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"I'm an introvert - i worry that people find me boring - I find it challenging to put in the energy that fledgling relationships / friendships need, so it's rare i make friends " Your verifications are veery complimentary so are u sure you can’t make friends. Maybe just sex? | |||
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"So you're comfortable in your own company without the desperation of needing to heard and seen by other people? " Erm yup. It's been mentioned at work | |||
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"I'm an introvert - i worry that people find me boring - I find it challenging to put in the energy that fledgling relationships / friendships need, so it's rare i make friends " I usually strike up a conversation but meaningful stuff rather than boring meaningless crap. Im also not worried what people think of me either. | |||
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"I feel boring in social gatherings. I find it incredibly difficult to strike up conversation and then panic about not striking up a conversation. Other than that I’m happy as a clam " I think a problem introverted people have is that they lack practice in social situations so they think that every conversation has to be “meaningful”. Most people couldn’t give a shit about meaningful - all they really want to do is talk about themselves. Therefore if I am stuck for a conversation I will pay them a (genuine) compliment about something they are wearing/doing and then ask them a follow up question about it. Doesn’t matter what it is - just get them talking about themselves and then get out of their way. They will be super happy because they are talking about their favourite subject - themselves - and I am happy because I can just listen. | |||
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"if you believe the online tests I am a classic serial killer3 I guess there is still time" Note to self: don't visit Manchester. | |||
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"I feel boring in social gatherings. I find it incredibly difficult to strike up conversation and then panic about not striking up a conversation. Other than that I’m happy as a clam I think a problem introverted people have is that they lack practice in social situations so they think that every conversation has to be “meaningful”. Most people couldn’t give a shit about meaningful - all they really want to do is talk about themselves. Therefore if I am stuck for a conversation I will pay them a (genuine) compliment about something they are wearing/doing and then ask them a follow up question about it. Doesn’t matter what it is - just get them talking about themselves and then get out of their way. They will be super happy because they are talking about their favourite subject - themselves - and I am happy because I can just listen." | |||
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"Do people find them intimidating. Boring, hard to communicate with. Apparently I'm an introvert and just did an online test." Nope. I'm an introvert and will quite happily sit with another introvert in silence. For hours if need be. (I'm barely aware of their presence unless they say something. If it's something meaningful I may respond. If it's not, I'll nod my head and carry on reading whatever I am reading). | |||
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"Do people find them intimidating. Boring, hard to communicate with. Apparently I'm an introvert and just did an online test." My test said introvert too | |||
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"I'm an introvert - i worry that people find me boring - I find it challenging to put in the energy that fledgling relationships / friendships need, so it's rare i make friends " I'm happy to call you a friend. The terms introvert/extravert are from my favourite psychologist, Jung. He of Synchronicity, psychic stuff, and the physicist Wolfgang Pauli's collaborator. They were somewhat obsessed with the number 137 too, and I'm connected to a few academics carrying on that work. I've done quite a few of the tests for various roles over the years, including the original Jungian Colour Energies that spawned Myers-Briggs et al, and I have the annoyingly unique status of all the colours touching each other. Or in MBTI terms, both extra- and intro- equally. But it's more than that. Prey said she's an introverted exhibitionist, which would have similarities. So...my question to Prey (and others, if you want to go to the strangest of places) is: How often, if ever, have you had psychic experiences? Jung and Pauli would very much have put those together with personalities who were very "active-passive", which seems like a paradox, but if you look into their work further, you'll also see that paradox (quantum uncertainty, 137 as "Fine Structure Constant" etc) is a key part of their newer understanding of reality than classical mechanics suggests. So if anyone feels like they're a paradox, and you have psychic experiences (I do..I'm an atheist and my dissertation was on a materialist framework for psi), and you want to talk more...without any FAB perving...I'm here. Or, you can block me knowing I'm a nutter. Either way, I've just made FAB more efficient for you all xx | |||
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"My opinion is that overthinking what personality type you are isn't helpful. Recognise where you might need to adapt or if really necessary change but it's difference that makes us interesting. " Sound advice. I am both I think depending where and who I am with. I need to feel comfortable in the situation | |||
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"My opinion is that overthinking what personality type you are isn't helpful. Recognise where you might need to adapt or if really necessary change but it's difference that makes us interesting. Sound advice. I am both I think depending where and who I am with. I need to feel comfortable in the situation " It's the same for me. There are certain situations in which people would say I'm an introvert mainly because we have nothing in common and I struggle to make conversation. I don't think anyone would ever say I'm an extrovert but I'm definitely more talkative and sociable if there's common ground. Then there's the people who badger you to 'be sociable ' asking "why are you so quiet?" "I don't know Marjorie, why are you so damn noisy?" | |||
