FabSwingers.com forum: Fab has become unusable

By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

I previously used Fab during my time in college and have since returned, 8 years later, full time a month ago.

Unfortunately, this site has gone to hell, at least in my locality.

All the women I chat with end up wanting to go on social meets before sex, and that's fine. In fact, I personally recommend we meet over drinks before anything happens as it builds chemistry and removes any awkwardness.

But many of these girls expect me to have six or more socials before anything happens. We might as well be dating at that point.

Perhaps that's why the average age of people on this site is now 40-something. Very few 20 year olds on here, in contrast to 8 years ago when I could find plenty.

A reminder that this is a swingers site, not a dating app. If I wanted to take a girl out on multiple "socials" then I'd just sign up to Tinder.

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By *aitonelMan
40 weeks ago

Liverpool

Feel better now?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
40 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I apologise wholeheartedly on behalf of all women for not wanting to just bone you already

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By *oo..Woman
40 weeks ago

Boo's World

Look for the "women" OP and not the girls is the best advice!

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sorry you aren't finding people who align with your expectations.

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By *RWoodyCouple
40 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Whilst it can be appreciated it's not a dating site OP, I think it also has to be appreciated that a Swingers site doesnt necessarily mean jumping into bed with someone/some people by 'date' 2. J.

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By *rucey_BigBallsMan
40 weeks ago

London

The cheek of it right?! They don't know what they're missing out on! Have you SEEN my penis!?

No seriously where is it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

O.P.

I get you. I get where you are coming from BUT ...... the power is in your hands.

Your boundary is one social.

Any second meet is for jiggery pokery.

Own your own weakness O.P. No one skull dragged you out 6 times.

First meet / social and maybe. Second meet Social Sex....

Put it on your profile

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"The cheek of it right?! They don't know what they're missing out on! Have you SEEN my penis!?

No seriously where is it. "

OMG ..... it's that penis again !

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
40 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

To be honest having to go on what is essentially 6 dates before you get the green light is a bit ridiculous.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"O.P.

I get you. I get where you are coming from BUT ...... the power is in your hands.

Your boundary is one social.

Any second meet is for jiggery pokery.

Own your own weakness O.P. No one skull dragged you out 6 times.

First meet / social and maybe. Second meet Social Sex....

Put it on your profile

This

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By *rucey_BigBallsMan
40 weeks ago

London

"The cheek of it right?! They don't know what they're missing out on! Have you SEEN my penis!?

No seriously where is it.

OMG ..... it's that penis again !"

It's coming for ya granny!

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"To be honest having to go on what is essentially 6 dates before you get the green light is a bit ridiculous."

It'd be too much for me, too.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"The cheek of it right?! They don't know what they're missing out on! Have you SEEN my penis!?

No seriously where is it.

OMG ..... it's that penis again !

It's coming for ya granny!"

I don't have a granny. That was cruel Bwuce !

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By *oo..Woman
40 weeks ago

Boo's World

"The cheek of it right?! They don't know what they're missing out on! Have you SEEN my penis!?

No seriously where is it. "

Yours looks like he needs some tlc and soothing cream rubbed in, you've made him all red from all the non stop grabbing and teenage horn levels Brucey!

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By *heekyDemandCouple
40 weeks ago

Leicester

Every moan about the situation is about the people, not the site, Fabswingers doesn't turn people into what you want. Maybe you need to have a more realistic expectation of what people are like.

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By *alandNitaCouple
40 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

OP maybe say what you want on your profile as Swing has suggested.

A surprising number of people on here are looking to date, but 6 socials and no sex suggests they're not really attracted to you. Are you paying for everything?

Nita

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

O o O oo

I wouldn't get that either. I would call that dating too.

