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By *abio OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

This time of year….. who are you tipping? If so, what?

Bin men got…the people at the car wash got, takeaway delivery person does..

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Only people we ever tip are restaurant staff.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Restaurant staff and my barber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Window cleaner would have but I missed him and someone else in the house paid him. The dustbin people..... Not really, I always miss them when they come to take the bins.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Restaurant staff and my cleaning lady

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Restaurant staff and hairdresser

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Nobody. It's included in their wage.

I paid for my overpriced meal/service included already as part of the experiance. Do you tip the store clerk that was a pleasant and exceptionally good service?

Their "good service" is part of their job role, and plays a part in me (along with others) returning to keep them in a job. If service is bad, I won't return to spend money there.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Nobody. It's included in their wage.

I paid for my overpriced meal/service included already as part of the experiance. Do you tip the store clerk that was a pleasant and exceptionally good service?

Their "good service" is part of their job role, and plays a part in me (along with others) returning to keep them in a job. If service is bad, I won't return to spend money there. "

Cough cough, tight bastard

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We tip good service. We're unlikely to tip anyone who earns more than us though.

I always tip the apprentice in the hair salon, never the stylist she doesn't need my measly fiver

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over


"We tip good service. We're unlikely to tip anyone who earns more than us though.

I always tip the apprentice in the hair salon, never the stylist she doesn't need my measly fiver "

I am the same. I tip for good service so a bit rarely these days as service in many places is abysmal. I do get some chocolates for everyone at hairdressers but forgot to do so this time so will do it after xmas and will probably be appreciated more.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve never given anyone extra money for doing their job.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?"

From my Boss, yes. Clients, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Restaurants

Hairdresser

And the young lad that delivers my parcels that I've known for years gets a case of beer.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I tip in restaurants and I add a tip each time I pay for a haircut, but I don't give a special Christmas tip (the bin men thing, which my grandparents always did, and their postman too!). I bought the lady who cleans for me a present, so effectively a tip I guess...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody. It's included in their wage.

I paid for my overpriced meal/service included already as part of the experiance. Do you tip the store clerk that was a pleasant and exceptionally good service?

Their "good service" is part of their job role, and plays a part in me (along with others) returning to keep them in a job. If service is bad, I won't return to spend money there. "

I'm with you on that. I tip now and then but since I've stopped carrying cash. tipping is forced upon me and I hate the round up option at tills... We're not America.

Restaurants sometimes get a tip though.

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By *sername already in useMan
over a year ago

manchester

I don’t tip anybody.

I’m not American AND I’m tight as fuck.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
over a year ago

London or Bedford

Sir, I am BRITISH. I don’t...Tip

Bruh Hurumf Hurumf

But if the service is exceptional

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Postman gets a good tip from us.

Been in this house a year now and our postie is brilliant.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I only tip if someone has gone beyond the scope of their job, to either sort a problem or just make my experience better, when they weren’t obliged too.

I don’t tip for people doing what they are expected to do as part of their job.

When I dine out with friends and they all put in for a tip and I don’t there is usually some eye rolling goin on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Postie

Butcher

Cleaner

Bin men

Window cleaner

Gardener

Ironing person

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?"

I get payed for my work, I do not expect further remuneration, beside I’m self employed and my boss is a tight arse

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By *enk15Man
over a year ago

Evesham

I don't tip because I am a stingie SOB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody at all. Either tip everyone, or Nobody, I never understood why some people 'deserved' them and others don't.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Hairdresser, waiting staff, male strippers

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By *orthwhile27Man
over a year ago

dark side of the moon

I tip throughout the year, Not changing just because it's crimbo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't tip but do get gifts for some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really dislike tipping... My brother made my step dad leave £15 tip for lunch last week!

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Tip a restaurant for good service, can’t stand the places that round up or add a service charge if you have a large group.

Didn’t have an issue once in America with tipping. The service over there is miles better than the uk.

Mrs usually leaves a tub of sweets out for the bin men

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By *oinerbillMan
over a year ago

warrington

Tip most people, its nice to give for good service

bin men

Postie

restaurant staff

We go out with 2 other couples who are really tight with tipping. if the bill is say £148.50 - they will round it up to £150 and say keep the change

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Nobody. It's included in their wage.

I paid for my overpriced meal/service included already as part of the experiance. Do you tip the store clerk that was a pleasant and exceptionally good service?

