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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I think there are a lot on here looking for fuck buddies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no relationship is without ties

they are always there

whether we choose to acknowledge them is another matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think there are a lot on here looking for fuck buddies."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i guess so i want a fb but with all the benfits not just sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so you just want all the good stuff and none of the bad ?

good luck with that one !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

bad has to come with good i know its not all a beed of roses

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"i guess so i want a fb but with all the benfits not just sex "

What are all the benefits other than sex?

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"no relationship is without ties

they are always there

whether we choose to acknowledge them is another matter "

wise words,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends on what the terms are..I believe some like to have a playmate that doesnt play with others yet themselves will play around lol

Im not keen on fuckbuddies..and most of my return meets dont like it either..we remain free n easy lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Right now I just want sex!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's fair to say that irrespective of what some might say with regard to swinging, all sorts of relationships can be found here on and through Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sex yes but go out have a drink and just keep seeing the one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend with benefits?

That's what I wanted but soon realised there were down sides to that.. Some get jealous, demanding, and soon commitments creep in.

Just stick to fuck buddies and you can't go wrong !!

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

While your choice of playmate has to meet your requirements ( ie, what you fancy) then there will always be a certain level of feelings involved. You are having a close sexual time with a person you find attractive and actually 'fancy'.

Exactly the same as at the beginning of a vanilla relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i guess so i want a fb but with all the benfits not just sex "

Isn't that just a boyfriend?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits x"
Each relationship is unique - I think it is possible to have one to give the benefits you are looking for without the commitments of being together all the time.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

It can be done. Met my fb on another site and been seeing him for 6 years. There have been problems though. Like all relationships it hasn't been perfect.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

" Like all relationships it hasn't been perfect."
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, dont you think?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"sex yes but go out have a drink and just keep seeing the one"

That's a boyfriend. I have an fb. We have socialised together but we meet others - and that is a deliberate decision on both our parts as neither of us want a 'relationship' just fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

" Like all relationships it hasn't been perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, dont you think? "

He's 90% perfect. Just got to beat the imperfections out of him. Then I`d have to go out with him! Eek!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"
Sounds like different people have a different concept of what makes somebody a boyfriend. Sounds like to you a boyfriend is somebody with whom you spend most or all of your free time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's sex lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yep thats it isnt it a friend with benefits u dont mind them oing home

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"

How often is not all the time though? Once a month? Once a year?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"

OK - just the way I see things. If you only see each other but do not live together it is a boyfriend. If you live together it is a partner. If you hook up regularly for sex and see other people, it's an fb.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we all have our own meanings ll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits xEach relationship is unique - I think it is possible to have one to give the benefits you are looking for without the commitments of being together all the time.

Love the new profile pic

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"we all have our own meanings ll"
I think you are right and a lot of what we define depends on what we grew up with, our culture and individual values.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"we all have our own meanings ll"

What I meant.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits x"

Sounds like you want a boyfriend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what if you got with this "friend with benefits" would you see anyone else? How would you feel if they still fucked all and sundry and had multiple FBs ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

defintely not

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

" Like all relationships it hasn't been perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, dont you think? "

with or without the swinging element, it certainly does not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend with benefits?

That's what I wanted but soon realised there were down sides to that.. Some get jealous, demanding, and soon commitments creep in.

Just stick to fuck buddies and you can't go wrong !!"

I'll be your fb anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend with benefits?

That's what I wanted but soon realised there were down sides to that.. Some get jealous, demanding, and soon commitments creep in.

Just stick to fuck buddies and you can't go wrong !!

I'll be your fb anytime"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then it would be a relationship and not a friend with benefit.. Just my opinion!!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"i guess so i want a fb but with all the benfits not just sex "
I agree with the others, you want a boyfriend.This word "relationship" and your posts tell me that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits x"

Hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time

Completely agree. OP good luck with your quest!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

definitely dont want a boyfriend ive no time for starters

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

"how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits x"
even if you accept the ties you rarely get all of the benefits.

relationships are about give n take.

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

simpler to prioritise a couple of main benefits you would like and "ties" you can work with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"definitely dont want a boyfriend ive no time for starters"

So what is your ideal scenario then ?

I think you need to spell it out because what you are asking seems a little confusing / mixed up to me but that is based on minimal information provided of what exactly it is you are looking for.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"definitely dont want a boyfriend ive no time for starters

So what is your ideal scenario then ?

I think you need to spell it out because what you are asking seems a little confusing / mixed up to me but that is based on minimal information provided of what exactly it is you are looking for."

+1 what Bussy said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its difficult because most people arent that hollow. they want the emotional bond if its gonna be any kinda partnership

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"

Yes it is!

I was with my ex for 3 years, it was a long distance relationship, we didn't see each other a the time, but he was still my boyfriend.

