conversation might be a way forward. if the person says something with fabulous back, well its a start . maybe a wink as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think mentioning fabulous in conversation might be a way forward. if the person says something with fabulous back, well its a start . maybe a wink as well "

"We had a Fabulous holiday", "we had a fabulous one as well".

"Fancy a quick shag?"

"You dirty disgusting pervert" "someone call the police, we got a right perv here"

Not quite right some how is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think mentioning fabulous in conversation might be a way forward. if the person says something with fabulous back, well its a start . maybe a wink as well

"We had a Fabulous holiday", "we had a fabulous one as well".

"Fancy a quick shag?"

"You dirty disgusting pervert" "someone call the police, we got a right perv here"

Not quite right some how is it

Lol ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them your a swinger and ask if they are ? Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just tell them your a swinger and ask if they are ? Simple."

We did this in a hotel next door to a well known club in West Brom.

Got some funny looks, but had a very full table in the bar after about an hour.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Got to think harder....

If someone said to me they'd had a FAB day - my mind wouldn't turn to swinging. I'd just think they hadn't got beyond groovy sixties slang ....

Do the ....... 'My friend' thing.....

e.g. My friend has joined a swinging site..... sounds fun .... i'm going to look at it later see if it's worth joining.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"Just tell them your a swinger and ask if they are ? Simple."

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i think fancy a shag is a bit basic .dont think your going to pull like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think fancy a shag is a bit basic .dont think your going to pull like that "

Beats the hell out of "do you take it up the arse ?" though

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

how about does your wife take it up the arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how about does your wife take it up the arse"

Now that will piss her off.

You should always ask her personally, its only respectful to her isnt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think fancy a shag is a bit basic .dont think your going to pull like that

Beats the hell out of "do you take it up the arse ?" though

Pmsl

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Got to think harder....

If someone said to me they'd had a FAB day - my mind wouldn't turn to swinging. I'd just think they hadn't got beyond groovy sixties slang ....

Do the ....... 'My friend' thing.....

e.g. My friend has joined a swinging site..... sounds fun .... i'm going to look at it later see if it's worth joining.

I like the friend idea

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

the friend idea has legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can get a swingers car sticker off e bay

Its made up of circles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" .... how would I spot a swinger, or how would I identify myself as being aproachable and interested in that type of fun? "

In regular pubs and clubs (and other social situations!), if I'm feeling frisky, I am just a lot flirtier than I used to be. I make more eye-contact, I initiate the conversation, tell slightly riskier jokes. If the other person is responding, I'll lean in and touch their leg or arm. And it's usually 'message received and understood'

They probably think that I'm 'promiscuous' rather than thinking I'm a swinger, but does that bother me? Nah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Put you keys in bowl or ashtray and see if they throw theirs in lol

I did that, I'm still driving their old Volvo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Put you keys in bowl or ashtray and see if they throw theirs in lol

I did that, I'm still driving their old Volvo

You did well, we got a Chinese moped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We need a gesture or handshake

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By *or Fox SakeCouple
over a year ago

Thornaby

"how about does your wife take it up the arse"

" ok if you don't what about your wife"

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By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

I wouldnt "advertise" myself in shops, so no problem about being approached but as for being approached in bars, the chance would be a fine thing.

I will email fab and suggest a range of merchandising.

I love the car sticker idea. If the volvo is rocking, please come a knockin'

T-shirts with "What happens in Fab, stays in fab",

Badges with "Looking for a Fab time"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"How about and F A B badge. If anyone without one asks you are a thunderbirds fan but anyone with one on would know the real reason behind it."

I like this idea. Thunderbird 3(sum)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt "advertise" myself in shops, so no problem about being approached but as for being approached in bars, the chance would be a fine thing.

I will email fab and suggest a range of merchandising.

I love the car sticker idea. If the volvo is rocking, please come a knockin'

T-shirts with "What happens in Fab, stays in fab",

Badges with "Looking for a Fab time""

Fab time! Would be good.... Printed big on your t-shirt..... Fab on the front and time on the back

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By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

I have emailed the site.

You never know, they might take up the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look for the pampas grass in the front garden

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

All this is okay until someone tells the press or someone finds out and you have to explain it to your family and friends!

Lots of different ones out there, all the groups would have to agree on a standard. Another way is a phrase. "Are you a friend of Ellis? " LS as in lifestyle. Personally, we wouldn't bother. Our life outside of swinging is more important.