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"I think what I find the hardest, say you're in a group of people and there's one that dominates the conversation...like literally just talks non stop. So much so that you have to almost shout to be heard, then you've just got a bunch of people shouting over each other with no real communication happening " What a fantastic description of being in a pub. | |||
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"My opinion is that overthinking what personality type you are isn't helpful. Recognise where you might need to adapt or if really necessary change but it's difference that makes us interesting. Sound advice. I am both I think depending where and who I am with. I need to feel comfortable in the situation It's the same for me. There are certain situations in which people would say I'm an introvert mainly because we have nothing in common and I struggle to make conversation. I don't think anyone would ever say I'm an extrovert but I'm definitely more talkative and sociable if there's common ground. Then there's the people who badger you to 'be sociable ' asking "why are you so quiet?" "I don't know Marjorie, why are you so damn noisy?" " Perfect, I subscribe to it | |||
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"My opinion is that overthinking what personality type you are isn't helpful. Recognise where you might need to adapt or if really necessary change but it's difference that makes us interesting. Sound advice. I am both I think depending where and who I am with. I need to feel comfortable in the situation It's the same for me. There are certain situations in which people would say I'm an introvert mainly because we have nothing in common and I struggle to make conversation. I don't think anyone would ever say I'm an extrovert but I'm definitely more talkative and sociable if there's common ground. Then there's the people who badger you to 'be sociable ' asking "why are you so quiet?" "I don't know Marjorie, why are you so damn noisy?" " This is so spot on for me as well . | |||
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"I'm an introvert... and autistic lol, so I got a bit of a double whammy going on here. As much as I love being alone and exploring life in a peaceful way, I know I have to do my best to keep a certain level of connection with others around me, otherwise I'll close myself off from the world." Don't worry. There's never been a better time to be autistic. It certainly wasn't good when I didn't like sport and went to a minor public school. | |||
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"I'm an introvert... and autistic lol, so I got a bit of a double whammy going on here. As much as I love being alone and exploring life in a peaceful way, I know I have to do my best to keep a certain level of connection with others around me, otherwise I'll close myself off from the world. Don't worry. There's never been a better time to be autistic. It certainly wasn't good when I didn't like sport and went to a minor public school." Thanks for the kind words man. It's definitely a little easier this day and age for the neurodivergent's to interact with others being that there is more awareness and understanding about it all. Are you neurodivergent yourself? | |||
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"My niece came over today (21 y.o. neurodivergent.). Her mother and her husband came too. Along with their other daughter (14). Plus another of my nieces (15), her mum, and her husband. Plus me and Mrs DS. It was noisy. I'd been dreading it, tbh. I kept nipping out to a quiet room to recharge for 5-10 mins in short bursts. Go back in, and it was like being in no man's land, with bullets of conversations zipping back and forth constantly over my head. I'm trying to snatch each bullet mid-flight, to examine it, study it, understand it, but there's another 3-4 bullets in mid-flight coming from other angles and they need examining too. Mentally exhausting trying to soak all the information coming in thick and fast. Vaguely aware of my name being called. Turn to the person who I think said it. All the bullets I am currently processing fall to the floor. Focus now completely on one person. It was my neurodivergent niece. She'd not said a word to anyone. She wanted to show me some Anime she had on her phone. (She's obsessed with Anime). I said "Follow me". Went in the quiet room. She showed me the video. It was very good. I asked her to show me more. She "blossomed" and we sat chatting for over an hour about her love for Anime. We both got the respite we needed away from the mob. It can work " That is . Thank you. | |||
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"It was noisy. I'd been dreading it, tbh. I kept nipping out to a quiet room to recharge for 5-10 mins in short bursts. Go back in, and it was like being in no man's land, with bullets of conversations zipping back and forth constantly over my head. I'm trying to snatch each bullet mid-flight, to examine it, study it, understand it, but there's another 3-4 bullets in mid-flight coming from other angles and they need examining too. Mentally exhausting trying to soak all the information coming in thick and fast." Totally empathise with this! Reminds me of my ex-wife's family gatherings. I always felt like I was going to explode. | |||
