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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

… or anyone wanting casual sex for that matter - do before dating / hookup apps were ubiquitous?

In America in the aughts… we had Craig Newmark.

And the “casual encounters” section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In Manchester we had Piccadilly 21

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

You didn’t have his list in the UK did you?

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Pulled in nightclubs most weekends

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

You had to use contact ads in magazines - or just go to lots of parties and put yourself out a bit. With my first wife, it was mainly the latter and that's how we found our best contacts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Craigslist’s was still kind of a thing but not really active

There’s always been the app before apps, just website versions. So okcupid for example

Otherwise it was just the good old fashioned get smashed at the pub and take someone you’ll regret later home

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over a year ago

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

There were contact magazines. People would put advertisements with a photo. You could send a letter with some photo's to the magazine and they would forward it to the person. It would take over a week to make contact. Common terms were "VWE" and "Long stayer and quick repeater"

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"There were contact magazines. People would put advertisements with a photo. You could send a letter with some photo's to the magazine and they would forward it to the person. It would take over a week to make contact. Common terms were "VWE" and "Long stayer and quick repeater"

I have never heard of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laid on the front garden, leg up in the air waiting for any takers.

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Laid on the front garden, leg up in the air waiting for any takers. "

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Fiesta

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By *aith Skynbyrd OP Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Bathroom walls?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Forun magazine was another, and in London the Loot free ads paper was popular.

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By *enSiskoMan
over a year ago

Cestus 3

"… or anyone wanting casual sex for that matter - do before dating / hookup apps were ubiquitous?

In America in the aughts… we had Craig Newmark.

And the “casual encounters” section

A thing called Teletex which appeared on our T.V through the 70's till the 90's I think.

Thats what I used.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Contact magazines and small ads in the back of some 'normal' publications. I worked for such a publication in the late 80s. We provided po box numbers, the replies came in to the office and the people who placed the ad picked them up.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"Contact magazines and small ads in the back of some 'normal' publications. I worked for such a publication in the late 80s. We provided po box numbers, the replies came in to the office and the people who placed the ad picked them up. "

I remember using them at the time. Some were working girls!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I remember using them at the time. Some were working girls!"

The people who placed ads in the publication I worked for were very much the 'next door neighbour ' type. I remember being particularly struck by two people. One woman who came to collect the responses to her and her husband's carefully worded swingers party advert who was the epitomy of respectable and a similar man who brought in his reply to an advert which included Polaroids of him in lacy knickers and a feather boa (the envelope was unsealed and the photos fell out). I was quite young and that made me realise that you can't judge a book by it's cover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made a killing in pampas grass sales….

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Nights out on the town followed by d*unken hookups

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

I remember using them at the time. Some were working girls!

I met very few back then. Some also wanted gifts as well.

Rendezvous and jezebel mags I remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"… or anyone wanting casual sex for that matter - do before dating / hookup apps were ubiquitous?

In America in the aughts… we had Craig Newmark.

And the “casual encounters” section

There were contact magazines but to be perfectly frank, rather than putting time into a website, I used to put more time in speaking to women. That worked just as well, arguably better. Here it takes an age before you might even have a social. Real life, you can be dumped within minutes or get luckier. Often the internet isn't that helpful

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Local newspaper, when it used box numbers. all changed when they went over to rip off premium rate phone numbers.

Loot was good because I realised that they had an overflow column on the back page and if you began with a word near the end of the alphabet it would bee on there and people who were just browsing in Smith's would see it easily. I started with 'Youthful' (in my forties!)

Premium rate numbers killed all of that but luckily my little black book was fairly full for years after then.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Forun magazine was another, and in London the Loot free ads paper was popular. "

Forum was the one we used as we bought it monthly for the ads and the readers' letters which was one of our inspirations for trying threesomes - I can still remember some of the stories quite well after all these years so they must have made an impact.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Many years ago... There were ads in the local newspaper. I would get letters!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

The pub… mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows. I’m not ancient enough to have been seeking sex before them.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Who knows. I’m not ancient enough to have been seeking sex before them.

Ok young man… you know how to make us oldies feel old

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Student nights. They were wild.