However, if that's what the boundery is for that person and isn't for you then you don't match each other so I wouldn't go on a second / 3rd/4th meet etc and try and find someone who matches what you are looking for

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

O o O oo

"I apologise wholeheartedly on behalf of all women for not wanting to just bone you already

He didn't say that at all. Lets not put words into his mouth as it sends the thread a different way altogether

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
40 weeks ago

All over the place

Can't see this going well OP.

Where you say women want social meets before sex, well of course they do.

I guess they want to check us guys out before committing to anything which to be fair is their right.

Besides I've met women who for whatever reason there was zero chemistry, so I didn't fuck them.

Sex is more than the physical, well good sex is anyway

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By *aitonelMan
40 weeks ago

Liverpool

"I wouldn't get that either. I would call that dating too.

This is exactly it. It's their boundaries and their time value they put on themselves. Maybe over the top for some, but it's what they are comfortable with.

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By *midnight-Woman
40 weeks ago

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Apologies for the age demograph OP

Wanna take me out for drinks? I fancy an espresso martini

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Best bet is to go to the clubs that's where the fun is. You will love it just go on a newbie night. I went to one beginning of the year it was a great night met lots of nice people and the hosts were amazing.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
40 weeks ago

little house on the praire

You should make it clear one social only and if they don't like that your not compatible. Must say 6 socials is abit excessive

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By *heekyDemandCouple
40 weeks ago

Leicester

"You should make it clear one social only and if they don't like that your not compatible. Must say 6 socials is abit excessive"

Agreed, but still unsure how this is "Fab becoming unusable"

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Six socials before sex sounds good to me but then again I'm old

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By *ny1localMan
40 weeks ago

READING

"I wouldn't get that either. I would call that dating too.

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I agree with this, but then I'm not a 'white knight' or some 'clever clogs'that enjoys pulling an honest post down.

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By *ee04Man
40 weeks ago

Thurrock

I understand what the OP is saying in terms of a dating site.

The site became more popular during COVID, don’t know why when there was no meeting.

But as so many have said if it’s not your thing then move on.

I agree nothing wrong with a social but 6?

I still remember my first fab meet many years ago. It was a NSA meet with a woman locally. She arrived we got naked fucked and a lot more. We showered she dressed and left.

We both verified each other met a few more time same thing.

I have also been on a few socials were I didn’t want to go any further and quite a few that did.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
40 weeks ago

All over the place

Fair enough but after the 2nd social it should be clear there is no spark

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By *lan157Man
40 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

6 social dates ? I have told you a million times about exaggerating

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By *aitonelMan
40 weeks ago

Liverpool

"I understand what the OP is saying in terms of a dating site.

The site became more popular during COVID, don’t know why when there was no meeting.

But as so many have said if it’s not your thing then move on.

I agree nothing wrong with a social but 6?

I still remember my first fab meet many years ago. It was a NSA meet with a woman locally. She arrived we got naked fucked and a lot more. We showered she dressed and left.

We both verified each other met a few more time same thing.

I have also been on a few socials were I didn’t want to go any further and quite a few that did. "

Nothing wrong with 6 either. If that's what they want to do before the sex then why is that wrong?

It's not the "normal" thing but it's not wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

If 6 socials isn't for you, just say so. I find men want things from me that I don't want, so I say no. It doesn't make Fab unusable?

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
40 weeks ago

All over the place

"Apologies for the age demograph OP

Wanna take me out for drinks? I fancy an espresso martini "

I'll get you one, if I can drink mine off your ass haha

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By *rucey_BigBallsMan
40 weeks ago

London

Anyway who in London wants 1 drink and then oral?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Oh the frustration! It must be maddening

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I previously used Fab during my time in college and have since returned, 8 years later, full time a month ago.

Unfortunately, this site has gone to hell, at least in my locality.

But many of these girls expect me to have six or more socials before anything happens. We might as well be dating at that point.

Perhaps that's why the average age of people on this site is now 40-something. Very few 20 year olds on here, in contrast to 8 years ago when I could find plenty.

