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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
47 weeks ago

Leeds

Have you ever built up great chemistry online with someone, only to meet with them face to face and its just not the same??

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
47 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity

Only once ..

It's mainly the other way round

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
47 weeks ago

Leeds

Yep, I don't bother trying to build chemistry online anymore for this reason, more times than not in person it's not there.

There's also been the opposite especially here, not thought much to them/profile/messaging and in person they've been amazing.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

No. I e always enjoyed everyone I’ve met. I’m talking about 1 to 1. Larger socials you can gather quite quickly that they might not like you as much as you like them. But that’s how things are.

Anyone I’ve asked to meet, it’s because I know they are my type of person, and it’s always been a blast.

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By *hunky GentMan
47 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Yes. A few years ago, after lots of messages and lovely conversations we met.

It turned out to be a the worst meet ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Have you ever built up great chemistry online with someone, only to meet with them face to face and its just not the same??"

Yes and I wondered if it was because the slower pace of conversation online was actually masking the fact we really didn’t have much to talk about

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By *aitonelMan
47 weeks ago

Liverpool

Personally, no.

However based on a small number people I have met, they must have faked clicking with me very well because they stopped chatting not long after.

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By *ris GrayMan
47 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Have you ever built up great chemistry online with someone, only to meet with them face to face and its just not the same??"
nope I'm the same here as in person people either love me or hate me thankfully they've loved me up until now

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Several times. Bit awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Yeah, I had it with a guy quite recently. We chatted for ages online. No sex stuff or anything like that. Just everyday conversation. I met him for a coffee and he got real weird on me, I tried to give benefit of the doubt but he made me feel quite uncomfortable to the point I had to get outta there.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Yes it's why I only agree to a social first.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
47 weeks ago

Leeds

"Yes. A few years ago, after lots of messages and lovely conversations we met.

It turned out to be a the worst meet ever.

You promised you wouldn't tell

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By *herry delightWoman
47 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

No as I don't waste my time building up chemistry online, I have other things to do doing like having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Yes it's why I only agree to a social first. "

Haha. I was talking about socials!!

I’ve kinda only done it that way, a social first.

Although there was this one time.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

thankfully not

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

A few times. Then you get to a social and they are dull as dish water and its like you are talking to a totally different person

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By *hunky GentMan
47 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Yes. A few years ago, after lots of messages and lovely conversations we met.

It turned out to be a the worst meet ever.

You promised you wouldn't tell

But, but, but I didn't mention you by name.

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By *amierebelMan
47 weeks ago

nae danger.

"Have you ever built up great chemistry online with someone, only to meet with them face to face and its just not the same??"

Yip I have someone stays near me met them and just wasn't there

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By *hrek101Man
47 weeks ago

Herts

Yes a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Yes it's why I only agree to a social first.

Haha. I was talking about socials!!

I’ve kinda only done it that way, a social first.

Although there was this one time.

Haha still yes , it happens it sucks a bit when it does though.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
47 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"Have you ever built up great chemistry online with someone, only to meet with them face to face and its just not the same??"

I wouldn’t call it chemistry if it’s online. I can’t smell their pheromones. So I’m going with no.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I've found the vibe to be different and in a way that meant no actual sexual chemistry even if things looked good on paper.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Have you ever built up great chemistry online with someone, only to meet with them face to face and its just not the same??"

Yes..

That's why it's best to meet for a social.

I think you can tell far more about a person face to face in a few minutes, compared to messages and pictures.

Body language, facial expressions, sound of their voice, and a general aura..

Some people may not be conventionally good looking on paper but in person have a energy and vibe which is really attractive..

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By *ellhungvweMan
47 weeks ago

Cheltenham

No because the whole online “bants”/chemistry thing is just a mirage and I want to meet in real life to find out what you are actually like as soon as possible.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
47 weeks ago

Newcastle

Yes it has happened and it is disappointing and it’s why I don’t get my hopes up too much before I meet in person.

Unfortunately because of my lack in time it does mean I have to often spend a lot of time building something online first. It’s not ideal but it does mean I get to work out if someone is the kind of person I want to get to know better.

Sometimes it works in person and sometimes it doesn’t but I think it’s worth taking a chance and seeing if there is real potential.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
47 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

I think the only danger is when you chat online for so long without meeting, it can lead to a bit of an anti climax when you do finally get together.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I think the only danger is when you chat online for so long without meeting, it can lead to a bit of an anti climax when you do finally get together. "

Realy??

I think it leads to knowing each other realy well.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
47 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
47 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

"I think the only danger is when you chat online for so long without meeting, it can lead to a bit of an anti climax when you do finally get together.

Realy??

I think it leads to knowing each other realy well. "

Sometimes. Other times I’ve found you tend to sometimes drift a bit

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
47 weeks ago

Durham

Kind of happened the other way around, they were an absolute nightmare online and after a very reluctant meeting they were an amazingly funny, kind and sexy person.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
47 weeks ago

Norwich

People are generally nicer in real life than they present online. Some people just don’t have a way with words.

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By *aitonelMan
47 weeks ago

Liverpool

"I think the only danger is when you chat online for so long without meeting, it can lead to a bit of an anti climax when you do finally get together.

Realy??

I think it leads to knowing each other realy well.

Sometimes. Other times I’ve found you tend to sometimes drift a bit "

I think for the most part it depends on the context and intent of the friendship/relationship/connection.

I've meet plenty of people from online (not sex!) after weeks, months, and years - the spark/vibe has been just as strong if not stronger for it. With fab I think it can be different because most of the time it's about the sex at its core (not always).

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

They don't seem to like me without filters.

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By *aitonelMan
47 weeks ago

Liverpool

"They don't seem to like me without filters. "

Your sparkling personality doesn't shine through as a natural filter?

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

And sometimes we’ll never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"They don't seem to like me without filters.

Your sparkling personality doesn't shine through as a natural filter? "

You'd think right!

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By *aitonelMan
47 weeks ago

Liverpool

"They don't seem to like me without filters.

Your sparkling personality doesn't shine through as a natural filter?

You'd think right!"

Do you turn up d*unk?

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

With someone I've talked online with for ages - I've never been disappointed. I always do voice note swaps/phone calls as well. I find it easier to be more assertive online, so it works for me to talk online for a while.

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By *inky ChefMan
47 weeks ago

Norwich

It won't be the same ever.

Either worse or better.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I don't tend to judge on online interactions anymore. People either fake who they are or struggle to show their true personality through text. The quicker you meet people face to face, the better.

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By *hunky GentMan
47 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I don't tend to judge on online interactions anymore. People either fake who they are or struggle to show their true personality through text. The quicker you meet people face to face, the better."

Taxi to Birmingham please

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By *mf123Man
47 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

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By *mf123Man
47 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Only chemical im good at is sulphuric acid as they melt into orgasmic puddles

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I don't tend to judge on online interactions anymore. People either fake who they are or struggle to show their true personality through text. The quicker you meet people face to face, the better."

I stopped having many opinions a long time ago (yrs ago) I’ve thought he done people to be dicks, and then been told how nice they are in DMs etc, or vice versa.

I agree, you really only get to see a person’s personality face to face. I don’t think it needs to be quick though, nobody changes depending how long you leave it. They’re always cool, or they’re hiding it well.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
47 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes. It's much harder, to lie to my face, than it is to my screen

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By *imply DeeWoman
47 weeks ago

Wherever

I’m simply not able to engage in online communication enough to build anything.

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