To me it seems you are looking for a boyfriend not a fb, but you just aren't admitting it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

simple i just dont want sex with a gie i dont know id like to have a drink r maybe spend time before it and i dont want to have several me just one regular so we know what we r like and how we like things

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

Think men and women see strings differently. For me, strings feel like a control mechanism, I think men may see them as requiring to much attention.

How does everyone else see them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

what u mean x

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By *ursevampsWoman
over a year ago

bucks

i have a few fb it more then justsex and yes it is nsa it like having a best friend with sex and we all understand the relationship best of both worlds with out the shit of a relationship being controllign as i have had those and ended badly

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"

I think if your shagging, going out socially etc and not seeing other people then that is essentially a boyfriend. Just my opinion tho x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Think men and women see strings differently. For me, strings feel like a control mechanism, I think men may see them as requiring to much attention.

How does everyone else see them?"

I see both of your examples as strings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you ask someone not to meet other people you are essentially asking them to be your boyfriend.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time

I think if your shagging, going out socially etc and not seeing other people then that is essentially a boyfriend. Just my opinion tho x "

Mine too!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"simple i just dont want sex with a gie i dont know id like to have a drink r maybe spend time before it and i dont want to have several me just one regular so we know what we r like and how we like things "

That's fine and good but the sticking partially be the not seeing anyone else. That's what makes it seen like it's something it's not.

I had an fb who I used to go out drinking with,he wowould cook for me etc but as it was just a casual thing I understood he would see other people. To me that's how fb's and friends with benefits work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the op wants her cake and rest of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no need to put a label on it, no need to define it as buddies, boyfriend or partner. Just make sure the guys you meet are clear about what you're looking for.

Good luck - whatever you're looking for, I hope you find it!

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By *ittlebitWoman
over a year ago

Plymouth

I have got an amazing friend who I have known for nearly ten years and we just happen to have sex now and again. It's a little weird if either of us get into a relationship as we have to back off obviously but apart from missing each other its all good

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"the op wants her cake and rest of it "

Why not??? Cake is nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a 'Friend' who I see when ever I can... Harder now I've moved back up north. We talk daily and go I to his and we spend the whole weekend talking,snoozing,cooking,chilling and yes we have sex sometimes. He is my best friend

but he's not by Boyfriend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a 'Friend' who I see when ever I can... Harder now I've moved back up north. We talk daily and go I to his and we spend the whole weekend talking,snoozing,cooking,chilling and yes we have sex sometimes. He is my best friend

but he's not by Boyfriend x "

consider urself now dumped..I thought we were more than friends!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but he's not by Boyfriend x

consider urself now dumped..I thought we were more than friends!!!!!!"

Ha ha I shall unpack my bag full of goodies then

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If you just want to meet the one guy for sex and to go out for drinks ect, that sounds like a relationship to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i dont mind if he sees other people im just not like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't help but think you are lining yourself up to get either :

a) the piss took outta ya

b) hurt, or

c) both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why u say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont mind if he sees other people im just not like that"

my scenario is: u agree to meet friday nites every week..great, he gets an offer for a fri nite shag from someone he's been after for ages..

do u

a)tell him to go for it(without giving it with hidden meaning)

b)get annoyed and make a meal of it

Thats just my issies with 'regular' fuckbuddy meets...to me no strings means absolutely nostrings..Ive been pretty lucky with my re-meets they know im a slut

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have raised a couple of threads on here that make me believe (and I more than happy to be proved wrong) that in swinging terms you are somewhat naive in your outlook.

You are looking for a partner (you may choose to adopt a different term), who you will be exclusive with, yet you don't expect him to be exclusive to you (yet I suspect you would like him to be).

You also want all the benefits of a relationship including the sexual and social elements, but without the boring stuff like working out what you're gonna pay first, the gas or the electric.

Now I am sorry but in my opinion, that amounts to dating.

Dating is not free of emotion and should never be free of emotion if it is to have any legs.

So despite your good intentions (and I am also sure that is what they are), I predict that should you be lucky to find a person that you believe fits the bill, you will at some point develop feelings for them.

The type of man you will attract will be unlikely to fit exactly what you have in mind and isn't likely to wanting to start to play ball when you do realise that you actually have feelings for him.

At that point, when you have shown your vulnerability and true feelings, he will cool things because you start coming on too strong.

Conversely, the opposite could be true and it is he who starts developing the feelings.

Either way, I do not see a happy ending.

Would you not be better getting to know a couple of guys via the site and spending both social and sexual times with them and seeing what, if anything, develops as opposed to having a set agenda from the outset ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

tanx for ur advice maybe ur rite im gonna meet a few gies enjoy myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i guess so i want a fb but with all the benfits not just sex

What are all the benefits other than sex?"

I was just thinking that lol

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over a year ago

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

"the op wants her cake and rest of it

Why not??? Cake is nice

I second that !

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over a year ago

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