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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about a quick social, some food and/or drinks before the sex at least?

Miss S x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Nah. Always a social first

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By *entleman_of_pleasureMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Sometimes, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said you'd keep it quiet

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By *rorangeukMan
over a year ago

Southport

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

My preference is a social first.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Defo social first for me anyways but I've been catfished many a time without the social so that's why

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

No stick to your guns and tell him if he's serious then the social has to happen first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I have skipped socials before, but only once or twice. Do you get a good vibe from him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social for me

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Depends on how much you fancy him on the social.

Rules are made to be broken… ? Maybe

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"You said you'd keep it quiet

Like anybody on the forums can keep quiet. Present company included.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Rules are made to be broken… ? Maybe "

No, you’re thinking of bones.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Nah.

Not for me.

If someone insists the first encounter has to involve physical interactions when I don't yet know what the chemistry is like in person and if I'll even want to, sack that shit right off

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s entirely up to you.

I’ve never skipped on the social but there have been a couple of occasions where it’s led directly to more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did and it was fine both times... But i was stupidly naive!

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

But will he still respect you in the morning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

Aye, go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you do what YOU want to do. Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

Don’t

He doesn’t respect you, that’s why he asked

If you accept, he’ll respect you even less

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By *asterAndFuckToyCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"Nah.

Not for me.

If someone insists the first encounter has to involve physical interactions when I don't yet know what the chemistry is like in person and if I'll even want to, sack that shit right off

Exactly this!

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Rules are made to be broken… ? Maybe

No, you’re thinking of bones."

Do you like Bret Easton Ellis too?

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

"Nah.

Not for me.

If someone insists the first encounter has to involve physical interactions when I don't yet know what the chemistry is like in person and if I'll even want to, sack that shit right off

This is the wise choice indeed

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

That’s what all the ugly ones say

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Surely some pleasantries firstly?

‘Good day fair maiden; Thou art looking particularly salubrious and might I say, veritably divine. Now….shall we commence carnal proceedings in yonder boudoir?’

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?

That’s what all the ugly ones say

Ouch.

* contemplates taking down face pics so I can be more mysterious *

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
over a year ago

St Leonards

Sometimes it's just nice to skip both and go straight to the bitter acrimony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

Brucey is a trier.

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By *GermanInLondonMan
over a year ago

London

Depends. If there are time constraints then maybe worth considering.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?

But will he still respect you in the morning?"

Do you think he respected me when he suggested skipping the social?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends. If there are time constraints then maybe worth considering.

I laughed way to much at that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

What if you meet and then realise you don't have that spark?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Do what you wanna do.

I don’t do socials. Don’t see the point.

But if you do socials, why would you change it cos a random fab guy wants you to?

Stick with what your comfortable with x

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

I’m a social first kinda person, but you have to do what you feel comfortable doing.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

If you've gotten to know them well enough through messaging, then you may feel as if sex is the best thing and a social is just confirming what you already know about compatibility. I prefer socials, personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?

Don’t

He doesn’t respect you, that’s why he asked

If you accept, he’ll respect you even less "

Agreed.

Sorry I'm working backwards through the thread. God knows why.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

Many are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?

Don’t

He doesn’t respect you, that’s why he asked

If you accept, he’ll respect you even less

Agreed.

Sorry I'm working backwards through the thread. God knows why."

It’s as clear as that

Wondering, had you already arranged/agreed to a social, then he brought this up?

I think a lot of guys are clueless to how offensive they can sound

In his head = wow your just so stunning I don’t know if I could make it through a social without needing you

Reality = I don’t really care about knowing you, I’d like to just rush to the part where I use you like a way hole

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Depends. How much interaction have you had with the individual?

If you've spoken frequently and built up a rapport that's one thing.

If contact has been very recent and minimal so far, then he's showing a lack of respect for not wanting a social first; particularly if this was a request of yours.

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By *riental_brit_studMan
over a year ago

London

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

With a body like yours, yes.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

God no what if he opens his mouth and is full on chav, or doesn't have two brain cells to run together?

Even worse hasn't washed for a week and you don't realise until naked.

For me no social no sex.

Mrs

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Social then if u both want move on to the sex! I've done this x

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Social in the lift before the filthy hotel sex

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

It depends. Try the kiss… if it’s electric then do it.

What’s the worst that could happen?

* don’t answer that…

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Only if he lets you put a finger in his bum.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Do you want to skip the social? Because your alone have control over this decision.

If you want to, then do it. If you have any doubts, then don't.

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By *urge72Man
over a year ago

oxfordshire & Hull

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

Social everytime and for lots of reasons. It's more of a lottery if you do not.

Take care and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?

But will he still respect you in the morning?

Do you think he respected me when he suggested skipping the social?"

Isn't that your answer then?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"
nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went straight to sex once, having spoken to him at length.

I would never have met him for sex if we’d had a social as he wasn’t my type, but the meet was brilliant.

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By *a1970Man
over a year ago

East cork

Social.... Safer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social after sex

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Social in the lift before the filthy hotel sex

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Social after sex

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Doesn't every man?

Is this the first that's openly wanted this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the social

Is foreplay its a must

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By *ushin boundariesCouple
over a year ago

halstead

It is nice to have a social first but unfortunately in a lot of people’s cases they simply haven’t got the free time available to spend an evening having a “social”.

Most of our meets have been without a social first as we only get to play on occasional weekends due to kids & having to work some weekends.

