FabSwingers.com forum: Who do you class as a time waster?

By *ust want fun 888 OP Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

I read various profiles on this website, and see a lot in the bio, please no time wasters. I just wonder, what do you class as time wasters?

They just people who have no intentions of meeting or, can people just want dirty chat and that’s classed as time wasting

I’m only speaking for myself, there is no one near me really on this website, so sometimes I just like a bit of chat, just wondered your points of view

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By *mf123Man
48 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I dont waste time as i dont let things get close to me getting freaky with anyone so yes n no

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By *ust want fun 888 OP Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

"I dont waste time as i dont let things get close to me getting freaky with anyone so yes n no"
I hear what you’re saying, but is this site all about the meats or can some fantasies by Chat be involved

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By *mf123Man
48 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

"I dont waste time as i dont let things get close to me getting freaky with anyone so yes n no I hear what you’re saying, but is this site all about the meats or can some fantasies by Chat be involved"
its whatever you want it to be its simply a means of talking to people with nudey pics

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
48 weeks ago

East Sussex

If someone agrees to meet us but doesn't turn up. Until that point I don't consider my time wasted

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

People who message me without reading the profile first.

So, people who message me

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Bristol

People who just want wank fodder are a nightmare.

You get into discussions about meeting up and what kind of meet you'd like etc and then you can spot the moment they cum and ghost.

They often reply days later with lame excuses.

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By *ust want fun 888 OP Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

"If someone agrees to meet us but doesn't turn up. Until that point I don't consider my time wasted"
no, there is a good argument! And to previous user, another great argument, but what I’m asking is, I’m just a simple fella on here looking for a bit of dirty chat, I haven’t agreed to meet anyone, would I or people like me be classed as a time waster

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
48 weeks ago

East Sussex

"If someone agrees to meet us but doesn't turn up. Until that point I don't consider my time wasted no, there is a good argument! And to previous user, another great argument, but what I’m asking is, I’m just a simple fella on here looking for a bit of dirty chat, I haven’t agreed to meet anyone, would I or people like me be classed as a time waster"

If you make it clear that's what you want and they agree I can't see how you'd be classed as a time waster.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
48 weeks ago

Tamworth

We don't specify "no time wasters". Just seems abit redundant as a sentence really, I mean, are people really on fab hoping to just find people to waste their time? Maybe, I dunno.

But for us, we view people as time wasters who don't read our profile before messaging... we don't meet outside of a club environment anymore so there's no point striking conversation up with us unless you're also a club goer or are considering it.

Past that, I've seen others view time wasters as people who just want to message lots without meeting, people who are no shows etc so I suppose it's a case by case opinion

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By *ust want fun 888 OP Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

"We don't specify "no time wasters". Just seems abit redundant as a sentence really, I mean, are people really on fab hoping to just find people to waste their time? Maybe, I dunno.

Past that, I've seen others view time wasters as people who just want to message lots without meeting, people who are no shows etc so I suppose it's a case by case opinion "
another great answer, but when I joined this site originally first, during Covid, it was with the hope, even though we shouldn’t have been, meeting people but when I seen how far people were away from me, I thought it was just as nice to chat and maybe get turned on by chat

I was lucky enough just by coincidence one night lady was in my town, but that’s just the lottery on here

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
48 weeks ago

East Sussex

The way I look at interactions on fab is that we choose who we communicate with and how we do it. If it turns out we don't want the same thing or they haven't been entirely straight with us I don't feel my time's been wasted really

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
48 weeks ago

Tamworth

"We don't specify "no time wasters". Just seems abit redundant as a sentence really, I mean, are people really on fab hoping to just find people to waste their time? Maybe, I dunno.

Past that, I've seen others view time wasters as people who just want to message lots without meeting, people who are no shows etc so I suppose it's a case by case opinion another great answer, but when I joined this site originally first, during Covid, it was with the hope, even though we shouldn’t have been, meeting people but when I seen how far people were away from me, I thought it was just as nice to chat and maybe get turned on by chat

I was lucky enough just by coincidence one night lady was in my town, but that’s just the lottery on here"

Yeah, I can see why some people would choose to use the site just for chat.

We don't, it's not our thing, we use fab just as a tool to look at events and find people who are also attending. We did used to meet privately but got fed up of no-shows so binned that idea off.

