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By (user no longer on site) OP   
47 weeks ago

what would you do, dearest forum frequenters?

let's set the scene.

you are in no contact with a person, for whatever reason.

said person is blocked everywhere, however your phone has a feature whereby 'blocked' actually means going into a separate blocked inbox, and not into the ether.

said person has been trying to bait you into responding in a million different ways, for the longest of times, and as yet, you have resisted.

however, in the latest tactic, they have mentioned something extremely personal to you. something they know will trigger you. they obviously know this. the way they have phrased something is almost like they have something to say about it, like they're egging you into asking.

now, you have stayed silent, through far more than you should have. but now, you want to know what they've got to say on this specific subject 5 years later. why they'd dare mention it now. how they could possibly have anything to say on the matter.

buttttt, you keep schtum.

would you stay silent? would you respond? would you ride at dawn because there's no way on this planet this person could possibly have the brass neck to mention anything to you?

for clarity, this may or may not be a fictional situation, whereby there is no actual point to said post other than meh Px

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

You stay silent splat! Silent!

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By *hunky GentMan
47 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Is that not classed as harassment?

Contact the police.

Hugs. X

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By *iddlesticksMan
47 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.


"what would you do, dearest forum frequenters?

let's set the scene.

you are in no contact with a person, for whatever reason.

said person is blocked everywhere, however your phone has a feature whereby 'blocked' actually means going into a separate blocked inbox, and not into the ether.

said person has been trying to bait you into responding in a million different ways, for the longest of times, and as yet, you have resisted.

however, in the latest tactic, they have mentioned something extremely personal to you. something they know will trigger you. they obviously know this. the way they have phrased something is almost like they have something to say about it, like they're egging you into asking.

now, you have stayed silent, through far more than you should have. but now, you want to know what they've got to say on this specific subject 5 years later. why they'd dare mention it now. how they could possibly have anything to say on the matter.

buttttt, you keep schtum.

would you stay silent? would you respond? would you ride at dawn because there's no way on this planet this person could possibly have the brass neck to mention anything to you?

for clarity, this may or may not be a fictional situation, whereby there is no actual point to said post other than meh Px "

Leave the past in the past.

Unless he’s asking you to send nude pics to me.

Back in the room Fiddles.

Leave it be and block them properly.

Good luck with your dilemma. x

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Hold firm and ignore it.

Delete it, forget about it.

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By *otNewMan
47 weeks ago

Nearby


"Is that not classed as harassment?

Contact the police.

Hugs. X"

This.

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By *aitonelMan
47 weeks ago

Liverpool

Normally I'd say be open about it BUT that is exactly what they want. They want the contact to open, the response, the retaliation there is nothing else to it.

It's manipulation at its finest. Pushing the buttons. And the only way it works is if you respond.

So don't! Silence, woman!

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By *use and wolfCouple
47 weeks ago

angus

Stay silent, at least until you find exactly the right time to confront them about it

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
47 weeks ago

stanley


"what would you do, dearest forum frequenters?

let's set the scene.

you are in no contact with a person, for whatever reason.

said person is blocked everywhere, however your phone has a feature whereby 'blocked' actually means going into a separate blocked inbox, and not into the ether.

said person has been trying to bait you into responding in a million different ways, for the longest of times, and as yet, you have resisted.

however, in the latest tactic, they have mentioned something extremely personal to you. something they know will trigger you. they obviously know this. the way they have phrased something is almost like they have something to say about it, like they're egging you into asking.

now, you have stayed silent, through far more than you should have. but now, you want to know what they've got to say on this specific subject 5 years later. why they'd dare mention it now. how they could possibly have anything to say on the matter.

buttttt, you keep schtum.

would you stay silent? would you respond? would you ride at dawn because there's no way on this planet this person could possibly have the brass neck to mention anything to you?

for clarity, this may or may not be a fictional situation, whereby there is no actual point to said post other than meh Px "

Stay silent, they are blocked for a reason and their current behaviour indicates they are no less toxic than they were before blocking.

Pop to Starbucks treat yourself to a nice coffee and a muffin and consign said toxic person to your fuckit bucket forever x

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Respond and start a fresh situationship with them

Anyone even asking what your asking clearly isn’t done with this person and I think toxic situationships can be fun while they last

It’s Christmas, treat yourself

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
47 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Stay silent.

You’ll be opening up a whole new can of worms for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Ignore all attempts for them to reel tou in. You got out for a reason. Remember that and continue to cut ties. No sneaky peaks to see if they've tried to contact you, just bin them off!!!

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
47 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Stay silent.