Their "good service" is part of their job role, and plays a part in me (along with others) returning to keep them in a job. If service is bad, I won't return to spend money there.

Cough cough, tight bastard "

Why do you call him tight ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I never tip. Or if i'm truthful it's VERY rare.

I have sound reasons for not giving tips and I am not tight fisted.

I probably give a higher percentage of my income to those that need it than any of you but tipping is fucking ridiculous.

Most of you will do it so that no one can call you tight ....... or some similar insult.

How come you see everyone as a poor peasant in need of some charity ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My bin man is paid a wage.

I pay council tax.

Why do I need to give a total stranger a Christmas present ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

When did you last tip the cashier at the garage as you got your petrol ?

If not , why not ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

When you had your new kitchen put in did you go and give the plasterer a bit of bunce ?

An Asda Lorry driver ..... did you stop next to him at the services and give him some of your hard earned ?

Why not ?

We ALL work and most workers have a lot more money than you or me ....

Do you shove a fiver or two into the pocket of a nurse ? Is she/he worth less than your waiter ?

What about McDonalds.... anyone tip there ?

It's a throwback to serfdom.

You just save their bosses some wages is all....

Stupid idea.

Pay people a living wage.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Tip most people, its nice to give for good service

bin men

Postie

restaurant staff

We go out with 2 other couples who are really tight with tipping. if the bill is say £148.50 - they will round it up to £150 and say keep the change"

So you are unhappy with the small tip and put a lot more in ?

Cos 148.50 @ 15% is £22 + so you really should have put £8 in in any case.

Good not being tight there that man.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We tip good service in restaurants but nowhere else.

I saw the hotel thread and hadn't thought about tipping the housekeeping staff.

I think they, like many in the service industry don't get paid well enough for their hard and frequently unappreciated work.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you had your new kitchen put in did you go and give the plasterer a bit of bunce ?

An Asda Lorry driver ..... did you stop next to him at the services and give him some of your hard earned ?

Why not ?

We ALL work and most workers have a lot more money than you or me ....

Do you shove a fiver or two into the pocket of a nurse ? Is she/he worth less than your waiter ?

What about McDonalds.... anyone tip there ?

It's a throwback to serfdom.

You just save their bosses some wages is all....

Stupid idea.

Pay people a living wage. "

Yes!

Pay people a living wage

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"We tip good service in restaurants but nowhere else.

I saw the hotel thread and hadn't thought about tipping the housekeeping staff.

I think they, like many in the service industry don't get paid well enough for their hard and frequently unappreciated work.

Nita"

They don't get paid enough, you are right. Very few people actually get paid enough.

But also why is it on other people that don't get paid enough to make up for the short comings of low wages, which is the responsibility of their employer?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

When I go into the hairdressers..... guess what ...... I expect them to cut my hair.

The price for that service is in the window.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"We tip good service in restaurants but nowhere else.

I saw the hotel thread and hadn't thought about tipping the housekeeping staff.

I think they, like many in the service industry don't get paid well enough for their hard and frequently unappreciated work.

Nita

They don't get paid enough, you are right. Very few people actually get paid enough.

But also why is it on other people that don't get paid enough to make up for the short comings of low wages, which is the responsibility of their employer?"

I don't think it is... thankfully we don't have the same system as the USA where not tipping is virtually a criminal offence.

However, I do think it can be nice to give a little extra personal appreciation.

Nita

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"When I go into the hairdressers..... guess what ...... I expect them to cut my hair.

The price for that service is in the window.

"

When I grow up, I'm going to marry you one day, GrannyC!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My local chippy get lots of tips they sort me out with so many extra's. I get lots of tips for my job delivering home gyms and installing them to very happy customers up and down the country including some of you naughty lot.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I tried tipping Mrs Days once, she called me a stingy bastard, then demanded I put the full length in

Sorry, I’ll go now

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I need to take this one step further cos...... it does my little swede in when people think they are virtuous for tipping ......

Let's take an ordinary non exaggerated day..... and imagine I tip everyone who does a 'service' of sorts for me.