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By *art1968Man
over a year ago

stafford

My girlfriend in my early twenties was very adventurous and she would try and pick up other women or even couples and then suggest some swapping

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"Who knows. I’m not ancient enough to have been seeking sex before them.

Ok young man… you know how to make us oldies feel old

Glad i lived my life in the years I did, rather than in the years he will have ahead of him.

Imagine only being able to do anything if there is a smartphone app for it!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Who knows. I’m not ancient enough to have been seeking sex before them.

Ok young man… you know how to make us oldies feel old

Glad i lived my life in the years I did, rather than in the years he will have ahead of him.

Imagine only being able to do anything if there is a smartphone app for it!"

I’m just really glad there’s no photographic evidence

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"In America in the aughts… we had Craig Newmark. And the “casual encounters” section

Oh, I knew Craig well back then. And the Yahoo Groups adult section.

And waaaay back in the mid-’90s, a website called Naughtychat.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Wander round the local estate looking for pampas grass then knock on the door with a knowing grin.

Or loiter in the supply pineapple section.

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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago

Hayling Island

Mostly clubs and then private parties through those contacts... Then Internet chat rooms and when I first came over to the UK I discovered craigslist. Then when craigslist went vanilla I discovered fabs, and never looked back...

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

MSN Chatrooms, POF (back when they had a forum), and d*unken ONS that turned into a regular shag when d*unk stand.

I was in a LTR from 18 until 27 so did a fair bit of casual sex when we split, just as the internet became a thing. Lucky me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who knows. I’m not ancient enough to have been seeking sex before them.

Ok young man… you know how to make us oldies feel old

Glad i lived my life in the years I did, rather than in the years he will have ahead of him.

Imagine only being able to do anything if there is a smartphone app for it!"

It’s true.

But the planet will be finished before I get to your age so does it really matter?

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

Magazines, clubs, free ads and trusted circles.

My wife and I are swingers and have profiles on here. We are however, far more active in the club scene and have 99% of our experiences in clubs to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, they meet people at work. Had affairs.

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By *r PantyMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

Back in the it was what they called 'contact magazines' You read an advert, then replied by mail to a PO Box number then eagerly awaited a reply - which usually never came. I think 'Forum' was one of those magazines ...

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Have partys and put keys in a bowl

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By *oinerbillMan
over a year ago

warrington

I met 2 couples back in the 90s through Loot newspaper.

You had to ring a number then leave a message on a answerphone, the advertiser then rang you back

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By *aleakalaMan
over a year ago

various

Contact mags and some adult shops had notice boards you could post an ad on.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

I Ricky just use to drive around and pulled ..lots of times too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago, as a swinger, I remember a monthly printed publication by subscription only to find out about events. The events were very underground. You’d have to express your interest in attending by post. IIRC, you’d post a full body (vanilla) photo as well if you weren’t already a member. You’d receive back a postcard with event details and a password.

From that, it evolved to BB style online. From bulletin boards online it evolved to a section of Yahoo! Maybe it was Yahoo Chats. I can’t remember. For me, after Yahoo I’d find Fet and find a niche of swingers there but it’s not specifically for swingers, IYKYK.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Mostly I went without.

Much the same as now, in fact!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Another option were chatlines

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

In the 90s usually at Nightclubs or free Raves

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"In the 90s usually at Nightclubs or free Raves

God you are so old

Ps. Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I Ricky just use to drive around and pulled ..lots of times too"

I once copped off with a girl driving around, her and her friend got in simply because we had cigs.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I used the good old Craig section when I was first interested in casual sex.

A lot of people who messaged me were surprised that I literally only wanted sex - kept offering various amounts and it soon became a turn off. Luckily a friend suggested here. They really helped my vagina. That's what real friends do isn't it?

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

"I Ricky just use to drive around and pulled ..lots of times too

I once copped off with a girl driving around, her and her friend got in simply because we had cigs.

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good old days, once a woman got in my car as I pulled over...she got her tits out n told me to feel how cold they were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait so people 30+ didn't use carrier pigeons and smoke signals? I have been lied to in the most grevious of ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Card in phone box or ads in mag was popular other than getting invited to parties and made contacts.

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By *rouble81Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

"In Manchester we had Piccadilly 21