FabSwingers.com forum: Dilemma

By *atnip make me purr OP Woman
over a year ago

Reading

What do you do if you have a fwb who you really like as a friend but the sex is really disappointing? Kind of a difficult subject to broach.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Uh. Be a friend instead?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Communicate what you would really like him to do to make the sex better.

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By *atnip make me purr OP Woman
over a year ago

Reading

"Uh. Be a friend instead?"

But how do i dodge the sex aspect without hurting his feelings?

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By *sername already in useMan
over a year ago

manchester

Throw eggs at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep them as a friend

If you don’t enjoy something why would you keep doing it?

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By *isurreyguy2019Man
over a year ago

surrey

"Communicate what you would really like him to do to make the sex better."

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Wouldn't bother with the sex and just be friends or tell them you aren't compatible and try different things.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Uh. Be a friend instead?

But how do i dodge the sex aspect without hurting his feelings? "

Don't dodge.

Be kind. Tell them that the sexual compatibility isn't there for you but you still enjoy their company.

No point lying about it. Don't make yourself feel shit by having sex you don't want for the sake of someone else's feelings.

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

Let them down gentle say you like them personally but your not wanting a sexual relationship, if there a friend they’ll understand

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Uh. Be a friend instead?

But how do i dodge the sex aspect without hurting his feelings? "

Sometimes hurting someone's feelings is unavoidable. You can only do it as nicely and unambiguously as possible leaving no room for misunderstanding

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

You're not here for sympathy sex, crap sex or sex you don't like. You're fwb so you should have a decent enough relationship to say you are after different things.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Being a fwb suggests you've an established relationship of sorts.

So I think he'd smart from now being told you don't enjoy having sex with him

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Communicate with them, on all levels.

Explain that the sex isn’t doing what it could for you and have a chat about why that is and if it could be remedied.

Who knows, maybe they are in the same boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be having sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey friend, your great and all but you're shit in bed. Let's not do that anymore eh?

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