FabSwingers.com forum: Free sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's the difference between having sex with people for free... And paying for it? Apart from the obvious.

Just wondering why some people think paying for sex is a bad thing, yet they have sex with strangers for free.

Why does money make it seedy? Surely sex with strangers can be considered pretty seedy too?

For meets on here, hotels may be paid for, wine etc may be bought. That involves money.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"What's the difference between having sex with people for free... And paying for it? Apart from the obvious.

Just wondering why some people think paying for sex is a bad thing, yet they have sex with strangers for free.

Why does money make it seedy? Surely sex with strangers can be considered pretty seedy too?

For meets on here, hotels may be paid for, wine etc may be bought. That involves money.

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i agree u women are literally sitting on a fortune u should use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on mrs bald lover :p

I'd pay if it was exceptional and I'd also be paid lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the big turn on about sex is the other person enjoying it and that they want to have sex with me.

Paying someone for sex takes away the enjoyment of knowing the person wants to have sex with me and I'd always have the doubt in my mind they weren't enjoying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally do not have a problem with people who get paid or pay for sex. I have however in the past seen members of this site use it to advertise via chat cams for paying customers.

The difference for me personally over getting paid for sex would be this. I have choice and control over my sex life, I have sex with whomever I want. I think once money comes into the equation that would go out of the window. Am sure at some point or other people who get paid for sex would meet someone and have sex with someone they would not normally.

To me, I have total control and choice with regard to who I have sex with and how I have sex with them. It is given freely and with mutual enjoyment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free sex is like a free lunch, there is no such thing, there is always a hidden cost further down the line.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me the big turn on about sex is the other person enjoying it and that they want to have sex with me.

Paying someone for sex takes away the enjoyment of knowing the person wants to have sex with me and I'd always have the doubt in my mind they weren't enjoying it"

Yeah good point.

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By *ickaLiciouseMan
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Its easy them expenses for the meet are shared in a way ur doing this coz u like doing it and u also have rules about do and dont u have limits and not always ends up with sex

If u go and pay for sex u know ull pay for sex u will also chose some1 who does what ur not getting at home

) and like some1 said ur not sure if the one paied likes u or not!!! u just pay her/him for something that may or may not satisfy u

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

If anyone wants to compensate me for my time (financially) it is fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you pay its got to be good like a shop you would take back if not good. if free its pot luck . ... if i was being payed thay said do this do that i would have too ...... if no money i can do as i please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the fun factor would be lost... They'd be no need to flirt and banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy I lived with previously used to pay for sex before I met him. He used to go and get exactly what he wanted, ie facials. But his attitude stunk with regard to the escorts he visited. He also stated the reason for visiting them before he met me was because to him it was guaranteeing sex, rather than taking someone out for a date and not getting a shag. To be honest the escorts he had sex with would not have looked at him twice in normal life.....am surprised I did lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want someone to be in bed with me because they want to be with me, not because of what's waiting for them in my wallet.

Sex is a sensory and sensual experience for me, not just a mere exchange of fluids without attraction.

I am not against prostitution or those that use the services of a prostitute, but as for the street walker types I can't help but think that they are through circumstance rather than choice.

That saddens me as opposed to being something that sexually excites me.

Incidentally, 4 prostitutes were either raped or sexually assaulted within 2 hours of each other in Manchester the other night. Those girls take some major risks for whatever it is that keeps them out there night after night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone wants to compensate me for my time (financially) it is fine."

Sent an offer via pm , its all i can afford but ide make it worth your while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want someone to be in bed with me because they want to be with me, not because of what's waiting for them in my wallet.

Sex is a sensory and sensual experience for me, not just a mere exchange of fluids without attraction.

I am not against prostitution or those that use the services of a prostitute, but as for the street walker types I can't help but think that they are through circumstance rather than choice.

That saddens me as opposed to being something that sexually excites me.

I could not have put this better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want someone to be in bed with me because they want to be with me, not because of what's waiting for them in my wallet.

