FabSwingers.com forum: January mental health thread

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else struggling?

Don’t be alone. Share.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

(Not gonna be able to reply to all but will do my best to)

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I feel really bleurgh. No energy. No motivation. Not sure if it’s menopause related, mental health related or just me needing a kick up the arse.

We have had incessant rain here which doesn’t help either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel really bleurgh. No energy. No motivation. Not sure if it’s menopause related, mental health related or just me needing a kick up the arse.

We have had incessant rain here which doesn’t help either.

The weather does not help at all. I really really miss the sunshine.

Hugs, Luna! I hope you figure it out this month. Big love

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Definitely.

I haven't seen another human since Christmas Eve, I've only actually spoken to one person since Christmas Day and I know hibernating like this is a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely.

I haven't seen another human since Christmas Eve, I've only actually spoken to one person since Christmas Day and I know hibernating like this is a bad thing."

I hope you can get out soon, Posh. It’s scary but seeing people can be good for the soul. Big love

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By *uietlycheekyMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

Struggling big time… always do at this time of year .. just hate it, no matter how hard I try to be ‘festive’ I just can’t …. In a room full of people I’m there but I’m not there

It suck’s but I’ll get through it, always do.

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By *agic johnsonMan
over a year ago

morden

Yeah a bit , specially after getting blown out and gone quiet about a hour before the meet , bit of a kick in the balls ,and my confidence

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Not been good over Xmas and new year had stinky cold all over still can’t get rid of it had to go in to work which was not good

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Definitely.

I haven't seen another human since Christmas Eve, I've only actually spoken to one person since Christmas Day and I know hibernating like this is a bad thing.

I hope you can get out soon, Posh. It’s scary but seeing people can be good for the soul. Big love

Ugh. People. They'll want interaction and stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Struggling big time… always do at this time of year .. just hate it, no matter how hard I try to be ‘festive’ I just can’t …. In a room full of people I’m there but I’m not there

It suck’s but I’ll get through it, always do."

Makes me think of the quote from Gatsby

'I was within and without, simultaneously enchanted and repelled by the inexhaustible variety of life.'

I hear you man. It’s a tough time. Socialising is HARD work.

You will get through it but acknowledging that you feel sad or shit is ok.

Big love

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By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
over a year ago

Darlington

We are ok but we know how much of a downer January can be for people and just want to let everyone know that you are enough and matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah a bit , specially after getting blown out and gone quiet about a hour before the meet , bit of a kick in the balls ,and my confidence"

The confidence knocks are tough on here I find. I know that people shouldn’t dictate how we feel about ourselves but sometimes it’s hard not to internalise things.

I’m sorry that happened to you, man. Don’t let it stop you from trying again with someone else. Someone will know your worth and they’ll help you realise not to accept less.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not been good over Xmas and new year had stinky cold all over still can’t get rid of it had to go in to work which was not good

I’m sorry you’ve not been well!

And I’m sorry you’ve been struggling. It’s a tough time of year with illness and it definitely impacts our wellbeing. Can’t wait for you to feel better soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely.

I haven't seen another human since Christmas Eve, I've only actually spoken to one person since Christmas Day and I know hibernating like this is a bad thing.

I hope you can get out soon, Posh. It’s scary but seeing people can be good for the soul. Big love

Ugh. People. They'll want interaction and stuff."

They might. But I hope you have someone that might just sit with you. In silence. Or hold you. We need that sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are ok but we know how much of a downer January can be for people and just want to let everyone know that you are enough and matter."

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By *emidemiWoman
over a year ago

basingstoke

Not doing great tbh. I’m just feeling the aftermath of Christmas retail burnout, and it’s just draining having customers treating you like pure scum every single day.

And I’ve had to up my medication which is also not going well

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

My MH is good despite having a tough time with my family stuff. I’m just really tired with it.

Sending love to those struggling. You’re not alone and my DMs are open if you ever need a chat

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
over a year ago

shankill

Not doing too great. Confidence has taken a hit in recent weeks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not doing great tbh. I’m just feeling the aftermath of Christmas retail burnout, and it’s just draining having customers treating you like pure scum every single day.