A reminder that this is a swingers site, not a dating app. If I wanted to take a girl out on multiple "socials" then I'd just sign up to Tinder."

6 socials and no sex think your pretty much friend zoned.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

East Sussex

Maybe use the singular when talking about social meeting

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"Anyway who in London wants 1 drink and then oral?

Giving or Receiving ?

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By *herry delightWoman
40 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I agree with op in one why this used to be a swinging site, now it's becoming a dating site.

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By *midnight-Woman
40 weeks ago

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"Apologies for the age demograph OP

Wanna take me out for drinks? I fancy an espresso martini

I'll get you one, if I can drink mine off your ass haha"

Might be a little extreme for whetherspoons, but hey, up for anything once!

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By *imisugarWoman
40 weeks ago

Rugby

"To be honest having to go on what is essentially 6 dates before you get the green light is a bit ridiculous."

If someone needed to social with me 6 times before any action, I'd assume they didn't fancy me in the slightest and cut my losses.

Sounds like OP isn't selecting people aligned with what's they actually want.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
40 weeks ago

Bourne lincs

So true fabswingers is full of people looking at ur pics or talk about it on here it's a waste of time

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
40 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

It is odd to me.

One social, go away and digest and process how I feel about it. And if its not a fuck yes then it's a fuck no. There's no room for fucking about on "meh, maybe" reactions in my schedule

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
40 weeks ago

Leeds

Think it must just be you, all the women I meet just fuck wherever we meet, there and then, I've been submerged in pussy since signing up.

Mrs

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By *ellhungvweMan
40 weeks ago

Cheltenham

But many of these girls expect me to have six or more socials before anything happens. We might as well be dating at that point.

If it takes you 6 socials then you are dating at that point.

OP I have to be honest - if _all_ your meets are like that then you need to rethink what you are doing because clearly it isn’t working.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

It is a swingers site.

But people can use the site in any way they like, if you don’t want to go on multiple socials make that clear in your initial conversation.

A lot of the problems you’re suffering with on here are likely things you could change yourself.

I first found Fab in 2019 when I was 26 and I’ve never found it to be a place full of 20 somethings at all.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
40 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

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By *entle_lover_xMan
40 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

I think there is element of truth to what you say OP albeit perhaps not expressed in the most sensitive and elegant way

Fab has changed a bit over the years and especially during Covid a lot of people more interested in socials/dating etc came in, singles and couples. An element remains and sometimes I wonder why certain people are here although ultimately up to them.

That said Fab is still very much usable albeit not easy. There are plenty of ladies and couples across the whole spectrum including those who pretty much want to meet that day and fuck.

How often are you coming across ladies who want six socials? Surely this is rare? Are you indulging them? If this is a major problem for you then perhaps you need to reconsider your approach, who you interact with and what limits you place. No way in hell I would go on six socials and if I come across somebody a couple of times at a party or club and nothing happens pretty much give up - either give up and move on or just accept they are in the "friends zone".

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I previously used Fab during my time in college and have since returned, 8 years later, full time a month ago.

Unfortunately, this site has gone to hell, at least in my locality.

But many of these girls expect me to have six or more socials before anything happens. We might as well be dating at that point.

Perhaps that's why the average age of people on this site is now 40-something. Very few 20 year olds on here, in contrast to 8 years ago when I could find plenty.

A reminder that this is a swingers site, not a dating app. If I wanted to take a girl out on multiple "socials" then I'd just sign up to Tinder."

Perhaps it's different because 8 years ago you were the same age as them.

I wouldn't have 2 socials without a plan for more. I certainly wouldn't have 5 or 6.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
40 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

"Can't see this going well OP.

Where you say women want social meets before sex, well of course they do.

I guess they want to check us guys out before committing to anything which to be fair is their right.

Besides I've met women who for whatever reason there was zero chemistry, so I didn't fuck them.