Sex is a sensory and sensual experience for me, not just a mere exchange of fluids without attraction.

I am not against prostitution or those that use the services of a prostitute, but as for the street walker types I can't help but think that they are through circumstance rather than choice.

That saddens me as opposed to being something that sexually excites me.

I could not have put this better myself

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By *ot30scoupleCouple
over a year ago

Oxford, London

If anyone feels that they'd like to pay me, feel free!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Ok can people just discuss the question rather than advertise that they are escorts....Thanks.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"If anyone wants to compensate me for my time (financially) it is fine.

Sent an offer via pm , its all i can afford but ide make it worth your while

I am willing to negotiate on this. Although be warned, I like to play hard ball. IF U NO WAT I MEAN!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i was a man payed and was crap i would not be happy , As would like value for my money. So is it more you pay better it is ? or is it free sex is better as free and if really good it makes it even better .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the big turn on about sex is the other person enjoying it and that they want to have sex with me."

Agreed. Whether its sex or even love you're seeking, you have to 'pay' the person you're seeking it from in some way. If you pay with cash, well that could be anyones, so theres no real achievement, whereas if you've 'paid' with your own attractiveness and personality, its a much greater sense of fulfillment, and you know that they're enjoying the experience as much themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if your paying a lot of money for it you could choose someone good looking who was good in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone wants to compensate me for my time (financially) it is fine.

Sent an offer via pm , its all i can afford but ide make it worth your while

I am willing to negotiate on this. Although be warned, I like to play hard ball. IF U NO WAT I MEAN!!!"

ahhhhh golf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And free sex your doing it because you like it too ........And not having to have sex to pay bills think and off England ... Think ooo hurry up cum as i cant stand you. When no money come in you can be equal ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if your paying a lot of money for it you could choose someone good looking who was good in bed.

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But good sex takes time ...... crap sex to me is fast sex sorry just how it is .. i am left needing so much more so i would have a hell of a bill . lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

No sex is free....you pay petrol to go to a meet well unless you "put it on expenses" you buy drinks and a meal....and certainly in marriages oh darling can I have....he replies what's it worth....A blow job job done and the person gets what they want....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is control when money is exchanged?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If i was a man payed and was crap i would not be happy , As would like value for my money. So is it more you pay better it is ? or is it free sex is better as free and if really good it makes it even better ."

I wonder if some people give money back guarantees.

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By *o1mrtlcMan
over a year ago

cannock

"For me the big turn on about sex is the other person enjoying it and that they want to have sex with me.

Paying someone for sex takes away the enjoyment of knowing the person wants to have sex with me and I'd always have the doubt in my mind they weren't enjoying it"
I totally agree with that I would want them to be enjoying every minute of it as much as me

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Id like to feel a bit special....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The difference is choice.

Sex is a commodity when paid for. When we pay for anything we expect a certain service, we are paying to ensure that.

When we have a swinging meet we are doing so because we want fun, we want a night out etc. At any time we can decide not to go out, we don't have to justify it. We are in control the whole time. We can stop and go home at any time and we can decide what happens to our bodies.

When money changes hands it changes the dynamics. It becomes a transaction, a commodity, and that alone can make it impersonal, colder, people are there to earn money. Of course the person being paid for sex can say no, may have a choice, but like anything money becomes important, we need it, so we work to get it and we may accept things that we don't particularly like to get it.

a lot of us go to work for money. In our careers we've all had to do things we don't like, I've had to deal with lots of confrontation and abuse during my career which I've not liked but I've had to deal with it, I can't just go home when I feel like it, and this is no different.

When sex is paid for it loses the freedom of choice and becomes impersonal and a means to an end rather than a fun night out

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By *ot30scoupleCouple
over a year ago

Oxford, London

"Ok can people just discuss the question rather than advertise that they are escorts....Thanks."

I am not an escort, just think it would be hot to lapdance for a guy and have him put money in my underwear...can 'people' not presume to tell others what they are allowed to say...thanks.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ok can people just discuss the question rather than advertise that they are escorts....Thanks.