And I’ve had to up my medication which is also not going well

I’m sorry. I hated working this period in customer facing roles.

And the meds. Yeah definitely keep a note of what you’ve been taking and how it’s making you feel. Hopefully it improves once you get used to it?

Big love, homie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My MH is good despite having a tough time with my family stuff. I’m just really tired with it.

Sending love to those struggling. You’re not alone and my DMs are open if you ever need a chat

I’ve said everything I can to you. Fight on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not doing too great. Confidence has taken a hit in recent weeks "

Confidence will fluctuate. I hope you can find, inside yourself, the feeling that you are enough. You’re always enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a weird space, I can't articulate what is missing but something definitely is and no it's not sex.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"My MH is good despite having a tough time with my family stuff. I’m just really tired with it.

Sending love to those struggling. You’re not alone and my DMs are open if you ever need a chat

I’ve said everything I can to you. Fight on"

I know you have. And you know how much it means to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm in a weird space, I can't articulate what is missing but something definitely is and no it's not sex. "

It’s hard to find the words sometimes. And you don’t have to. You know how you feel. And deep down you know what’s missing. You’ll figure it out. Good luck.

And lean on people. Talk to people. You’re not alone.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Not struggling as such but I’ve always hated Jan and feb. Always! Roll on March. That first faff will cheer me up

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not struggling as such but I’ve always hated Jan and feb. Always! Roll on March. That first faff will cheer me up

Daff!!! Fffs

Got faf on the brain!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not struggling as such but I’ve always hated Jan and feb. Always! Roll on March. That first faff will cheer me up

What’s faff?

Tough months, the first two, I agree. You got this, Nora.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not struggling as such but I’ve always hated Jan and feb. Always! Roll on March. That first faff will cheer me up

Daff!!! Fffs

Got faf on the brain!"

Daffodil?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Not struggling as such but I’ve always hated Jan and feb. Always! Roll on March. That first faff will cheer me up

FAF?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not struggling as such but I’ve always hated Jan and feb. Always! Roll on March. That first faff will cheer me up

Daff!!! Fffs

Got faf on the brain!

Daffodil?

Yes. Haha. Love to see the daffs. Then you know spring is here

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not struggling as such but I’ve always hated Jan and feb. Always! Roll on March. That first faff will cheer me up

What’s faff?

Tough months, the first two, I agree. You got this, Nora.

Big love

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Good thread OP.

I’m doing ok and that’s why I’m back on fab. Just need a work thing to resolve itself and a girlfriend who likes me as much as I like her and I’ll be happy.

How are YOU doing?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Quite anxious at the thought of going back to work (as it was utterly awful before Christmas), slightly concerned for my finances as overspent on pressies, but keep telling myself that things will be ok and I’ll manage. Going to get out for some fresh air and try and have a productive day today. Sending hugs to those who may need one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good thread OP.

I’m doing ok and that’s why I’m back on fab. Just need a work thing to resolve itself and a girlfriend who likes me as much as I like her and I’ll be happy.

How are YOU doing?"

Glad to see you back. Your name is one of my all time faves.

Things will work themselves out. I have faith.

As for me, well, I’ll do that after I’ve replied to everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Quite anxious at the thought of going back to work (as it was utterly awful before Christmas), slightly concerned for my finances as overspent on pressies, but keep telling myself that things will be ok and I’ll manage. Going to get out for some fresh air and try and have a productive day today. Sending hugs to those who may need one

Oh I hear this, Samantha. I am sorry about work. Sounds out of your control. But take it day by day. Moment by moment.

Finances- yeah I hear you. You know what to do though I’m not going to advise you it’s not my place.

Sounds like you’re being proactive. I hope you have a good day.

Big love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Felix, thanks for asking about me.

I’m not great. Similarly to a poster above it’s hard to express it. Had some bad news before Christmas, had to get back into contact with my dad and see him for the first time in half a decade. Lots of socialising with family. And just some triggering conversations recently that have led to me doubting my worth even though I spent so long last year figuring it out. I hate when I get into questioning why I’m not enough or haven’t been enough. I know you can’t be enough for everyone it’s just hard to take sometimes, right? Especially from some people more than others.