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"I'm an introvert - i worry that people find me boring - I find it challenging to put in the energy that fledgling relationships / friendships need, so it's rare i make friends I'm happy to call you a friend. The terms introvert/extravert are from my favourite psychologist, Jung. He of Synchronicity, psychic stuff, and the physicist Wolfgang Pauli's collaborator. They were somewhat obsessed with the number 137 too, and I'm connected to a few academics carrying on that work. I've done quite a few of the tests for various roles over the years, including the original Jungian Colour Energies that spawned Myers-Briggs et al, and I have the annoyingly unique status of all the colours touching each other. Or in MBTI terms, both extra- and intro- equally. But it's more than that. Prey said she's an introverted exhibitionist, which would have similarities. So...my question to Prey (and others, if you want to go to the strangest of places) is: How often, if ever, have you had psychic experiences? Jung and Pauli would very much have put those together with personalities who were very "active-passive", which seems like a paradox, but if you look into their work further, you'll also see that paradox (quantum uncertainty, 137 as "Fine Structure Constant" etc) is a key part of their newer understanding of reality than classical mechanics suggests. So if anyone feels like they're a paradox, and you have psychic experiences (I do..I'm an atheist and my dissertation was on a materialist framework for psi), and you want to talk more...without any FAB perving...I'm here. Or, you can block me knowing I'm a nutter. Either way, I've just made FAB more efficient for you all xx " This interest me. I don't have psychic experiences but have had other dimensional experiences or is it the same thing. Everything about our existence is a paradox as far as I'm concerned, mostly I'm comfortable with that knowledge but sometimes it gives me the heebie jeebies | |||
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"This interest me. I don't have psychic experiences but have had other dimensional experiences or is it the same thing. Everything about our existence is a paradox as far as I'm concerned, mostly I'm comfortable with that knowledge but sometimes it gives me the heebie jeebies" I think the links between psychic and extra-dimensional are ones that science, philosophy, and poetry are "merging" quite well on. Holographic theory, panpsychism, integrated information theory...plenty more. If you like paradox, have you read any Hegel or Will Blake? Not that you need to read to understand it...paradox can be a pretty embodied sensation. | |||
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"Do people find them intimidating. Boring, hard to communicate with. Apparently I'm an introvert and just did an online test." I generally only find introverts interesting. Usually when they do say something, they have something to say, instead of having to say something. | |||
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"I'm an introvert - i worry that people find me boring - I find it challenging to put in the energy that fledgling relationships / friendships need, so it's rare i make friends I'm happy to call you a friend. The terms introvert/extravert are from my favourite psychologist, Jung. He of Synchronicity, psychic stuff, and the physicist Wolfgang Pauli's collaborator. They were somewhat obsessed with the number 137 too, and I'm connected to a few academics carrying on that work. I've done quite a few of the tests for various roles over the years, including the original Jungian Colour Energies that spawned Myers-Briggs et al, and I have the annoyingly unique status of all the colours touching each other. Or in MBTI terms, both extra- and intro- equally. But it's more than that. Prey said she's an introverted exhibitionist, which would have similarities. So...my question to Prey (and others, if you want to go to the strangest of places) is: How often, if ever, have you had psychic experiences? Jung and Pauli would very much have put those together with personalities who were very "active-passive", which seems like a paradox, but if you look into their work further, you'll also see that paradox (quantum uncertainty, 137 as "Fine Structure Constant" etc) is a key part of their newer understanding of reality than classical mechanics suggests. So if anyone feels like they're a paradox, and you have psychic experiences (I do..I'm an atheist and my dissertation was on a materialist framework for psi), and you want to talk more...without any FAB perving...I'm here. Or, you can block me knowing I'm a nutter. Either way, I've just made FAB more efficient for you all xx " It’s primarily about how you recharge. After a long hard day some people prefer a bath and a book where others like me to get out and be around people to re-energise. In introverted does not make you shy , slow process or lack in confidence | |||
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"I know I’m an introvert and I just try and be aware of it if I’m trying to interact. If I’m not, then you’re wasting your time. How you ‘find’ me will depend on the circumstances of our meeting. Most will find me aloof, boring, unapproachable, hard work. A few will find me witty, passionate and fascinating. An unfortunate few will find me intimidating and downright scary. Luck of the draw really….. " In clubs, I think the more chatty people get together while I'm standing about. I usually just head for the Jacquizi.. A conversation started about people could drown in a Jacquizi. I mentioned that water with bubbles is less dense and cannot support the weight of a person. A theory about the Bermuda triangle where bubbling seanwater from eruptions cannot the weight of a ship. An experiment trialed by Britain in ww2 to sink invading ships using air hoses in the channel. Boring Yes.. so I shut up | |||
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"I know I’m an introvert and I just try and be aware of it if I’m trying to interact. If I’m not, then you’re wasting your time. How you ‘find’ me will depend on the circumstances of our meeting. Most will find me aloof, boring, unapproachable, hard work. A few will find me witty, passionate and fascinating. An unfortunate few will find me intimidating and downright scary. Luck of the draw really….. In clubs, I think the more chatty people get together while I'm standing about. I usually just head for the Jacquizi.. A conversation started about people could drown in a Jacquizi. I mentioned that water with bubbles is less dense and cannot support the weight of a person. A theory about the Bermuda triangle where bubbling seanwater from eruptions cannot the weight of a ship. An experiment trialed by Britain in ww2 to sink invading ships using air hoses in the channel. Boring Yes.. so I shut up " At least you made it to the jacuzzi. Unless it contained only people I know, I wouldn't go anywhere near it. | |||
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