Sex is more than the physical, well good sex is anyway "

OP wasn't expressing concern at socials meet per se. You are misrepresenting what he said. It was the number of them not them taking place at all.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
40 weeks ago

Leicester

There isn't a lot we need to know about someone to want sex with someone, about 5 minutes of chat is sufficient to exclude someone.

Socials tend to be in the bar area of a club, if we want someone we get up, say we are off to a playroom and ask if they want to join us. If we are horny for you, we want you right now.

6 socials, you could be married to some people in less time.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
40 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

"There isn't a lot we need to know about someone to want sex with someone, about 5 minutes of chat is sufficient to exclude someone.

Socials tend to be in the bar area of a club, if we want someone we get up, say we are off to a playroom and ask if they want to join us. If we are horny for you, we want you right now.

6 socials, you could be married to some people in less time."

Must admit i'm the similar with my partner in a party/club - well maybe not 5 mins but find extended socials even there tricky at times. If a private meet it is usually with prior agreement that most likely will play after a little chat if all happy. Some exceptions if lucky enough to meet a single lady as understand it can take more time for us all to feel comfortable.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
40 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

Should add this is one of an increasing growing list of thing where the couples meeting couples and singles meeting singles experience can be quite different. It's like a whole different world at times.

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There isn't a lot we need to know about someone to want sex with someone, about 5 minutes of chat is sufficient to exclude someone.

Socials tend to be in the bar area of a club, if we want someone we get up, say we are off to a playroom and ask if they want to join us. If we are horny for you, we want you right now.

6 socials, you could be married to some people in less time."

I'd want a bit longer - online discussion for awhile then a social, or a little longer than 5 minutes in a club. But I can't think of any reason I'd want more than one social.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
40 weeks ago

Markfield

The twenty year olds from 8 years ago are now 28. I think that’s where you’re going wrong.

#girlmaths

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By *entle_lover_xMan
40 weeks ago

Great Dunmow

"The twenty year olds from 8 years ago are now 28. I think that’s where you’re going wrong.

#girlmaths"

lol must admit I hadn't picked up on the age thing.

OP I'll whisper it quietly but you might end up having a far better time sexually with the over 40's experienced swingers than the young 20 year olds

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

This site is both a swinging site and a dating site. What about the single swingers looking for a partner to swing with? I'm somewhere in between personally.

Where OP seems to be unlucky is in clearly communicating his own desires and boundaries for what he wants.

Maybe the women he's ended up dating are looking for a long term partner to swing with and not NSA? Although I'm not sure how he wouldn't know that before a 3rd social. What are you talking about if not what you're into, what your values are, what is needed before trust is given for X, Y, Z, what you both want from a dynamic or sexual meet, and then negotiating limits and boundaries? Eastenders???

So many people talk about "communication is key" and then fail to actually communicate at all when it comes to the things that really matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"To be honest having to go on what is essentially 6 dates before you get the green light is a bit ridiculous.

It'd be too much for me, too."

That’s too many dates for tinder.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I first found Fab in 2019 when I was 26 and I’ve never found it to be a place full of 20 somethings at all. "

Sometimes I wish it was but it certainly never has been

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By *hoirCouple
40 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

How does this make the service unusable though? For a start, you are using it right now. Secondly, this just sounds like a whine as you can't get any action anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Think it must just be you, all the women I meet just fuck wherever we meet, there and then, I've been submerged in pussy since signing up.

Mrs "

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"To be honest having to go on what is essentially 6 dates before you get the green light is a bit ridiculous.

It'd be too much for me, too.

That’s too many dates for tinder. "

My brief experience of Tinder is that guys are way less tolerant of "social first"

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"The twenty year olds from 8 years ago are now 28. I think that’s where you’re going wrong.

#girlmaths"

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By *stwo2023Couple
40 weeks ago

Worcester

I'd argue it's very usable to those who like to get to know the person they want to fuck.

Perhaps the issue is you and your expectations?