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

"I've said to somebody who thought might be on here " how's you had a fab day ? " and just gauge there reaction

Seriously hoping I get asked that question next time I am in Stafford.....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

How about a pic of fab 1 as a screen saver on your mobile. And thunderbird theme ringtone. Or lady p saying Parker get the rolls we re going for a spin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

noones mentioned the swing pin yet? thought that was meant to be a universal sign, we've thought about getting our own tee's printed with "Fancy a FAB night?: on the front and username on the back lol.

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Walk around with a bottle of beer and a sky remote.... everyone will know then

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

The German site we use has a full set of merchandise. They have badges, beach towels, T shirts, and lots more, even branded condoms and contact cards are available. I suppose if you have got to the condom stage though you are well past the "are you a swinger" bit

Maybe FAB could try something similar, not only a service for the members but could even make a few quid for the site.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"noones mentioned the swing pin yet? thought that was meant to be a universal sign, we've thought about getting our own tee's printed with "Fancy a FAB night?: on the front and username on the back lol.

I keep seeing this Noones.. Who is he???

I presume you mean "no one or no one's"? I know it is picky, but just thought I would point it out!

The Swing Pin is at best a very expensive cheap piece of jewellery and at worst, a way of family and friends finding out what you do. Been around for a few years and was advertised on a pay site we are on. Never encountered one at any time, so I would guess they have plenty left.

The pay site we are on does have a range of merchandise but although we have some, it only comes out when we are in Cap d’Agde. Perhaps a club visit too, but not usually. Our family does know what we do, but we wouldn’t want it to become common knowledge around our neighbourhood. The Swing Pin was “outted” in the News of the World at one point as were several other “identifiers”. Just remember, they are on sale to all and that includes those who want a juicy story to sell papers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if fab done a cherry pin or key ring like there logo and offer it to site supporters for another small fee ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep seeing this Noones.. Who is he???

I presume you mean "no one or no one's"? I know it is picky, but just thought I would point it out!

Yep it's being picky ( and the fact i use my phone doesnt help autocorrect can be a bitch if your not careful and so is big fingers and little keyboards) next your be saying ain't isnt a word lol.

On another note any identifier risks becoming common knowledge, it just depends on how much you wish to let others know

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By *iss Spankalot OP Couple
over a year ago

Ashington

I have emailed FAB with the merchandising idea and they have thanked me for the enquiry and will look into it.

I hardly think I am the first person to think of it and maybe I am naive, but I have never heard of theses "identifiers" before.

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By *aster of a mindCouple
over a year ago

York

Maybe we could all change our bluetooth names and add some hint or FAB at the beginning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best bet is to hang around in swingers clubs. Problem with swingers is they look like everybody else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i got one of them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can get a swingers car sticker off e bay

Its made up of circles

i got one of those ...

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

A swinging friend of mine has the universal swinging sign (interlinking Mars and Venus symbols) tattoo'd on his forearm. Not for everyone though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I have said before, singers have little silver fish symbols on their cars.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

If we thought you were game and we fancied you, you'd have a good idea we weren't wired up right. Both are Libertines

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

my tee shirt says im a swinger on the front, and when i turn round take me from behind

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

"I'm not that confident alone in social situations. A million knockbacks have dented it."

When you are friendly and others are not just remember - it's probably their problem.

(There are a few disclaimers)

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

"Best bet is to hang around in swingers clubs. Problem with swingers is they look like everybody else!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most swingers that I have seen look like butter wouldn't melt lol. Now if there was such a hand shake or code that wouldn't last long as soon as the papers no about its finished. Thank god for the internet let's be fair being a swinger is about living double lives. Excitement

Can anyone add to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It woulnt bother me if outsiders found out a pitcular code badge or wrist band was for swingers, I would only ware when I intend to pull. It's a life style not a sin lol let me know if any intends to get them made ill be on the list.

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

We at butlins this weekend fancy dress and we have printed a pic of a convict to go on the back of some orange overall.s saying some thing like butlins fab weekend prisoner ?????? Phone number lol and Wifey wearing Ann summers American style copper uniform . See if we get any response lol and

there are a few of fab going by the sound of things so could be an exciting weekend all round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I remember correctly the magazine 'Forum' issued a lapel badge in the shape of a small dove, also when smoking was allowed in pubs ect, a zippo lighter with the same shape inprinted which you could leave openly on your table to view. It would be recognised by swingers all over the UK at the time. I was told that it worked on a social scale.

Jon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Minehead bring it on can't wait xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

King of the swing crown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

King of the swing crown

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

If they have pampas grass in their shopping trolly in the supermarket on a Tuesday they are a swinger.

I may have that a tiny bit wrong...

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester

Well we took the kids to butlins few years ago and a couple were playing pool and kept looking at us,then kissing (both still looking at us then at one point he lifted her up and she straddled him! i could tell they wanted us lol

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