FabSwingers.com forum: Do you greet the check out staff?

By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I always do that and I also do it during the festive periods. I change what I say like, during christmas it was a happy christmas greeting and to the new year, it was happy new year and have a nice day, sometimes it leads to a little conversation, it is fun

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I always chat to the staff in the small shops, but in the Supermarkets, I'd be talking to myself.

Cal

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

Yep

manners cost nothing

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By *cottish8282Man
over a year ago

fife

"Yep

manners cost nothing "

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up "

Exactly! X

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By *reen as JadeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Of course you do. I find it strange if you don't do it. Or is it just me? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. Anyone could be 1 rude person away from giving up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always do that and I also do it during the festive periods. I change what I say like, during christmas it was a happy christmas greeting and to the new year, it was happy new year and have a nice day, sometimes it leads to a little conversation, it is fun

You're a good egg Shag. Merry Christmas.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I always have a chat; maybe a little flirt. It’s fun, and if it puts a smile on their face it makes it all worthwhile. Mr

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I always say hello to check out staff it's the right thing to do and sometimes I ask them slow down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can tell a lot by the way a person treats someone they don’t need to be nice to

I always treat shop workers with the highest respect. They’re doing a job like anyone else

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Always. I'm a talker, I can't help myself lol

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up "

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour. "

You don't have to talk their ear off but a simple hello is nice....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they talk to me I talk back. Not a lot though as I've had them stop scanning stuff to chat before.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour. "

I agree with a large extent with what is written above.

It is not 'manners' to talk to staff. Manners are hugely subjective and on here and in life generally it is one of those words to cast shame on the behaviour of some and drag them into conformity.

I'm a human being. I enjoy human exchange. If they seem as if they have the wish to converse I always chat.

If they don't seem to be in the chat zone or are very busy and we don't 'click' in that second then we don't make small talk

I wouldn't judge them either way. We navigate life and behaviours by the second there's no point in thinking everyone is you.

To be honest..... in an 8 hour shift , how many times must they hear things like .........ohhhhh I only came in for bulbs...... or have a nice day ........ Or smile it might never happen.

If you HAVE to talk it's for YOU not them, try to think of something original to say.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

I go to self serve to avoid small talk

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Of course. Why wouldn’t you.

The mr

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"I go to self serve to avoid small talk"

What's the weather like by you ?

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I'll always be polite.

But I don't know what it is with the Co-op staff, they want to know your life story. Chill out Kevin, I only came in for some milk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go to self serve to avoid small talk"

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Always.

Hello. Thanks etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of the time I really enjoy chatting to the staff.

I actually really enjoy chatting to most people. You never know who you'll meet out what influence they may have on your life. Or what impact your politeness might have on theirs. X

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour.

You don't have to talk their ear off but a simple hello is nice...."

Is it? Maybe for you. Otherwise it's an assumption that it's nice for them. Some people don't want to be there, they just want to get on with the shit they have to do.

Imagine if every person said hello to them, one after the other.... all day... Everyday.

Granny expanded on it very well as usual.

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Always say morning afternoon or whatever time I’d day it is and a polite thank you

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

Always do.

Apart from a lady at Aldi who I have a huge crush on and too shy to even say hi to

Love the awkward bit when they buy alcohol and jokingly look at me pretending to calculate if I'm over 25

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour.

You don't have to talk their ear off but a simple hello is nice....

Is it? Maybe for you. Otherwise it's an assumption that it's nice for them. Some people don't want to be there, they just want to get on with the shit they have to do.

Imagine if every person said hello to them, one after the other.... all day... Everyday.

Granny expanded on it very well as usual. "

I think greeting someone giving you a service. Whether they want it or not, is always polite

It’s the bare minimum we offer a human. Recognition

Unless they have a sign up saying don’t greet me, it’s the absolutely bare minimum to just acknowledge they exist

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Always, even when having a shitty day, I can raise a smile for them, they get dealt so much crap on the customer front line. With people taking out their shit on them

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

Yeah , being polite doesn’t kill anyone

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour.

You don't have to talk their ear off but a simple hello is nice....

Is it? Maybe for you. Otherwise it's an assumption that it's nice for them. Some people don't want to be there, they just want to get on with the shit they have to do.

Imagine if every person said hello to them, one after the other.... all day... Everyday.

Granny expanded on it very well as usual. "

OK I'll just be a grumpy cunt from now on....

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By *am101aMan
over a year ago

swad

Of course, rude not to!

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By *ags73Man
over a year ago

glasgow-ish

Always a hello.

You can’t not.

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By *iniskirtCouple
over a year ago

Paisley

Yes always chat to staff in shops, it’s only polite but I bet they hear the same stuff all the time x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

"Of course, rude not to!"

Hello.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour.

You don't have to talk their ear off but a simple hello is nice....

