FabSwingers.com forum: What's the best way to 'meet' on Fab

By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?

Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

No idea... Let me know when you find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offer to take the bins out

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I message people, usually. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non forum peeps are easier to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prepare for ridiculous answers op. …

Me, I wait until they get bored of everyone else theyve got on their hotlist…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Non forum peeps are easier to meet! "

She knows. ^ ….

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Offer to take the bins out"

They're taking themselves out in this weather

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather"

Even the wind gets more meets than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather"

If they don’t…., just holla

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Do what suits you, your needs and your lifestyle. You’re unlikely to score on day one so keeping plugging away (fnarr fnarr).

Be you - don’t come across as desperate or cloying.

Visit a club or social but don’t go the first time with the intention of ploughing everyone you fancy. Chill, chat, make friends.

Fab is a long haul game and you often meet the best people when you least expect it.

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
over a year ago

Sussex

How about going to an organised social?... If there are none going on near you then, there's your chance to start your own.

Ps invite EVERYONE!

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Non forum peeps are easier to meet! "

Hey!! I’ll have you know I’ve got incredibly low standards.

Harrumph

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’d second going to an organised social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Organised socials for me though I'm rubbish at the whole online thing and much prefer speaking in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried being really, really, ridiculously good looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send them a message asking how they are. Or what are they up to.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?

Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?

Go on Club/Events forum

Find one you like the sound of

Chat / engage on post

Go to event and have fun with those you arrange to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start a debate about the ethics of AI

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Start a debate about the ethics of AI"

That one was me, I think?

Didn't get me anywhere.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

If I like the cut of their jib I send a message.

Simples really

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

As an AI consultant.... that might be a one sided conversation lol

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Tried it....

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?"

Easy, ask them out for a drink

Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one

You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social. "

So when you next at a social??? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?

Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?

Offer your meat. You’ll get loads of meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same..."

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?

Easy, ask them out for a drink

Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one

You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested "

What if they don’t drink?

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?

Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?

The

Socials

Its the advice we give anyone new, but it goes double for single guys. When people can see you "in the flesh" so to speak, chat to you, interact, the chances of you making a decent impression are magnified...unless you have the personality of a hairbrush and the social skills of a bogtroll lol.

And...worst case scenario, even if you dont get lucky, you will pick up a couple of veries, and make some friends so its a win-win situation.

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?

Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?

Offer your meat. You’ll get loads of meets. "

I'm ready and willing.... doesn't appear to be many meat eaters around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As an AI consultant.... that might be a one sided conversation lol "

You should do a thread on it.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it."

I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away

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By *leasinglipznhipsWoman
over a year ago

Get out to private parties and clubs

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?

Easy, ask them out for a drink

Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one

You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested

What if they don’t drink? "

I'm OK with alcohol free lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?

Easy, ask them out for a drink

Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one

You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested

What if they don’t drink? "

They’ll die of dehydration and shouldn’t be meeting anyone

Non alcoholic drinks are available

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"As an AI consultant.... that might be a one sided conversation lol

You should do a thread on it."

Not sure I dare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?

Easy, ask them out for a drink

Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one

You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested

What if they don’t drink? "

He’s actually got a point.

My last three times I’ve asked to meet and set a date when someone has specifically shown interest (some messaged me first ) and told me they’d love to meet up have ghosted me.

I’m not complaining, at all. But some will string you along for whatever reason. But to be ghosted is flabbergasting when you’d spoken in a friendly way (sometimes a lengthy period).

I just don’t see what they get from it? Attention. Maybe.

*sorry, not here to discus this, but wanted to comment with what I just read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?

Easy, ask them out for a drink

Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one

You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested

What if they don’t drink? "

We could go out for Icecream

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?

Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?

The

Socials

And...worst case scenario, even if you dont get lucky, you will pick up a couple of veries, and make some friends so its a win-win situation."

I honestly couldn’t agree with this more. It’s the best way to get to know people on fab

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Prepare for ridiculous answers op. …

Me, I wait until they get bored of everyone else theyve got on their hotlist…..

But what if you are on my hotlist?

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

"Have you tried being really, really, ridiculously good looking"

Tried that , didn’t help so going for the ugly as sin approach now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to do a group social.

MLS.

Back end of march. I’ll pop a thread in the meets section soon.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.

So when you next at a social??? Lol "

27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter

that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on

So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?

Easy, ask them out for a drink

Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one

You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested

What if they don’t drink?