1. Into chemist pick up prescription TIP

2. Go to doctors to TIP them for writing the script TIP

3. Go to newsagents for stamps TIP

4. Walk down to station and get train see the driver TIP and then see the guard TIP

5. Go through the ticket barrier TIP the woman who stands by the gate.

6. Nip into coffee shop buy coffee TIP

7. Go to M and S buy something TIP

8. Go to Primark buy something TIP

9. Go to Cinema buy ticket TIP

10 Get shown to seat TIP

11. Buy some drinks n snacks TIP

12. Someone cleans up as we leave TIP

13. Go to the station for coffee TIP

14. Go back through barrier TIP

15. Get train TIP the drive then TIP the guard.

16. See the cleaner on the station TIP

and that is just a day of doing nothing much...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"When I go into the hairdressers..... guess what ...... I expect them to cut my hair.

The price for that service is in the window.

When I grow up, I'm going to marry you one day, GrannyC!"

You'd better be fit ....

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

I took a decond job delivering food.

The average tip for people who do tip is £2.50.

the average tip from everyone i deliver to is 31p

As you may have guessed, i started fairly recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to take this one step further cos...... it does my little swede in when people think they are virtuous for tipping ......

Let's take an ordinary non exaggerated day..... and imagine I tip everyone who does a 'service' of sorts for me.

1. Into chemist pick up prescription TIP

2. Go to doctors to TIP them for writing the script TIP

3. Go to newsagents for stamps TIP

4. Walk down to station and get train see the driver TIP and then see the guard TIP

5. Go through the ticket barrier TIP the woman who stands by the gate.

6. Nip into coffee shop buy coffee TIP

7. Go to M and S buy something TIP

8. Go to Primark buy something TIP

9. Go to Cinema buy ticket TIP

10 Get shown to seat TIP

11. Buy some drinks n snacks TIP

12. Someone cleans up as we leave TIP

13. Go to the station for coffee TIP

14. Go back through barrier TIP

15. Get train TIP the drive then TIP the guard.

16. See the cleaner on the station TIP

and that is just a day of doing nothing much...

"

You missed tipping all the security staff

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

ffs ! I am ONE tight bastard !

I always miss someone.... best run back and tip security. Don't want anyone thinking im mean.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?"

I didn't get a Christmas bonus in my most recent job. Employers giving staff a bonus is quite different to people giving their peers money for a job they're already paid to do.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?

From my Boss, yes. Clients, no."

But that’s your job

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts


"Nobody. It's included in their wage.

I paid for my overpriced meal/service included already as part of the experiance. Do you tip the store clerk that was a pleasant and exceptionally good service?

Their "good service" is part of their job role, and plays a part in me (along with others) returning to keep them in a job. If service is bad, I won't return to spend money there. "

This. I fail to understand why you would tip someone on their ability to carry a plate. The one that deserves a tip in a restaurant is the chef. They put in all the work and thought into your meal. The server merely writes what you want, carries it to the table and then pockets the tip.

Rarely is it shared with the chef!!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you"

Alternatively their employers could pay them accordingly

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?

From my Boss, yes. Clients, no.

But that’s your job"

Exactly.

So if my boss wants to give me a bonus that's on him (example restaurant manager/owner) giving me a bonus in addition for doing a good job that's up to him. Not the client (example customer I served) giving me a tip for the extra effort put in to my service for them.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Apart from my barber I don’t tip anyone

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

I want the whole length not just the tip!

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Nope

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

The people who cut my hair, staff in restaurants.I would have tipped the attractive woman in the dry cleaners who asks for my phone number every time I take some clothes in for cleaning but she never rings me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you"

A fiver from everyone they serve in December? Thats an extra £250 a day if they're serving 50 covers and that's a very low ball estimate for dec! £1250 bonus on top of wages over a 5 day week! They're serving food (yes I've waited tables, I know how shit it is) not saving lives!

I think service staff seem to think they're doing something more difficult or important than anybody else when they're not really.

It's pretty stressful yes, but it's not the hardest thing I've done by a country mile and definitely doesn't warrant those kind of bonuses!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you"

Lots of jobs are bloody tough. Lots!

I've worked both hospitality and retail myself.

I don't give those that work in the hospitality or retail industry a hard time. I don't bitch or moan to them about slow service when it's clear they are rushed off their feet. But the service is included as part of the bill - I appreciate the service but I'd quite happily go and collect my own food if the price was reduced. Cut out the middle man.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I tip less and less in the uk , almost never.But I think it’s nice that some people choose to it’s very generous to give your money away

I save it for countries where it’s easy to be extremely generous and it really makes a difference to someone. I used to bring my drivers in Africa laptops and medical supplies and give them an extra months salary at Xmas.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

Lots of jobs are bloody tough. Lots!