Is it? Maybe for you. Otherwise it's an assumption that it's nice for them. Some people don't want to be there, they just want to get on with the shit they have to do.

Imagine if every person said hello to them, one after the other.... all day... Everyday.

Granny expanded on it very well as usual.

I think greeting someone giving you a service. Whether they want it or not, is always polite

It’s the bare minimum we offer a human. Recognition

Unless they have a sign up saying don’t greet me, it’s the absolutely bare minimum to just acknowledge they exist "

Agreed.

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By *anniellaBiTSTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

Always. It's common courtesy.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

I work in a shop so I'm often on a checkout.

I speak to everyone,hello, please,thank you.

Some days that's all I want to do,I don't want to chat any further but when you say hello to the person and they look at you blankly and ignore you it's as if they don't see you as a person.

I'm usually a good judge of if someone doesn't want to talk so I keep it bare minimum but I always try to chat to elderly people,even I don't feel like talking myself. A little compliment or something.

You might be the only person to chat to them that day.

I don't know if it's an Irish thing but it's more rare for someone to not speak to you than not.

Em x

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I work in a shop so I'm often on a checkout.

I speak to everyone,hello, please,thank you.

Some days that's all I want to do,I don't want to chat any further but when you say hello to the person and they look at you blankly and ignore you it's as if they don't see you as a person.

You might be the only person to chat to them that day.

I don't know if it's an Irish thing but it's more rare for someone to not speak to you than not.

Em x"

Damn it the end of that made no sense

I meant it's more rare for people to not speak to you

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I always chat to the staff in the small shops, but in the Supermarkets, I'd be talking to myself.

Cal"
That is good and yes. I chat to them both, in small shops and in the supermarkets too

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

I was reading the other day, how in the Netherlands they were trying to reduce loneliness. The Jumbo supermarket chain now has chatty checkouts in lots of its stores.

Customers who would like to pass the time of day with the cashier without being rushed can join a special yellow lane to buy their groceries.

I thought this was a great idea which they should think about over here.

Red

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

Of course, all of them, especially the miserable one at the local coop. I make a special effort to make her grunt a hello and thank you.

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By *esmond and Molly JonesCouple
over a year ago

Watford

My pet hate is when customers walk up to the checkout whilst having a full-on conversation on their mobiles. barely acknowledging the person serving them.

Ignorant as fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always.

There are a small number of checkout staff that have conversations with the next till operator, while ignoring their customer. I won’t bother greeting those.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

I find it hard not so say a hello at least. Not endless chat unless they initiate which is often the case. It's the same with please and thank yous, it boils my piss when I hear people ordering things without a please. Mind you I also wave to acknowledge people that stop at zebra crossings for me.

It ain't hard.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

No.

All they usually say to me is…

Unexpected item in the bagging area.

Rude

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By *cottish8282Man
over a year ago

fife

"I work in a shop so I'm often on a checkout.

I speak to everyone,hello, please,thank you.

Some days that's all I want to do,I don't want to chat any further but when you say hello to the person and they look at you blankly and ignore you it's as if they don't see you as a person.

You might be the only person to chat to them that day.

I don't know if it's an Irish thing but it's more rare for someone to not speak to you than not.

Em x

Damn it the end of that made no sense

I meant it's more rare for people to not speak to you"

Made perfect sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep,I pretty much always talk to the check out staff at Tesco, Lidl or Aldi when I go. Your standing next to each other for about 5 mins and just ignoring each other, to me, would be weird. So I've kind of got to know them a bit, more like if I saw them in town I could say 'hiya' and they'd know who I was.

Other shops when it's something quick, I always say hello or Hiya and especially at this time of year say Merry Christmas.

It doesn't take much to show a bit of interest and it's nice to be nice. That's me anyway, and on that MERRY CHRISTMAS everyone......I'm sorry, it's just I'm excited!!

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"No.

All they usually say to me is…

Unexpected item in the bagging area.

Rude "

Try not to put your 'item' there.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Politeness and manners cost nothing

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't actively try to engage them in conversation

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
over a year ago

Newry

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Or you may make it worse because they want as little interaction with others as they possibly can.

Everyone assumes that greeting is welcomed and wanted when in reality the main thing is just don't be a twat with your behaviour.

I agree with a large extent with what is written above.

It is not 'manners' to talk to staff. Manners are hugely subjective and on here and in life generally it is one of those words to cast shame on the behaviour of some and drag them into conformity.

I'm a human being. I enjoy human exchange. If they seem as if they have the wish to converse I always chat.

If they don't seem to be in the chat zone or are very busy and we don't 'click' in that second then we don't make small talk

I wouldn't judge them either way. We navigate life and behaviours by the second there's no point in thinking everyone is you.