Our profile states our dynamic, how we meet and even a list of upcoming events we plan to attend so it's quite simple and (hopefully) well configured. It doesn't stop constant messages asking if we want to meet privately or short notice though, so those people just get a "no thank you" if they've been polite or straight up ignored if they haven't

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By *ust want fun 888 OP Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

"The way I look at interactions on fab is that we choose who we communicate with and how we do it. If it turns out we don't want the same thing or they haven't been entirely straight with us I don't feel my time's been wasted really"
that’s great, that’s exactly the way I look at it, but thank you all because I just wanted a few views from different people

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By *udeSpaLoverMan
48 weeks ago

Sheffield

1. Profiles that indicate you'll get a reply if you send a face pic, then don't reply

2. Profiles that read like war and peace with all the restrictions and limitations to the point where literally no one would qualify

3. The profiles that ask for proper messages, not one liners, then send back a 3 word response.

4.profiles demanding pics or instant delete, but have none on their profile themselves even friends only pics

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Me. If I arranged to turn up I'd make a last min excuse and have a nice evening to myself instead more than likely

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By *ust want fun 888 OP Man
48 weeks ago

nearby

"1. Profiles that indicate you'll get a reply if you send a face pic, then don't reply

2. Profiles that read like war and peace with all the restrictions and limitations to the point where literally no one would qualify

3. The profiles that ask for proper messages, not one liners, then send back a 3 word response.

4.profiles demanding pics or instant delete, but have none on their profile themselves even friends only pics

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again, I totally agree, for example where you said people ask for pictures but they’ve got nothing of their own, I know I know oil painting, but they’re up there, but people requesting friends and that kind of stuff and nothing on their own, ring bells for me straight away

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By *oJo pornstarMan
48 weeks ago

Liverpool

What couples or single lady's class as a time waster and what a single guy classes as a time waster differ.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
48 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

A time waster is only someone who has said they will do something and they don’t bother.

It doesn’t make them a time waster if something has actually come up etc. That can happen sometimes.

If someone is looking to use the site differently to you then that’s easily established over a few messages.

Everyone can and will use fab as they wish. You know why? Because they can

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
48 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Anyone with a Kik handle in their bio.

Anyone who pics mostly or wholly consist of lying-down-in-bed dick pics. They've helpfully captured for you what they spend most of their time doing when using fab, so don't be surprised if they ghost you because once they have mopped the jizz from their stomach they're unlikely to be interested in meeting.

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By *ealitybitesMan
48 weeks ago

Belfast

I'm not meeting but I'm happy enough to chat.

It states that very clearly on my profile.

Even when I am meeting I will chat for weeks or even months before arranging a social.

If a conversation fizzles out in that time I don't see it as wasted time.

I don't send first contact messages so anyone getting in touch and then trying to persuade me to meet quickly or skip the coffee social is wasting their own time.

I don't think I've ever felt I've had my time wasted in all my years here but I have had messages from quite a few who were pissing in the wind.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

The only time I class someone as a time waster is when they don't do what we have arranged.

Everyone will use the site differently and I establish this via messages if I'm interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Anyone who turns up late or dies t turn up stall when they’ve said they would.

If I’m ‘stood up’ without an explanation, I could have been doing something else in that time. That’s when they’ve wasted mine and their time.

If they let me know, it’s all good.

nobody has wasted anyone’s time.

Stuff happened, people change their minds. Just let people know.

Those people that intend to never meet have wasted their own time and not mine, I enjoyed the false conversation

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By *rhugesMan
48 weeks ago

Cardiff

It's simple time wasters are people who have no intention of meeting anyone, just ask for pics and then generally block you

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
48 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

People (usually couples in my experience) who you arrange to meet with but suddenly it all goes quiet.

Sadly there’s a lot of fantasists on Fab.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
48 weeks ago

Leeds

Someone who has planned somewhere and doesn't follow through with said plans.

I see so many people being labelled as time wasters because they've had a contact with someone and decided they aren't for them, that's not time wasting, that's getting to know someone to see if there's a connection and there wasn't.

Some people here are so entitled they expect having a conversation with someone somehow means they have the right to fuck them and if the other person isn't into them they are automatically a time waster.

The one above too, sending face pics doesn't entitle you a reply, if they don't like your face why should they, they didn't ask you to message, yes it may say in their profile no reply without face pics that doesn't mean they have to reply with one.

Absolutely no one is owed a reply, sex or anything else on here.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Di Maria is the worst at it!

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By *eordieJeansCouple
48 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Di Maria is the worst at it!"