I am not an escort, just think it would be hot to lapdance for a guy and have him put money in my underwear...can 'people' not presume to tell others what they are allowed to say...thanks. "

you may find that ruggers can suggest as there are rules of what you can and cant post on the forums...you may wish to read them so that you enjoy posting on forums without risk of a ban..

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"For me the big turn on about sex is the other person enjoying it and that they want to have sex with me.

Paying someone for sex takes away the enjoyment of knowing the person wants to have sex with me and I'd always have the doubt in my mind they weren't enjoying it"

This!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Free sex is like a free lunch, there is no such thing, there is always a hidden cost further down the line.

Ah, now there's a voice of experience...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day, we all have physical needs. For a guy, those needs are pretty easily satisfied. If a guy is looking to get those needs satisfied and can find a woman who is prepared to satisfy them, if money changes hands, what's the problem?

It's the basis of trade - and it's not called the Oldest Profession for nothing..

When 'I were a swinging ladd', I would have been reviled at the thought of ever paying for sex - like many I thought it 'mucky/tacky'. As I've got older, and maybe because the circumstances under which I may wish to avail myself of such services in the future (!!!), I now take a much more sanguined view of it. But then I am not the sort of guy who would treat a prostitute like a piece of dirt like far too many guys do...

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By *ot30scoupleCouple
over a year ago

Oxford, London

you may find that ruggers can suggest as there are rules of what you can and cant post on the forums...you may wish to read them so that you enjoy posting on forums without risk of a ban.."

Oh, ok...thanks for the warning. So, when does a tongue in cheek comment about a fantasy constitute an advert? Who decides which it is? I am genuinely curious...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the difference between having sex with people for free... And paying for it? Apart from the obvious.

Just wondering why some people think paying for sex is a bad thing, yet they have sex with strangers for free.

Why does money make it seedy? Surely sex with strangers can be considered pretty seedy too?

For meets on here, hotels may be paid for, wine etc may be bought. That involves money.

Because one thing leads to another an people could get coerced into prostitution or worse. The whole thing should be for the enjoyment of both parties and selling your body for money is degrading thing.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

you may find that ruggers can suggest as there are rules of what you can and cant post on the forums...you may wish to read them so that you enjoy posting on forums without risk of a ban..

Oh, ok...thanks for the warning. So, when does a tongue in cheek comment about a fantasy constitute an advert? Who decides which it is? I am genuinely curious..."

I think it was a general statement and not directed at one person....just keeping us all in check...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The difference is choice.

Sex is a commodity when paid for. When we pay for anything we expect a certain service, we are paying to ensure that.

When sex is paid for it loses the freedom of choice and becomes impersonal and a means to an end rather than a fun night out

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well said xxxx

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By *itboyslim2Man
over a year ago

stevenage

"For me the big turn on about sex is the other person enjoying it and that they want to have sex with me.

Paying someone for sex takes away the enjoyment of knowing the person wants to have sex with me and I'd always have the doubt in my mind they weren't enjoying it

Yeah good point.

another thumbs up here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people must think if i go over the time have to pay more , The clocks ticking from the time you start bit like parking your car in a car park . pay and display you have a set time to do your thing . And it would trun me off BIG TIME.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if some people give money back guarantees.

You try getting it back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will always be people looking to have sex like this. No feelings for the person. Its just about there needs and there needs only and no need to care no need to even like . Thay can be in control .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find it strange at times to find so many that find paying for sex seedy on these sorts of sites.

I guess I kinda expect there to be more acceptance. Yet I think it's the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do find it strange at times to find so many that find paying for sex seedy on these sorts of sites.

I guess I kinda expect there to be more acceptance. Yet I think it's the opposite. "
I bet alot dont have the money to pay for sex . With the Cost of living and things . Why swinging is good as free most the time cost very little i find.