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By *viatrixWoman
40 weeks ago

Redhill

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I previously used Fab during my time in college and have since returned, 8 years later, full time a month ago.

Unfortunately, this site has gone to hell, at least in my locality.

But many of these girls expect me to have six or more socials before anything happens. We might as well be dating at that point.

Perhaps that's why the average age of people on this site is now 40-something. Very few 20 year olds on here, in contrast to 8 years ago when I could find plenty.

A reminder that this is a swingers site, not a dating app. If I wanted to take a girl out on multiple "socials" then I'd just sign up to Tinder."

I believe correct me if I'm wrong others can choose to use the site how they choose,

Tinder will be pleased to see you

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By *lex46TV/TS
40 weeks ago

Near Wells

6 meetings before sex??

I get worried if we’re not having sex within 6 minutes of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"To be honest having to go on what is essentially 6 dates before you get the green light is a bit ridiculous.

It'd be too much for me, too.

That’s too many dates for tinder.

My brief experience of Tinder is that guys are way less tolerant of "social first""

My experience of it is that women want to shag on the first date

And nobody is on it for a serious relationship really despite the bios

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere near

Doesn't say alot for the OP. Either there's sexual attraction or not. Silly man for trying again and again .

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I would only expect one social.

I wouldn't want to constantly meet someone for a social it's either there for me or not and if it's not then no point.

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"I would only expect one social.

I wouldn't want to constantly meet someone for a social it's either there for me or not and if it's not then no point. "

I'd take your social

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
40 weeks ago

Reading

"The cheek of it right?! They don't know what they're missing out on! Have you SEEN my penis!?

No seriously where is it. "

I handed it in to lost property.

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

What is it they say about keep doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome?

It takes two op.

Maybe look in the mirror.? If it's taking you 6 socials to get your fingers wet, and you don't like that. Try doing something different for a different outcome.?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

What 6 social really

Never neverv

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By *weetCherryWoman
40 weeks ago

London

Only 6?! I’m not planning to bone anyone else until we are married, lucky you

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By *AYENCouple
40 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It sounds like you're a great candidate for the friend zone.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

So OP,

In the eight months back on Fab have any of these extended socials actually ended in sex?

Sorry but someone’s got to ask

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By *ools and the brainCouple
40 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"I previously used Fab during my time in college and have since returned, 8 years later, full time a month ago.

Unfortunately, this site has gone to hell, at least in my locality.

But many of these girls expect me to have six or more socials before anything happens. We might as well be dating at that point.

Perhaps that's why the average age of people on this site is now 40-something. Very few 20 year olds on here, in contrast to 8 years ago when I could find plenty.

A reminder that this is a swingers site, not a dating app. If I wanted to take a girl out on multiple "socials" then I'd just sign up to Tinder."

See you then bye bye turn the light off on your way out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

Some people here have completely misunderstood what I'm saying.

I have nothing against social meets but I recently had one that went on for six. Before that, I had one that went on for four. Of course, they're not all like this but this is becoming more frequent.

Once again, there's nothing wrong with social meet-ups but they certainly have become excessive. If they really weren't into me then we wouldn't still be going out and talking online.

Unfortunately, not a lot of choices on fab for what I'm after in my location. And I'm mainly targeting people my age, late-20s/mid-30s. I can certainly refuse to go out for more then two socials but I'm definitely seeing a pattern here in regards to what women are after on fab.

The purpose of social meets is to check eachother out and build some chemistry. Not try and fall in love with one another. And yes, I already have this in my bio long before I made this post.

In terms of demographics on Fab, it's gotten much older. But I guess dating/hookup apps are the cause of this because that's what most under 40s use for sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"So OP,

In the eight months back on Fab have any of these extended socials actually ended in sex?

Sorry but someone’s got to ask

I'm quite picky but yes. Though I find Bumble and Hinge to be much easier and I'm not exaggerating.

