FabSwingers.com forum: Overthinkers

By *illy Idol OP Man
47 weeks ago

Midlands

Are you an overthinker?

Do you replay past situations over and over again, plagued by 'what ifs' or regrets, or spend a lot of time worrying about an event in the future – even an insignificant or imagined one?

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By *ris GrayMan
47 weeks ago

Dorchester

Nope i make a decision...... Maybe regret it initially but its done

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Not usually, but I've been overthinking work this weekend, but that's because I'm concerned about it.

I often don't think enough and am more spontaneous in life.

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
47 weeks ago

shankill

100% an overthinker and catastropher here

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
47 weeks ago

Coventry

Massively, both of us. Especially over thinking what to most people are insignificant or not even noticed things. I afford way to much time and energy over thinking on stuff that doesn't warrant it. To the extent its draining and can make stuff that shouldn't awkward become awkward.

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By *ellhungvweMan
47 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I will think through a situation _once_ - good or bad - to see what went well or what I could have done better. Store the learning and then I move on.

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By *esafinadOHolyNightMan
47 weeks ago

Belfast

"Are you an overthinker?

Do you replay past situations over and over again, plagued by 'what ifs' or regrets, or spend a lot of time worrying about an event in the future – even an insignificant or imagined one?

I overthink at times, but I'm kind of happy that I do. I don't think about 'what ifs', or 'I should have said/done this or that', but I will replay events in my head several times so that I'm ready for any future developments that may arise. The same goes for future events, I like to be prepared.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I am an overthinker but it’s mostly just because I suffer from quite bad anxiety I think.

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By *ellinever70Woman
47 weeks ago

Ayrshire

No, I learned long ago that no good comes of that

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Terrible overthinker. Always have been

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
47 weeks ago

Next Door

Yes, and it was very often, causing my anxiety level to go through the roof.

It doesn't happen often now, thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I am 100% an overthinker. Its no fun

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
47 weeks ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"I am an overthinker but it’s mostly just because I suffer from quite bad anxiety I think. "

I can relate to this x

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By *osie89Woman
47 weeks ago

Anglesey

Massive over thinker, very occasional under thinker. There’s seems to be no middle ground!

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I need to think about this...

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By *hrista BellendWoman
47 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm an over thinker of future events , not past. So I use my grounding techniques, to pause my brain and step out of the spiral, before the anxiety takes a hold of me

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By *aked_magicMan
47 weeks ago

the gutter looking at the stars (UAE)

Massive overthinker here too, it's exhausting quite frankly

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Yup I do, part of having BPD. It can be a right shit show when do to. Starts with me trying to make sense of how I feel about something which then often spirals into a deep well of negative thoughts and feelings

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
47 weeks ago

Central

Not particularly, though I may dislike some things but that's a part of life

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
47 weeks ago

Reading

I have trained myself out of it to a large extent.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
47 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm a huge overthinker I don't have regrets about the past though as shitty as my past was and it was a huge pile of shit it's a huge part of me and shaped me to who I am now, I may not be overly 100% happy with myself but I've come a long way considering the past & that's something I'm proud of.

Mrs

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By *entlemanrogueMan
47 weeks ago

Motherwell

Am i an over thinker.

let me consider this.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
47 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I do not overthink.

A huge amount of my life seems to be spent trying to empathise with people who do. It can be exhausting. Can’t even imagine what it’s like for them …

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By *aitonelMan
47 weeks ago

Liverpool

It has been known.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
47 weeks ago

Midlands

See I would have thought most of the overthinkers would have been women, but it's pretty mixed here.

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By *ilverjagMan
47 weeks ago

swansea

I get told regularly that a over think things, and preparing for how I'm going to deal with situations that are very unlikely to occur. However my answer to that is that I like to be like the guy who buys his condoms two at a time, that way I'm always one jump ahead!

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By *obilebottomMan
47 weeks ago

All over

Used to be, much less now and is for the better

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I am an overthinker /analyser, but mostly as part of the run up to a decision

I don't ruminate - i just let it go.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Very much an over thinker, hate it with a vengeance

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By *rHotNottsMan
47 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think I’m the complete opposite. I like to decide fast, move on & rarely revisit.