I've worked both hospitality and retail myself.

I don't give those that work in the hospitality or retail industry a hard time. I don't bitch or moan to them about slow service when it's clear they are rushed off their feet. But the service is included as part of the bill - I appreciate the service but I'd quite happily go and collect my own food if the price was reduced. Cut out the middle man. "

Service isn’t always included, many places still don’t include it and many restaurants can’t afford to pay staff their wage, let alone raises or bonuses as you so enjoy.

It’s rather callous to just say ‘they should get paid more’ when you pay £30 for a bottle of wine but baulk at a tip for the person that’s brought you your food and put up with you staring at her ass for the duration

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

Lots of jobs are bloody tough. Lots!

I've worked both hospitality and retail myself.

I don't give those that work in the hospitality or retail industry a hard time. I don't bitch or moan to them about slow service when it's clear they are rushed off their feet. But the service is included as part of the bill - I appreciate the service but I'd quite happily go and collect my own food if the price was reduced. Cut out the middle man.

Service isn’t always included, many places still don’t include it and many restaurants can’t afford to pay staff their wage, let alone raises or bonuses as you so enjoy.

It’s rather callous to just say ‘they should get paid more’ when you pay £30 for a bottle of wine but baulk at a tip for the person that’s brought you your food and put up with you staring at her ass for the duration "

If service isn’t included the meal should cost about £2.50. It’s all service, a meal doesn’t cost £20 to make. Lots of people work really hard and deserve rewarding , that’s the employers job not the customers. Tipping is generosity not obligation or subsidy forbad employers paying low wages

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

Lots of jobs are bloody tough. Lots!

I've worked both hospitality and retail myself.

I don't give those that work in the hospitality or retail industry a hard time. I don't bitch or moan to them about slow service when it's clear they are rushed off their feet. But the service is included as part of the bill - I appreciate the service but I'd quite happily go and collect my own food if the price was reduced. Cut out the middle man.

Service isn’t always included, many places still don’t include it and many restaurants can’t afford to pay staff their wage, let alone raises or bonuses as you so enjoy.

It’s rather callous to just say ‘they should get paid more’ when you pay £30 for a bottle of wine but baulk at a tip for the person that’s brought you your food and put up with you staring at her ass for the duration "

I don't drink alcohol.

Grats on that little tantrum lowering yourself to that tiny little place of personal digs by assuming how I treat not only just service staff, but a women too. All because I choose not to pay an optional price increase.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

Lots of jobs are bloody tough. Lots!

I've worked both hospitality and retail myself.

I don't give those that work in the hospitality or retail industry a hard time. I don't bitch or moan to them about slow service when it's clear they are rushed off their feet. But the service is included as part of the bill - I appreciate the service but I'd quite happily go and collect my own food if the price was reduced. Cut out the middle man.

Service isn’t always included, many places still don’t include it and many restaurants can’t afford to pay staff their wage, let alone raises or bonuses as you so enjoy.

It’s rather callous to just say ‘they should get paid more’ when you pay £30 for a bottle of wine but baulk at a tip for the person that’s brought you your food and put up with you staring at her ass for the duration

I don't drink alcohol.

Grats on that little tantrum lowering yourself to that tiny little place of personal digs by assuming how I treat not only just service staff, but a women too. All because I choose not to pay an optional price increase. "

Just pay your fiver man

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By *eordieJeansCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Cows

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

Alternatively their employers could pay them accordingly "

Or if they’re not happy doing that job, go and do something else. My business supplies a service, I don’t expect anyone to give me or my staff a tip. Occasionally someone will say keep the change.

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By *ik MMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

I had no idea that hospitality staff had such expectations of entitlement. One thing I’ve learned from this thread is that unless I receive service that is way above and beyond I’ll give tipping a miss from now on…

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

Lots of jobs are bloody tough. Lots!

I've worked both hospitality and retail myself.

I don't give those that work in the hospitality or retail industry a hard time. I don't bitch or moan to them about slow service when it's clear they are rushed off their feet. But the service is included as part of the bill - I appreciate the service but I'd quite happily go and collect my own food if the price was reduced. Cut out the middle man.