Anyway it’s impacting my start to work. Need to get my shit together. Might go for a run to try and help but I’m sure I’ll be disappointed in my body when I do. Feeling very defeated at the moment. I know I’m loved though so it could be worse. I’m very grateful.

No need to reply. Felt good to get some of that out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle daily. Sometimes a lot less than others.

A pat on the back to anyone who is going through anything where they feel they can’t speak to anyone about it.

I know exactly how that is.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Felix, thanks for asking about me.

No need to reply. Felt good to get some of that out. "

Good on you for taking the initiative, dude.

I won’t pretend I know what to say or do, but I’m glad you feel you have friends here you can open up to. Many of us will be glad to just chat anytime you like.

Families can be tough. I’m ‘lucky’ that mine is tiny and I can manage it to suit me.

Do you have close friends off fab that can support you? Even if they don’t know they are ie just having a pint etc.

Your fab crew think you’re a lovely bloke and there’s a lot of worth in that.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I struggle daily. Sometimes a lot less than others.

A pat on the back to anyone who is going through anything where they feel they can’t speak to anyone about it.

I know exactly how that is. "

Big hugs Woody. I’m always around for a chat and I know many others would be too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I struggle daily. Sometimes a lot less than others.

A pat on the back to anyone who is going through anything where they feel they can’t speak to anyone about it.

I know exactly how that is. "

You got this, man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Felix, thanks for asking about me.

No need to reply. Felt good to get some of that out.

Good on you for taking the initiative, dude.

I won’t pretend I know what to say or do, but I’m glad you feel you have friends here you can open up to. Many of us will be glad to just chat anytime you like.

Families can be tough. I’m ‘lucky’ that mine is tiny and I can manage it to suit me.

Do you have close friends off fab that can support you? Even if they don’t know they are ie just having a pint etc.

Your fab crew think you’re a lovely bloke and there’s a lot of worth in that."

Appreciate this a great deal, man. I think I could do with meeting up with someone so might message a friend.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Inbox is open if anyone needs a natter or a vent. With a bit more planning, I’m always around for a coffee

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Felix, thanks for asking about me.

No need to reply. Felt good to get some of that out. "

That was incredibly brave of you to post. Well done

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Hasn't started brilliantly. Obvious situation over Christmas but I'm fairly stable with that now. But work is pretty dead and the one job I'm working on has had its parts delayed.

And thanks to Henk I've got to replace some fence panels.

Oh and finally my crypto holdings crashed in value this morning (nothing new there though!)

These things come in threes, right?

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Mentally I’m ok. Work will likely overwhelm between now and March and I’m mentally prepared for that.

I have my own coping mechanisms in place and it’s essential I use the time I have before it ramps up to get everything in order to give myself the best chance of success

Having enough in my cup means I can help those around me keep theirs topped up too

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Felix, thanks for asking about me.

No need to reply. Felt good to get some of that out. "

Thanks for sharing that, and I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time. Listen, for what it's worth, and I know I don't know you, you've brightened my day and I'm sure a lot of others' too with a lot of your more humerous posts on the forums. Just hang in there, we're all here for you

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I feel really bleurgh. No energy. No motivation. Not sure if it’s menopause related, mental health related or just me needing a kick up the arse.

We have had incessant rain here which doesn’t help either.

The weather does not help at all. I really really miss the sunshine.

Hugs, Luna! I hope you figure it out this month. Big love

Hugs to you too Pickle and to anybody else who is struggling at the moment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't going to post but then that would be me not taking my own advice

Feeling very low. Feeling that I want to lay in the bath and fall asleep kind of low. Haven't talked with anyone out loud for a very long time and feel like I don't even know if I can string a sentence together.

Don't worry I won't do anything coz as stupid as it might read to others I have a cat that is the only reason why I'm here and I can't leave her

Why is the brain so fucked sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty good - i can help you radiate... But no sexy talk

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Anyone else struggling?

