FabSwingers.com forum: How long do you last?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Before you give up on someone ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Depends how invested I am and how much of their bullshit I can fall for

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Depends how invested I am and how much of their bullshit I can fall for

This

Also, how likely it appears to be a lost cause.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Roughly 6 months, 7 days and 14-18 hours. +/- a day

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Its probly the only reason im here now i dont give up on people i care about i grew up believing quitting on your friends is one of the worst things a man can do saying that tho the need has gone with time but should i be needed i will be there

Thats really all there is to say

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’m no quitter!!!!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Every case is an individual with its own merits and facts.

Unfortunately we're seldom in the best position to know ourselves, as we're too close to the situation

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

For the right person, as long as I/they need.

For people I think are wasting my time, I have no patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nearly ten years.. five years.. now? im like bambi. i'll just do a runner. Px

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Need more context. A friend? Family? Someone on here? Depends

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends how invested I am and how much of their bullshit I can fall for

Yeah.

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By *emidemiWoman
over a year ago

basingstoke

I don’t know.

I’m awful at letting myself be led on, and forgiving the excuses every time. I need to be tougher with myself this year I think, and not hold out so long for people.

What about you, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 disagreement, at a push 2.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Before you give up on someone ?"

I never give up. Life is hard and who knows what the future holds, I just care for myself and lean into faith that what is meant for me will not pass me by, and that I simply don’t get to predict the timing. Faith is an imperative. What is life without the magical and the sense of something larger than us, who are we to deem ourselves most important?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Depends how invested I am and how much of their bullshit I can fall for

Yeah.

Oh. Pickle. I can at least empathise with a yoof on this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. Am I giving and not receiving? Is their energy matching mine? Am I the one always initiating whatever we have going on? If yes, I’m out of that shit before it gets more stinky.

If they are matching, giving, initiating just as much as me but excruciating circumstances are preventing us from seeing one another I may stick around.

It’s rather situational for me. Too many variables to try to quantify, label and perfectly say without having a real situation to look at.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

So many variables... Could be 20 minutes or 20 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Roughly 6 months, 7 days and 14-18 hours. +/- a day"

Wtf did you do to your poor Willy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Depends how invested I am and how much of their bullshit I can fall for

Yeah.

You OK ??

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

A long time.

I think a part of me doesn't really give up on people once I'm invested, even when I can tell that energy/headspace/effort isn't reciprocated. Or they're a twunt. :D

I do kind of slowly back away but it's not giving up, it's more protecting myself. It doesn't mean the care element isn't still there but it does mean that I put that energy back in to myself.

It can be hard to do because I'm a bit of a people pleaser. Hate hurting others. I'm slowly learning that it's okay to say something isn't working for me, to not put as much effort in to something when the other person doesn't reciprocate.

I hope you're okay Pickle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before you give up on someone ?"

It’s Uber eats is t it?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"A long time.

I think a part of me doesn't really give up on people once I'm invested, even when I can tell that energy/headspace/effort isn't reciprocated. Or they're a twunt. :D

I do kind of slowly back away but it's not giving up, it's more protecting myself. It doesn't mean the care element isn't still there but it does mean that I put that energy back in to myself.

I hope you're okay Pickle.

Oh, all of this!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone's important to me, I won't give up on them. If I'm okay with walking away, they aren't that significant in my life so I'm good with it.

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By *zeroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I really try not to give up on people. I'm not the best at making friends and I mean true friends not just associates or buddies. But sometimes when you look back it's just you making all the effort. Just you reaching out. Just you checking in. Then you stop to see if they reach back...and they don't.

Hope your OK Pickle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very difficult. I find it hard to have those conversations in a non-brutal way so probably keep them in my life longer than I should. But it's usually when I feel like the time and emotion I invest in them isn't reciprocated and as a result, I notice that if I stop contact, it pretty much takes care of itself.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depends who it is and what they've done

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Roughly 6 months, 7 days and 14-18 hours. +/- a day

Wtf did you do to your poor Willy

The horse whisperer

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Mush..... my disposable availability has shortened its lifespan to a month and that's me being generous. I've so many other people who do want to be in my life, I'm done wasting it on people who don't. Remembering that it's not me, its them. Helped me massively

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Varies enormously. Some have taken a year or more to get to know before a meet and well worth it. Others quick or don’t get anywhere. Really depends on how you connect or not so for me this is not a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20mins

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By *rchie300Man
over a year ago

Hamworthy

You know when you’re flogging a dead horse also a block is a pretty good indicator hahaha

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I have a low tolerance threshold for breadcrumbing or penny dating

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

As soon as they show their true colours then I'm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive disappointment. I thought this thread was everyone outdoing one another with how long they last in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person but usually not very long. If they get annoying I dip.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

About a half hr.

Legit but I give way to many chances more than I should, I'm kind of a mug in that sense it's certainly situational

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
over a year ago

London

If I have feelings and he loses interest in me, after 3 months ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unlucky husband

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

30 years.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

19 mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I inadvertently find myself messaging first on a number of occasions, or maintaining a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before you give up on someone ?"

In the relationship context it's a few years for me because the root causes of issues are usually two way, and they may be resolvable. On top there's always so many other things, kids, wealth, homes, extended families and friends, that get fucked up to varying degrees when you give up on someone / they give up on you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends.

I'd never give up on my kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends.

I'd never give up on my kids.

That’s real.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Depends on context!

If it’s a new relationship, if they cancel on me twice it’s goodbye

It’s it’s family, I won’t give up on them will just kind my own business & stop offering advice

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"It depends.

I'd never give up on my kids.

That’s real. "

Trust me there have been times...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends.

I'd never give up on my kids.

That’s real.

Trust me there have been times..."

I know people that have given up on their kids. In my family. It makes me so angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on the context.

I will say that since my divorce and as I've gotten older my tolerance is rather low.

I'll try with friends a few but aftwe a while I stop reaching out, they know where I am.

If it's someone from here then I don't give second chances.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"It depends.

I'd never give up on my kids.

That’s real.

Trust me there have been times...

I know people that have given up on their kids. In my family. It makes me so angry"

Without getting in too deep there are rare exceptions but for the most part you just stand in front, beside or behind them don't you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends.

I'd never give up on my kids.

That’s real.

Trust me there have been times...

I know people that have given up on their kids. In my family. It makes me so angry

Without getting in too deep there are rare exceptions but for the most part you just stand in front, beside or behind them don't you.

Yeah. Since having my daughter I’m like, what wouldn’t I do for you?!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"It depends.

I'd never give up on my kids.

That’s real.

Trust me there have been times...

I know people that have given up on their kids. In my family. It makes me so angry

Without getting in too deep there are rare exceptions but for the most part you just stand in front, beside or behind them don't you.

Yeah. Since having my daughter I’m like, what wouldn’t I do for you?!!"

Someone asked me once if I preferred one of our kids over the other

. I just said I'd stand in front of a speeding train for either of them.

It does become more difficult during the teenage years...just sayin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many variables... Could be 20 minutes or 20 years. "

This. Or in my DMs here 20 seconds...

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

On here? I’m rather quick to quit, especially if I see them getting too close or it starts to feel dangerously more than just casual.

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