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By *woofuslondonCouple
over a year ago

london

For us its the turn on of someone finding us attractive, and wanting US, paying someone takes that feeling away, and makes it a contract rather than 2,3,4 people wanting fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as "seedy"

I just think it's nasty for women to abuse lonliness like that for a price, I also feel it's not nice to think of the men that have money to demean women like that, I don't know, I know I'm in te minority, but for me swinging as a lifestyle choice is about living free, escorting/prostitution is a cost

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's the difference between having sex with people for free... And paying for it? Apart from the obvious.

Just wondering why some people think paying for sex is a bad thing, yet they have sex with strangers for free.

Why does money make it seedy? Surely sex with strangers can be considered pretty seedy too?

For meets on here, hotels may be paid for, wine etc may be bought. That involves money.

Why is it degrading? Fair enough for someone that is forced into it against their will, that's a whole different issue.

But for a grown adult that wants to be an escort and a grown adult that wants to pay... What is degrading about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the difference between having sex with people for free... And paying for it? Apart from the obvious.

Just wondering why some people think paying for sex is a bad thing, yet they have sex with strangers for free.

Why does money make it seedy? Surely sex with strangers can be considered pretty seedy too?

For meets on here, hotels may be paid for, wine etc may be bought. That involves money.

Why is it degrading? Fair enough for someone that is forced into it against their will, that's a whole different issue.

But for a grown adult that wants to be an escort and a grown adult that wants to pay... What is degrading about that?"
A Lot of woman would go mad thinking there money for family and house go to pay for sex if thay was working together to provide for family and found out .

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I want someone to be in bed with me because they want to be with me, not because of what's waiting for them in my wallet.

Sex is a sensory and sensual experience for me, not just a mere exchange of fluids without attraction.

I am not against prostitution or those that use the services of a prostitute, but as for the street walker types I can't help but think that they are through circumstance rather than choice.

That saddens me as opposed to being something that sexually excites me.

You've expressed all of the problems with prostitution! Coersion for the prostitutes and the terrible dangers they sometimes face not being the least of them.

And yes, the big thrill in sex comes from shared chemistry and mutual attraction.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"If anyone wants to compensate me for my time (financially) it is fine."

What does £2.47 get me?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Ok can people just discuss the question rather than advertise that they are escorts....Thanks.

I am not an escort, just think it would be hot to lapdance for a guy and have him put money in my underwear...can 'people' not presume to tell others what they are allowed to say...thanks. "

I can as I am the one who took a post off mentioning they were an Escort and gave a reminder that it isn't allowed if it looks like an advert.

Mods do this for a reason...it saves people being banned.

My post had nothing to do with yours at all...you presumed wrong.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

you may find that ruggers can suggest as there are rules of what you can and cant post on the forums...you may wish to read them so that you enjoy posting on forums without risk of a ban..

Oh, ok...thanks for the warning. So, when does a tongue in cheek comment about a fantasy constitute an advert? Who decides which it is? I am genuinely curious..."

See my post above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bring back luncheon vouchers is what i say

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"If anyone wants to compensate me for my time (financially) it is fine.

What does £2.47 get me?"

A knowing wink.

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over a year ago

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

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That's the most disgusting thing I have ever read on Fab

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"What's the difference between having sex with people for free... And paying for it? Apart from the obvious.

Just wondering why some people think paying for sex is a bad thing, yet they have sex with strangers for free.

Why does money make it seedy? Surely sex with strangers can be considered pretty seedy too?

For meets on here, hotels may be paid for, wine etc may be bought. That involves money.

its against the law, criminal law, criminal record, labelled a prossie after etc, some people wouldn't want to take the chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's the difference between having sex with people for free... And paying for it? Apart from the obvious.

Just wondering why some people think paying for sex is a bad thing, yet they have sex with strangers for free.

Why does money make it seedy? Surely sex with strangers can be considered pretty seedy too?

For meets on here, hotels may be paid for, wine etc may be bought. That involves money.

its against the law, criminal law, criminal record, labelled a prossie after etc, some people wouldn't want to take the chance

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