Don’t be alone. Share. "

Had a rubbish couple of weeks.. but think I'm doing ok currently x

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I wasn't going to post but then that would be me not taking my own advice

Don't worry I won't do anything coz as stupid as it might read to others I have a cat that is the only reason why I'm here and I can't leave her

Why is the brain so fucked sometimes"

Sending you huge hugs. I get like that more frequently than I care to admit. I do spend long periods of my time alone which isn't healthy, and it sounds like you are the same.

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

Very much so, been struggling for the most part of 2023 and still am…not sure I’ll be able to get my head out of the hole this time around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wasn't going to post but then that would be me not taking my own advice

Don't worry I won't do anything coz as stupid as it might read to others I have a cat that is the only reason why I'm here and I can't leave her

Why is the brain so fucked sometimes

Sending you huge hugs. I get like that more frequently than I care to admit. I do spend long periods of my time alone which isn't healthy, and it sounds like you are the same.

I am, I cannot form the words, and at the same time I want to be left alone and know that's not healthy.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I wasn't going to post but then that would be me not taking my own advice

Don't worry I won't do anything coz as stupid as it might read to others I have a cat that is the only reason why I'm here and I can't leave her

Why is the brain so fucked sometimes"

Just wanted to acknowledge your post and say I see you. Go gently and I hope this soon will pass or ease a little for you - solidarity. And love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi to all, those who are atruggling, respect to you for reaching out and being open. You're important.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I did a little last week but now im fine its only that christmassy hope stuff kicking in making me wish for miracles might be down again back end of the month we shall see nothing will change either way tho

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Felix, thanks for asking about me.

No need to reply. Felt good to get some of that out. "

Stephen Pickle

I'm really glad you shared that, thank you for baring your soul.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"I wasn't going to post but then that would be me not taking my own advice

Don't worry I won't do anything coz as stupid as it might read to others I have a cat that is the only reason why I'm here and I can't leave her

Why is the brain so fucked sometimes"

You have me on that other app. If a full conversation seems too much we can just voicenote so you get used to talking

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Felix, thanks for asking about me.

No need to reply. Felt good to get some of that out. "

Mr P. Can I friendzone you? Please? We'll be ace friends without sexiness in the way. (kiss)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had some shit news just before christmas which has put me a in a shotty place and to top it all off got shit going on at work, feel like ive no one to talk to or vent to, feel like im alone and knowone actually cares. Feels like there is no point

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By *he_13th_ghostWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

December and Jan are always super hard for people I think. I know they are for me.

It's just a case of finding people to talk to, keep you busy and press through.

Then I get depressed about my birthday in March so I'm very much out of it over most of Winter.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

A very lovely thoughtful post OP. Clearly a lot of folk in a similar place. Talking and support is key. I have that in my gorgeous partner and my wee doggo.

I can relate to many of the woes expressed and happy to lend an ear. And Posh, I’ll be calling you soon you hermit. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very up and down at the moment.

Things aren't great in certain areas of my life. Others are going great.

I try to be grateful for the good stuff but when the bad stuff outweighs it, its difficult.

I'm not sleeping well which doesn't help. Cortisol levels are through the roof. Trying to keep busy which helps but thoughts creep in at times.

I think I would just like a someone to help me through. One who isnt a narcissist would be good. Maybe my thoughts of revenge will disappear then?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

My mental health has never been the best, I may look confident and together on the surface which to a degree I am however I am also an over thinker and at times it eats me from the inside out. I am irked by inconsistencies in people, people who are too wrapped in there world to notice you or check in, communication being one sided and effort also.

I find adult relationships hard and like everyone can seem too busy to check in or pay a visit, expecting of you to do all the leg work and it’s exhausting at times, then whilst you are knackered with it all and thoughts of mirroring there actions creep in, guilt comes along and kicks you in the gut and your reminded ‘that’s not how you are, that’s not how you behave’ it’s a battle.