To be honest..... in an 8 hour shift , how many times must they hear things like .........ohhhhh I only came in for bulbs...... or have a nice day ........ Or smile it might never happen.

If you HAVE to talk it's for YOU not them, try to think of something original to say."

All of the above. For me, a smile, a hello, a thank you and a goodbye is plenty. But we're also reading you - the customer. We're gauging if you want to chat and how much you want from us. Some customers just want the bare minimum politeness, others are craving a little bit of human interaction

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Of course! I couldn’t just deal with someone in close contact like that in silence and say nothing. That would feel really uncomfortable.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Always have a chat with mine during main shop. I do it at the same time so usually same people serve me.

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By *0ng0 furyMan
over a year ago

Birkenhead

all the time

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I always smile say hi and if I find them attractive and no ring I will flirt a little.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I like to ask them what boxset they're watching. It's a little bit different to talking about the weather and so on. A lot are really into some programme or other and get really animated about it

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yep

manners cost nothing "
Hi littlemisskrampus and yes, you are right there, manners cost nothing

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

[Removed by poster at 21/12/23 10:29:21]

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Yep

manners cost nothing

100% this

Plus you never know what their day was like. Might cheer them up

Exactly! X"
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My pet hate is when customers walk up to the checkout whilst having a full-on conversation on their mobiles. barely acknowledging the person serving them.

Ignorant as fuck."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check out the greeting staff…

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Most of the time! Asked the guy in Next if he was sick of the Christmas music yet... That got a smile.

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By *ommy2125Man
over a year ago

newport

Always polite and say hello, etc. When i have my kids i play a little dad joke of asking if they bought their wallets to pay, then when they say no I ask cashier where the brush is to sweep the shop. Never fails to get a smile.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun

"Yep

manners cost nothing Hi littlemisskrampus and yes, you are right there, manners cost nothing

Thank you x

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

You're a good egg Shag. Merry Christmas.

x"
Hi outsider, ty, yes. I am that too, merry christmas

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

That's nice! Having worked in tesco and in recent years up till I retired in July at sainsburys! Most customers looked at us like shit on their shoe! Let alone greet us! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s quite normal to talk to strangers everywhere in the UK except London. Of course we chat with the checkout staff.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I always have a chat; maybe a little flirt. It’s fun, and if it puts a smile on their face it makes it all worthwhile. Mr"
That sounds good to me and yes, it is fun as well

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Always, even when having a shitty day, I can raise a smile for them, they get dealt so much crap on the customer front line. With people taking out their shit on them

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Hi christena, that is good you also always do it

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By *eapathMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yup, always, and my reward has been lots of sausage. I mean, from the nice woman at the chip shop, for the dog, y'know - real sausage?? Oh, I give up.

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By *nigma321Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I always chat to the checkout staff. Especially if the queue is massive and they are feeling pressured. I once worked in a charity shop and after working on the till for an hour or so I got to feel the pain of impatient people. It completely changed my approach

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If they speak first. I’m shy so tend not to speak unless spoken too as it goes. I’m fairly relaxed and smiley though, regardless.

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By *oonloverWoman
over a year ago

bognor regis

The amount of times customers say I've come here to stop you being bored is unreal...please don't .....it's boring

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"You can tell a lot by the way a person treats someone they don’t need to be nice to

I always treat shop workers with the highest respect. They’re doing a job like anyone else "
Yes, you can tell a lot by that how a person is too

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

At the least, a smile and a hello. More if they are chatty. It would be weird not too.

But as was said above, I’m always disappointed if they keep chatting to their adjacent colleague.

Gbat

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By *JtheTomMan
over a year ago

London

If the nights gone well it's a hi five from me

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

I never understand people who don't even acknowledge people who serve them. I rarely get into big conversations, but would always say hello and thank you, surely that's just normal isn't it?

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By *ndiiiMan
over a year ago

Paisley Scotland

Why on earth wouldnt you.nwe love the chat it makes a shift go quicker x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I work in a shop so I'm often on a checkout.

I speak to everyone,hello, please,thank you.

Some days that's all I want to do,I don't want to chat any further but when you say hello to the person and they look at you blankly and ignore you it's as if they don't see you as a person.

You might be the only person to chat to them that day.

I don't know if it's an Irish thing but it's more rare for someone to not speak to you than not.

Em x"

Well said I was over to vist sister in London say hello shop staff. Bus driver loved when I said sample Thank you driver that said it made there day .Oh Merry Christmas to you xx

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"Always have a chat with mine during main shop. I do it at the same time so usually same people serve me."
That is good that you also have a chat with them too

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Always

Some become a bit flirty so I add fuel to the fire all a bit of humour

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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"I always smile say hi and if I find them attractive and no ring I will flirt a little."
That is good and same here. I also always smile with a hi to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time. Also hate seeing people speaking on the phone when being served. So rude

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