I mean, I deliberate & consult on the big stuff of course but not for longer than necessary & still own it even if going against advice.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
47 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I think for a living so I try not to do it in my spare time.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Might be an under thinker. Just let it fly, let the chips fall where they may

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By *illy Idol OP Man
47 weeks ago

Midlands

"I think for a living so I try not to do it in my spare time."

Professional thinker. How did you get into that, if you don't mind me asking?

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By *ornycougaWoman
47 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

When it comes to making decisions or the future - not at all. I make decisions quickly and adapt if necessary. But when it comes to shit that has already happened I am a massive over thinker and regularly put 2 and 2 together and come up with 46

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By *eliWoman
47 weeks ago

Past situations, no. If I'm unsure about something or it's not quite sitting right with me, then yes, I can overthink.

I used to be an utter nightmare for it. Now, I'm far happier and I've found that I overthink occasionally (hormones, tiredness) but it doesn't quite have the same impact. I'm a lot better at managing it as well - whether it's asking something directly or recognising why it is I am. Not acting on or indulging it.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
47 weeks ago

Southampton

"Are you an overthinker?

Do you replay past situations over and over again, plagued by 'what ifs' or regrets, or spend a lot of time worrying about an event in the future – even an insignificant or imagined one?

Yes constantly...it's bloody exhausting

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I'm an over thinker.

I'll often make comments and people will ask wtf I'm on about and I have to list the seven or more situations I've thought through before they understand why I'm asking about a problem that's definitely not needed to be thought about. Lol

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By *ntrigued888Woman
47 weeks ago

Beds

I'm a terrible overthinker especially when emotions are involved.

If a text has been sent/ written it can be taken out of context.

Yeah it's not nice cause you always think the worst case scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Me me me! I'm an overthinker. A proper one.

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By *inky ChefMan
47 weeks ago

Norwich

Past sometimes, but not really as what if.

More like to learn from mistakes,or accept I didn't have other options.

Future ones only the important decisions.

Family, job...etc.

Some point of my life I made bold moves without thinking at all.

Like had an 80% sexually based relationship with a 44 year old MILF when I was 22.

(Awesome times on and off for 10 years)

Inviting the 18 year old girl for a coffee when I was 39.

(Didn't work out, but colleagues were impressed I have the balls)

Mixed bag really.

Sometimes don't think at all, but sometimes overthinking it.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
47 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Yes. I dwell on my regrets. Since my wife passed away last year, it's gone into overdrive. It's amazing I get anything done.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I'm absolutely an overthinker. I replay different scenarios in my head when certain situation happens, what I could've done differently, the best outcome, the worst outcome, what decisions can lead to certain outcomes in my head and then when doing an action thinking it'll make things better, realising that I probably just made it worse by going with the choice I thought was right in my head instead of going for something different.

When something happens, I can really fixate on it for weeks and it can genuinely get exhausting without a proper outlet to help me forget or move on.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
47 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Sometimes, then I just shrug and think fuck it... You can bet the person/situation isn't worrying about me.

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By *edeWoman
47 weeks ago

the abyss

I'm not sure - I'll have to think about this....

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
47 weeks ago

Southampton

"I'm absolutely an overthinker. I replay different scenarios in my head when certain situation happens, what I could've done differently, the best outcome, the worst outcome, what decisions can lead to certain outcomes in my head and then when doing an action thinking it'll make things better, realising that I probably just made it worse by going with the choice I thought was right in my head instead of going for something different.

When something happens, I can really fixate on it for weeks and it can genuinely get exhausting without a proper outlet to help me forget or move on."

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

When something happens, I can really fixate on it for weeks and it can genuinely get exhausting without a proper outlet to help me forget or move on."

Oh no, that isn't good... Ruminating doesn't resolve anything ... If you can't change the outcome and you've got your takeaway of what you might do differently next time, then it's time to move on and let it go!