Service isn’t always included, many places still don’t include it and many restaurants can’t afford to pay staff their wage, let alone raises or bonuses as you so enjoy.

It’s rather callous to just say ‘they should get paid more’ when you pay £30 for a bottle of wine but baulk at a tip for the person that’s brought you your food and put up with you staring at her ass for the duration

I don't drink alcohol.

Grats on that little tantrum lowering yourself to that tiny little place of personal digs by assuming how I treat not only just service staff, but a women too. All because I choose not to pay an optional price increase. "

You said that you worked in hospitality and retail? I’m not sure that you really did.

It wasn’t a tantrum, let’s not demean each other like that. Let’s also not pretend that the ‘inflated prices’ you pay for food go anywhere near the service staff and you’re not giving them any measure of gratitude by paying your bill

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I work in hospitality and it’s a bloody tough job, Especially at this time of year when everyone expects more of the service staff.

The very basics of a waiters/ress’ job require prompt, attentive and correct service, the vast majority will go above and beyond that in a high pressure, high stress atmosphere. Most will be working 60/70 hours a week as that’s what’s required of them during December.

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you"

How illuminating. I'm not your boss or responsible for your working conditions.

Why not change jobs and stop having such unrealistic expectations of paying customers ?

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


" Let’s also not pretend that the ‘inflated prices’ you pay for food go anywhere near the service staff and you’re not giving them any measure of gratitude by paying your bill "

If I’m reading this right you are suggesting that the customer is responsible for paying the staff extra because the employer chooses not to distribute the income from the business receipts in a fair way amongst their employees.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

The thing about tipping is it’s so random and growing.

You feel pressure to tip with the ‘they don’t pay them enough in their basic wage’ argument. Many restaurants are owned by pretty wealthy people. Why don’t they pay staff a decent wage ?

And why should the trendy coffee shop staff expect a tip for a takeaway when the McDonalds staff get you a complete meal and don’t expect a tip.

We tip because we feel the pressure but people should make their money in their salary and not expect additional money from their bosses clients. As for the argument above encouraging good service, well surely if you’re not supplying good service then your boss should be having a word.

Tipping lets hospitality businesses underpay their staff.

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By *he Forum Thread KillerMan
over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

10% for waitress/waiter but that's it 5% if they've been miserable.

But I always ask if they have to share their tips which I think can be very poor form if they do.

Not sure if the butler tips the tradesmen for me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This time of year….. who are you tipping? If so, what?

Bin men got…the people at the car wash got, takeaway delivery person does.."

Tipped my Tesco food shop delivery driver a fiver. Hope that’s an ok amount and not tight.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"This time of year….. who are you tipping? If so, what?

Bin men got…the people at the car wash got, takeaway delivery person does..

Tipped my Tesco food shop delivery driver a fiver. Hope that’s an ok amount and not tight. "

I think when it comes to tipping it's not the amount but the thought. Most people are grateful and don't feel entitled to anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This time of year….. who are you tipping? If so, what?

Bin men got…the people at the car wash got, takeaway delivery person does.."

I used to earn a fair bit in tips at this time of year when I was a postman

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

The person I know who works in hospitality used to earn more in tips than in wages.

If I sense that someone feels entitled to a tip regardless of how they do their job I'm less likely to leave anything. Apparently attractive young waitresses pick up much higher tips than anyone else...who knew.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Nobody. It's included in their wage.

I paid for my overpriced meal/service included already as part of the experiance. Do you tip the store clerk that was a pleasant and exceptionally good service?

Their "good service" is part of their job role, and plays a part in me (along with others) returning to keep them in a job. If service is bad, I won't return to spend money there.

This. I fail to understand why you would tip someone on their ability to carry a plate. The one that deserves a tip in a restaurant is the chef. They put in all the work and thought into your meal. The server merely writes what you want, carries it to the table and then pockets the tip.

Rarely is it shared with the chef!!"

This is one of the arguments for pooling tips across all members of staff because yes, the kitchen staff get overlooked. Some of the very lowest paid people are in the kitchen, e.g. pot washer.

Most chefs get paid a lot less than people think and for very very long hours, in hot and stressful conditions.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I prefer to pay my staff properly in the first place.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?"

Who gets Christmas bonuses?! We don't. In the past, we could choose a token Christmas gift on the last day (box of chocs, novelty mug etc) but that didn't happen this year either. Absolutely zilch in terms of "extra" Christmas recognition and our branch of the business is THE most successful and profitable across the whole global business!

