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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have to fill in forms for my new job and I come to the bix which is white British etc then sexuality.

For the first time I ticked the prefer not to say rather than bisexual one.

Its unusual for me to not go with the bisexual answer. My new job is very different to my current job but I surprised myself today.

It doesnt make any difference and I know.

Anyone else done that before?

Fruit x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Really surprised that an employer is asking your sexuality, really! Isn't that more than a little intrusive?

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Its only the general boxes on the forms. Dissabikity sexuality etnuc origion...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been asked, and would never answer.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Its all to do with equality, the employer should be able to prove that they employ equally and not just 'straight' people.

Unfortunately, employers have no idea really about their employees, because until employees feel protected in the workplace most will not disclose.

I certainly wouldnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really surprised that an employer is asking your sexuality, really! Isn't that more than a little intrusive?"

It is none of their business!!!

Can't remember ever having to fill in my sexuality. I always tick the 'N/A' box if there is one on some form for whatever (can't think of an example) or 'straight'... cos it's none of their business.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I ticked the prefer not to answer box. I know firms like mine goes all over the country so many will have seen it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never tick them boxes. Why do they need to know my ethnic origin or religion or sexuality. How does it matter really?

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I know it angers people, but it is supposed to be there to ensure equality.

Just like employers need to prove that they employ women as well as men etc.

Have a look at the Stonewall site, they promote equality in the workplace.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Really surprised that an employer is asking your sexuality, really! Isn't that more than a little intrusive?

It is none of their business!!!

Can't remember ever having to fill in my sexuality. I always tick the 'N/A' box if there is one on some form for whatever (can't think of an example) or 'straight'... cos it's none of their business. "
I remember working with a large national data base not all that long ago and ther options there were "heterosexual, homosexual, prefer not to say" and "dont know" .... Eventually everybody will be on that database so it is a bit scary that that informaiton can be held and as we know databases are not secure.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Where it says 'SEX', just write 'Yes please!' and leave it at that.

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

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I think there should be a 'Mind your own business' option on those things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it angers people, but it is supposed to be there to ensure equality.

Just like employers need to prove that they employ women as well as men etc.

Have a look at the Stonewall site, they promote equality in the workplace. "
Mmmmmmm

I don't know any blokes that are Miss

Or are called Laura?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there should be a 'Mind your own business' option on those things"

There is - you write it, and by law they can't hold that against you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it angers people, but it is supposed to be there to ensure equality.

Just like employers need to prove that they employ women as well as men etc.

Have a look at the Stonewall site, they promote equality in the workplace. "

That kind of stuff annoys me. The best person should get the job, simple as that. They shouldn't get it because they are a certain gender/ colour/ sexuality etc.

Yes I do understand why they do it... but still......

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"I know it angers people, but it is supposed to be there to ensure equality.

Just like employers need to prove that they employ women as well as men etc.

Have a look at the Stonewall site, they promote equality in the workplace.

That kind of stuff annoys me. The best person should get the job, simple as that. They shouldn't get it because they are a certain gender/ colour/ sexuality etc.

Yes I do understand why they do it... but still......"

Thats true, but the questions are there to try to ensure that the company employes equally.

If the population of a town is (for example) 30% women and 60% men, then a company should reflect that by employing approximately the same ratio of men to women - there are always exceptions.

Women fought for equal rights, and now this has expanded to sexuality, race, ethnicity etc.

Its a positive idea , but just not implemented well by employers

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"I know it angers people, but it is supposed to be there to ensure equality.

Just like employers need to prove that they employ women as well as men etc.

Have a look at the Stonewall site, they promote equality in the workplace.

That kind of stuff annoys me. The best person should get the job, simple as that. They shouldn't get it because they are a certain gender/ colour/ sexuality etc.

Yes I do understand why they do it... but still......

Thats true, but the questions are there to try to ensure that the company employes equally.

If the population of a town is (for example) 30% women and 60% men, then a company should reflect that by employing approximately the same ratio of men to women - there are always exceptions.

Women fought for equal rights, and now this has expanded to sexuality, race, ethnicity etc.

Its a positive idea , but just not implemented well by employers

"

My example above was not wonderful as it excluded 10% of the population lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

You do not have to complete this section of the form.

The data should be anonymised and not attached to the application form at all.

It is useful, particularly for tracking change in an organisation. If you spend a lot of time and money to try and increase equality in your workplace and don't track the change how will you know if it is working?

In one organisation I ran the data helped me to see that men under 40 weren't applying for jobs with us and were under-represented in my workforce. I was then able to use that to look at how to attract that demographic to my organisation.

Of course the job should go to the best applicant for the role but if you aren't even seeing the full talent pool you won't always be getting the best.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Can I point out I already have the job. I have the job offer and have done one week part time already with them.

Fruit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I point out I already have the job. I have the job offer and have done one week part time already with them.

Fruit"

If you like them, and want to be employed by them, tick the boxes.... It is a positive help for he employer, not a negative interview technique.....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I think there should be a 'Mind your own business' option on those things"

These questions are only asked on an equal opportunities form and you have the right not to complete it. None if the information on it should be used to decide if you get the job or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really surprised that an employer is asking your sexuality, really! Isn't that more than a little intrusive?"

No it isn't, it is to do with making sure that an employer isn't discriminating against someone because of their sexuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have to bite my tongue when my company's (anonymous) annual staff survey comes out, because my colleagues always chortle about the 'sexuality' question. They chortle because the options are heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, prefer not to say, and OTHER. They can't understand that not everyone can be pigeon-holed into the standard categories.

But I do chicken out of telling them about some of the lovely transgender people I have met through Fab

I usually tell them that I am ticking "other", because I'm a celibate virgin

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