I am making a conscious effort this year to put my energy into the people and things that make me happy and regaining some lost confidence. I think this site can rear demons at times and I think it’s important to step back and reflect. I’m not going to offer advice here as sometimes I don’t even listen to myself but I try, that’s all any of us can do.

Vulnerability is beautiful, don’t hide

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

For what it's worth, there are some things I do to help with my mental health, especially during the dark months.

I take large doses of Vitamin D and try to get outside in the fresh air when it's sunny.

I'm not for one moment suggesting this is a cause of people struggling with their mental health, but Vitamin D deficiency does exacerbate feelings of depression, and I find topping up does help a bit.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

MH is generally pretty good, despite it being cold, miserable and dark and now back at work, but fully understand others' MH struggles. Great post and if anyone wants to chat, always happy to oblige. Have quite a bit of experience in the MH field.

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Have to admit I'm not too good at the moment. Just crashing from one day to the next.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Really struggling

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Probably not doing so well but hey ho, one day at a time and it'll pass.

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really struggling

Talk to me chick

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m sorry I haven’t replied to everyone. Got a bit overwhelmed.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Being an empath is not all its cracked up to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably not doing so well but hey ho, one day at a time and it'll pass.

MrsAbz "

I’m still waiting for time to heal.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Probably not doing so well but hey ho, one day at a time and it'll pass.

MrsAbz

I’m still waiting for time to heal.

Time usually does soften any feelings. I'd not say heal but allows you not to feel something all the time.

Hugs for you, may enough time pass soon that you feel more settled and content

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massively. MH is in the gutter at the mo. Had some pretty distressing family news, and I'm still not over the last loss. So yeah, I'm just on auto pilot at the moment. Seeking any sort of fucking dopamine boost.

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

I've been struggling for nearly two months bad, since last week I've fone and bought a few vitamins, trying everyday to keep mind busy, not sure if it's a mixture of weather, boredom, stress or what but last month I would struggle to leave the house for long period of time. At the moment it's not as bad I've even come back to fab for now just trying everything I can but not that easy. Sleeping is the worse it's all over the place and I just cant be bothered to go work most days

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I've been struggling recently too.. I will just say this we're all stronger than we realise, and my inbox is always open if you need a chat xx

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Solidarity.

Been having a very tough time. Adulting is hard work and I wish I didn’t have to do it the majority of the time.

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By *tacy.TWoman
over a year ago

luton

I'm not doing too bad actually, for those struggling my inbox is always open if you wanna talk about anything

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I'm OK. How are you doing?

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By *aughtyhub80Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Struggle because of the situation of life

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

Better than I was last month but still not great. Not enjoying my new job and procrastinating a lot. Was gonna start back at the gym but yeah I'll do it tomorrow etc!

Ok a few months back sometime pulled a knife on me at 3am in deepest darkest Brixton and told me to hand over my booze. I refused and told him to come and take it. He was about 16 and most scared than I was. I went for him and he ran. Stupid I know but I didn't care.

First day back at work I stopped at mu local corner shop to get breakfast. A guy entered shouting and lit up a giant asosol can that produced a 2 foot long flame thrower! Out if instinct I took him down and held him in a jujitsu hold until the police arrived. Never done that before but didn't care.

Felt good and felt I had a purpose that day. Cut out the drinking but not adjusting well to being single and alone after 15 years

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've been feeling pretty good lately but yesterday I had a strange day.

I felt tired physically and hyper mentally; which made me tearful.

I too a tablet, slept like a baby and woke up feeling calmer.

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

It's not like I don't have friends that care but feel guilty and weak and burden talking about my problems to them

It doesn't help unless you talk to someone who has been through the same thing

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"I've been feeling pretty good lately but yesterday I had a strange day.

I felt tired physically and hyper mentally; which made me tearful.

I too a tablet, slept like a baby and woke up feeling calmer.

We do have some strange days. Glad you felt better

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I’m glad this thread is still going. It’s so easy to read and comment on a post and move on. Clearly some have a lot going on in their lives and cannot move on.

To all of you who have posted, and to the many more who haven’t, I’ll always be around for a chat in the forum or messages, and I know many others will be too. It may just be that companionship gets you through that day. And it’s one day at a time!