Happy to share some tips via chat if you are interested

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

All the time.

but I have ways of dealing with it too.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
47 weeks ago

chichester

No I don’t overthink things that have happened maybe the initial quick deconstruction / data analysis of it but then it’s burned into the history archives

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

When something happens, I can really fixate on it for weeks and it can genuinely get exhausting without a proper outlet to help me forget or move on."

Learning to try to not have regrets worked for me dealing with my past, and anything I can’t change. Ou just learn from it, and grow to make better decisions in the future, …

I over think about now, and what’s going to happen, what ifs etc. (and again, I’ve got ways I deal with that)

Try to let things go, don’t look back, that’s where you’ve been, not where you’re going!!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
47 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Professional thinker. How did you get into that, if you don't mind me asking?"

I’ll message you. I try to keep work away from Fab. Or maybe Fab away from work …

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
47 weeks ago

London & North Wessex Downs

Thinker not overthinker

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
47 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Depends with me. If I'm on a low I over think the future.

If I'm OK then I just think fuck it.

I never dwell on the past apart from good memories

. I've learnt by my mistakes no need to go back there

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
47 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I’ll message you. I try to keep work away from Fab. Or maybe Fab away from work …"

Oops. No I won’t. You have men blocked. It shall remain ever a mystery.

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By *ros40Man
47 weeks ago

Bedford

I'd love to not overthink

I constantly try tatics to not do it

It's all I've ever known, I've always assumed that's what everyone's brain does

Oh well, onwards

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I'd love to not overthink

I constantly try tatics to not do it

It's all I've ever known, I've always assumed that's what everyone's brain does

Oh well, onwards

Do you suffer with anxiety?

Just that I have found I do and was diagnosed with anxiety.

Since I try to do more mindfulness less thinking and more focusing upon every day life

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
47 weeks ago

Southampton

"I am an overthinker but it’s mostly just because I suffer from quite bad anxiety I think. "

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By *illy Idol OP Man
47 weeks ago

Midlands

"I’ll message you. I try to keep work away from Fab. Or maybe Fab away from work …

Oops. No I won’t. You have men blocked. It shall remain ever a mystery."

Save it for a social one day

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Definitely an overthinker

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By *ris GrayMan
47 weeks ago

Dorchester

I'm a man with a one track mind

So much to do in one lifetime (people do you hear me)

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

chronic overthinker here

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Are you an overthinker?

Do you replay past situations over and over again, plagued by 'what ifs' or regrets, or spend a lot of time worrying about an event in the future – even an insignificant or imagined one?

Hell no, life's too short. I just move on

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By *ycanNightsMan
47 weeks ago

Workington

Generally no...

But sometimes my brain does become fixated with certain things and goes if on a over thinking tangent

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By *orny-DJMan
47 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Guilty

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By *ony 2016Man
47 weeks ago

Huddersfield /derby cinemas

I often overthink , and like many overthinkers on here have mentioned wish I didn't

BUT

Then when I consider how much time I give others helping them because the had not thought through what they were doing makes me wish they had overthought

One of my most used phrases is

"why didn't you just think ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I’ll message you. I try to keep work away from Fab. Or maybe Fab away from work …

Oops. No I won’t. You have men blocked. It shall remain ever a mystery."

Tell me instead

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
47 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Tell me instead

Nosey Parker.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Tell me instead

Nosey Parker.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
47 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

No I’m really not. I probably should overthink a bit more

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By *lex46TV/TS
47 weeks ago

Near Wells

No I try not to overthink things. A decision has to be made so weigh up the options and decide.

I have made some terrible decisions in the past both financially and personally. No point in stressing about them, I did what I thought was right at the time. I don’t regret those decisions, I am where I am and just keep moving forward.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
47 weeks ago

Somewhere else

Will have to ponder the question some more. I’ll get back to you…

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I read a post about overthinking once and I thought why are they asking this, is it necessary, what if I’m busy and can’t respond in a timely manner, and what if I make a typo and write something really embarrassing when I really meant something quite innocuous and who uses the word innocuous anyway other than people trying yo sound clever and does that mean I’m clever or just trying to sound clever and

Anyway I didn’t pay the post much attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I am.