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"

If you really think that they don’t deserve a fiver for that then do the hospitality industry a favour and stay at home. Trust me, we’d rather not have to deal with you

"

Good to know where one stands!

As a general observation, I reckon the hospitality industry must make an absolute bomb from large party groups booking into venues at this time of year. lots of diners will go for items they wouldn't normally afford in the knowledge that the bill will be spread across all participants. The individual shares are invariably rounded up into the usually already generous gratuity.

I bet the hospitality industry wouldn't tell office parties to stay at home because they are a hassle to deal with!

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By *nywhereyouwantMan
over a year ago

Weston-Super-Mare

I tip no one for Christmas, occasionally I’ll tip a server if the service is excellent however let’s be honest that’s rare….

I go to work and our busiest week is Christmas week, work our asses off and get no Christmas bonus, no tips not even job and knock Christmas Eve. I’m not a tight git however unless someone goes above and beyond their just doing their job… which they are paid for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To all those who dont tip...

A quick question so of course your life, your money im not judging you either way on if you do or dont tip. I was curious, do you buy your family, or anyone christmas presents? I mean im not sure why people now a days get rewarded for something they didnt personally do over 2000 years ago.. seems a bit barmy to me. Hey someone was born a long time ago lets buy you a present for it now.

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city


"To all those who dont tip...

A quick question so of course your life, your money im not judging you either way on if you do or dont tip. I was curious, do you buy your family, or anyone christmas presents? I mean im not sure why people now a days get rewarded for something they didnt personally do over 2000 years ago.. seems a bit barmy to me. Hey someone was born a long time ago lets buy you a present for it now."

But what’s that got to do with tipping, going by that logic why celebrate birthday or anniversary’s as they happened ages ago to

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon


"I wonder if the people that don't tip expect a xmas bonus?

From my Boss, yes. Clients, no."

My Christmas bonus from the boss was a bacon roll. 1 piece of bacon. Merry Christmas eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To all those who dont tip...

A quick question so of course your life, your money im not judging you either way on if you do or dont tip. I was curious, do you buy your family, or anyone christmas presents? I mean im not sure why people now a days get rewarded for something they didnt personally do over 2000 years ago.. seems a bit barmy to me. Hey someone was born a long time ago lets buy you a present for it now.

But what’s that got to do with tipping, going by that logic why celebrate birthday or anniversary’s as they happened ages ago to"

At least birthdays and anniversary are rewarding the people who the day is intended for rather then some random person you never met. I was just thinking that the people who dont tip because it is the bosses responsibility to provide a proper wage, why do they then feel its their responsibility to provide gifts, some give money or giftcards, for people who are not jesus, on Jesus's birthday. Its not teally their responsibility to do so..

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"To all those who dont tip...

A quick question so of course your life, your money im not judging you either way on if you do or dont tip. I was curious, do you buy your family, or anyone christmas presents? I mean im not sure why people now a days get rewarded for something they didnt personally do over 2000 years ago.. seems a bit barmy to me. Hey someone was born a long time ago lets buy you a present for it now.

But what’s that got to do with tipping, going by that logic why celebrate birthday or anniversary’s as they happened ages ago to

At least birthdays and anniversary are rewarding the people who the day is intended for rather then some random person you never met. I was just thinking that the people who dont tip because it is the bosses responsibility to provide a proper wage, why do they then feel its their responsibility to provide gifts, some give money or giftcards, for people who are not jesus, on Jesus's birthday. Its not teally their responsibility to do so.."

Let’s be realistic here, Christmas these days has pretty much fuck all to do with religion.

It’s just an excuse to take time of work and give your loved ones a present, maybe as a reflection of all they have done for you over the past year.

Personally I only buy presents for 3 people, as a mark of appreciation for their friendship.

Incidentally I also buy small gifts that I know will be of use or appreciated, throughout the year.

The key point here is, they are loved ones, not strangers doing the job they are already paid to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to a pub today that in its reservation email says:

Just a heads up, we now add a 12.5% discretionary service charge to all our eating guests’ bills. Apart from saving you from the maths, we’ve also learned that the extra is a big part of retaining and recruiting the best teams to look after you.

Kinda takes your choice to tip or not away

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

My regular mechanic always gets looked after (for obvious reasons)

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