Keep going and don’t bottle up

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"I’m glad this thread is still going. It’s so easy to read and comment on a post and move on. Clearly some have a lot going on in their lives and cannot move on.

Keep going and don’t bottle up

Appreciate that - strength in numbers as they say. Better to get the feelings out rather than bottle them up.

I'll just be glad when this next week has passed. Funeral on Tuesday

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Today is hard.

I have friends and family to talk to but I am supposed to be over it all and moved on and be ok.

I'm not.

Ah well, today is just another day and it will pass again.

Hugs to those struggling

MrsAbz

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Today is hard.

I have friends and family to talk to but I am supposed to be over it all and moved on and be ok.

I'm not.

Ah well, today is just another day and it will pass again.

Hugs to those struggling

MrsAbz "

You get over it when you get over it - no-one has the right to say you should be over it and to move on.

Actually, I think some events you never get over, but you learn to live with it and the pain lessens.

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Today is hard.

I have friends and family to talk to but I am supposed to be over it all and moved on and be ok.

I'm not.

Ah well, today is just another day and it will pass again.

Hugs to those struggling

MrsAbz

You get over it when you get over it - no-one has the right to say you should be over it and to move on.

Actually, I think some events you never get over, but you learn to live with it and the pain lessens."

Thank you, it helps to know someone understands you can't always just be over something and healed just because it makes everyone else feel better

MrsAbz

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Today is hard.

I have friends and family to talk to but I am supposed to be over it all and moved on and be ok.

I'm not.

Ah well, today is just another day and it will pass again.

Hugs to those struggling

MrsAbz

You get over it when you get over it - no-one has the right to say you should be over it and to move on.

Actually, I think some events you never get over, but you learn to live with it and the pain lessens.

Thank you, it helps to know someone understands you can't always just be over something and healed just because it makes everyone else feel better

MrsAbz "

Well, the struggles are fresh for me and it's a case of making the most of and being grateful for the better days. But people I've been in contact with all say the same thing - don't bottle it up, just let the emotions flow when they hit and don't be ashamed of them

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm having a bad day today. My hormones are all up the spout

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By *unshinemcmanioMan
over a year ago

GLASGOW

Yeah the cold and constant rain in glasgow coupled with the sort daylight hours and sorting work at 6am when its pitch black gets depressing. Roll on the long summer nights

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By *weet.touchMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Apparently it's in your nature to have some fear and stress/distress over winter periods it's been researched a lot regarding evolutionary biology/chemistry.

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By *hesubtlegentMan
over a year ago

surrey

Thanks for starting this thread OP. My mh is not too bad. Good start to the new year. Last year was shit apart from a few good occasions so I focus on those.

It’s natural to think about the shitty things but I try to spend time thinking about the good in my life and feel better about myself in general. You’re your own worst critic right?

I need to do more things that are simple but not always easy to do. Eat better, sleep better, drink more water. Sometimes you just have a shitty day so think fuck it and push the reset button. Tomorrow is another day. One foot in front of the other x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

On the surface looking in everyone would think I'm doing ok. That couldn't be further from the truth especially after events at the weekend x

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"On the surface looking in everyone would think I'm doing ok. That couldn't be further from the truth especially after events at the weekend x"

Sending you hugs. X

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

Hi and yeah doing really bad currently my tremors have got worse and now on max dose which means it’s bad and more prone to worsen and also harder to hide.

Works got crazy but also feel under appreciated and like as new ppl joined am just old faithful and discarded.

Not sure though if more cos tired and worried about tremors if making all else worse and stuff but just feel no motivation and not even wanting play guitars or sing etc which sucks.

Oh no bet wish I never posted now and sorry I don’t mean be so whiney etc but takes a lot for me pop and am at end now and have nothin else to give.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Solidarity and love to everyone posting or reading who is struggling.

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

"Hi and yeah doing really bad currently my tremors have got worse and now on max dose which means it’s bad and more prone to worsen and also harder to hide.