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By *mf123Man
40 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Good luck with your socials id much prefer the early close

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By *alandNitaCouple
40 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"So OP,

In the eight months back on Fab have any of these extended socials actually ended in sex?

Sorry but someone’s got to ask

I'm quite picky but yes. Though I find Bumble and Hinge to be much easier and I'm not exaggerating."

To be honest, these are probably better for hook ups and your age group than Fab.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Coffee?

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By *itty9899Man
40 weeks ago

Craggy Island

"I previously used Fab during my time in college and have since returned, 8 years later, full time a month ago.

Unfortunately, this site has gone to hell, at least in my locality.

But many of these girls expect me to have six or more socials before anything happens. We might as well be dating at that point.

Perhaps that's why the average age of people on this site is now 40-something. Very few 20 year olds on here, in contrast to 8 years ago when I could find plenty.

A reminder that this is a swingers site, not a dating app. If I wanted to take a girl out on multiple "socials" then I'd just sign up to Tinder."

On the first day of Christmas my truelove gave to me...

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By *migger123Man
40 weeks ago

The older woman are better pal

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
40 weeks ago

Sheffield

I politely disagree. If I want to use it to date…I will.

I think people rely on fab too much for meeting. Lots of clubs and social events to meet people at.

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

"Some people here have completely misunderstood what I'm saying.

I have nothing against social meets but I recently had one that went on for six. Before that, I had one that went on for four. Of course, they're not all like this but this is becoming more frequent.

Once again, there's nothing wrong with social meet-ups but they certainly have become excessive. If they really weren't into me then we wouldn't still be going out and talking online.

The purpose of social meets is to check eachother out and build some chemistry. Not try and fall in love with one another. And yes, I already have this in my bio long before I made this post.

In terms of demographics on Fab, it's gotten much older. But I guess dating/hookup apps are the cause of this because that's what most under 40s use for sex."

Can't argue with your experiences and it's an interesting observation that you make. Do you find similar behavior and expectations on other meet sites?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
40 weeks ago

cardiff

Women (and men), can use Fab however they like.

If you don't like it, go out, meet someone in a bar, pub, club. Or use a different app.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"So OP,

In the eight months back on Fab have any of these extended socials actually ended in sex?

Sorry but someone’s got to ask

I'm quite picky but yes. Though I find Bumble and Hinge to be much easier and I'm not exaggerating."

He's way too picky, that's his problem. Just look at what he's looking for ...

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By *rucey_BigBallsMan
40 weeks ago

London

"So OP,

In the eight months back on Fab have any of these extended socials actually ended in sex?

Sorry but someone’s got to ask

I'm quite picky but yes. Though I find Bumble and Hinge to be much easier and I'm not exaggerating.

He's way too picky, that's his problem. Just look at what he's looking for ..."

Picky ain't a thing remember! It's good to have standards!

My good looking penis only wants to meet hot faces/vaginas!

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By *oopy Lou 666Woman
40 weeks ago

Heaven.....………. I came down from Heaven

"Look for the "women" OP and not the girls is the best advice!

well he is still in his 20`s..........

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
40 weeks ago

North West

"The older woman are better pal

We old women already have husbands and suchlike, I don't have time for so many socials. We also probably have children, some not far off in age to the OP so we won't be wanting to go to some hip young-people bar etc.

Old women are sitting home, doing their knitting, in their sexy undies and stockings, just waiting for young studs to take 'em quickly, before 'im indoors wants a quick suck before bed and before little Kiddie gets up at 3am needing cuddles!

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By *oopy Lou 666Woman
40 weeks ago

Heaven.....………. I came down from Heaven

"To be honest having to go on what is essentially 6 dates before you get the green light is a bit ridiculous."

yeah ........I think we should know after 1st meet if you like the person....

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

The cheek of them.

Usually when I go on socials, I'm usually already wearing a condom, I'm that lucky.

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