Master of the dark arts.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Di Maria is the worst at it!

Master of the dark arts."

As is the WHOLE of the Athletico Madrid team

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By *agertha73Couple
48 weeks ago

Cardiff

"If someone agrees to meet us but doesn't turn up. Until that point I don't consider my time wasted"

Agreed. Until both parties agree to meet, it's just words over the internet.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
48 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Di Maria is the worst at it!

Master of the dark arts.

As is the WHOLE of the Athletico Madrid team

I love a bit of shithousery so I respect it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Central

Ultimately, arranging a meet and not showing or communicating. Liars who deceived, such that you could never meet the fantasy users as they don't exist, are similar.

It's fine having a need for fantasy chat, just be honest about what you want, giving others the chance to consent or not, to engage honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Pushing hard for a meet then cancelling on the day with a pathetic excuse

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By *imply DeeWoman
48 weeks ago

Wherever

"Pushing hard for a meet then cancelling on the day with a pathetic excuse

This for me too, usually combined with sudden radio silence on the day of the meeting.

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By *amie HantsWoman
48 weeks ago

Atlantis

People that don’t want to have sex with me. Must be

pesky time wasters

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By *erbySlutCoupleCouple
48 weeks ago

Long Eaton

"Someone who has planned somewhere and doesn't follow through with said plans.

Absolutely no one is owed a reply, sex or anything else on here.

Mrs "

This….. 100%

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By *host63Man
48 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

I would say most on this site tbh.

Contact them they reply and never hear from them again or fo everything short ov meeting you.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"I would say most on this site tbh.

Contact them they reply and never hear from them again or fo everything short ov meeting you.

Nice name….. are you sure it’s not you not replying to them?

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By *essaMayWoman
48 weeks ago

Fairytale Wood

People are here for many different reasons, some just want to hang in the forums, in chat, watch cams, view pics and videos, want to talk dirty and crack one off and have no intention of meeting.

There are many people here think there only reason you should be here is to meet, especially if you are single female, if you don’t meet them your a fake.

Usually thought it is put in their profile "No Time Wasters" its a cliché but will generally mean if you have no intention of meeting, don't bother contacting them.

Although nobody actually reads profiles anyway, let alone pay any attention to them.

Also a term often used as a derogatory term by those who don't get what they want.

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By *ustyWoman
48 weeks ago

inverclyde

To me its someone who you have been chatting with you makes arrangements to meet and they dont turn up. You go to profile and boom its gone what point in arranging to meet them. If genuine can't meet due to something that's happened have the manners to let the other know after all manners cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Only men can be time wasters

For woman and couples it’s just changing their mind

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By *ent in BlackMan
48 weeks ago

Silsden

"1. Profiles that indicate you'll get a reply if you send a face pic, then don't reply

2. Profiles that read like war and peace with all the restrictions and limitations to the point where literally no one would qualify

3. The profiles that ask for proper messages, not one liners, then send back a 3 word response.

4.profiles demanding pics or instant delete, but have none on their profile themselves even friends only pics

I agree 100%.

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
48 weeks ago

Belfast

"1. Profiles that indicate you'll get a reply if you send a face pic, then don't reply

2. Profiles that read like war and peace with all the restrictions and limitations to the point where literally no one would qualify

3. The profiles that ask for proper messages, not one liners, then send back a 3 word response.

4.profiles demanding pics or instant delete, but have none on their profile themselves even friends only pics

I agree 100%."

Same. These things, and also not showing up to a prearranged social or meet. Or worse, showing up but not being anything like the person they were pretending to be.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
48 weeks ago

Somewhere else

Anyone seen the bot lately?

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By *phialtesMan
48 weeks ago

Beyond the Wall

Does a fisherman call all the fish they didn’t catch time wasters?

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Minor but people who don't read the profile and message.

But a massive one would be arranging a meet and them not showing unless they had a valid reason like family emergency or something.

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Only men can be time wasters

For woman and couples it’s just changing their mind "

Well observed.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Only men can be time wasters

For woman and couples it’s just changing their mind "

Mic drop

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By *ark ElMan
48 weeks ago

London

"1. Profiles that indicate you'll get a reply if you send a face pic, then don't reply

2. Profiles that read like war and peace with all the restrictions and limitations to the point where literally no one would qualify

3. The profiles that ask for proper messages, not one liners, then send back a 3 word response.

4.profiles demanding pics or instant delete, but have none on their profile themselves even friends only pics

This!

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