Works got crazy but also feel under appreciated and like as new ppl joined am just old faithful and discarded.

Not sure though if more cos tired and worried about tremors if making all else worse and stuff but just feel no motivation and not even wanting play guitars or sing etc which sucks.

Oh no bet wish I never posted now and sorry I don’t mean be so whiney etc but takes a lot for me pop and am at end now and have nothin else to give. "

Hope peoples weekend ok and gettin ok also

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can’t believe it’s still January.

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By *inkygentkentMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Not feeling too good today, I have to admit. This past week has caught up with me

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Menatl health or spiritual well being?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I keep plodding along. This past week has been hard. I broke down a few times, but kicked myself up the bum and kept going.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Much better now. Thank you gorgeous OP.

In fact I would go as far to say I feel like myself again for the first time in a very long time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Menatl health or spiritual well being? "

I think the OP said "mental health". If the latter works for you, then more power to you.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm... managing. lol

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

Good to hear just keep going

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

Just try stay positive and keep talking to people around you, I just take day at a time

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Much better now. Thank you gorgeous OP.

In fact I would go as far to say I feel like myself again for the first time in a very long time

It pleases me so much to hear this. Big soppy hugs

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Much better now. Thank you gorgeous OP.

In fact I would go as far to say I feel like myself again for the first time in a very long time

It pleases me so much to hear this. Big soppy hugs

Thanks gorgeous

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

I think this year I am feeling quite good. I have grown, if not of boob, of mind.

I think its entirely because I have taken men out of the equation and have been learning about Just Me as a person. I have parked a few things, tied up a few loose ends and feel ready to walk forwards feeling a little freer. Which is nice.

Im still broke, aimless and infirm but I dont much care anymore.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think this year I am feeling quite good. I have grown, if not of boob, of mind.

Im still broke, aimless and infirm but I dont much care anymore.

Much love

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Im doing well and therefore have space in my cup to top up those of you who aren’t. Get in touch whoever you are if you need a chat

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By *lder.Woman
over a year ago

Not Local

"I think this year I am feeling quite good. I have grown, if not of boob, of mind.

Im still broke, aimless and infirm but I dont much care anymore.

Much love "

Thankyou. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this year I am feeling quite good. I have grown, if not of boob, of mind.

Im still broke, aimless and infirm but I dont much care anymore.

Much love

Thankyou. Xx"

Much love to you and reach out if you need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m completely deflated and exhausted and have no desire whatsoever to keep being treated like shit at work. I can work out eat right all that stuff but I’m broken

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m doing quite well, despite hibernating conditions outside.

Someone on here once has been there for me when I needed it most.

Talking helps, please don’t be afraid to reach out.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Couldn’t sleep last night. So feeling rather ragged currently. Albeit actually rather terribly aroused too. Overall, I think my depressive episode is on the wane. I hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I can feel an outsider to society (people in general), and that has an apparent affect on the way I relate and connect with people. It's not all misery though. The 'space' allows for introspection and being able to see deeper into what's going on below the surface.

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

Maybe a dialy forum for everyone to just chat about they're thoughts would help better, we all here to share and help

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

How's everyone feeling today???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm marvelous, yourself?

My inbox is open to all briefly if anyone wants to off load privately.

Fellas please don't use this as an opportunity to offer me a beej.

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

I'm all good today, been good day hope everyone is doing they're best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Money's tight.

Really tight.

And the people spending it are clueless idiots about that.

All I need is a month's time out... But it never seems to happen. Lots and lots of crap always comes out.

And it's manifesting itself in many different ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on this site for a while looking for women and couples I have tried the being nice messages getting no response and the odd one I do is always a no it’s getting me down I must be no good for anyone don’t know what I am doing wrong

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By *inkygentkentMan
52 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm really short-tempered at the moment. Struggling to find motivation to work but obviously am as the jobs come in. I'm really just finding everything hard at the moment. Also permanently tired even though I seem to be sleeping.