I suppose we’ve been lucky in that it’s always worked for us so far, we do a WhatsApp group chat between parties involved so we can get to know each other likes dislikes etc before we meet

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By *atureguy65Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

If you do, he'll be a very lucky man!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Only you know. Quick drink before always builds tension nicely though.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

#NotAll… oh, forget it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social after sex

Life's too short

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Social after sex

Life's too short

And so am I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social then block and no sex

Best option

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Social after sex

Life's too short

And so am I!

Me too

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We always insist on a social, guys can be as nice as pie on here, but sat face to face is another matter.. you can still take things further on the evening if there's that spark.. men shouldn't be pushing the rules..

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

"you do what YOU want to do. Px

This...

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By *onnynclaireCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Hello

I’ve read all comments and have to ask a dim question but if I don’t ask I wont know:

What happens when people visit a club and meet random people for nookie there?

Is there a social aspect first? Is it more likely to be ok because it’s a safe place?

Never been so don’t know.

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By *undayGirl 69Woman
over a year ago

Coalville

I only social when I’m not sure. More times they have resulted in no second meet than going onto fucking.

However I had a break on here as I met someone… and when I came back my fab senses had dwindled… so the next guy I arranged a social despite him pushing for a straight meet. I’m glad I did… 4 minutes in I knew it wasn’t a goer… 8 minutes in I ended the social.

I guess I’m saying go with your gut. If you’re asking on here I’ll assume a social is needed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go on the basis of a social. If it turns into sex by mutual agreement, happy days..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social then block and no sex

Best option "

This is actually fantastic Wonko, especially if they pay for the coffee etc. Noted

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Social after sex

Life's too short

And so am I!

Me too

*salivates*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello

I’ve read all comments and have to ask a dim question but if I don’t ask I wont know:

What happens when people visit a club and meet random people for nookie there?

Is there a social aspect first? Is it more likely to be ok because it’s a safe place?

Never been so don’t know.

The club is a social aspect in itself, so there’s that

also, a club environment offers a level of safety. A big part of the social is getting to know someone not only so there’s a vibe/connectiok, it’s also to get a feel for how safe you’ll be.

The last thing you want to do is be locked in a house with a stranger

Now imagine she isn’t getting the right vibe and needing to ask this stranger (that’s expecting sex) they need to leave

It’s all about getting a good connection and feeling safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always insist on a social, guys can be as nice as pie on here, but sat face to face is another matter.. you can still take things further on the evening if there's that spark.. men shouldn't be pushing the rules.. "

If anyone pushes for more than a social I cancel it totally.

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By *aulHx69xMan
over a year ago

Herts

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

Would say it's not a good idea if your asking here, stick to what your comfortable with.

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

Very important decision as you will need to know if you need to eat before you leave the house.

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"
very bad idea,, anyone can send nice polite messages but your safety is paramount first instincts are there for a reason,,, what is he hiding,,? the guy sounds spooky,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very important decision as you will need to know if you need to eat before you leave the house.

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By *egDaySkipperMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Tell him you'll have to eat his head after mating

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It sounds as though he might be lacking in the personality department and is worried a social will bore you off.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Tell him you'll have to eat his head after mating

I… May have… said similar to someone.

YMMV.

Maybe

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

What’s a social?

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"What’s a social?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not a chance. It said on my profile social first. If they can't accept that then tough there's other people that don't want socials

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I wouldn't do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds as though he might be lacking in the personality department and is worried a social will bore you off. "

I love this answer!!!

Ain't that the truth!

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By *rishVikingMan
over a year ago

Shankill

I’d love that ahah

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Where's that tin of red paint...

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"It is nice to have a social first but unfortunately in a lot of people’s cases they simply haven’t got the free time available to spend an evening having a “social”.

Most of our meets have been without a social first as we only get to play on occasional weekends due to kids & having to work some weekends.

I suppose we’ve been lucky in that it’s always worked for us so far, we do a WhatsApp group chat between parties involved so we can get to know each other likes dislikes etc before we meet "

That's great when you're a couple and you have each other as a safety net.

If someone can't spare an hour for a quick coffee, with will they have more time for an actual meet?

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By *cflirtyMan
over a year ago

Hampshire

I'd always have a social first, saves any awkward doorstep moments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

Happened before ... The connection n tease over the phone was so hot

By the time both met for first date/social the hot fun toke place even before the first hello ...

You Mr,right here,right now !!! In her place

Followed by more meets . That was hot ...

One other ... Instant hotel meet.

No chat , no connection no nothing .

Mr , here now , hotel.

Boring

done nothing to me

Ended with 90 quid shorter and empty balls .

Fast blind hook up ? Risky .

Mind the STI . Try at list make sure is safe . . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Skip both and go straight for the "he's a fucking cunt" thread.

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By *andadbodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Skip a social and go straight to the sex.

Is it a good idea?"

no it’s not, social first, you need to have some sort of connection……. surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to have had a different experience to others on here - I’ve had meets without socials a few times. Lots of texting, sharing voice notes and recent / real time pics - nothing hotter sometimes than inviting a guy into your bed then kicking him out after!

Always on the understanding that if he turns up and there is absolutely no chemistry, he has catfished me or is not clean that I get to shut the door in his face!

Busy life, lots to juggle, don’t always have loads of free time for socials - but do trust your gut and make sure you’ve spent enough time chatting

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Social 1st. We always have a 30min social then get down to the fucking

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