He’s actually got a point.

My last three times I’ve asked to meet and set a date when someone has specifically shown interest (some messaged me first ) and told me they’d love to meet up have ghosted me.

I’m not complaining, at all. But some will string you along for whatever reason. But to be ghosted is flabbergasting when you’d spoken in a friendly way (sometimes a lengthy period).

I just don’t see what they get from it? Attention. Maybe.

*sorry, not here to discus this, but wanted to comment with what I just read.

That’s awful, sorry to hear that

I’ve been fully stood up twice in my life and it does suck.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.

So when you next at a social??? Lol

27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)

Are you coming to Northampton beauts?

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.

So when you next at a social??? Lol

27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)

Are you coming to Northampton beauts?

I’m not LB

when is that one?

I’m going to Curvy Swing and possibly the Birmingham social x

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

You could always lower your standards

Personally I'd attend a fab social at a club or private venue or try the chat rooms and try and get to know a few people first before asking for a meet

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.

So when you next at a social??? Lol

27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)

Where?.... I'm there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink "

Ah fuck I’ve been busted

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

Ah fuck I’ve been busted "

Hahahah

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.

So when you next at a social??? Lol

27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)

Are you coming to Northampton beauts?

I’m not LB

when is that one?

I’m going to Curvy Swing and possibly the Birmingham social x"

It’s on 17th Feb too. I need to get to a Birmingham one soon too. And I need to meet you finally xx

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

Ah fuck I’ve been busted "

. Don’t drink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.

I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away

Lucky woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

Ah fuck I’ve been busted

Hahahah

Cake. Ask them for cake! No one will refuse cake and if they don’t eat cake you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

Ah fuck I’ve been busted

. Don’t drink?

Sometimes I have a little drinky

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

Ah fuck I’ve been busted

Hahahah

Cake. Ask them for cake! No one will refuse cake and if they don’t eat cake you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life

What kind of cake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink "

This is clearly where I'm going wrong. I stated in my profile I didn't drink.

Dam it.

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.

I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away

Lucky woman! "
I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

Ah fuck I’ve been busted

Hahahah

Cake. Ask them for cake! No one will refuse cake and if they don’t eat cake you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life

What kind of cake? "

That’s a whole other thread Kai. Don’t come in here starting dramas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't state you won't leave them a verification, and that you don't display any....that seems to kill any chance of sex going.

Even when you've slept with them already, hide their verification and you'll end up kissing them goodbye as you do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s literally impossible. I’m so close to giving up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and try organised socials and clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.

I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away

Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol "

Your over a 100 miles away!

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.

I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away

Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol

Your over a 100 miles away!"

I travel.... alot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.

I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away

Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol

Your over a 100 miles away!

I travel.... a lot... "

Yeah, they all say that yet I end up doing the driving.....which isn't happening in 2024!

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Offer to take the bins out

They're taking themselves out in this weather

Even the wind gets more meets than me

Same dude, same...

That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.

I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away

Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol

Your over a 100 miles away!

I travel.... a lot...

Yeah, they all say that yet I end up doing the driving.....which isn't happening in 2024! "

Well if they're dumb enough to say they would, and lie, they ain't worth the miles.

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By *sxxxWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Sit and wait

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Use the meet section, use the cam chat rooms use the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sit and wait

How long have you been waiting

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By *ringbackfingering OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Sit and wait

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I haven't got a nice pair of tits like you, though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get as far as they need me to subscribe to something or soon as they ask for a "gift" I'm out

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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Why don't you just ask.

"What is the meaning of life?"

It's easier to answer.

If you do, then do the lottery that night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Another hint

If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next

That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely

Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink

Ah fuck I’ve been busted

. Don’t drink?

Sometimes I have a little drinky

When are we getting on it like Wallace and Gromit?

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

theirs no one way to get a meet because the one thing you cant control is sexual attraction and compatibility and both of those are needed so you could have thee best profile and think your thee sex god but unless others feel it it aint going to happen

someone else said this earlier most people are not compatible thats no different on the swinging scene most men get nowhere ever not their fault just the sheer number of men wanting part of this scene .... for a guy thee best way forward afyer a decent no bullshit profile is a social or a swinging club it allows you to get to know others just dont fall into the wanking dead trap ....basically if you want to stand out then make yourself stand out .... of course some men are lucky that they dont need to do much they just ''get it'' and get loads of meets .... its a scene based on selection and rejection rejection being the biggest ....

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