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By *naswingdressWoman
52 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have been on this site for a while looking for women and couples I have tried the being nice messages getting no response and the odd one I do is always a no it’s getting me down I must be no good for anyone don’t know what I am doing wrong "

The site is difficult for a lot of people - it's best not to use it as a way to change your mental health.

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By *naswingdressWoman
52 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I always underestimate certain landmines in my memories.

I had to hit on some of them yesterday. It's for a good cause and ultimately I don't think I'll regret it (and I'm not done, fuck me), but right now it's left me feeling pretty fragile. I just want to curl up in a ball and sleep forever. (Also, insomnia. So that's fun)

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By *stellaWoman
52 weeks ago

London

"I always underestimate certain landmines in my memories.

Sending love, Swing

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By *naswingdressWoman
52 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I always underestimate certain landmines in my memories.

Sending love, Swing

Thank you. It's for the greater good etc etc ("greater good" sounds sinister. It's not) and I remind myself of that while I climb out of this bloody pit. Again.

What doesn't kill you doesn't make you stronger, it ladens your life with landmines forever.

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By *ractorlad3800Man
52 weeks ago

derbyshire

There’s only so much keep smiling you can do , you never know what people have going on at home

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
52 weeks ago

fabland

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By *night in armourMan
52 weeks ago

stafford

Sorry to hear so many people struggling . I do myself hate the dark nights and grim days .

It gets very lonely with no family or interaction besides work .

Keep going though hug from me

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By *nsatiable n baldCouple
52 weeks ago

somewhere only we know

I roller coaster and spiral and try to find techniques that help myself

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By *inkygentkentMan
52 weeks ago

Maidstone

People keep telling me it's because I'm still grieving but it feels unrelated. Mental health is weird

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I feel ok but like any minute something awful is going to happen.

Because I'm worrying about my health, it's getting dragged out, I need some sort of answer. New symptoms today are making things worse.

Meanwhile the support I asked for has come in the form of a bellend that caused more stress and upset instead and I've now had to go to other people to assist with that while my original problem still stands and is not helping me get any better.

And then I'm upset because I could really do with some to look after me and I'm feeling the absence of that much more because of the above bellend.

January has been a bit shitty in a few ways. I feel like I'm just surviving.

And that thing that I should have because the deadline was two days ago and nothing, it's just silent, like I seny my request into a big black hole.

There is a woman on fab however that I've become friends with and she is keeping me sane, listening to me and even offered to help in a big way. And she is truly lovely. I really appreciate that woman right now.

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By *estYorkshireGentMan
52 weeks ago

Leeds

I have had quite possibly the worst 6 months of my life. Really struggled in recent times if I’m being completely honest.

I’m glad to say I’m in a much better place now thanks to a bit of support from friends and family. That’s what really makes the difference, some support and an ear in troubled times

If anyone ever needs to chat, my inbox is open.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
52 weeks ago

Southampton

"I feel ok but like any minute something awful is going to happen.

Because I'm worrying about my health, it's getting dragged out, I need some sort of answer. New symptoms today are making things worse.

And then I'm upset because I could really do with some to look after me and I'm feeling the absence of that much more because of the above bellend.

January has been a bit shitty in a few ways. I feel like I'm just surviving.

And that thing that I should have because the deadline was two days ago and nothing, it's just silent, like I seny my request into a big black hole.

Big hugs xx

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
52 weeks ago

Southampton

I had a big wobble yesterday, and today is the 1st anniversary of my dad's passing... strangely I feel better today than I did yesterday

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

Health and Dad and son and work and Mother crap and everything. It's a hard week and month and year, so far. Also Grandad anniversary

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
52 weeks ago

Southampton

"Health and Dad and son and work and Mother crap and everything. It's a hard week and month and year, so far. Also Grandad anniversary

Hugs x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
52 weeks ago

North West

"Health and Dad and son and work and Mother crap and everything. It's a hard week and month and year, so far. Also Grandad anniversary

Hugs x"

Thank you so much, right back at you

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
52 weeks ago

Southampton

"Health and Dad and son and work and Mother crap and everything. It's a hard week and month and year, so far. Also Grandad anniversary

Hugs x

Thank you so much, right back at you

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