If possible ask a friend to delete and clear the messages and never tell you the content.

No good will come of responding to it and engaging with them

MrsAbz

Ps - if you contact your network provider they can block the number so it doesn't reach your phone at all

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
47 weeks ago

Somewhere else

Set a trap. A bear trap, if possible.

That always works in Looney Tunes

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By *hunky GentMan
47 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Set a trap. A bear trap, if possible.

That always works in Looney Tunes "

You can get them from ACME inc.

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By *host63Man
47 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Dint raise to it

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I wouldn't say a word.

I also don't block, I like that certain people know I stay silent through choice

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By *a LunaWoman
47 weeks ago

South Wales

Meh. Delete it. Move on. Take the high road and they can take the low road.

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By *hunky GentMan
47 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Meh. Delete it. Move on. Take the high road and they can take the low road.

"

There a song there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
47 weeks ago

East Sussex

Just another sharp stick to prod you with. Ignore them if you can, it's waited five years it can't be important to them

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
47 weeks ago

Markfield

Stay silent and laugh that they feel you are worthy of such torment. But stop reading the messages x

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By *odevilWoman
47 weeks ago

exeter

When the past calls, don't answer. It has nothing new to say.

Whatever the issue is and whomever the person is, when you blocked you made the decision to move forward. Keep the momentum and don't look back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
47 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Stay silent and laugh that they feel you are worthy of such torment. But stop reading the messages x "

I think that's the thing. Stop reading. I'm not sure I could I might have to have a message deletion buddy

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By *issmorganWoman
47 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd delete the message and try not to look in that other folder.

They're after a reaction from you, replying gives them the attention they're craving.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
47 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Delete the messages and stay silent… at least to them. Then rant and rave to your hearts content until it’s no longer bothering you. If they had something to say they should’ve done it at the time. Now it and them are totally and utterly irrelevant

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By *illan-KillashMan
47 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"what would you do, dearest forum frequenters?

let's set the scene.

you are in no contact with a person, for whatever reason.

said person is blocked everywhere, however your phone has a feature whereby 'blocked' actually means going into a separate blocked inbox, and not into the ether.

said person has been trying to bait you into responding in a million different ways, for the longest of times, and as yet, you have resisted.

however, in the latest tactic, they have mentioned something extremely personal to you. something they know will trigger you. they obviously know this. the way they have phrased something is almost like they have something to say about it, like they're egging you into asking.

now, you have stayed silent, through far more than you should have. but now, you want to know what they've got to say on this specific subject 5 years later. why they'd dare mention it now. how they could possibly have anything to say on the matter.

buttttt, you keep schtum.

would you stay silent? would you respond? would you ride at dawn because there's no way on this planet this person could possibly have the brass neck to mention anything to you?

for clarity, this may or may not be a fictional situation, whereby there is no actual point to said post other than meh Px "

Sometimes, saying nothing says so much more.

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By *eliWoman
47 weeks ago

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Stay schtum. It's easier said than done, fuck knows I've responded before when I shouldn't have. I'd maintain your dignity and not respond to the baiting. It's not worth it.

Write a letter in response and then burn it (Friday it's solstice so an apt time to do so) or talk to friends. Whatever it is? Don't respond Quack, x

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Is there a mutual person that knows you both?

That can say back off? That can be a support if you met? If its a personal thing and If they are that kind of person to bait you, how do you know its not being talked about to others.

Ignoring won't make it go away

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
47 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Delete, delete, delete.

Hope you're OK

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Sounds like you have a stalker OP. Don't take the bait is my advice to you.

Jeez 5 yrs is a long time for this person to be still trying to contact you ....

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By *he ass man 666Man
47 weeks ago

paradise city

Block the number properly instead of archiving it then message don’t get through

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By *ustamanMan
47 weeks ago

weymouth

No response and consider changing tel number

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I wouldn't respond I have no interest in them and they are obviously baiting me. Not worth my energy or brain space.

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By *ad NannaWoman
47 weeks ago

East London

I wouldn't be reading his messages in the spam folder. I'd make sure nothing got through.

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By *ad NannaWoman
47 weeks ago

East London

I wouldn't give them the space in my head.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
47 weeks ago

Reading

Stop looking in that block file. Delete without reading. Do not respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Change the settings in your phone so that blocked does not mean the messages go into spam but get deleted immediately.

Do not read them.

Do not answer them.

Now on a separate hypothetical note, i understand that there are certain types of people who can be hired for a sum to provide a friendly greeting to the type or person who may be harassing an individual

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Sounds to confusing and a lot of drama. I wouldn’t rise to it.

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