I overthink everything and I mean everything, it’s tiring!

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Sometimes I hold my piss in as I can't be arsed going to the toilet. That's the extent of my overthinking

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
47 weeks ago

Somewhere else

"I read a post about overthinking once and I thought why are they asking this, is it necessary, what if I’m busy and can’t respond in a timely manner, and what if I make a typo and write something really embarrassing when I really meant something quite innocuous and who uses the word innocuous anyway other than people trying yo sound clever and does that mean I’m clever or just trying to sound clever and

Anyway I didn’t pay the post much attention. "

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By *illy Idol OP Man
47 weeks ago

Midlands

Anyway I didn’t pay the post much attention. "

Love it

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By *ittlebirdWoman
47 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Are you an overthinker?

Do you replay past situations over and over again, plagued by 'what ifs' or regrets, or spend a lot of time worrying about an event in the future – even an insignificant or imagined one?

Not anymore. I used to be. But after my breakdown I learned the art of mindfulness. I live in the moment now

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I’ve been thinking about it all day… maybe I’m not an overthinker!!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
47 weeks ago

East London

Yes, to the point I make myself ill thinking about things that happened in the past, I can't do anything about.

Distraction is the key.

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By *host63Man
47 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Are you an overthinker?

Do you replay past situations over and over again, plagued by 'what ifs' or regrets, or spend a lot of time worrying about an event in the future – even an insignificant or imagined one?

I don't overplay things that have gone with regret but to learn a lesson tk do it better next time.

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By *ad NannaWoman
47 weeks ago

East London

Anyway I didn’t pay the post much attention. "

Just reading that made my skin burn.

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By *naswingdressWoman
47 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Me? Overthink?

Never

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
47 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Oh lord yes.

What's helped me is being more aware of when I'm doing it. Often voicing it helps. I know my triggers - when I'm tired, ill, premenstrual, overly busy - and am better at identifying it and rolling with it, knowing it won't last forever.

I do have a few historic situations which I rerun in my head, wishing I had done or said different things. But not very often.

It's closely linked to anxiety with me. Not really surprising.

Mrs TMN x

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By *naswingdressWoman
47 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Oh lord yes.

I do have a few historic situations which I rerun in my head, wishing I had done or said different things. But not very often.

It's closely linked to anxiety with me. Not really surprising.

Mrs TMN x"

What? What do you mean that if I imagine every single way that this work meeting can possibly go wrong, it won't save me from the floor opening and lions tearing me limb from limb? I thought it was necessary for my very survival!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
47 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Oh lord yes.

I do have a few historic situations which I rerun in my head, wishing I had done or said different things. But not very often.

It's closely linked to anxiety with me. Not really surprising.

Mrs TMN x

IKR

Turns out no. Huh.

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By *naswingdressWoman
47 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Oh lord yes.

I do have a few historic situations which I rerun in my head, wishing I had done or said different things. But not very often.

It's closely linked to anxiety with me. Not really surprising.

Mrs TMN x

IKR

Turns out no. Huh. "

well, looks like I've wasted 35 years of my life. Fuck.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
47 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Oh lord yes.

I do have a few historic situations which I rerun in my head, wishing I had done or said different things. But not very often.

It's closely linked to anxiety with me. Not really surprising.

Mrs TMN x

IKR

Turns out no. Huh.

well, looks like I've wasted 35 years of my life. Fuck."

And now you can overthink that for the rest of your days. You're welcome!

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By *naswingdressWoman
47 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Oh lord yes.

I do have a few historic situations which I rerun in my head, wishing I had done or said different things. But not very often.

It's closely linked to anxiety with me. Not really surprising.

Mrs TMN x

IKR

Turns out no. Huh.

well, looks like I've wasted 35 years of my life. Fuck.

And now you can overthink that for the rest of your days. You're welcome! "

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